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safepassage2015:
i am a dr and i dont kill people. People like you are ingrates and bad example to the society. Please next time you are sick kindly visit a babalawo near your place of residence since you believe drs are murderers. The OP is a young dr that made a mistake and is stupid enough to put it on nairaland. He will grow and learn. People like you should not generalize about drs because of this incidents. Drs risk their lives daily to save people and you come here and open your dirty mouth to call us names. Idiot!!!!

U r a morbid fool, for once I tot I will see a different doctor jst reading d post but I saw another murderer n to think u a claimed senior doctor supports this shows its normal.

If he and other doctors care abt live then they shld do sth different n save live at times like depositing their money for a helpless accident victim until his/her parents comes.

Doctors like u and op dnt have any biz with medical practice since wat u want is money, u shld b traders

Pathological hydra headed monster

cosmatika:
Tears run down my cheek as I type this. I went into d medical profession to Save lives, but today I watched a patient die and I could do nothing.
It was around 11am today, 26th Dec 2015, I wz in the emergency room as the only Dr & House officer on call in a state Specialist hospital wen a peugeot wagon followed by a police van drove in. They opened d doors & trunk and started bringing out Accident victims. I did a quick triage & saw dat d 2 in d trunk were in a more critical condition, So d immediate plan was to refer d 2 to FMC wia dey hav better hands and equipment to handle it. So I asked d policeman who d driver is so dat d 2 will be rushed to FMC & he said he died at d Accident scene. I ran outside to buy airtime to start calling other HOs, b4 I could return, dey had dropped d 2 & drove off.
I called other HOs, only 2 showed up, others had travelled. To my greatest suprise, I called a medical officer who is a snr colleague in d proffession, she said I shud nt touch anyone till dey paid. That I shud Infact refer all of dem. I was incapacitated, d patients were in pains, crying, calling on us to help, some already unconscious, but we couldnt help cos we have an order frm above.
Within 5mins, 1 young lady in her early 20s died. Abt 10mins later, another police van came and carried d remaining 7 to FMC.
This evening, some road safety corps came to inquire if any Accident victims were brought to our center. They had retrieved d manifest frm d vehicle and contacted d families of d passengers. Dey came wit d relations of one of d patients, and wen I told dem 1 of dem died, dey asked for d Description of d 1 dat died and I showed dem d pix of d gal dat died, behold she was d 1 dey were looking for and right there was the gal's fiancee. Their traditional wedding was to be in 3days tym
I want to use this medium to call on the govt to make policies dat"ll enable Drs treat patients in such condition. Let's Save the human race

U shld have done sth to help d poor girl but u choose to watch her die on ur boss orders, u n ur boss r both killers n murderer. U have blamed it on Govt abi, y were u on duty in dt Hosp when u can't treat patients on critical health condition?

Most Doctors are murders and too money conscious, u all r wicked. This ur post shld b titled "how I and my boss murdered our patient "

Bitter experience indeed!!! U dnt care abt human live so shout up at once. If it was ur sis in dt state n ur boss gave dt order wat would u ve done? Sure u will deposit ur money abi, y didn't u deposit for this one at least until their ppl shows up.

If u deposited ur money I would have nominated u for a national award but right nw I feel like arresting u n ur boss for murder

Toks2008:
Have you always wondered why some people are quick to say "i don't want to talk about it" whenever a new person in their life asks why they broke up with an ex?

I guess most times people who are quick to waive the discussion might just have something sensitive they do not want to share because in many instances we tend to allow the feeling of initial gragra cloud our sense of reasoning and just fall in love with someone who was really a nightmare to his or her ex(es) no wonder why many companies ask for letter of reference from your past employer or someone that can really vouch for you.

My advice to ladies or guys who seem to lose their sense of reasoning due to "desperation to get married" is to calm down and do serious research on whoever they want to settle with.I believe if we all imbibe the culture of insisting that we speak one on one with an ex of our potential new partner or dig into their past,we will save ourselves unpleasant surprises and avoidable heart aches.

This is not just about believing whatever he or she tells you due to the decietful nature of people but its about making a thorough due diligence by speaking to a friend,neighbor,sibling,co-worker or even the ex of that person just to have a good picture of who you are about to commit yourself to.

I know this sounds funny but i believe its reasonable and this is the secret of long lasting marriages of our parents because in those days,they don't joke with due diligence up to the generations of the great grand parents of the potential spouse..lol!.

Many men have lost their lives indulging with married ladies who lied to them that they are single as well as many men losing all they ever worked for to a dangerous gold digger as well as evil ladies and many ladies have ended up getting deeply involved with a married man or even a notorious guy without having a clue.

No matter how seemingly innocent and responsible that guy or lady may look outwardly,trust me on this,it is always better to scrutinize the past of any new person we want to start a real affair with because when it comes to character, more often than not, humans are like leopards who never change their spots


Hope this makes sense.

After all d investigations they may still nt tell u they had 8 abortions and 15 failed rships highest they will admit one

omotohdarajugbogbolo:
Good day fam,

I really need your advice on something.

I am a lady in my late twenties and I work with a multinational company here in Lagos.
This is my third year on the job and I know I need a car now.

Now here's the issue; my siblings think that getting a car is a bad idea. Why? Cos am single.

My beloved brother said it would push men away from me

Please does this not sound myopic? I really don't get it.

House how do you see this cos I feel down right now.

Y shld u still b single n all u r thinking of is buying a car.
Ur bros r right, buy a car n remain single for life. This is naija except u live in western world.


R u in a serious relationship then discuss with ur man he may nt have issues with dt, if u r nt yet in a serious relationship then u b bad market

Golf 3, vento, Audi 80 tiger face

Stay off naija used talking from experience

This is an over used range rover bought through nairaland auto section

samocholi:
Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

U r a certified dummy, having lost ur job I think u r doomed. U shld have opened this thread b4 u lost ur job

daretodiffer:
My dear low self esteemed man. The divine injunction does not say ‘total submission'. Please fix yourself before your try to lead others.

Who am I kidding, you can never be good enough to lead

Lol u can't engage me in a debate smallie jst feel good with ur name calling BC dts all u got.
Morbid fool

Junior66:
apologies bro. Your advice would have made good hearing to most northerners/muslims‚ most peeps here are from the south. I am a Christian too by the way.

So what did ur bible tell u abt marriage if nt d man being d provider n d woman d helper.

Now wat we dnt understand is dt to help is discretionary

jabojafa:
a lizard in Nigeria cant become a crocodie in America. Mind u d guy talkd to her abt planning for d future lik buying stuffs dt wudnt be used in deir home. Instead of taking correction she wz saying its d man's responsiblity. She is workin n earnin money so why not start buyin things now. In marriage wot u dnt hv u cnt give. She lacks financial management. My cousin b4 she got married wz doin business n d moni she made, she bought d tins dey are using in deir kitchen now including a big generator plus a washin machine and a gas cooker with oven. Marriage is for meeting needs.

She is right its d man's responsibility, d woman can help at her discretion

daretodiffer:
Low-self esteem alert!

Total submission ko total submission ni. I hope you have started searching for that mo..ronic low self esteemed idi.ot that would be your wife.





Once she moves into the house. The house becomes their house, as in the man and the woman's house. I don't care what he had to do to build their that house


Like you could afford any of those things. If you don't have it or if hers are better than the pangolos you have. She MUST move in with them.

Sorry dts a divine injunction, deal with dt my little daughter, submission to ur husband is total n non negotiable

Junior66:
from your comment i guess you are a Muslim. am i right?

Christian n dts wat d faith teaches

Junior66:
from your comment i guess you are a Muslim. am i right?

Christian

kessel:
Am still saying it, it's not her not buying house things that is the problem from my understanding of the issue, she is not making adjustments to suit her soon to be status. The guy in question used not buying this things to drive his point home. Ask me how I know.. .i have found myself with this kind of ladies severally.

He overemphasized dt part then as if it is d main issue

kessel:
Well spoken but if you scrutinize that write up very well you will discover that she has not been making a contribution at all with regards to their marriage which is to hold mid next year. That should get any Wright thinking guy worried. It's not just about buying microwaves or kitchen knives. I believe What this guy is trying to say is that the body language is not changing,she is making adjustments to fit her soon to be status.

Agreed but it is sth to speak to her abt and possibly see if she changes no one is perfect u kw. Communication is key i dnt think he shld dictate to d lady hw to spend her money at this stage. He can persuade her on dt but nt force her. A woman is a helper and to help is discretionary. Real men shld nt carry women money for mind b4 marrying them.

Calling off a wedding BC the lady u have not married is nt buying kitchen utensils is immature n a clear sign d man is nt ready for marriage.

In marriage u will face bigger challenges even if u marry a saint, will u jst call it quit at d slightest provocation

iswallker:
Is she got property she should throw it away bah....am watching u in 3d and laughing.

She shld send it to her immediate family or relations, she shldnt move in with them

2k kwa where u dey when others dey hustle
Give her Recharge card 1k or better still send her osogbo weed for better morale to face 2016

iykedare:
These nairaland women will fry your skull for this.

It is a divine injunction _ source d holy bible

Op he has nt married her yet so can't demand she uses her money to buy stuff for their future kitchen, it is at d lady's discretion. What he can do is to b buying d kitchen stuff himself or give d lady money to buy n bring to his house. It is his responsibility really . Marriage is nt a partnership its abt a provider n a helper, dts y d woman's total submission to d man's leadership/authority is nt negotiable

She is moving into ur house as d man, when she moves in she must then support u. It is good sha to see her making plans towards ur future together, dt shows commitment but at this stage it's at her discretion.

By d way wat kinda of man will allow a woman move into his house with properties, she should nt move in into ur house with things beyond her clothing's, personal effects n d likes but nt gas cooker, microwave etc


U kw her well, do wat u think u shld do

Lexus is d luxurious highlander, RX 350 is better

engrfaruq:
but why the promise?

Sorry bro, but APC na promise n fail, next thing they will deny they promised or blame it on GEJ

Op u r nt ready to buy a car if u dnt have features u desire in a car n at least some brands dt appeal to u. Learn to take a lead in ur life.

I agree with those dt call this thread attention seeking.

Oya go n buy 1999 - 2001 toyota Camry and close this thread, d car is 800k toks

Looks like u need a toks engine kazeen has finished d one in ur car already.

Once naija mechanics start working ur engine jst start saving up for a toks engine BC d engine will give up sooner than later

Whatever u do on d engine will jst buy time for d needful

watchworldpro:
@ogawisdom. Leave naija out of it. This is a choice assuming road conditions are perfect.

If road is perfect n no SUV in d options then
First choice - Mercedes
Second - BMW
Third - lexus

None will rather do an SUV variant since it will b driven in naija Lexus gx 570, range rover sports, bmw x6, mercedes-AWG gle 63s coupe or d likes

musicwriter:
warning!. i always have my opinion move on if u dnt lik them.

Lol yeah u got me there

CioAngels:
When is right time? Your own time is your right time. You don,t have to use other peoples time and then make a mistake. Marriage is a lifetime project so please, don,t hurriedly go into it. Your best half will come at your own God given time.

Best time is anytime b4 menopause for women as for men best time is when u still produce youthful seeds ie b4 40yrs

musicwriter:
@OP.
Marriage is not something you do because others are doing it or because you're getting old. I'm obviously older than you, but until I achieve all my dreams on earth, I have no plan for marriage. I have plans bigger than marriage and it's fruition is what is really giving me concern, not marriage.

As long as I succeed my goal of changing the face of education in Africa, I wouldn't mind marrying at 50, because I wouldn't marry cause of children, but to retire to happiness. Just 1 child is all I'll need or none at all. I have no interest bringing someone else to suffer in this cruel world of competition, disease, injustice, crime, wickedness, corruption, greed, and sheer evil.

Rubbish oyibo mentality, marriage is a divine injunction. It is not good for a man to b alone. Only a child will say I won't marry until I achieve all my dreams on earth, better get ur head examined soon.
Bad market, except u r impotent

@ gazzuz hw can u cancel my comment without any reason abi na mod u wan dey form for car talk section abeg dey take am easy here ooo

Dt statement is valid BC some car scanners may nt b able to detect faults which others can, I kw u r among d leaders here but dnt b rude

sherina10:
Hello
I'm 23 years old, a graduate and currently serving.

I met a guy sometimes in 2012 and we got into into a relationship along the line he told me he was married but had issue with his wife and they are separated but he didn't tell me what d issue was.

I couldn't care less then because I had issue with my elders sister's husband whom I was staying with and he sent me packing. They were the one sponsoring my education. I was broke, confused and frustrated with no money. I called my in law to apologize he wouldn't pick up, send sms in fact I did everything I could to make him forgive me but it seems its heart was made up then, I was left with no choice but to move on then I just finished the semester for 300 level going to 400 level with no savings in my account and my heart was full of anger and hatred.

Above is the reason why I couldn't care less, then i was totally broke with no love from anyone expect this guy, in fact to me he was God sent then because really he saved me from a lot of sufferings.

He helped me move on with no stress, again I was comfortable and I don't need my sister's money for anything but he told me that he wanted to get married to me which I accepted because I cant afford to loose him.

Along the line he reconciled with his wife and he told me that he had reconciled with his wife and he told her about me and his intention to marry me and she accepted.
Note: they are muslim n i'm a Christian
When he told me about this I wasn't comfortable with it because I wasn't interested in polygamy in fact at the beginning I lost interest in everything when he told me he was married but I couldn't let go because of the comfort. He is not very rich but he is comfortable.

We kept on seeing each other, he is very okay in person, very religious, very caring, he had it all and I love him very much.
All he wanted was marriage, I got to know his wife who happen to be very nice too and sometimes I wonder why a woman will become that nice to her husband's
Everything was going fine and I got deep into promise of I will marry him too to the point of no return again I was left with no choice than to get married to him.

FAST FORWARD..........
We are currently married(polygamy)
Separate apartment (the two houses are close by) no transport needed.
24hours with each wife
No fighting
Provide's everything equally
JEALOUS? Deal with it whatever way you can but you have no right to confront your mate over anything because she isn't married to you.

The marriage is going on fine if you can deal with the above.

My GRIEVIANCE
1. I just find out that he married me (if not me then another) for child bearing
His wife had health issues and he wants a particular number of children.
How did I know this? He told me himself. When I stressed on it he told me that if he married me for child rearing how come we are still together because i lost a pregnancy
not long after we got married.

2. He doesn't keep any of his personal belongings in the apartment the both of us is sharing. But he brings some office document and somethings when he needs them and take it back when he is done

3. He doesn't receive visitors in our apartment. Reasons: I don't cover my head and his friends isn't comfortable looking at me because it's as if i'm naked to them.

4. Sometimes I feel ashamed of being a second wife, I cant tell my friends, sometimes when we discuss marital issue they always complain about money but I don't while they are I like I wish i'm comfortable like u, In my mind I will be like I wish I can get a husband to myself like u . Pathetic? Yes.

All in all the marriage has not been bad but my senses just can't accept it that i'm a 2nd fiddle, maybe because of the way I was raised or because it is a taboo to my Christian faith.

I want a divorce because he has bridged his marriage contract, he told me initially that wife is wife in islam, there is no difference between 1st, 2nd to infinto wives but I cant cope with the above because I feel he lied to me.
I can't be in a marriage because of children.

CRITICISM is allowed but please advise while you do so or after you have done that.

It is worthy to NOTE that we never committed fornication/adultery before the marriage because he said its against its religion.
If you want any kpekus (whether extra, supplementary or whatever) then get married first, lol.

Yawns

OK go n look ur self in d mirror n call urself olodo

Y did ur sisters husband send u out of d house, y did u hide dt part better tell us BC dts d root of ur predicaments. It seems it is connected to this ur rship

Hw come u have no one else in this world after u were sent out except this man u call comfort, ur long throat have killed u

ekenzzi:
Ogawisdom thanks so much for your concern, well the much I do know about my car is that my car is a 1999 toyota camry LE. And it's a four (4) cylinder 2.2 engine with a specification 5s. And as for how much fuel I do use @100kms, well I really can't measure that accurately. But let's take for instant from mile 2 to okokomaiko you can't make a to and fro movement on a clear road with 10 litres. If the reserve light won't pop up. @ Honmusa I've spent money on so many professionals that I really can't tell who's not remaining in yenagoa where I use to stay before relocating to port harcourt. So I still have that believe that a better professional is what I truly need to work on my car so this my car craze can be solved once and for all.

2.2 litres engine is nt a small engine ooo, how many kilometers is the to and fro distance you described determine dt with ur odometer. D fuel consumption may b slightly higher but not over d roof like u r saying. U dnt expect d fuel economy of a 1.6l engine with a 2.2l engine.

U choose power over economy when u bought 2.2l Camry against d usually 2.0l. By d way did u buy d car naija used or toks and when.

Use a better scanner and run another scan, goodluck

ekenzzi:
Wow!! Still can't find help with this car ish. Am so tired now

First what's ur engine size, and describe d fuel consumption. Hw many litres do u use to cover 100kms in city or highway