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ruddyman500:
I got married to my wife in 2017 and we have been living together since, we have a child together but there is this problem with her anytime it has to do with any of her EX. i will cite some of what happened .

She wanted to organise a programme at a time and the person she could think of is one of her ex who happens to be a media guy, i told her point blank that i dont want her to go met the guy but she explained to me how the guy will be of help to her in the programme she is planning, i let her be cos i dont want to be seen as someone throwing spanners in the wheel of her progress, i supported her and the programme was a success.

Another instance was when her mother died, and they were planning the burial ceremony with her brothers...my wife got home and told me that she told her brothers that she will talk to a musician to come play at the ceremony and the said musician happens to be another ex of hers. i told her right there that am not comfortable with it at all how could ur ex come to sing at her mums burial and i will be there dancing to his tunes?...after so much back and forth , i told her i will only attend the church service and i or any of my people will not come for the party, that was when she made last minute changes and went to book another musician.

The last straw that broke the carmels back was yesterday....I and her have been having some issues of late and we talked over it infact we are just coming out of the tensions....then yesterday morning around 8am she told me that another ex of hers called her overnight and told her that his mum just passed away and he could not think of anyone to call but her cos he is so broken, she said she had sent her condolences already but that she will like to go greet the guy and his siblings cos they are in their fathers house [ the guy is still single ooo although they broke up in 2013] and that she will be able to know about the burial arrangements so she can plan on attending the burial..so she asked me for permission if she could go and pay them a visit yesterday..... Normally i wld not have allowed her but i thought what is she didnt tell me and went there and secondly cos of the tension we just went through and i dont want another tension to build again , i told her i will only allow her to either go greet them yesterday or she goes for the burial ...I told her i will only allow her to choose one . She then asked me in strong tone why i didnt wnat her to attend the burial.....At that point i left the room cos i was not ready for another round of arguments.

She did not say anything again until afternoon, i went to my living room and asked her if she is no more going on the visit again she said she already taken her bath and she will go n prepare now ....she entered the room and started dressing up, i went to meet her in the room and i told her that i allowed her to go cos i already gave her the permission but henceforth i will not allow such again ...Told her she is not the only person with exes , i dont allow issues of any of my own ex brew tension in my marriage , i told her i have an ex whose fathers house is just like 5 mins drive from inside the estate we live and when the man died my ex called me ..all i did was send her my condolence over the phone and i explained that i cant come for the burial cos i have a wife at home whose feelings i respect and that it ends there AT that point my wife flared up to the high heavens .....she started ranting that why am i caging her that i should give her reasons why she should not go that am just so obsessed with her am immmature, insecure and bla bla bla. I told her if loving my wife and protecting the dignity and integrity of my family for obsession then she is totally wrong. She said other men will not have any problem with it that why am i making an issue out of the situation, i explained to her that am not other men , What Mr A is comfortable with may not be so with Mr B cos we all have our individual differences .....One problem my wife have is she does not see reasons why i shld not accept what she seems right to her . I then told her to call any of her elder brother and explain this situation to him if he can allow such ....

This is a woman i never restricted her movements ....i only restricted her twice and they are both on health grounds...When she left i did what i have never done before [ i have never reported her to anybody either my family or hers no matter what happens i find a way we can solve it]...i called her very close friend and explained everything to her, the lady was surprised and she promised to talk to her....I also tried to call her elder brother who is a pastor but his phone is switched off and i have not been able to get through to him .When my wife came back
she did not even greet meat all , she came to take our baby from me which i refused her, she went straight into her room, i later went into the room to lay our baby and i went into the guest room to sleep cos am so much in anger and i dont want the neighbors to hear any noise from my flat.

please i need sincere and honest opinion from married people on here ....i want to know if am at fault and secondly what next step should i take

Your wife doesn't respect you at all. Those are traits of an independent woman. Be assertive and firm, let there be consequences anytime she disobeys u

She will get worst d more u dance to her tunes, incidentally except she learns to respect u as her husband the future of the marriage is bleak

Swtcherries:
My dear, I have seen life to an extent, even at my young age, I know that anything can happen even at the dying minute. This man has potentials and I believe he will make it. I know a family member that was financially struggling for years till he was 45+, he later got a good Job, today he is extra comfortable with his own house and cars. Don't rule anybody out.

While I am not ruling him out but there is no certainty that his case will be the same like DT of your family member. He might still struggle forever, he needs prayers to help him locate his destiny helpers. The story of life is different for everyone. I wish him the very best.

asobo:
Sen. Danjuma Goje SP

Sen. Ike Ekweremadu DSP

Dsp kill u there

D idiot Ike ekwerenmadu will be floor member since he refused to retire

Bad news for not too young to run campaign

Swtcherries:
Nothing wrong in being 43 and not rich, life happens.

No one is talking about being rich, he doesn't even need to be rich he only needs to afford the basic things in life n get married n get going with life.

At 43 years a man has come a long way

43 years jeez unmarried n struggling.

Something should be going fine with your life at 43 but it appears nothing is?

U need prayers

An average 43 years old should be married with 3 kids even if struggling

Never mind money can come at anytime even in 50s

A drum can be half empty or half filled depending on your perspective

Why should anyway be buying SUV with 4 plugs that is overpriced

Did u say 2 months u must weigh over 120kg and probably bought fake

twentyk:
Hi, I finished with a Third Class degree in a Federal university and my question is, can I do masters or other higher qualifications....

Go and learn skill or start biz or join politics like Dino

With third class no one will employ u even with masters ur best bet is to be your own boss.

If u insist then do PGD then masters

The president is a goat

He should be the one doing this

Married woman? He should be killed

Benteazaa:
Its urgent before I chop de money

My Toyota Carina e automatic can be yours if u have 450k

What's your location

Vanity

Op a good cheap car is usually a stolen car so be careful

Sadiqali24:
Hy my friends, I want you to help me out.

I'm an N C E holder but currently in 300l.

There is this lady at my work place(I teach in government school) who is doing her MSc(currently), she profess her love for me and want to marry me and I'm just 22. the thing with women is that they can be intimidated by friends and maybe along the line after giving me so much hope will end up saying, "I'm not her class". your advice is strongly needed please.

Provided u make more money than her u should be fine

She cant be older than u, more educated than u and also making more money than u, DTS a hatrick against u bro.

Siena n ikenna351 for those that frequent car talk section

NORSIYK:
Highly credible information say Governor Rochas Okorocha has given directives to pay 100% salary to Imo workers, up from the 70% he has been wickedly paying since 2015 even after receiving the tranches of Paris Club Refunds.

His intention is to impose a heavy financial burden on the incoming governor.

What it means is that this man wickedly refused to pay these monies all this while, but once he was given quit notice, he remembered to pay full salary.

The heart of man is desperately wicked.

You should commend him for paying workers their full salary not typing nonsense as if he is looting money.

It is never late to do the right thing

Let him pay the backlog of the balance of 30% collect since 2015 to workers if possible and indebt the incoming government it's the right thing to do

quote author=delugajackson post=76628974]Let me get this straight. Her husband died and she had no other choice than solicit help from other men. Knowing fully well that there are many wolves out there. What about her husband's family? What about her own family? Or is she an outcast?

She didn't feel the need to involve her husband's family for support, at least for the sake of the children.

You lack dignity! You slept with them out of lack of respect for yourself and your late husband. He died and you resorted to prostitution like that was your only option? A good woman will never stoop so low to dehumanize herself in that manner! You went on to sleep with different men b4 realizing they were only using you? Are you that dumb?

Truth is, even if her husband were alive and suddenly went broke, this woman here will still commit adultery and justify it with whatever damn reason that settles with her. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is finding out that the woman you married is nothing but a coded prostitute![/quote]Stop ranting already, even the so called women with dignity still sleep around for cash provide the pay is good. Married Working class ladies do this all the time provided the pay is good. So she has not done anything unusual by confessing her sins

Internet farmers are here again

Super fabricated story

No King reigns forever

iberiberism

Namady:
our wedding is scheduled to take place on 23th March 2019. The Pre-wedding photos are attached below.
I have been on Nairaland since 2010 and I have learned a lot. So, I want to use this medium to seek for your advice as I am about to start a new life.
Lemme me very brief. I’m a private Sch teacher with Master’s degree while my fiencee is a registered nurse already working with state government. We dated for 7 years but we hardly spend more than two weeks together in a year. What advice can you give us? ��

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Look for a better job but get married Sha
I know your wife earns way better than u now don't be comfortable with that. Else u will learn the hard way. For me u r jobless almost, working in a private school where u can be fired anytime

Life is not easy for anyone, if u commit sucide u will rut in hellfire.

Make it or die trying legitimately

This is terrible 100 children perished one day with their teachers

As a precaution change every year it's inexpensive

Blood liar

This is 1998 model not 2001

See pictures of attached 2001 Camry n be guided, notice that it's brake lights are bigger than yours

Na formality if u kw u kw

Just to waste the little resources of a poor man

This is strictly for people with strong connection

Congratulations ihediohamma Governor elect

Imo state has been rescued from iberiberism and sexually transmitted Governance.

Next his Senate ticket must be stopped and rochas should be chased away to hausa land

Congratulations ihediohamma Governor elect

Waiting for toto to reply

Trouble dey sleep eyanga wake am

@goodisgood4321

You sound childish

No matter who you marry there is always someone out there better than her in everything, this is a fact. In marriage it's all about contentment. It's like buying a car no matter how good the car is there is always a better car out there. The most important thing is that all cars do the same thing.