Ube is free for me. I have trees of them in my villa

Tomatoes and peppers are also free most of the year cuz I plant them
in my backyard.

Just thought I'd mention it because sometimes we have to relearn how to farm for ourselves. I can't grow rice but at least I can make stew mostly for free.

I realize its impossible for those who live in dense places like Lagos, but I feel the smaller towns offer a better overall quality of life

What tactical peope do is: use intelligence to find kidnappers, flush them out, then finally annouce what you've accomplished.

Elenu talk and talk about what they wish to do so that kidnappers, informants are all aware and can payoff the right people.

I'll leave it to the dear reader to determine which group Kalu belongs. Thank you

Islandlady:
Continue trying trash, all I can blame for this is lack of courage, lack of self esteem and inferiority complex among insecure men like you! That's why you will change your gender from male to female!

Continue blaming women and feminists till there is no male left in the world

I am what many would call a masculine man, but what you said makes me feel that you need to reconsider the context and background for what's is happening.

Feminization of men starts at birth, but used to be stemmed early: in times past, a young boy would go hunting and farming with the men as soon as 5 or 6, and thus be weaned off his mom and aunts. That's not been the case in the last 100 years.

Modern day boys spend the vast majority of their youth in the company of women: 60-70% of primary education staff are women worldwide.

And those women want boys to sit still, pay attention, seek to communicate, stop playing rough, and basically inculcate feminine skills.

Lion cubs learn to hunt by play fighting, and similarly human male children. Preventing boys from doing what comes naturally supresses their masculine instincts.

A good number of these boys then come home to a single-mother family, with aunts and grandmas because of "I don't need a man" mania. This is another complex issue but the long and short is there is no male "leader of the pack" to learn from.

What masculine traits do you want a boy to pick up if he's not exposed to masculine energy?

By the way, masculinity is being demonized, especially in the West. Boys are constantly being told that being a man is a bad thing, is toxic and overbearing. With words like manspreading and mansplaining used to beat it into their young heads that there's something wrong with expressing masculine traits.


Society can't supress masculine behavior in boys, raise themto be effeminate, then complain that they're not masculine men when they grow up.

I think it goes a lot deeper than inferiority complex or lack of courage.

It's also funny to read how God is against men dressing feminine when He didn't even give them clothes to begin with!

Op, fashion and trends change over time. What you call masculine dressing is 18-20th century European.

If you look in the past you'll find men with togas, loincloths, kilts, skirts, gowns, tights, feathers, makeup, wigs, powder, beauty marks, etc.

You are just a product of your times. There is no worldwide standard that lasts for all time how men should dress.

You've showcased pictures of men that buck the modern "masuline" trend for whatever reason, but the truth is what you consider proper changes with time and space.

By your standards - judging by clothing alone - our forefathers wore loincloths and what I will provocatively call skirts. Were they wrong?

(I'm intentionally using the word skirt to show that it's not the material, nor the cut, but your own subjective opinion based on your time and culture that determines if you think it's masculine or feminine)

JAMO84:
Guy, get over the 8 years old defeat of your god, Jonathan. You can make your points without doing throwback all the time.

The basis of today is the past. Buhari convinced people he could achieve what Jonathan failed to do, yet failed woefully. If we forget the past, we will repeat the same mistakes. People forgot Buhari's failures in 1983, so we were doomed to experience his failures again.

Don't blame the Commander In Chief of the armed forces for being an incompetent commander?

If security is a shared responsibility, let us civilians also bear arms. Are we to fight bandits and kidnappers with catapults?

Rozross:
Ok, that’s 130k monthly from both of them, please ma can you put us through on how this 130k would comfortably cover all expenses in this era? A breakdown will go a long way ma

Am I reading that men should not be in relationships because they are only making less than 100k monthly? Monthly oh.

I get that things are expensive but I can't say I'm comfortable with this slippery slope that women only go for the highest bidder.

This kinda thread really annoys me.

It insults ladies who make their own damn money. It also encourages leaches who dont want to go and work.

The premise to this kind of post sounds like endorsing a lady who cannot - upon all the equal opportunity education that she got - pay for her own lifestyle, should instead be looking for a sponsor in the name of relationship.

If a lady needs a man's salary to afford things, she should be looking for better paying work, enhancing her skills, starting her business, or dialing down her own lifestyle.

Three generations of equal opportunity means women should enter relationships as equal partners ready and willing to take on the financial responsibilities of a family.

Bahdt guy. If "I shit on you" was a person.
Can't wait for this chapter to end jo.

Jennyclay:
It's not only hot water. It's ice water. Nonsense!!

These men will leave their wives at home and start flocking around small small girls, Now the girls are robbing them... they're reporting to the police. Yeye!!

According to one unknown pastor that was preaching, he called such man "A glutton man" lol..

Well, you have said your piece, and it makes sense.

However, according to the law, cheating on one's partner is not a crime; robbing and defrauding are.

Chillax bro. No be you get the belle. Pregnancy test after 2 weeks, but no pour? If she is pregnant, I'll bet 2k it's not yours.

It can happen, but very rare for it to happen, according to what you said. However, IF she went behind your back and poured the contents of the second condom... well that's a different kettle of fish.

At any rate, let the baby come, then do paternity test. If you are, welcome to fatherhood. If not, well, why stress?

crafteck:
She hasnt got attention in 3 months, shes getting sick, plenty people quit, dem no need announce am but toto dicke ehn....

Too true... to think of all the posts on Nairaland with Tonto on it those days...

What I don't understand is why anyone would still be practicing that stuff after they've reached the abroad? Haba you don make am niyen na?
Why still remain? Abi the only way out is death?

Fake news abeg. How will all these stations all forget to renew their licences? All at the same time?

Something they've been doing for decades regularly?

And in response, all their licenses are suddenly revoked?

In shank's voice: "damn, this judge's crazy"

34 years kwa?

But which village people called her on phone to come back to Saudi knowing that the Prince eye dey red

In shank's voice: "damn, this judge's crazy"

34 years kwa? But which village people called her on phone to come back to Saudi knowing that the Prince eye dey red

Mehn the self-righteousness on this topic is amazing. People casting stones left and right.

Op, this is a case of let sleeping dogs lie. If he confronts you, deny it.

It has happened and confessing it ain't going to make him feel better, and can put ur children at risk of being raised by another woman.

As a married man myself, I don't want my wife telling me of an affair. What I don't know won't hurt me, and she can take that shit to the grave.

BlackPantherxXx:


Na ASUU cause am.

I wish we could resurrect Abacha for a year.

Nigeria doesn't need a gentleman like GEJ or Osinbajo. We need a decisive ruthless tyrant.

If una mistakenly vote me in.... walahi, Nigeria go change for the better.

All the metal drums they used for public executions, I will bring them out again. Embezzlers go see pepper.

Of course you know Abacha was embezzler in Chief. You sef, I bet snakes and lizards will swallow more money during your term

Bbbwings:
When I saw this headline yesterday I laughed
https://www.nairaland.com/7284420/no-pirate-attack-q1-2022
The piracy has gone high tech

You must have read my mind. Audio navy

Oh boy, it's like one should japa to Accra oh...

Alfa that can't use his powers to get what people are owing him. Burning photos, smh

My dear it's not because the married women are not keeping up. What about the guys that cheat on their side chick with a side-side chick?

Oju kokoro na im do am. Beautiful, caring, sexy women have been cheated on, so it makes no difference.

Truth is, man is not built for monogamy... we're as nature intended. Our laws and customs about marriage and life-bonds are not natural (less than 5% of mammal specied are monogamous, look it up). There is talk that monogamy developed as a social construct to stop rival males killing infants (like male lions do)

My Yoruba sisters would look at this nonsense man up down, up down, hiss while turning away, saying "radarada"

I wish I had a gif to capture this feeling

I thought "Oh God! Oh God! Please!! Jesus! " was all the prayer needed

gaby:
A very good buy and and a steal.

I wished I had such an opportunity..

Here's a sensible post, focused on the point of the story.

I was thinking it was a steal too, but after seeing the state of those buildings, especially the roofs, I know there's going to be a lot of money and effort to restore them.

But at the very worst, they have a home and could use that money for a mortgage in UK to build out this dream.

It could work out especially if they make it a vacation destination (eg airbnb), but too much effort for me.

Earthquakes:
It's a crime not to fulfill your own part of an agreement..

Make em go buga for jail for few days, I will airline operators will be treated like this..

It is a civil offense and not a crime. You take that to the courts, and not arrest the individual. Highest is financial penalties, not jail time. That is, in a working country where you don't call ur friend in police to bring his boys to arrest somebody who offended you.

To wit:

Crimes are generally offenses against the state (even if the immediate harm is done to an individual), and are accordingly prosecuted by the state. Civil cases on the other hand, typically involve disputes between individuals regarding the legal duties and responsibilities they owe to one another

https://www.findlaw.com/criminal/criminal-law-basics/the-differences-between-a-criminal-case-and-a-civil-case.html

Uh oh... it's like Reno didn't get alert from his usual sponsor this August.
No worries, he will return to his usual tune once the bursar is back from holiday
Abi he was disappointed not to be appointed as spokesperson for Atiku ni?

djmickymouse:


Ibeto na your papa brother from osun?? Y'all just type for fun and feel like you made sense�

My brother no vex. We're just catching cruise on a Friday night.

All the people we're comparing across geo zones are all friends, so why should I get mad at the:

Adenuga will buy half a dozen Arthur Eze and put them in Shoprite nylon and still collect change.

That shit is funny, come on


But on a serious note, we don't get mad, we just chuckle and make moves. I'd rather have 10 million millionaires in East, than 5 billionaires and 10 million in poverty elsewhere.

Abeg, let me go and chop this nkwobi I've been eyeing before she sleeps. TGIF things

OkoYibo:
Unfortunately for you, your mother's enemies have pushed you into the hands of Okoyibo. Go and ask your ancestors about me. I eat species like you as snacks.

Out of the top 5 richest Nigerians, Yorubas are 3 Fulanis are 2 Igbos are 0.

The 3rd richest Yoruba is Modupe Alakija. She is richer than all Igbos living and dead.

No Igbo man dead or alive has ever made the Forbes richest list in Africa. In fact, as at today, there is no Igbo man in Nigeria who is worth up to 1 Billion dollars.

Arthur Eze is the richest Igbo man. Adenuga will buy half a dozen Arthur Eze and put them in Shoprite nylon and still collect change.

My brother, Yorubas no be your papa mate. Even your deities in Igboland are hawking in Lagos. Amadioha is selling keke parts in Ladipo.

Ol boy, slow down na... the gbas gbos too much na... I be Asaba boy but this one is just too much. Funny but true
How did we get here... first the man is talking about love vs making money, and you're insulting the pants off a random poster. Laff haf kee me die

This brings Timaya's song to mind: "this life I can't kill myself, allow me to flex"

While we're stressing over here about what to eat, defending which polititian corrupt pass, or which roads to take to avoid kidnap, Willie is relieving all his stress and catching fun. Maybe even carry one or two for the evening

Bricklayer, or better yet, assistant carrying blocks and sand. Build muscle while getting paid