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Work under, work on top, work from behind...lmao[/quote]Same noni - All na the same. As long as am working with Oduunu; whether na under, on top, front, back, left or right na same. I just want to be told when to resume action. Did I remember to say I will work for free? Yes I will work under Odunnu for FREE.

Make Seun sef announce to us who is or who is becoming Mrs Osewa

But Jarus, why you come expose her like that na. How do you know she wont be the ONE?

Love can happen anytime, anywhere and by any means o.

Now the whole British media praise him. "He is one fine British Athlete". The day he messes up or commits a crime they will remember his origin and call him a "Somalia immigrant"

I wish to apply to moderate under Odunnu.

I have a good working experience with locking and unlocking... hide and seek, open and close, banging banning and un-banning.

I will work so hard under you and you will not want to let me go.

Cuddlemii: I wasn't being judgemental with her. I made my comment based on reading her entire post on this thread. Many 32 yrs old women have come with the same problem in the past and I wasn't harsh. I admit, what got to me was the fact that she said "yes" already and wanted to breach that contract like she was indecisive & playing with the man's emotion. These are the kind of things we women frown against from men but dishing it out to a man is unfair.

I see where most posters are coming from though, her happiness is the ultimate & the guy should be saved from the misery of a marriage without love. She should not have said "yes!". Eh ya, I pity the guy! It's all good!

I agree she made a mistake saying "Yes" to his proposal without thinking it through. But she will be making a bigger mistake, worse for her and the guy if she goes ahead and say "I do". They can both overcome this mistake now than overcoming a bad contracted marriage.

Cuddlemii: Before I take my leave- Op lets do an experiment, drop the man's email address & phone number here. You would be amazed at the number of babes that would contact him or even pay him a visit to mend his heart. You know so many peeps view nl, dem go bombard am forget the whole ranting & talk talk. This only shows scarcity and that you don't appreciate what you've got.

I can also assure you that if she also drop her email and phone number here, more than 1000 mails, calls and txt msgs will roll in before the end of the day from guys promising her heaven and earth to be her husband.

The problem with both of them is not about finding "toasters", it is about finding their soul-mates.

Cuddlemii: This marriage thing sef!

May I ask what you have been doing since in terms of settling down? I mean why did you wait this long? 30 years is old! I see you as a woman who is very choosy, has high expectations in a man, not considerate & unrealistic.

I just have an advise for you though, make sure whatever you are getting into you have peace of mind & happiness. Forget attraction, finance or love for the man in question or do you have other options? Do you have men of your "taste" flocking around you or proposing to you? If u don't have a better option, then you have no choice! Bother about his love, xter/attitude, morals, way of life & commitment towards you.

Take it from me, 2 or 5 years from now, its a photographer that would be on your case. This thing is like a cycle, its keeps getting worse and not better. When you were in your peak period, I am sure you played the game of chess with a lot of men's emotions because you were choosy. Life is what it is, you have to make do with what you have. Remember beautiful ones are not yet born, take a field trip to unilag(land of plenty), Covenant Uni(land of innocent beauties), to the north(natural beauties)...You would be amazed at the attractive babes with good xter. Men would rather go for those ones before your age bracket. Even mid twenties babes can testify to that. The first thing that comes to mind is that, a 30 years old unmarried/single woman was probably promiscuous, lost her womb, committed several abortions and slept her way to success. Do you know how many people would have cautioned him to leave you for a younger woman? Or you think cos he is 35, he is in the same boat as you?

Better don't let these married women tell you to leave the man. The world only identify with success! When the hard time comes, no one would stand by you instead its insults you would get and these same people asking you to say NO would insult you for not grabbing the opportunity. You are meant to be having a matured conversation with the man, let him know how you feel about him not contributing his quota financially. Try and come to a compromise with him on a realistic level. Thank God you are rich, you no even happy sey na banker u go show off to family & friends at 30. If na office clerk wetin u for do? Just make the best out of whatever situation you get urself into, its your destiny! Even you can't re-write it, you can at least shape/mold it to your benefit. ABOVE ALL, PRAY PRAY PRAY FOR GOD'S WISDOM & GUIDANCE(He would make everything fine).

Haba!

So cos she is unmarried at 30 means she has been choosy and playing chess game with men? Did you get all these from her posts? Do you know her history with men? do you know if she was jilted/played/disappointed by the one she trusted and looked up to for marriage before now?

And because she is 30 she should be desperate for marriage and marry just any man available even though she doesn't love him? And if she doesn't marry this banker now, she will only be left with photographer? O ga o! BTW, what is wrong with photographers? You just advised its not good to be choosy!

I think you are too judgmental on her.

andromida: Poster after reading 4 pages of this I still say your expectations are not outrageous or outlandish.Even if you have wasted your youth on 100 men which I doubt it doesn't mean you should be sentenced to life imprisonment. You know what you know.If you are not feeling him free him.Don't be afraid to be happy.If some people 30+ women have compromised their happiness just to bear the mrs title too bad but that's their cup of tea and they are not the standard to look up to.

Life is meant to be lived not managed. Disregard everyone telling you that you are an old maid .Remember you are not in competition with anybody but yourself.30 and single can be scary because almost all your friends are married and doing baby talk but you are speaking another language.Marriage happens for women at different phases of their lives some at post 30 through no fault of theirs and hey that's life. Bottom line of all these my long talk is don't settle and if you decide to settle remember you chose this life.Goodluck

Thank you!

OP, please listen to this wise counsel. If you don't, 3 years or less down the line you will be here to read threads or open a new thread about "Copping with Marriage without love - Should I divorce him?"

Old man like you.

Or Ludo don enter Olympics games?

Ujujoan: YES!

He uses it to post sometimes sef. VEry annoying . . .

Odunnu: Yes and he posts with it too.

Hmnnnn... who knows if the posts above are from "hims" and not from the real posters we know sef. God save some guys here.