okay its time to call a spade a spade.
I have noticed that christianity is really against anything romantic not just sex. EVERYTHING. People become negatively programmed using phrases that give sex or anything sexual negative connotations e.g. "fall into sin", "compromise", "carnal", "lust", "dirty thoughts" etc.

The truth is even in marriages, most people still cheat because of this negative programming, if the guy is very sexually active the woman will think he has a demon etc. or he is in benin and she is in warri so when konji catch him he will carry runs girl.

is marriage really the answer for sexual satisfaction for christians, if yes, what should they do if the woman is not giving them what they need? What are the alternatives?

With all the abstenance involved in christianity, when then can the poor christian get fukkin laid?? (i.e. have sex)

Ehimenboy:

The life we're called unto is a life without any form of sexual experience with (or without) any other, apart from one's spouse.
If THAT is what you call celibacy, it's a very fundamental part of Christianity.
Like the op corroborated, sex outside marriage is the very involvement with devastating consequences.

To hell with you and your religious mumbo jumbo...
first sex is overrated, it isnt actually all that. some men even just prefer BJs to sex.
Second, when then can the christian get laid. You wait from age 18 to 33 no sex, you get married after your prime at 33 and now if ur wife is 25 and above, she is not actually in her prime, then she may not be giving you sex or romantic experiences as at when you need it.

So the christian life is a call to sexual deprivation?

Give the bible verses to support.

and this is the problem I have with religion that preaches abstenance before marriage. As if your married life will be completely sexually fulfilling. truth is in most cases it isnt. religion completely ignores the needs of men to get laid.

Genesis 9:25
And he said, cursed be Canaan.

Only cursed ppl do these sorts of things. Howcome we dont hear of such in Australia and China??

Nigerians descended from the cursed son of Noah and we continue to see the evidence to this day.

Another time there was a story of a man who was best man of his friend @ a wedding, but then later arranged the kidnap of his friend that he was bestman for.

I believe the Gen 9 account until someone can prove otherwise....

you send students to university they start to matchet and kill each other over women and money - how come british students dont do the same thing?

University of Lagos website, academia link has 50% of web links such as faculty of engineering not working. So if I were a prospective student I will have to "come tomorrrow" to "speak to someone tomorrow" (wasting time)...

http://sosc.unilag.edu.ng/

records@unilag.edu.ng
unilagrecords@yahoo.co.uk
unilagrecords@gmail.com

The gross irresponsibility of these ppl beggars belief. You want to blame leaders for this one??

How can a university even list yahoo and gmail email addresses on its website??

Why cant unilag have a fully working site with professional email addresses. it only takes 1hr to implement.

Thank goodness say i don renounce Nigerian citizenship. nothing to be proud about.

graduates are old abeg i.e. anything above 25. catch them yonge lol.

from 3rd year and above is ok; they wouldve already been tired of all that.

while undergrad girls can be slutty, there are a few that arent...

the key is to find the proper born again types with good upbringing. for me undergrad all the way. but it must not be long idtsnace for undergrad to be successful...

enkay4love:
This is one of the best comments I've read so far on this thread.Some comments here can drive the lady in question,to simply stop hoping & adopt the belief that her time is up,like they are God to determine any man's fate.I heard of a woman who married at age 45 & another at age 52,so this is a clear indication that marriage has no age limit.

52 and 45 are disgusting. imagine making out and trying to have hot sex at this age. even having children.

the failure of marriage in nigerian society is fourpartate. first Nigerian girls are largely money centric, driving men to wait until they amass some money b4 getting married. It is not right. You should first get a spouse and build up together. second the girls dont know wat they hv until they lose it. the 16-25 bracket is really the time. it is even biblical - "the wife of your youth". 45 and 52 isnt wife of ur youth.

third, nigerian mentality of my daughter must first get a degree and hv a career b4 marriage. these things can even be done in marriages as well.

Fourth, excessive religion. seek and ye shall find husband not sit at home and wait for God to drop a man in a chariot of fire.

Its one word: super self confidence; this cannot be feigned only exuded.

these girls are selfish. In those 35 years im sure she has had numerous sexual escapades with a variety of men from university till date. now that you are almost expiring (40) you want to dump yourself on a man!!!

Men are smarter... even 40 yr old men want 24 yr old girls!!!

The best option for your friend now is divine intervention, God will do it for her and restore all the years the locust has eaten. Amen.

smart men and women marry young. Nigerians are mostly hypocrites!!!
You get married young so as to stick to one woman. the woman needs to be young so that you can enjoy the sexual escapades.
maybe three to five years after the marriage you can have kids etc

OP what you fail to realize is that at 25 you are less desirable. You better marry now that you are most desirable. Most ppl dont know what they have until they lose it.

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But then if you are single and sleep with ur bf religion will say ur a sinner, fornicator etc

by the post I am not trying to disprove christianity/ the bible. its just my opinion.

I believe attraction to hot thighs, sexy lips, sexy body shape, responsiveness to kissing etc are all natural part of humanness. I believe there is nothing lustful/ evil about it. the only other alternative is to go sleep with sex workers.

Guys you can only suppress so much until your natural self surfaces.

I also believe it is not healthy to repress ones feelings. there are professing religious ppl who wont go on dates because the girl may hv been sent by satin.

There are many others who are embarrassed about their errrections. if doggs hv erections why cant a human?

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Fulaman198:


That stems from a vast inferiority complex that doesn't exist in other cultures except for a lot of black cultures. The mistake a lot of African nations make (and I blame leadership) is that they honestly believe that the West and Oriental Asian nations are their friends.

Time and time again have proven that Africa has been expunged of its resources due to this ridiculous inferiority complex. Do you know what the average white person really thinks of an African? They see us as dirty, uneducated, dumb and uneducated savages, yet a lot of you worship (not you personally) the ground they walk on. Africans need to seriously wake up and get out of this naive state of mind because the West and oriental powers don't care about us. In fact, they view us as a joke. They view us as incompetent babies who can't fend for ourselves.

Now is not the time to be stooping our heads like fools. Now is the time for progressive thinking. We as African people can only care about and for ourselves. We must cherish who we are as people. It starts as one person, and it can extend to many. Be the difference!

WORD!!! God bless you.

why cant you be exporting to china? today everybody in nigeria is an importer. whaat happened to exporting?

ejikeme:
you getting it wrong. The people who are in the know to give out the contract are still in love with anything foreign. example: whenever our football team fumbles, we all scream for a foreign coach.
we have tones of engineers in this country but the work won't be given to them.

u r right sir. but how can nigerians learn to love themselves and not run to whites or chinese?

see, im going to be objective here.
There are many hardworking nigerians, but the majority from empirical evidence are not hardworking. this is reflected in the come today come tomorrow attitude.
Anyway, Africa does indeed deserve to be raped, exploited and plundered because africans do not value what they have and are too slow. You have railway projects, there is no nigerian firm to do it. chinese firms are sharp and fast, so the project goes to them, its their luck of hardwork! they deserve it! just the same way they donated africa's african union headquarters in addis ababa because the african is lax!

Bob Diamond earlier this year bought up 12% of Union Bank. Nigerians its your bank oh, you will not invest in your own banks, you just want to go and buy UK property due to your inferiority complex that anything foreign is beter. But a british man has just bought up large stake in ur bank before your eyes. china has significant nigerian investments too.

The government has been trying to fix electricity for over 35 years with no significant improvements; please give it to chinese or british hardworkers as the typical nigerian government cannot solve the problem.

It seems nigerians/ africans are sluggards, so I will be coming to take my own plunder in full force too!!!

We need responses. Why is everything in nigeria sluggish and long winded? customs procedures in china, south africa, greece is 7 days maximum in nigeria minimum is 1 month per container. these countries already have additional 21 days avantage for increased productivity.

so why hasnt a single african in over 200 years come and set the record straight in a book of sorts and publicize it. Why cant NTA cover bad aspects of UK just as bbc does to us. because the african is too busy lining up his own bank account. its all about me me me!

i did renounce nigerian citizenship so no im not one of you.

two men exchange monkey, eediot, ur father is an eeddeot etc for 10 mins blatant waste of time - they love wasting time insulting each other
to do even the most basic things in nigeria, stuff that should take 30 mins, expect to spend 2 weeks doing it
they seem to just want to give excuses, ask you to fill forms, find fault with the one you filled etc just to elongate the process
gtbank takes 7 full days just to mail out token. what are they doing that it takes so long.
i have bn trying to do basic banking for 4 months now-most of the workers hv poor ethic.

mail diamondbank for a service request; first time they get the email they may respond, if you mail them again they wont respond - 4 months and no progress for basic banking.

in all that time being wasted in naija productivity per unit time per capita is higher in other countries. which country's gdp will you think will be higher. then they will blame jonathan and slave trade.

also it seems you constantly put pressure and spend more time on a case b4 anything gets done.

Namibia, Uganda, Morocco are all different.

Why dont nigerians value time. and dont give lazy excuses like leadership.

Tarteenah:



She won't be 21 forever u know?

Yes she wont be, but im ok being with her while she is that age... and grow old together.

coogar:


what if he's broke?
some guys genuinely want to take the leap but they have no funds to carry out their desires thus the wait......

guys are not always at fault in this. sometimes, you women often date your agemates thus the disconnect. at 25, most nigerian women are ripe for marriage. 90% of nigerian men aren't ready to marry at 25 cos they are still struggling.

You do not need to have funds.I tell you nigerians need a big paradigm shift. If you want to get married, just fukin get married! You do not need a big wedding. You can just do court. who says you must do a 3 million naira wedding?

I know a man 27 and his wife 23, the man is $12,000 in debt. Yet they are happily married.

nigerians need to snap out of this $$$ mentality, seems I will marry white.

if you are an older babe reading this, dont feel bad or old. You just need to act fast and get yourself a man. take responsibility. heaven helpeth those who help themselves...

pweedyuz:
let me get your point!
u want girls to quickly get married as soon as they r out of school
u graduate 22 Nd get married 22,,,,tops 23.........really?

what happened to getting a stand? getting a job of her own??becoming independent.
dere r other things that awaits a girl after skul. its nt marriage at tyms. #expect age is by on her side#.but still

I don't advice jumping into marriage after graduation...... go out dere Nd c wats in stock for u is wat I always say.

Nigerians have marriage twisted. You can get a job and be independent in marriage. We make marriage a task. Marriage just means making a vow and living together; it is a way to be sexually focused one person so you don have main chick side chick, side guy and all that nonsense...

No need for babies until she is 24-28 is fine.

Babes plan well sha.

I know a man that is 45, when he wanted to marry, he went and carried one 24 year old. all these guys talking crap of mens love for youth is crap. so why didnt he go after a 35 year old professional that is a senior exec? but a meagre 24 year old? the answer is the 24 year old is more sexually attractive.