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[quote author=solamath post=46115382]I had similar problem recently.
The car icon with the rear red beam means you have a burnt brake light bulb.
If your car has a third, center brake light, you will get same warning.

I suspect this is Camry.
You can replace the bulb yourself, if you pick such interest.

[quote author=comos post=46143393]Even if they refuse to return their passports, there should be a way to electronically "kill" them so they become useless.
Besides, they cannot leave the airport unless they are cleared.

[quote author=Sadbrother post=46104024]One wonders whether you weren't seeing yourself in the mirror to notice your colour change..
Especially when somebody pointed it out to you.
Chocolate is a very good skin colour.

Your skin has been under continuous assault that it didn't the chance to heal.
The skin surface gets pushed out/renewed over time.

What you need to do is to stop all those aggressive skin treatments.
Go about your normal activities.
If you must apply anything on the skin due, maybe, to dryness, use something that is bland/neutral.
Try baby products - soap, lotion, oils.

[quote author=Saddenedsoul post=46082002]Your husband may well be having fun enjoying the attention without actually committing himself.
The laptop messages are not conclusive that he is cheating on you.

What you need to do is keep quit over it and try to catch him doing something that ties to any of the messages.
Then you will have enough evidence to ask him about it.

[quote author=Myhonor post=45982025]Men don't like to be pressured into making commitments.
You were being hasty trying to cross the bridge before you got to it.

The guy was frank with you.
His future had not been sorted out.
He had his final exams to write, internship, work, further studies,etc.

Let him be the one to worry about how you would see after school.
Enjoy the relationship for now, be a good girl, aim to excel in whatever you do.
Chances are he will taste other relationships.
And if he really loves you the most, he will come to you in the end.

naniawini:
Yea it's d surface... thank sooo much! I have an appointment with the doctor on monday. God bless u

It should be an easy fix so long the doctor recognised the problem.

skywalker001:
Yea datz true... Love only is not enough when it comes to marriage

Please tell me, what is greater than love in marriage?
Don't they say love conquers everything or are we being deceived?

Could you explain your stand some more?
It is not just enough to take a particular view of things just like that.

erico2k2:
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correct but why should a mini bus parked with 12 people be driving at a speed of 100km/hr ?

You seem to imply that 100 Km/h is on the high side.
Actually the maximum speed recommended by the FRSC is 120 Km/h.

The condition of the road is a major factor in road traffic accidents.
What maximum speed is the device going to allow? 50, 60, 90?
Whichever it is plus bad roads = no difference. Accidents will happen.

DedeNkem:
5yrs is not maimai.

You're worried about things that haven't happened yet, simply because your guy's parents don't like the relationship.

As long as you love him and he loves you, his parents will definitely come around. Parents always come around, especially, if you have great attitude.

You should be glad that his siblings don't have issues with the relationship and don't give a f*uck about ethnicity. Instead of thinking about ending the relationship, you should rather focus on ways to establish a good rapport with his parents.

Don't f*uck with your relationship because of his parents. If you end it to move on, then it would mean you're unfit to handle difficulties that do arise sometimes in a relationship.

Thank you my brother.
Yours is one of the very few realistic and objective comments on this crucial issue.
Parents always succumb in the end to superior argument. They can only advise but not have the final say.

Some people look at if the marriage did not work.
They are just being pessimistic and ignoring the fact that these adults love each other
But what if it became a huge success?

Sure the guy has uncles, aunts, etc, who will have a different view from his parents.
My father in law initially kicked against our marriage because of his own preferences.
Her bothers and sisters, uncles...everybody told him to leave her daughter to choose.

Because we knew the depth of our love and how well we knew/complemented each other, we stood our grounds.
She left home for Lagos in frustration.
I refused to listen to my people when they advised me to search among the "numerous women" around.
In fact, I took the decision not to marry any more and I meant it.

Fast forward 3 years later, dad changed his mind.
Now I am his best guy and our marriage has been the envy of my friends.
Love is the key.

Dottore:
Jeep trying you will soon start making sense

No need to bandy words with somebody who has never held an opinion of his own.
It's beneath me.

Dottore:
Whats the subject and predicate of this post. The heading made me think the post was some technological savvy to salvage somewhat damaged or worn out phones not knowing it was a poor attempt to literary poo.

I know people who changed their phone so they could stick it up some loose assh0le.

I just wish the post made common sense.

Does anyone still reads poems in Nigeria

I wouldn't know what your problem is with this post and its literary rendition.
This post touches on practical issues of our daily lives, such as why people change their still serviceable phones.
It is original and well thought out.

Ordinarily, I do not engage in vitriolic exchanges online because I consider it unnecessary.
You started as if you have been laying ambush to shoot down this post.
Outbursts such as you have exhibited here can only be pathognomonic of a narcissistic individual.

Oh, I took time to check your profile.
I did not see anything that ticks.
All I saw was a feeble attempt at cut-and-paste journalism.
And an absence of any intellectual input in all your posts.

Before I forget, could you, please, correct your last line, where it says " Does anyone still reads poems in Nigeria."
Perhaps you do not know that the appreciation of poems is not for base minds.

[quote author=naniawini post=45767147]I assume by "loose", you mean the entrance to the vagina and not the inside or canal.
This appears to be so since you were able to confirm the looseness merely by using a mirror to check.

After birth and depending on the size of the baby hence the amount of stretch, the vagina regains its tone to a great extent.
The tear you had may not have been a small one as you were told.
It should have been stitched back to where it was, no matter how small, because of the effect on sex.

You need to go see a doctor.
They will need to re-freshen the healed area, maybe remove a bit of skin, and sew everything back.
You will be fine. Stay away from those unproven home remedies.
Your problem is structural. It needs remodeling.

[quote author=VocalWalls post=45969392][/quote]I am happy for you.
But the question I will join others to ask is why is your mother still living in the same place?
Now that you have a job, one would expect you relocate your mom and brother to a better space.

Since you now work, your mom can slow down , maybe, to one job. Pool your income and live within your means.
Also, now that you have known the secret to liberation, you should work on your brother.
I think he needs somebody to motivate him, to reassure him that he can become whatever he wants to be.

There are two parts to your story:
The first part is what you have just told here.
The second part, which we expect to hear, is what happened to your mom and brother in the next year or two.

Good luck.

[quote author=legalspices post=45964154]The approval of the parents should not matter more that of your boyfriend's sibling.
They are the people you will be dealing with when the elderly ones pass on.
Maybe his parents are worried you may not be able to adapt to the culture differences, which isn't much.

What matters most is the opinion of your boyfriend.
If his mind is made up to marry you, please go ahead. Yours won't be the first or last inter-tribal marriage.
But you will have to work hard to prove his parents wrong by being a good wife.

Parents have a way of coming up with flimsy excuses when their children are about to marry.
Sometimes they say the distance is far (in the same state) or their people don't make good wives or husbands.
We know they mean well but at times they are wrong.

Good luck.

P/S: I read here some say love is not enough in marriage.
If love does not count, what does? I will not marry a lady I do not love, no matter what.

[quote author=Lovethlovesmike post=27539183]I assume the dark skin colour you don't like is dark as charcoal, which is rare.
Dark skin is good, especially healthy dark skin.

It is possible for two dark skin people to have a light skin child.
It depends on their genetic makeup.
If any of the parties have relatives - distant or not - who had light skin, it may manifest in some of their children.

Genes, the material that carry/transfer physical characteristics, are always combining and recombining over time.
There is nothing you can do to manipulate/select the skin colour. It is nature's game of chance.

[quote author=gateleo post=45913534]This is a very unwelcome distraction.
A vehicle moving at 10 Km/h and suddenly encounters a huge pot hole on the road may have an accident.

And what about if the driver is just drunk or sleepy?
Surely no device can stop the consequences.

We need good durable roads first.
It is when goods and services are unavailable or far in between that people hasten to get to them.

Why did you change that phone?
By change I mean you moved from one brand/model to a different one.

Okay, you are a busy company employee/executive and you need a large screen phone with a browser so you can keep tabs with activities in the office.
Or you are always at the wheel driving and your former phone did not have a voice call/control feature so you can "Call Bisi" or send text while driving.

What if your fingers have gone sore from pounding the keyboard and you need a soft touch touchscreen to ease the pounding.
In this era of selfies, I guess most ladies have abandoned their mono-camera phones for those with dual high quality cameras.

What of cost, battery life, voice quality and sensitivity of signal reception. I have seen guys go outside in search of signals while others are making/receiving calls inside.

Now, not everybody has a need for most of the above features yet they change phones.
The basic, most widely used functions of a phone are to make and receive calls and send messages.
Internet browsing has increased in need; so is taking of pictures, playing music and audio/video recording.

As new phones enter the market, what is it that made you change your phone?
Is it that you want to "belong", that is, show off to anybody watching or do you really need all those phone features?

For me, I like a large screen for larger and less crowded display. Long battery life is very important to me.
And of course I need to browse and play my music on the go or while I work.
I have no need for voice command and I rarely take pictures with my phone.

What about you?

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[quote author=olokfor post=45925845]These are laudable achievements, my people.
We need to plug all loopholes through which our money leaks out.
And recover that which is stolen. It takes a fearless individual to do that.

Governance is not that easy.
The spectator watching from the sideline sees all the mistakes....

[quote author=Ksslib post=45925925]And has your school uniform ever doubled as your Christmas wear?
I had a need for a school uniform;
That was in those days of real khaki shorts and khaki white shirt.

Christmas was approaching and my dad asked the tailor to take my measurements.
When I went to collect my Christmas dress, it was my school uniform with suspenders sewn to the shorts.
I raised hell. My father said it would double as my Christmas clothes.

Of course it wasn't sewn to fit.
Since I was still growing, allowances were made for my size in the next 2 years or so.
My day could afford a separate Christmas outfit, by the standards of the time, but the man was been" smart."

[quote author=assana post=45917383]My people say that "one person cannot grow above the community."
Maybe your elders are too soft with him. There are enforceable sanctions, you know.

Focus your attention on making sure your mother is okay and free from harm
In fact, if you or your sisters can afford it, take her with you.

I don't see your bother turning a new leaf soon.
Let him stew in his own juice when the time comes.

[quote author=rry807 post=45899587]What is the moral of this post?
That because he pays soccer abroad, he won't help out in the house?

I have seen lots of men split firewood and fetch water for house when they ran out.
I do much more at home.
Maybe I should come and pound it for him.
And this post gives an insight into the mentality of the OP.

byvan03:
I did mine same day, the same reasons you want yours that way. After wedding we still had enough to give finishing touches to our new life. Less stress on family and friends, less stress on the couple and their pocket.

Exactly the point I made in my contribution.
One is a lot of stress already, both in terms of time off work or other pursuit.
And the finances, too.

[quote author=keypad1 post=45890222]What superior argument does your wife have against holding the two events on same day?
Apart from being very convenient, it is also more economical to have both same day.

Not many people will have the time off work or business to attend your trado- , then Church - wedding on different days.
You use the same entertainment for both occasions.

Even if your wife is bringing the money, one event is a lot of stress already.
You won't be the first person to hold traditional and Church wedding on same day.
It is now the vogue. It is reasonable.

[quote author=andymola post=45751002]Here is what is happening:
Granted nobody wants to make a mistake in choice of a partner.
She finds in you a trait that she likes and doesn't want to lose.
Same for the other suitors.

Her present confusion stems from a difficulty in deciding which of the qualities to sacrifice for the other.
It may well be that she has decided that you are the sacrificial lamb.
That explains her present attitude ...to make you be the one to call it quits.

My verdict: Stop further moves. Give her time to make up her mind.

[quote author=abiodun2007 post=45652962]I though posts that read like "....wore to church today" have received several knocks.
Is this the best the brain can offer?

[quote author=Randyhot post=45599660]I love it when I get close to a lady and her hair smells good.
Ladies should know that part of men's assessment of them is how their hair check out in our noses.
I tell my woman immediately I notice that the fruity/sweet smell is no longer there.

I had the ordeal of travelling in same car with this lady who had Jerry curls.
Oil was dripping down her neck in the hot weather.
The smell from her hair almost made sick. Thank God I managed to keep myself from vomiting.

Even if hair dryer dey available, na where you see light to wash and power-dry?

[quote author=CNARIOjoseph post=45555547]I have read both the customer complaints and the response of the mechanic.

The salient points are that customer had car problem which mechanic was/agreed to fix.
Mechanic found other issues ( faulty wiring, broken air intake hose, clogged oil filter, etc).

Obviously, customer wouldn't have minded the cost and time spent if car drove well again after repairs.

There is this admonishment to doctors to not make a patient worse if they can't make him/her well. Same goes for every provider of services.

Transmission problems can be tricky. I have seen technicians, even doctors, consult their colleagues when they had tricky cases.

Good as the mechanic may be, it appears he did not give his best this time.

I will advise drivers to make it a hobby to research their cars and their common problems and solutions. I do this. Often, I diagnose my car problems and tell the tech what to do for me. Try it.

[quote author=barrwebilor post=45520421]Is it that you are looking for a high brow chambers or your terms are difficult.
Surely you can look around in the suburbs.
There are lots of people who need legal services outside of the big cities.
Honestly, I didn't know it is this bad for lawyers.

[quote author=Team16 post=45311776]I would advise that you take the M.Sc programme to start.
If in the course of the study you find things easy and a bit too "elementary" and very familiar, you can apply for the Ph.D.

As you said, you don't know what lies ahead and the rigour to which you will be exposed.

Mcowubaba:
It's simple, it's called status quo, social stratification nd class nd tradition ...

How do we met our spouse, in schools, churches, family occasion/events, street, work place, airport, home town etc....

Now, in simpler terms nd analogy... Buhari's daughter Zahra for example will not easily be accessible to everyone....
Atiku son maybe not have the time to go to low income settlements to associate with the people there...

How will a male road side plantain seller (no disrespect) meet Otedola's Dj cuppy, not just meeting her, toasting her, dating her, nd asking her hand in marriage nd Cuppy nd her FAMILY agreeing Unless the Olajumoke miracle hit you, or Oluwa carry grace pour on you...

Rich to poor marriages still happen though, but not much....
It is easier for fuel to sell at #25 naira per litre next month than it is for a gala hawker in Lagos to marry lindaikeji

I share your view here..
The most important issue here is access to the rich man's daughter to start with..
If you can't get close, you won't be noticed, period.

Opportunities for interaction are few.
Often, the poor guy or girl is serving in some lowly position in the household and gets noticed by the rich man's daughter or son.
Or the rich guy is driving along and is stunned by the poor girl's beauty. Next, he wants to have her to himself, not because of love.

[quote author=dumebiifeanyi post=45285754]One of the attributes I like about Charlie Boy is that he is consistent. He is not a copycat.

The guy has maintained a consistent image of himself both in terms of appearance, beliefs and phylosophy.

Given his successful marital history, he may be a good resource on how to juice up problem marriages.