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I have a cousin in naija right now who is 22 and I am encouraging her to get married.

I strongly believe the reason why men cheat is they want fresh goods. tell me why I would cheat on my beautiful 21 year old wife?

By the time she hits 30, I wont need as much sex anymore.

I even believe thats how the maker made it. smart girls marry young. period.

craziebone:
if you can't marry a lady in her 30s, then don't! There are millions of guys who can and there is nothing wrong with it. You better carry your useless pe0d0ph!l!a mentality from this forum so the forum can be more hygenic. I wonder what is wrong with our men today. They just want to be eat their cake and have it. After sleeping with your female mates, you now want to dump them and go after tight pucci. Shame on you.

Shut the Bleep up! It is hypocrites like you who label men pedos then still go after the same girls...
im same as him, anything above 23 is damaged goods. After all the years of abstenance, I deserve something young. period.

nairalandist:
We as Nigerians should start asking ourselves why there are so many scammers around. Is it that the creative Nigerian youths are gainfully employed and just prefer scamming to working? Nigeria is the only country in the world where we don't diagnose our problems but only blame each other for what the so called leaders started. The politicians are looting the nation blind and the creative youths see scamming as an alternative to the hard life created by the corrupt system.

I mean, before we even start blaming anyone, go to government offices, starting from the Corporate Affairs Commission, try to register your company without going through a staff and see if you'll be able to register your company name.

Now go to the Nigerian Immigration Office and try to get a passport without witnessing corruption of the highest order. People have turned government offices to their personal pockets and we're surprised that we have fraudsters in our society? Really? What did we expect? That this same system will produce 100% saints?

I know some people will start quoting me and saying there's no excuse bla bla bla, but let's face the truth, so many people depend on scams for their daly living in Nigeria. The society doesn't offer much opportunites and I'm so sorry to say it has become a sort of addiction in our society.

Anyone here who lives in Nigeria and pretends not to know a scammer or two personally is a big liar and a hypocrite. Let us stop the name calling and hold our politicians responsible for what they have encouraged by their theft over the years. Imagine a country that can't even boast of stable electricity, no pipe borne water even in most parts of Lagos. Schools are getting delapitated by the day and you expect the youths to become pastors overnight?

I'm sure some of the hypocrites reading this are busy forging figures with their pens. . . Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

Gen 9

Cursed be Canaan, a servant of servants will he be unto his brethren. the black race is cursed

even in my area overseas, the blacks steal cars, steal and vandalize property, the youth low waits their jeans, its all part of the genesis pronouncement.

Tashamania:
All sorts, i tell you..
He's the one condemning the skimpy wears and at the same time saying the ladies are tryna impress him with the skimpy wears. Whats his point exactly?

and then he will go and self-service with the image of the same girl on skimpy wear. Nigerians sha oh. Its the effects of carrying religion for head.

Tashamania:
Explain to me how wearing skimpy dresses sometimes makes a lady not marriageable and also, explain why you think they are tryna impress you by dressing that way..

dont mind these ppl. the average nigerian is over religious and indocrinated.

Octaves:
normally they would have a closer tie with their colonial master than anybody else. About them being poor. they have only themselves to blame just like Nigeria. they are independent countries. France isn't putting a gun to their head. they should model their foreign and economic policies to benefit them. but as Africans, we like to blame everybody else but us for out woes

hold it right there with your foolish self hating generalization instilled thru your thick skull by western media. No we do not blame anyone else but ourselves. Maybe you do.

Nigeria has been developing.

The West is in decline.

You need mental healing from self hate.

first, i hate when nigerians introduce christianity/ religion into purely biological processes.

these idiots who live in denial will marry an ok wife then cheat on her with a hot student or young professional. lol.

i have said it before and i will keep saying the truth. nigeria is a cursed nation. same as USA.

irresponsible government causes wasted time used to apply for visas = suffering (time loss)

anyway I dont blame you are already used to the apply apply mentality.

What if you could travel there without visa?

UK nationals etc need no visa.

just got off the phone with their consulate and nigerians need a visa to enter morocco - chai!!!

And Niger does not need.

Anyhow I am not encouraging anyone to eat, just thinking out loud.

How did bush meat that had not carried ebola for over 10 years suddenly start carrying it again?

Me thinks the whole story is fishy...

What is the status on this?

the issue though with marriage is this.

Most men are seeking the youngest, most fertile and prettiest ladies with the best character they can get but these girls are not ready for commitment yet.

By the time these girls are ready for marriage around 26, most men will start eyeing younger girls, the guy will then marry a 32 year old babe but then cheat on her with a 24 year old. You see the problem?

I hear these girls talk and all I hear is "I am attracted to John, etc" never "I want to get married to John"

How can we resolve this dilemma as men? Me I want a very young chick so I dont have to look outside but then they are not ready to settle :-(

Proverbs 14:12 King James Version (KJV)

12 There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.

I want to talk today about this new trend of side chick, main chick etc. I believe what the Creator intended is one man to one woman at a time. Yes you are not tied to one woman fair enough if she misbehaves you can select another but the concept of having multiple women at the same time leads to emptiness, STDs, etc.

What do you think?

OP there is no one without sin.

Abortion is murder. Please do not do it. Give birth. the Divine will make provision for the child.

Thavik I emailed you you never respond oh! please message me thru nairaland.

Anyways truth is naija girls are manipulative.

its all money money money.

but the guys are fools and the girls are just taking advantage of what is available...

so its fair game. girls cant be blamed.

Just look at the guys, 95% of all nigerian men believe money attracts girls, many start making money just for girls and give it to girls.

Girls are just lucky. period.

If guys want it to change, naija guys should change their mentality, the girls will follow suite.

For many guys its risk management. If u have 3 and one breaks up you still have 2.

When the girls are prime, they do shakara, after prime, they want marriage. But by this time most men start seeking out younger babes. only babes that feel they r about to expire start seeking marriage - at least in the present day world.

they are seen as prestigious etc. What happened to our own University/ African Universities?

Why does every tom dick & harry want to study in white man's land?

major466:
The funny thing is that Nigerians will always say we need a better government that is civilized and alive to its responsibilities like those of developed countries. But deep down we are still as barbaric as anyone can get. How can we be civilized when we behave and act like people reminiscent of the stone age? We Nigerians need a total change of backward attitudes and behavior.

By your statements, you are accepting inferiority. That is what they saw as justice. If the white man starts setting ppl ablaze tomorrow, you will follow suite. the white man dictates what is civilized for you. monkey. is lethal injection administered in the US civilized?

The black man needs to refuse inferioirity!

GAZZUZZ:
Black mans mentality, I shake my head, instead of handing him over to the sss for interrogation, so the source of these dynamites can be located, they burnt the chance away.

Well he wanted to die anyway so why not if not, just bad timing.

You are a monkey. You are a colonially brainwashed monkey.

As if SSS does a great job? I dont support the act but that is what they saw as justice.

Women were primarily designed to provide reproductive capacity for the human race.

Belzeebub & Incubus, come out of him now!!!

Sagamite:


It is so easy to spot the guys that end up w*nking a lot.

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Baba Sagamite. Dont mind these ppl, they forget Song of Solomon (a book of the Bible with a romantic tone is there)- even Bible says man is head of the house (the control you speak of).

I have explained to these folk if you go to women with religion alone you will regret it. its nothing to do with ur soul; I believe many ppl in the bible had game as well...

Ilekokonit:
A girl that sends naked pictures of herself to anyone has no heart that can be broken.

Its just like saying you want to break an ashewo's heart.

The weakness we men (most of us) have is that we give women too much respect than they deserve.

We REPEATEDLY automatically equate a cool faced decent looking girl with actually being decent failing to realise that these 21st century women are a different breed from 30 years ago.

A lot of them are dirtier than the word dirt in their sexual escapades but you would never know just by looking at them.

The word caveat emptour (let the buyer beware) comes to mind as a lot of them are not fit for purpose.

In fact to get a decent wife nowadays is more difficult than finding a needle in a haystack.

Todays women are just too dishonest in all their ways.

Fools rush in where Angels fear to tread.

What do you mean by "dirty"? When you yourself have sex is it "clean"? How come when an attractive women has it, it is dirty? I understand what you are saying and I have learnt from it; I have made these mistakes myself actually.

Anyway, you are kinda right, not all pretty faces are good.

Looking for a wife is difficult abeg. By the time you go find that needle for haystack you for don old.

The issue is biological... both men and women are looking to maximize their mating opportunities and that, with the best genes. I like a definition given by a man a while ago:

"Attraction is natures way of holding together our minds and bodies JUST LONG ENOUGH so that we mate with someone with good genes"

This explains why men and women cheat, there is high divorce rate etc.

You should be targeting women in their prime...

Forget wife, wife will take care of itself in due season - what I mean by that is find a girl in her prime, have your escapades with her with marriage intention then marry her.

Avoid the primiscous ones though.

My point is finding a wife with sexual involvement of some sort not necessarily sex dont work.

the maximum number of times i can show interest in a girl is three times, after that on to the next. i just have no time for chases when there are other qualified candidates with less effort can be had in a relationship.

is this a good attitude? Pls give inputs...

francizy:
But seriously, I would advice girls/women to up their game a lill bit..

Try to always give that dude something new every year or twice in a year. It will help you know..

If you're a missionary woman, please open your eyes, the world is changing.. Try other styles in bed.

Nothing wrong with blowjobbing your hubby you know.

You can even strip dance for him and make him feel like he's in a strip club (he's your hubby so I don't think its a sin). Dance on him and shake that bootay on his hood...

Once in while you 4k him too.. He shouldn't do the 4kin all the time.

My major problem with you trying out some of these things is that when you do, some timid men will start suspecting that you are cheating on him and that's how you've been learning new skills..

I think religion is partly to blame for these things; you will not strip dance, Mouth Action or twerk for your husband? Guess what? A prostitute will give the same service! religion makes anything sexual evil... so when ppl get into marriages, they are crippled with fear of sin etc.

A mental liberation is needed. I believe the sex life of a couple can never grow sour if they make variety.

Second the importance of youthful marriage cannot be overemphasized, youthful looks and a hot body for longer years will make the man cheat less. Even when the babe is 50, the guy will just keep her as they have been together for so long, it will be uncool to go to someone else.