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rosety:
We handled the bridal bouquets for this year's edition of My Big Nigerian Wedding. Here are some of the pictures.

Bridal flowers are an important part of the wedding ceremony. Some cultures see them as a representation of the bride's hope for her future.

Una dey here!

You're in serious, serious trouble with me

But ladies, they supplied my wedding flowers (someone else did the arrangement) so they are legit.

Seriously you can see she worked hard to get to the top. But she's moving from crude gossip (awon Stella Dimoko-and co) which makes her more marketable.

Reading what I just wrote made me sad. We are never gonna get it right, are we...

Cause and Effect. If someone warns me that something will happen in the future and it does, I will assume they were right and knowing. If someone warns me and nothing happens, I will assume they knew nothing and are charlatans.

Dreams are a manifestation of your subconscious. If you dwell on something, you'll dream about it.

When God speaks, you will be equipped to hear His voice well. Not hear what you want to hear at that point in time.

Observe that in the New Testament, God spoke and used people directly. God spent the entire Old Testament sending prophets whom people did not listen to, then sent His Only Begotten Son, to be the Lamb Who Washes Away Our Sins and be the direct bridge for us all to Him (hence the curtain was torn in the Inner Sanctum when our Lord Jesus died, to show that we now had direct access to God, unlike when we had to go through his priests and prophets. To show that salvation was now attenable to all.

And you think we still need prophets?

If your University continually sends semi-qualified Bachelors' degree lecturers to teach you and you learn but don't quite understand, then the university sends a Ph. D holder who's the best in the field to take over (since you're not understanding) for a while and leaves you his notes. When you still don't understand, you end up back with the B. Sc and B. Arts lecturers, trying to understand the Ph.D lectures. Instead of being able to see (perhaps not as clearly but at least in the same direction as those junior lecturers, since your experience isn't as vast as theirs).

That says more about your level of understanding. Perhaps that's why you still need prophets.

Do you remember how Pentecost happened? The anointing fell upon more than the 12 disciples. And they spread it to others and shared the anointing. And humanity corrupted the Word, which is why it decided that the anointing will be held in the hands of a few, since we could not be trusted, even though Christ had come to give it to us all.

After our Lord's sacrifice, we ended up worse than where the people of the Old Testament were. Deliberately blind.

And that is Man's greatest sorrow and the reason we shall all be judged in the final days.

Rhukie:
Good afternoon mothers, My friend wants to buy baby carrier but she is confused about which to buy i.e front carrier or back carrier?

Front carrier with good thigh support and baby should be facing towards the chest. A back carrier= might as well tie wrapper (cheaper).

Boba (wrap carrier)
Infantino (strap carrier)
Infantino mei tai (wrap carrier that is a sash, some people find it hard to use)
Baby Bjorn (strap carrier that was the most popular but people are concerned because it doesn't have thigh support and baby's legs are dangling. Doctors say it's fine sha. I have one and they tend to run big so smaller babies need time to grow in them).
Ergobaby (strap carrier, the best on the market right now and the priciest sturdy and distributes weight so momma doesn't feel the pain at her shoulders the more baby grows).

sexiebecky:
Goodevening great mums,hope we are doing all fine? My twins are now 6months+ and they are taking pap wit nan 2,my boy,pureed swt potato wit formula,pureed titus fish,egg,marshed rice and marshed indomie...pls mamaS I need more solids to introduce 2 dem,they refused to take cerelac,dnt know y!and again,one of my baby's hair is vry strong,she cries weneva I comb it,pls wat can I rub to soften d stuburn hair Thanks mamas

Ohhhh I typed one very beautiful response before o! Okay...

Natural hair is not stubborn, it is curly, dry and very fragile. So all that aggressive combing is why women weren't growing their hair long. Here's what I do.

Use a wide-toothed comb like the one below. Anything smaller is entering very curly hair and snagging in it, causing you to pull harder, causing her to scream in pain. So A WIDE-TOOTHED COMB IS A MUST.

Comb hair ONLY when wet. African hair is the driest and needs moisture (water) constantly. And curly hair detangles better when wet so it is easier to comb. So wet hair.

Once you wet the hair or it's damp, apply either a light absorbing oil like Olive or Coconut oil or a thick butter like Shea (ori) or Cocoa butter to the hair and massage it lightly.

Hair must be damp or wet (wet is better). Then comb gently.

No need to shampoo daily (unless your baby is a professional footballer at her tender age, her scalp is not getting dirty that often) and shampoo is drying to Natural African hair. So maybe once or twice a week (unless you're treating something skin related on her scalp with a medicated shampoo).

Also abeg don't do all those painful tight styles like puff or braids right now. I hate seeing babies with tight hairstyles holding their heads in pain and having traction alopecia (the hairlineof the head is chopping).

Check out this blog: www. naturalnigerian.com she and her daughter have natural hair. Or just ask me (I will do my best to answer)

Niyyah:
Thanks soo muchh sis,i do burp her after every feed o,but her diapers r mostly sckd with urine as she doesnt poo daily but she farts a lot n its stinks(should i be worried?) But when she poos,its actually yellow n butterlooking.
I also let her latch till she falls aslip o,any wee my breast don reach her mouth,am stopping asap! and am not expresin yet o so how long shud i be feeding her during the day?how many hours/minutes interval?i'll try the breast massage thingy,wud also tk her to weigh n i wud try n get the drug n tea as am kano based.
I just hope am not doing anything wrong cus av got noone else with me except dh n we r both amateurs.

Stinky farts, enough wet diapers and yellow-brown poo that looks buttery or peanut-buttery are all signs she's breastfeeding and drinking something. Feed on demand, when she's hungry let her eat, if she's not hungry don't feed her. I think you're doing fine. Btw that burp should be loud enough to hear, so if a small one comes out, maybe just a little gas came out. She's too young for colic.

Kenai:
Ambode is hardly even the case here, in my humble opinion.

For a man like Fashola - who was in charge of Lagos for 8 solid years - to have his so called legacy deteriorate and totally get wiped out in less than 5 months after leaving office, it clearly shows that he actually made no CONCRETE investments in those so-called sectors he claimed to have 'revolutionalized'.

He built no solid institutions, and made no real change. He made no efforts to unbundle the system and make hospitals under his control strong enough.
This was the same Gbagada Hospital one of his lackeys posted glossy pictures about a few years ago, that showed Fashola commissioning the place and posing for some more photos with his 800 cameramen.

When we assess things properly, we shall see that Fashola's so-called works were only on face value, and as a result, only transient.
The man simply ran a government of propaganda, noise, self-adulation and lies.
He built no institutions but propaganda, doing the works of an L.G.A. chairman (boreholes, street sanitation) and having his butt-lickers come here to showcase their gullibility.

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!!

Those of us who worked under Fashola will run him over with our cars if we see him crossing the street. He did 20% face value work and snapped more pictures and spent millions on publicity so all of you would be deceived. There is no Doctor working for LASG who won't "accidentally" kill Fashola if he comes for treatment.


Fashola is a thief! And a conman

Niyyah:
Morning mamas, pls help an helpless ftm I don't know what else to do, my 2wksplus baby cries so much at night and it's driving me crazy, dh n I v tried everything (changed diaper, bf, dncd n sng) but nothing helpdd, she cries so much n it's affecting me badly, how do I know am making enough breastmiilk? Any food I should be eating that will boost my supply(am on ebf) or I shud kukuma change to formula? Is deree some sorta drug i shud be giving her? Anything I shud check n do when she starts the fits? She slips n feed mostli during d day but night na wahala... Pls help

Relax your mind mama (it sounds like you're alone with her so that makes things crazier).

When Baby E had that issue at 7 days old, it was because I wasn't burping her well. Have you tried that? Gas drives little newborns cray-cray.

As for your milk, you have enough. Newborns stomachs don't grow to the size of an egg till a month, so they need a little but will eat a lot. Expressing won't show you how much you're producing because it is NOT as efficient as a baby's sucking motion (the best pumping machine is a hospital-grade $2, 000 electric pump which isn't sold in Nigeria so just forget it and you don't need it).

So, how do you know if she's eating enough? Simple: how many diapers do you change daily? Minimum 7 to 12 diapers is fine. If she's peeing and pooping that much daily, she's fine. Also take her to weigh, if she's gaining even some small weight, she's fine. When you feed her, do you feel a tingling inside your breasts? That's your milk letdown (its coming in so she's drinking). Also give yourself a warm compress breast massage (use a hand towel and warm to hot water to massage the entire breast area, starting from under the armpit down to nipple).

During the day, don't let her fall asleep at your breasts because it means (depending on if her latch is good) she eats a little and naps, then wakes up in 30 mins or hourly and eats a little more and naps. Which turns her into the World's Best Snacker (she's eating tube-tube rather than eating a full meal and resting). Which turns you into that Mummy Whose Boobs Are Constantly Out While She Does Nothing But Cries From Exhaustion And Frustration. So tickle her toes and her ears and sing to her while she eats during the day and at night be silent as a church mouse (this will also help in sleep training as she will learn that when it is dark you are no fun and she should sleep). Also look up cluster-feedings, remember it is a supply and demand thing, the more your baby sucks the more milk you make. If you are expressing then for every bottle the baby takes, you express (every 2-3 hours or your milk slowly dries up).

you can take Fenugreek tablets (sold at Healthplus or Medplus pharma in Lagos) or fenugreek powder as a tea (sold at Indian stores or online from the natural hair shops like Sizzelle or African Naturalista), it boosts milk supply.

If you do all this and she's not gaining weight, she's not peeing and pooping a lot, if you find some crystal-like crumbs in her diaper, if her poop is hard and not butter-looking, then she's dehydrated and give her formula. HTH.

I know a couple who pierced both their son's ears. He's 1 year old.



We ran around in panties and no-one cares before. Society has become more sexualized. It's showing on our kids.

Harbioollah:
Being a muslim does not permit you to marry more than one wife.

I didnt see any part in the Quran where it is compulsory to marry more than one wife. Religion is not an excuse for people's choices. You either accept or discard it.

I'm a muslim myself and i believe most of these people are using religion to hide their covetousness.

This.

It is not compulsory to marry more than one wife but people have forced it down everyone's throats coveting what it not for them.

OP, get that man to set up accounts for his children, settle you in a business and preferably get 2 flats before he buys asoebi for he and his new "darling". Ask his family to see which side they will take and help coerce him into settling you and your kids. You will suffer because his lust and ego cannot see the damage and danger he's about to inflict on his family. If he does not gree, politely tell him that you are heading back to your father's house. Do not let anyone tell you to "endure, be prayerful, pet him" etc it will not work and ignore those who tell you "you can manage the situation", they will not live in the same home as you and will only tell you "pele".

And that 2nd wife will act up. Trust me, even if she doesn't want to make trouble, there will be someone on her side (or hubby's side looking to settle a score with you) that will encourage her madness.

And there is no such thing as a happy polygamous home. Anyone who comes and tells you they grew up in a big happy polygamous home is only playing one side of the cassette tape for you.

Be strong.

nwaimoroseyaho:
my dear friends it has not been easy with us. we are owing house rent for ten months and the landlord is threatening to quit us. my husband's business has suffered setbacks cos of the rain. that's why I asked him to seek help than close our mouth and be ejected.

Don't ask that friend for money. Do you know if your husband already asked him and got turned down but doesn't want to tell you? How close are you to him? You called him a family friend and said he "seems" generous, which means you don't know him well enough. So stay away. Why not ask for a job opportunity instead. Say you are willing to do secretarial work or work in a shop assisting his wife.

If I were that man and someone who is not that close to me asks for money, I'd be disgusted because the person who knew me well stayed away but you snuck behind his back to meet me. I'd think both of you planned it sef and start avoiding both of you. That person has put a wall in the relationship. And if I were a bad man, I will tell you "money for hand, back for ground" just to see how low you will go.

Zeiss Refracting telescope:

It's one of the few remaining in the world. You can look at the surface of the planet Venus through it.

There were a lot of telescopes on display as well, including an example of the one Galileo used.

The Sun:

We looked at a lot of telescopes, their forms and there were live feeds of the surface of the sun.

Moon Phase:

If you look up, there's a small scale of the orbit the moon takes around the earth and this exhibit is used to demonstrate how we see the moon every night through its phases (full moon, crescent moon etc).

Foucault Pendulum:

This is a device that shows that the earth is rotating, even though we can't feel it. How it. works is that the pendulum moves around a calibrated sphere and hits some objects down at certain points (that's what you will see). The physics behind it is really fascinating.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foucault_pendulum

SunDial:

Way before clocks were invented, this was the best way to tell the time. It works by using the position of the sun in the sky. By looking at the shadows cast by the sun, you can estimate what time of the day it is and using a calibrated surface (after daily checking of fixed positions) makes it more accurate. A sundial was invented by the ancient Egyptians and Babylonians.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sundial

Tesla Coil and Faraday cage:

Nikola Tesla is one of the fathers of Electricity. The machine is an example of what an Alternating Current look like. It actually works and shows those sparks of blue electricity (which was cool). Michael Faraday contributes immensely to what we know about Electromagnetism and more.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nikola_Tesla

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Faraday

The Tesla is also the name of the world's first electric car (I saw quite a few people driving them around, but they're pretty expensive).

The ceilings were covered in murals showing the theories and stories of Astronomy, from Greek gods to Arab scholars mapping out the stars to sailors and circumnavigation and more

An actualized version of the Periodic Table:

I know most of us have crammed the Periodic Table but this was a large scale model with samples of each element in physical form. Where the element was a gas or poisonous, it was represented by emptiness.

Hello all.

Thought I'd share some pictures from a recent visit to an Observatory. That's the outside of the building and the layout of the front.

anonimi:
The bold is what I am all about.

If you go through my posts I have not said anything against high fees by private universities. I have only raised pertinent points from posts that distort the fundamental issue of education in our country and how most of us are HYPOCRITES of complaining about things we are not only part of but unwittingly contribute to.

I guessed

It was embarrassing. Even with construction (Civil Engineering) that is easiest out of all, Nigeria is backwards. Not one can think of a more efficient way to do foundations or design for additional loads or LEED certification. What they did in 1975 is what they teach in 2015: y12 bars at 200mm spacing, shikena.

These are pictures from an Observatory showing a sun dial, the actualized form of the Periodic Table and Tesla machine. They take their PRIMARY AND SECONDARY SCHOOL STUDENTS there, Nigerian university graduates will now come and beat their chests and attempt to compare themselves when not one uni has an Observatory.

anonimi:
Are Indians, Chinese, Russians half baked compared to Americans to expand on your logic

Schooling in India isn't cheap, especially for Sciences. The pressure to graduate is so high that they have a high amount if suicides from Engineering school in India.

Nigeria should stop subsidising Universities and pour that money into primary and secondary schools and vocational and technical colleges. All the people shouting how much they paid for Fed Uni, why can't they come and shout how much they earn now or compare how much they knew when they graduated.

I studied Engineering in Nigeria, my brother studied Engineering in the US and my hubby studied Engineering in the UK and my friend studied Engineering in Ghana. Recently, 3 out of 4 of us were discussing Thermodynamics equations and expanding them and using them to look at improving our generator sets. Guess who knew the least?

Show me the Nigerian university that has a 3D printer to fabricate parts instantly or even modern functioning labs. The labs with nice equipment, students were not allowed to use them, we watched as they performed the experiments and then later I am supposed to go and get a job based on actual practical lab work I never did. How many can analyse the data given?

Have you even read an essay by a Nigerian graduate? Just browse through Nairaland for examples of what Fed Unis offer.

Eghosa1 you guys are awesome!

Toke Makinwa. Better styled and the trousers fall. to. the right length. instead of being bundled at the edge like the 1st lady's.

kodylicky:
Good morning mums,

I'm a FTM and dis is my first post here. My DS is 3weeks old. He seems to wriggle and cry a lot when breastfeeding.

I put him on his tommy when he sleeps and he still wriggles like he is in pains and keeps waking up.

Any ideas what dis could

I'm totally exhausted n just feel like crying.

Please help.

Pele. Before this develops into colic, try not taking milk or gassy foods and see if it works. What you described is something irritating your baby's stomach, it could be lactose-intolerance so eliminate that first. Also look up Acid Reflux in babies. Look for solutions until you. have gone through all with no improvement before. you rule colic (a lot of cloic cases was the baby uncomfortable about something and no-one caught it, my Baby E was like that and everyone said "colic", when it was a lot of gas from her not liking Enfamil). If all that doesn't work, then it's most likely colic and bat down the hatches, you'll live through it. Pele

Amitabh Bachan in his youth these films are on YouTube if youngsters wanna watch.

Who wants to do modern Bollywood movie day soon...

iAmCharis:
Onegai, I love your input. Send me your bank details please.

Errrrmmmm..... OKAY THANKS!!

modath:
See my babe ooo , how are you & princess.....

What do you call counties in the US? They are local govt & the reason our local govts are not functioning is cos the kind of Governance we practise, everything is centralized, but when power is divested from the centre, you'll see a difference...

How do you expect a guy that grew up in bukuru jos to know the ways to police in Ila orangun Oyoo state

Best police practice starts from the local govts, you have you have west hollywood police unit, before LAPD before you now talk about FBI stationed in California..

come and carry madam, I want a refund back on the past 1 year (preg+ baby). How's your boy?

I know we have counties but the truth is, LGs don't function in Nigeria. I knew the past LGC of Festac (a young man) and he too was just as bad as older predecessors (Corruption is too ingrained in our culture). Half the roads and amenities we complain we lack is supposed to be provided by local govts. Imagine if they add security to their portfolios, they will use police to do even worse while still not providing security.

Every sensible idea always has k-leg in Nigeria.

modath:
Unfortunately it is not laughable...

As Fashola opined, we can't continue with Federal policing, it will not help us...


Security needs to be broken down to even local government level, now everyone is claiming it's not in their jurisdiction!!!

Ridiculous!!!

State Mobile Police should have statewide aerial and sea way support in the South. But to leave anything to local government is the worst idea. Not one single local government chairman is functioning in Lagos, how will they discharge support duties to Police?
Someone has now posted pictures of NPF helicopters. So they had them and yet never use them unless it is to carry politicians.

When a friend joked that in order to save Nigeria, we needed to hand it back to colonials, everyone was upset but I doubt Nigerians can run Nigeria even at 45% efficiency.