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FirefliesSun:
we have known each other for over 15 years.

Shut up and mind ur business

She has known her mother all of her life infact her mother brought her to this world

FirefliesSun:
I am so mad right now. I am so confused.
Today around 5:30, I had to visit my friend to pluck hibiscus flowers.

One thing led to another while at the flowers, I saw my friend's mother making eyes/wink and pouting to my friends husband. He just smiled back although he noticed I saw it but the mother didn't.

I can swear they are having a fling and it's shameful. I don't know how to tell her. I am just here, very confused and bothered. Even if I wanted to tell her, how do I even start?

Just shut up and mind ur business

backbencher:
He did say he is looking at postgraduate offers...which means he is planning to enter academia.

Post graduate offers means msc n PhD

It's still schooling not an employment yet

F9 parallel hmmm

How can anyone explain his recent result?

Anyway it doesn't mean anything in today Nigeria as he can end up as a POS agent.

Let him secure gainful employment first

hashbag1:
Nlanders,
I have been married for 9 years now, amidst several incidences that gave me suspicions over my wife's infidelity. The one that happened of recent gave me nothing more than great suspicion over any other.

My daughter and son got infection, they were admitted into the hospital. On this faithful day, I was there with them and I left the hospital in the afternoon to get something for them to eat, I got back with the food and quickly rushed down to my office to tidy some work. I felt hungry and decided to drive out, on my way to the restaurant leads to the hospital, I was in traffic when I put a call through to my wife whom I asked how she was coping and how the kids were doing, while on call with her, I heard sounds of car horns so I asked if she was out, she said yes that she was going to get water across the stree, so i was like you shouldnt have stressed yourself since
the house maid was with her, next thing she yelled at me saying why am I making ascertion as to who should go get the water or not, I was like but that isnt a big deal to ask, she was like well the house girl have been the one running errands all day, I responded saying instead of yelling at me, you would have just responded by saying the above.

As a responsible and concerned father, I decided to suspend dinner and branch at the hospital which took me 8 mins to get there because of traffic. On getting to the hospital, lo and behold, my wife was not there, just the kids and the house maid. I asked the house maid where madam was, she said she stepped out without saying where she was going. I immediately put a call through to her. "Babes where are you at, just got here now and you are not here". She immediately hung up on me, I called back, she didnt pick, called her again didn't pick, waited few mins and called, she picked and yelled "why are you looking for me" I was like but you claimed you went to
go get water but its been up to 15mins and you are not here yet, next thing she said was I'm in a uber car, Wow uber car when you just said you went across the street to get water, how does being in uber car relate to that. I requested a video call, I hung up the normal call and called her on whatsapp call, she didn't pick, I called her back again on normal call and said you aren't picking, she responded saying am in uber car now, call me on video again, I did but she still didnt pick. So I decided not to bother since declaring her whereabout seems frutile. She called back on normal call saying she was on her way home to pick some her items to quickly do an advertising shoot to model to her customers in the hospital room, that she didnt want me to get mad at her reason why she didn't tell me before she left, I was like its not a big deal telling me that after which I have found out she never did go out there to buy water.

Husbands and fathers in the house, in this kind of situation, what could have been your thought? As for me, something was not just right, and the most damning part of all these is leaving the kids at the mercy of just the house maid, I feel if there is something she is hiding from me and leaving the kids like that is what
the issue of trust has led us to, I am left in amazement and total disappointment.

Nothing concrete yet

No prove or evidence of cheating just suspicions.

You will never catch her with ur attitude of showing her what you are up to.

Play cool or fool so she will put her guard down for u to catch her with solid prove.

Is she active on social media? U can woo her using another number on WhatsApp n watch her reaction.

In the mean time be acting loving and ignoring things n u will track her down soonest. The harsh n suspicious approach is a no no if u want to track her down

1Sharon:
What if he doesn't want anymore wives?
His marraige to Regina is still very young, I don't think he wants a new wife anytime soon.

Then again how do you think Ned's oldest wife is feeling?

Why should a woman want that for herself?

If you must be a 2nd wife, make sure you stand out.

Ned is a billionaire

If every wife gets 3m upkeep allowance monthly why will they not be happy more so when they can have affairs secretly

1Sharon:
What do you mean?

Youngest and freshest wife until Ned gets another wife.

1Sharon:
Nope. Regina has some advantage over her co-wives. She's the freshest and youngest.

Don't be surprised to know that Ned has forgotten his older wives.

If you want to be a co-wife, make sure you stand out, so you aren't forgotten.

As if she will be the last?

Candidlady:
Please I need a reason why any lady would agree to be a second wife?

Bc the man is rich (or at least comfortable n the lady is poor)

Ask Regina Daniels

She can even be 10th to a man of 70

All most women need is money

He should leave NPF and apply for lecturing jobs in universities/polytechnic

Ibegtodiffer:
As an Assistant Lecturer (joining the system with Masters degree), your Netpay is 118K.

After 35years service (Professor at bar), Netpay is 406k.

Very poor

A professor deserves at least 1m monthly

And assistant lecturer at least 350k monthly

Running a business is not easy n requires alot of self discipline.

Op I agree with u for the most part.

Child bearing alone will affect the biz

Shows who is in charge

She pays the bills for the house boy

So she calls the short

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Once a week should be okay

Control yourself

distinguish:
We have been married for a year now. We have been trying to conceive. Because of the emotional stress attached my wife said she can't be staying at home alone, it causes her stress. She said she wants to start doing something. At least a business.

I took a loan from my place of work and we started the business for over 2 months now. The issue now is that, I don't always have cash on me anymore. Any little money I got it's for the business. Basically, we mostly feed from the business.

Yesterday, after we returned home, she started giving me attitude, I asked her what the issue was, she started telling me how I am killing the business, not taking good care of her, not having money to take care of her and all sort of rubbish, she brought out how incompetent I am as a husband and what have you. I never said a word to reply her and its eating me up seriously, I could not sleep the whole night. This is the person that I sacrificed a lot for. I was supposed a take a professional course this November, but because of her I had to postpone it.

Please I need your advice.

PS: I did not eat the food she prepared last night.

Lol..

U are a learner in woman matters

A woman is interested in what u are doing now not what you have been doing.

Whatever you do never go broke except u want to see the worst

Denvacandy:
We got married in 2018 and things where going smooth, i was working with a company in port harcourt and i can bodly say i was very okay, taking flight is not an issue.

When she wanted to give birth to our first child, it was through CS and i paid every damn bills amounting to 500k or so.

We moved down to ogun state and i was taking flight monthly to see her from port harcourt.

Fast forward to 2020, the comapny fold up and i lost my job, i came down to ogun fully with my wife and everything went down, feeding was hard and my savings is drying up.

You know how woman do and how to satisfy them so my savings eventually dried up and the reality was down.

She applied for a teaching job at govt school and she got employed and i was always at home.

Do she was supportive but its didnt took long when she changed and started treating me badly.

I was so sad the day she utter all terirble words to me, on how have not been a good husband and how i have not been dropping money for food and co.

how i have not been taking care of her, i almost moved to tears and i refused to eat her food for some period, i was being supported by a street friend.

How can someone you have sacrificed so much for all of a sudden change and bring out thier true color.

Na normal thing
No woman loves a broke man (infact most human being don't)

If u had saved enough u could have started another biz by now. I noticed u were very wasteful while working taking flights anyhow and paying 500k for CS when govt hospital could have done same with less than 150k

Better look for sth doing ASAP no matter how small

MISSNORA:
Good evening all! Please i need mature replies on this topic. My elder brother is really hurting right now.

The Story.
My elder brother got married earlier this year...before the marriage, he was fully aware that his childhood friend[Michael] had dated his wife to be with sexx involved. The wife is the truthful type and lays everything bare. Michael is well aware that his ex [my elder Bros wife] is fully married to his friend[my brother]....My brothers wife and Michael recently reconnected again on social media and has since started up chats that "MAY" lead to them flirting. She shows my brother the chats and gives him every update. My brother is not happy with this development and is yet to communicate this to his wife.

Questions.
1...Should he tell the wife to block of Michael (his wife's ex, whom is coincidentally his childhood till date friend) ?is this a wise move considering the fact that this might make his wife start hiding stuffs
... The wife is cool with maintaining contact with this particular ex[Michael]....thought he tells my brother everything /the chats.
2....Can you allow ur spouse still in contacts with his/her ex?
3....Should my brother just talk to Michael straight up to stop chatting his wife?

He should calm down
Nothing new will happen that haven't happened before.
He should caution his wife to keep off Mike to avoid re bleeping her

Hmmm

Honestly one plus one is equal to one

The only thing wrong is that he said in his name instead of our names, rent payment also could be in a joint account not in his private account.

I am particularly surprised he is in a hurry about it he should have waited for some time after marriage to come up with this.

Whatever decision reached must be mutually agreed on

bigpriik:
I brought up this topic two years ago, it was about a girl i loved so much we were good friends, but she is Just into a kinda flashy lifestyle funded by runs. She always posts twerk videos on her Instagram and whatssap status and of course she is very beautiful and the kind of woman I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Hoestly I don't know why I love her, it's just crazy. Last year I deleted her number and pictures from my phone, because we had a fight over the tatoo she drew on her upper arm so I avoided her..

But yesterday I saw her in my street, meeen this girl don fine scatter and she is looking so fresh like those men are really paying her well. She called me and I answered we talked and believe me all the nuts in my head was loose because I talked to her.. ,i felt all the old emotions back again and it was so strong again. I immediately collected her number and she sent me a hi on WhatsApp so we begin talking again, we chatted all Night and she told me how she missed me so much and all.

Is it sensible iI take her in, i am 29 now and rounding up for marriage and she is the only one i see but i am afraid because i feel runs girls don't really retire even after marriage..

Elders please i need your help..
I need

Can u maintain her luxurious life? If not she will definitely continue the runs after marriage. Better respect ur peace of mind now. Sexx her to ur satisfaction n look for love elsewhere

She is twerking for Jesus

Baddest olosho in church to thank God for better market season

Good character
Common sense
Peace of mind

These are priceless

We can buy good food n sex

150k wedding gown is still too much

That is why common sense is very impt in a woman

150k wedding gown is still too much

Since it's manual it's 800k max

This car is becoming a goldmine, let me be maintaining my own ooo as the market price keeps shooting up

RealMarv:
Most guys I know don't like it when a lady is taller than them especially if they are developing feelings for her. They prefer a lady who is short or of average height. The surprising thing is that even the majority of tall guys prefer going for short ladies.

This begs the question, are tall ladies not attractive? Why are guys intimidated when they are with tall ladies?

Most of them don't have sense that is the problem. Average n short girls na pack of common sense

Spark2:
Hello NL.
I'm going to keep this brief.

It started three weeks ago. my mum, who was walking normal with no problem suddenly could not walk. Her left leg began paining her severely that day. My mum was all in tears... She was rushed to the hospital where it was discovered that her sugar level was on the high side. The hospital gave drugs which stabilised it, at that point my mum was very weak, couldn't eat, each time she eat she throws up and also had some pain in the leg still. After a week in the hospital, we were then referred to a teaching hospital after a test showed that creatinine in her kidney was high.

The teaching hospital tried their best and I can say my mum is now okay. Except for the left leg. She can't still walk on it, the leg feels cold to touch with a little discolouration above the foot.

Doppler test showed that blood isn't really flowing through the leg. And they said they will need to amputate the leg to prevent the infection from growing to the other parts of the body.

Please I want to know if you know anyone who had similar condition and amputation was recommended but was later healed without need for amputation.

Please share your recommendations. I need my mum now more than before in my life. We are confused on whether to allow them to go on with the amputation or seek other alternatives.

Thank you very much.

Pls note that as at now, her sugar level, creatinine and other things are normal.

Everything is possible if u are loaded with cash. Fly her abroad immediately esp US if u get cash otherwise calm down and follow her doctors advice here

HornyTave:
What if he's jobless

� ur guess is good as mine

PrimadonnaO:
200k monthly child support?

Will he also be paying the child's fees and other specific expenses separately?

That amount seems too small to raise a child.

It depends on the financial muscle of the husband bc the court will use dt to judge the case n amt he is to provide. If he earns salary the court will even ask for his pay slip to decide the amt he will contribute as child support.

If he earns 150k monthly may be as civil servant then 200k is excessive n court may not grant more than 70k monthly.

But if he is a Davido with 30billion in his account then court can grant 7million monthly

5yearsOldtechki:
Yes there's a child
Only landed properties

And yes he lied in the paper that he's has been supporting me financially, so I want to contest it and make him start paying that.

Ok engage the service of a lawyer to file a cross petition immediately

Ask for custody of the child
Depending on his financial strength ask for 200k monthly child support (that is assuming his nature of work can afford it)

Also 15m general damage etc
A smart lawyer is all u need

5yearsOldtechki:
Do you know how much this might cost me co's I'm not financially bouyant

It depends on the lawyer involved from 100k to 500k. Never the less u can pay stage by stage.

You have read his petition for divorce thoroughly, is there anything u want to contend? Are you okay with everything in there? If so then u may not need to spend bc the divorce will be granted in court with or without ur cross petition.

You only need to file a cross petition when u have some things to contend in his petition.

Is there any child?
Properties to share?
Etc

5yearsOldtechki:
My ex husband recently filed for divorce after 3years of separation.

The clerk brought the court summons to me yesterday and I'm absolutely clueless on what to do.

Please someone should put me through.

U need to get a lawyer to file a cross petition. Just have enough money for the case