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dreside:
I would brief the whole story as short as possible...
There was this girl we use to date but broke on so on my birthday is make celebrating with me and we had sex. Which she left the following day. I realise she was pregnant after about 3 months though she didn't come straight to me. Meaning she claimed the pregnacy to another guy. Fast forward she gave birth to a boy june this year and i got to see the picture of the child after about few days. The child look so much like me and I demanded I see the child which she refused and I demanded to carry out a DNA test. After about a month she later agreed saying she felt the child was mine after she gave birth cos the child look so much.
I was the one who figured out where to carry out the test, I paid for it due we were asked to come around 10am. We didn't carry out the test until 5pm in the evening. I went for peace of mind which cost 125,000naira at a centre in Lagos. The result came out and it stated negative. The child's DNA and mine does not match. Everyone were waiting for the result including the girls parent. Everyone have accepted the result except me. The girls family also claimed the child look so much like me but since it was me who called out the DNA then they have accepted the result.
I was shocked and am still in shock. The boy is 6 months now and still looking so much like me cos i saw the child recently. Everybody I showed the pictures of the child could see the resemblance.
I don't know which to trust,should I go with the result of the DNA or should I still feel something went wrong cos of the resemblance. Am confused.
I just wanted to sort out issues about the child before he calls someone else daddy.. The dna test i did has caused so much issues

Conduct the test again in 2 different places to take your final decision

Michaelbjune:
is it right to marry a Lady or a woman that is 2 or 5 years older than me please l need your advice thank you

If she is an asset and not an old liability then u are good to go.

Also remember that women have sth called menupause n once she is in menupause child bearing won't work.

If u are interested in child bearing then any woman above 38 is a no no.

No Never

If your father is Dangote why not
4.5million is like 20k

Are u serious

Mille:
Exactly what I was thinking. Of what use is opening a business for her if I'm not getting any benefits.

Mehn, I was shocked she did that and it was the main reason I lambasted her. My daughter only takes breast milk and adult food. She'll rather take water than cerealac. I already told my wife I'll never forgive that in my life.

My friend set up a business for her wife hoping the woman will be contributing significantly to family upkeep but the woman refused telling him she will only contribute if she wants that he can't force her. Imagine lol. She was even trying to make shop rent his additional responsibility alone.

The business was blessed and booming but caused serious strain in their marriage she leaves house 8am n back by 9pm Mon to sat, abandoning most house duties and almost always too tired for the other room.

If u must open biz for her you must discuss ur expectations with her to avoid quarrelling.

Lol

she doesnt believe in supporting his man financially.

you are wasting ur money opening a business for her except u dont mind if she doesnt support ur family from the biz.

whatever u do never ever go broke otherwise u will see ur ears with ur eyes.

Have plans A to F for making money n different reserve funds for the family.

By the way 95% of women are like dt, it's difficult for a woman to support their husband with their money.

In ur case i am shocked she let her daughter go to bed hungry, women don't play with their kids

taylormed2:
America
Finland
Israel
Denmark
Norway
Italy
France
Hong Kong
The list goes on. Price of fuel in Nigeria is amongst the cheapest in the world rn.

How much is minimum wage in Nigeria compared to the other countries?

Gaddafi1:
Obviously fuel subsidy will be removed in 2022 and PMS is expected to be sold at N350 per litter. Nairalanders, how do you plan to cope with this increase considering the fact that income is not going up.
On my side, I had to take a painful decision of trading off my beloved 6 cylinder engine Sienna and got a corolla which consumes less fuel. I can't come and go and kii myself.

I already have a Toyota Corolla.

The problem is that it will increase the price of all goods and services

AntiWailer:
She said her boy was a day student and all u could conclude is this thrash.

If the incident happened over the weekend and the boy never mentioned the boy so why will you conclude he was involved.

I hope nobody accuse u people wrongly. You will understand the stupidity in assuming the first news u hear is the truth.

Some are even making conclusion that it was because she is a single mother.

Men like you grow up and will eventually abandon the woman. Your reasonings are very faulty.

Being a day student doesn't make him innocent infact it could mean he was the one that brought the poisonous substance they gave Sylvester. It's a cult group n nothing stops a day senior student from entering boarding house bulling him during daytime. The woman should wait to be exonorated by police investigation before talking about public apology

DonBenergy:
You are still living in the 90s

Lol � ok be giving urself hope until reality hits u

Wasted 6 years

DVM is useless you in Nigeria

Congratulations on ur graduation though

If u disobey school rules and regulations, there will be penalty

Cooking is a life skills

It's important she learns how to cook

Smoothbabykong:
Hi guys,
I need your honest opinions about my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.

The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.

What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.

My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.

Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.

I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.

She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.

Thanks for your opinions

Ur tenure has ended
Move on if she is no longer interested

So sad

But honestly money and connection can do anything in naija

Capital No

The only person that should move into your house @35 is ur wife, time no dey again start working to make that happen soonest, u need to start your own family ASAP.

As for ur elder sister let them remain where they are n send them money as often as u can afford. Also let her start sth to support her family biko rather than depending on you.

She should be arrested already

Confidant010:
I met this babe in 2017 while in school. She was in Diploma program then and I was in my final in degree program.
Initially, she pretended to be everything any man would wish in a woman; obedient, submissive, helpful in house chores, etc.

I left for my national youth service the following year and I have been supportive through her thick n thorn with the resources at my disposal. Sending her cash for upkeep, supporting her during her dad's burial, sending cash to her mum occasionally, paying her dept without her notice, etc.
If am to take into account all that I have spent from her since 2017-date, 300k wouldn't be an exaggeration.

Recently, having helped her in Jamb to get admission into a degree program on scholarship, while I am in Lagos, trying to build myself. The girl is completely a different human being entirely. She openly tells me countlessly that the cash I give to her now isn't enough for her, that her ex boyfriend she dated used to give her more. Last month I sent her 6k, I was really stressed financially, when we had issues, she told me not to stress her bc of ordinary 6K. She flares over very minor misunderstanding.

Please what should I do guys?
She's planning visiting me next month.
I'm very confused bc I really love her.
Pls mature minds only.
Your input will be of help.
Thanks guys.

ur tenure is coming to an end soon.

A new guy is around

The love is not mutual she is just using you.

Usmankno:
This room is not worth 10k..Did u check the room before lodge nd payment?

Exactly na 3.5k

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Make it or die trying, giving up is not an option.

Get up and fight on

The letter should be addressed to the Vice chancellor

Then CC
1. Pro chancellor
2. Chancellor
3. Dean students affairs
4. NANS

Except it's just a media trial that lacks substance/merits.

A good VC will set up a panel to unravel the truth

LM7 deserves it
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nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

U cant change a heavy spender no matter how hard u try.

It talks self discipline to deny oneself some gratification when u have money. Without financial self discipline there is nothing that will change.

Moreso if u marry her like dt u will be frustrated with her money habit

HBP is a silent killer.

It will kill silently check ur BP regularly

Searchingvictor:
This issue has been bothering me since. Like how does it become a crime? How's the society secure affected?


If husband and wife feels like selling their baby, how is it a crime?

Please, enlighten me

a child is a state own too not just for the parents. Every state or nation have laws governing it. Selling of human being is a crime.

Congratulations

But don't just stop at saving move a step further by investing.

Think land banking. Start looking for cheap lands in promising areas to buy n resale

Quarrelling and fighting

DamnnNiggarr:
Does Excessive Stressing Or Staying Away From Sex For Too Long, Causes Erectile Dysfunction?

I wanted to create a new moniker for this thread but later changed my mind in order to continue with this my main Monika, because I see no importance/reason for creating a new moniker. Please you guys should not insult nor comment negatively on this thread. I know that topics similar to this have been created on this forum but I really want an answer and also a special advice towards achieving a permanent solution. I've browsed the internet about it, but it seems most of the sites I visited were only interested on advertising their products.

Lately, I've been overstressing my self, I combine three things in a day which means combining studies, business and family which makes me to always be on the road every minute of the day, I shuttle between Anambra, Enugu and Bayelsa, most of the time, if I can't find some of the goods I'm looking for in Onitsha, I travel to Lagos or Aba to get them which will be way-billed to my wife in Bayelsa so that she can sale them, and all these make me to be away from home for too long especially my studies.

so, on 18-11-2021, I decided to visit home, it was the day that terrible accident occured at upper iweka, Onitsha. But I got home, and I observed that I can't have an erection, even if it manages to erect, I can't hold the erection for too long, this thing kept happening until my wife couldn't take it anymore and she suggested we see a doctor, on getting to the hospital, the doctor asked me what I do for a living (what I do in my every day life) and I told him, he also asked how often do I visit home, I told him that it takes longer period before I visit home. He suggested that I should get some rest and stay away from too much stress, and also visit home regularly in order to be having regular intimacy with my wife, because staying away for too long from it can also have a negative effect on sexual life. But I told him that, stressing my self is how I put food on my table and that's also how I've been able to pass my exams even right from my undergraduate days.

The doctor made mention of Stress, which I'm fully aware of it's negative effect on sexual health, but staying away from intimacy for too long, does that also cause erectile dysfunction? even the internet didn't mention anything concerning Staying Away from intimacy for too long. I know that most men are down with this particular issue but are too shy/ashame to speak up.

please Nairalanders, how else do I overcome this disgraceful and shameful predicament?
all advice would be highly appreciated.


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It can only cause pre mature ejaculation. Never erectile disfunction.

U get the best erection when you stay off sex for long though u will come very fast