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Congratulations to our new Mummies. Please, try and rest a lot. Don't do superwoman and if you are having high BP, insist on going back to the hospital the week after birth to keep monitoring it.

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https://www.instagram.com/p/BZYanWeFIg-/

Please unquote me cococandy, baby124 and eyinjuege. Thanks

Dp

cococandy:
So you know them?

Well I did say that I'm sure the man and his mom aren't saints here.

But the rest of my comment was based on what I could see in the video

Both of them are decent people who cared about each other, pushed to the wall. If someone brought a video of you and your husband at your worst, neither of you would look good. The video just made things look bad. Don't look at the entertainment value of this, because there for the grace of God, goes you, I and anyone

baby124:
It's not believing what I wish. It's what happened in the video. She also responded by saying, *you want me to leave this house. He said yes. You are not my wife, I have not married you. You are just a baby mama*.

I don't think anyone will say such a thing out of anger. Even if he did, she would have responded that she was his wife. It could be the video was made before they married if what you are saying is true. You can also post the video of their wedding on YouTube. I don't believe that couple are married though.

Please believe what you wish, I don't owe anyone an explanation. Those I mentioned, they can check. I won't say more.

baby124:
He called her his baby mama and clearly stated that they were not married.

Their white wedding reception was at Civic Centre, VI. There's a video on YouTube. He was angry when he said that. You can believe what you wish sha. That's the sorrow of all this.

We have all said and done awful things in the privacy of our homes. Let us give this couple a chance to mend. Neither wanted the video to leak and they are very much in love and love their daughter.

eyinjuege:
Thanks for the update.
In short, trouble jam double trouble. Mama don meet her match be that.
Chai, but the video was not nice to watch. It's a pity though, when relatives interfere in a new couple's home.
I hope they settle their wahala, otherwise to your tent o Isreal.

If the couple are smart, they will move to another state across country and start afresh.

Na wa, social media is a rough place

realdentist:
the video is not playing on my phone

Will post it.

bigiyaro:
pls o am back again, in some posts back i announced dat wify is preg, some nites back i was brutaly awakened by 1am n tongue lashed by DW for smellin like chicken feed (i always bath b4 goin 2 bed o) i had 2 go n sleep in anoda room,our matrrase is now suddenly 2 soft, i had to buy a new one(my head has nt even touched it o,she has being rollin on d 6x6) on fri. i had 2 go n look 4 lacasera at 3am after been threatened wit brim stone n thunder. she also reminded me how uncarin i was despite d fact dat i have being massagin her hands n legs daily 4 d past 2 weeks. Now since yestdy, shes being eyein me like am a leper wit some of d longest hiss i've ever heard, i have practically moved out of d bedroom, jst now she called me dat d whole house is stinkin. Pls der any drug to take care of dis whole wahala? what trick is der 2 employ? make una epp me biko.

Dude, look her calmly in the eye, infact menacingly and... Just start dancing!

What do you want to do? You can tell her to chill out a bit, you can Shout at her or you can try my method: do something ridiculous to break her out of her moods and then speak to her to try and be in control of her emotions a bit. Pregnancy is wonderful but not the end of the world or the be-all, end-all. That's my take sha, if you're throwing a tantrum, I'll first indulge you, then do something to make you laugh and if you continue, go cold and blank you till you doubt your own existence.

Happy birthday Rhemy2013. Have a blast

Hey mamas. Please don't forget us o

https://www.nairaland.com/3511128/how-cloth-diaper/5

We have done video and mehnn, the yabs are coming in fast "you sound like a chicken, you sure say you go school, na wetin be dis". Thank God for great, awesome family and wonderful, loyal friends. But please don't yab me when you see it.

jazzyjazz:
Please o I have a problem

My son has been eating very well since last month. Suddenly since Friday he's been loosing appetite. He barely had any food on Friday. On Saturday he refused to eat any cereal or formula. He was on breast milk only and today it's the same thing. And even the breast sef he's not sucking much at a time.

He's not running temperature, he's playing as usual, but he's not eating.
He took 90mls of formula this morning and small breast milk
He's 8 months old

Hey, just saw this.

To be honest, it's a phase. He will pass it soon. And yes, kids are the worst when it comes to eating but they will not starve themselves. I lived on paper and fresh air as a child and I grew up, intact. It's crazy-inducing but you have to ride it out Pele.

We are currently testing out a new cloth diaper wetbag o. Dual cover for added protection and so, proudly made in Nigeria! It is a large sized wetbag as well, so it takes a lot of stuff.

Cc.
Forzarush
Tatacherie
Fvine
Rofemiguwa
Sissie
Dunasy
XX01
Zheemub
Tojued
Aim07
Portable4real

All our fluff mamas.

Don't forget to check us out on IG: @nefes_nappies. We are the original Fluff Mamas and we Fluff together

tatacherie:
Hello Ma'am trust ure good
Check out what I've been up to lately
I mentioned you earlier but it seems you didn't see it
https://www.nairaland.com/4040036/akelas-crochet-haven-amazing-crochet#60505220

Well done o.

Also, here's a tidbit about experience during the interview session of your job:

One of these popular guys on Twitter (I believe he's in Finance), thousands of followers, said this:

"At interviews, I ask the kids 'Do you have any organizational experience' and they always reply 'no'. I then ask them 'Have you planned a wedding for 400 guests?' and they reply 'Yes'. And they still don't get it. "

Gbam. Right there. See how everything can be some sort of experience.

Moaba:
Wow! You write so well. It was an eye opener.

Thank you very much

The movie "Queen Amina" has been in production for 2 years. To be released this year and there's so much hype around it. Just imagine if you had learnt how to play a local instrument or you could remember all the songs your grandma taught you. You'd be in a recording booth by now. You'd even be discussing releasing the soundtrack on iTunes and Spotify. You'd be with a contract in your hand. You'd be making money.

Cc CrazyMan, 1forall can you please move this thread to your section?

There Are No Opportunities in Taraba State

... nor in Jigawa, Bayelsa or Bornu states.

That is a false statement. There are always opportunities. It's like saying "there are no apples grown in Delta state". Very true. But are there mangoes growing in Delta? YES!

I just spoke about Culture and Tourism, and its opportunities. (pssst.. Look at the Culture section https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taraba_State). How about the intersection between Culture and Interior Decoration?

I have never been to Taraba. I don't know its state capital and if you ask me to point it out on a map, I wouldn't know which direction to look. But you know what I'm absolutely sure exists in Taraba? Culture: language, custom, clothing, entertainment and items.

I love African decor. A lot of people who live in cities do. A lot of non-Nigerians do. But I don't know where to look for it.

Now, I'm pretty sure in Taraba, someone weaves fabric, makes baskets or does Claypot or carves calabash in intricate designs. You, you probably walk past it every day on your way to another unsuccessful CV drive or interview. You know who doesn't?

Sheila. Nick. Samantha. Jonas. Leslie. Todd.
White people.

White people, whom are good at seeing value in what they told you was nonsense, yet are selling it profitably. Whilst you pound the pavement begging for crumbs if a job you don't even care about.

Think I'm lying?

The baskets below, are from Ghana, Kenya etc. The claypot is from Nupe culture (hey, what state is that from again??). And they're sold outside the country for a minimum of $45 per basket to $150 or more. I know interior Decorators whom are in Lagos looking for this stuff for clients. Heck, I know a market for this stuff. Heck, that comb was going for N2500 per comb, IN Lagos, 4 years ago. Heck, there is an item, made in Nigeria that is sold for £2000 in the UK. And not one single person from that village owns one but some white guys are ordering and selling it at a profit. Wut?!!!

Still think there's nothing in Taraba?

Cc zheemub

Zheemub:
Have always appreciated your input on newborn thread Onegai.
It's just a pity some states don't have lots to tap from unlike Lagos which has lots of opportunities.
I reside in Taraba state and still can't get a job. Presently, am Npowered and about to start a vocational skills but procastination is eating me up.
Have learnt some tips to include in my CV.
Could you please expatiate more on the cover letter?
Thanks in anticipation.

Says who? There are so many opportunities in Taraba state. You have to open your mind, stop thinking like a typical Nigerian. Expand your horizons. I'm going to answer your cover letter question and then I'm going to use your sentence to write a topic.

A cover letter is a brief introduction of yourself. It shouldn't hold the names of the schools you attended or too many details. Your cover letter is where you sell your market, that is, you. That is where you explain your skill set, explain more about what makes you a leader/follower/team player etc. A cover letter is the essay part of an exam, a CV is the objective questions section, succinct. So your cover letter should make me want to read your CV. Tell the employer what you couldn't write in your CV, that's where I should read "I paid my way through university, I am a team leader who led my local church charity". But always keep it brief.

Benignasweety:
How then can one go about it?

Do you know something incredible? This is the age of Information. Anything you want, is on the internet. I swear. Anything. What you need to do, is look...

salsera:
Onegai

Do you know anyone who teaches Spanish.

I think a languages summer school would be great for kids - great idea.

Hi, how far with this idea?

This is for everyone thinking "Now what" and lookinf for work. Tatacherie has surpassed my hopes and encouraged me to keep posting. You have something to do!

https://www.nairaland.com/1899177/why-youre-not-getting-job/1#60541795

This is for everyone thinking "Now what" and lookinf for work. Tatacherie has surpassed my hopes and encouraged me to keep posting. You have something to do!

https://www.nairaland.com/1899177/why-youre-not-getting-job/1#60541795

Culture: an untapped oilfield

Nigeria has 250 languages. They keep saying that. So many different tribes. And the most important thing to do with that diversity... Is to fight with one another. Sad.

Everywhere I go, I see Nigerian parents barely speaking their 250 languages to their kids. I see people answering their English names proudly and saying "African names are local". I see people happily trampling on statues from the past, buildings from our history and stories from our former lives. Because they think it's "unChristian", "antiMuslim".

Honey, who created the world with such diversity? Did He make a mistake?

Have you looked at the international Entertainment scene? Do you pay attention to it? Here, let me share some going-one in it:

1. "Sesame Street", one of the most iconic children's programme in the world, recently requested for a Yoruba speaking child to add to their cast.

2. Nedi Okorafor, PhD, wrote a Afro futuristic Sci fi novel, heavy in culture. The novel has been bought by HBO to be turned into a TV series. One of its producers is GRR Martin. If you're wondering why those names sound familiar, HBO and GRRM are behind a tiny show called "Game of Thrones". PS: Nedi is a girl, like Chimamanda (wink wink girls, you can wriiiitttteee).

3. There are Yoruba linguists making money off programming for Google.

4. More Nigerian producers and directors in the film industry are looking for more nuanced, polished local content. They cannot find anyone to play Nigerian traditional instruments, sing Nigerian traditional songs, to use as soundtracks in movies been screened at international film festivals. Even BBC Africa recently hired for the big 4 languages including Pidgin.

5. Upper middle class elites are looking for children's books geared towards Nigerian stories. Not "Jack and Jill". "Teseem", a Nigerian app for kids, has been launched.

6. There is a growing Travel industry centered around traveling in Nigeria, holiday making in Nigeria. Check out Irinajo and the Dare Project.

So, why are you not using your 250 languages? People are looking for African content desperately and you are looking to speak some fake phonetic. You probably sang in church today and went home without a backward thought. You play guitar but not Goje. You live in a village that has a 200 year old palace but walk by it nonchalantly. You have a phone that takes great pictures but didn't think to make a digital guidebook and ask Tourism travel firms if you could help arrange activities to do as a package for their customers if they come to your area.

You have a goldmine in your tongue but you're dismissing it.

And you're looking for a job.

Digging For Gold, Found Oil

There's a story about some prospectors in the 1800s, in the US, who went digging for gold. This was during the gold rush. They got some land (that no-one wanted) and started mining. They were hoping to hit gold ore and make their fortunes. They dug for 188 days, each day of finding nothing killed their hopes. Money was running out, so they became hungrier as each day went by. Desperation set in, because there were bandits in the lonely area, harassing them. On the 189th day, they decided to give up. They went out that final time, hit the ground and out poured this thick black liquid. It was Crude oil. That ragtag group of prospectors became...

I have no idea what they became. Because I just made up that story. But you were engrossed, right??

It's the moral of the story I want to highlight. Sometimes, we keep hitting our heads wanting jobs or wanting to start in an industry that doesn't want us. We want to run businesses and be called Entrepreneurs" when it's not really a part of us. We ignore our calling.

Is that you?

I'm so glad about this. I know why I mentioned that Ruff n Tumble hint to you. Truly it's God who did this, He used us all to get to the next step! Just glad to be a small, humble part of your greatness.

Now, I would love to see you collaborating with someone. Expand your reach.

I know they are sweater or knitting Machines, plase get one and hire someone to pump out light cardigans. I'm always looking for those stuff, something little girls can wear over dresses to go to Church.

And how about labels? I believe I heard labels can be printed in Lagos, let's find out. So we can clearly distinguish your brand.

ijeoma2728:
I have an eleven old boy that's stays with me. I think it's time for sex education. I don't even know how to start.
Please any tips will be appreciated.

Is it also right to teach kids(4yrs and 2years) the proper name of genitals ,not wee wee and pee pee ooo.

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Yes, they should call it by right name. I'm going through to start saying "vagina" and "penis" very soon.

What is your aim in teaching Sex Ed to the boy, because that's important.

Are you teaching him not to get anyone pregnant or to respect his body (men don't have to sleep around for them to be men).

Do you understand how well his body is changing and what his friends could be saying?

Is there a man he likes or looks up to that you can say "look at him, have you seen how he dresses well, smells nice, he's polite but doesn't expose his body or chase girls, isn't that nice, don't you wanna be like that?".

Are you comfortable discussing wet dreams and saying "it's okay that your body responds like that, what is not okay is how your mind reacts".

Can you say "it's okay to say a girl is pretty, but be polite and don't force her if she doesn't want your attentions and sleeping with her or making her touch your body isn't the best way to prove she likes you, no need for her to show you naked pictures of herself".

Can you say "your friends will tell you it's manly to have a girl touch you or you to touch yourself. If you touch yourself, perhaps you were exploring but don't do it often because you may get used to that feeling and keep doing it until you ignore all the other good things in life" and also joke and say "they used to tell us when we were little that if we touch ourselves, hair will grow on our palms and they will catch us!"

Can you say "pornography is very bad and those people are not really enjoying themselves, they're paid and it is degrading and can mess your life up, you should avoid it". And calmly ask if his friends have shown him any sex videos and not react if they have?

After all this, can you say "Hey let's see what the Bible says about this" and read the Bible chapters, not verses, but chapters together? And don't make it too religious, don't expect a sense of will most people don't have at that age?

Are these enough guidelines for a conversation?

Mindfulness:
There are plenty of people in this world who will replace you like an appliance. You have not met the worst of them yet and I hope you never will.

Lol. You'd be surprised. Assume my world view isn't so peachy, kk?

Mindfulness:
With all due respect to your lengthy post, which I think will be helpful to many women, there are many men (and women) out there who are master manipulators and will pretend to repent and regret and then continue to lie and cheat in a more efficient and effective way, now that they know how the spouse came behind their cheating.

I have seen it all. You would think that only stewpid people fall for their tactics but I have seen beautiful, successful, smart and highly educated women being played until they were left damaged, financially, physically and mentally.

A narcissist will always be a narcissist. And I'm not referring to one (yes, I have plenty of experience with one. Way too much experience and not a year or two of it, but a freaking long time).

My post is for the average "I was bored, I thought the grass was greener outside, I like the excitement and thrill of the attention, I did it to get attention that I needed help" Cheaters. Those guys can still be pulled from the brink, if they pick themselves up.

A narcissist cannot be saved. They will manipulate till the day they die. Years later, you'll keep finding out heartbreaking stuff they did. The only cure for a cheating narcissist is to leave. As soon as possible. Walk and never look back. There are men and women who married, lived and died with narcissistic spouses. And they and their families have the scars to show for it.

I can write a book on Narcissistic Relationships. I didn't see it, I lived it.

babythug:
Truly there's so much to consider before leaving or not leaving due to infidelity!

I mean one opts out and the co- cheat moves right in and goes ahead to enjoy all what the married couple may have slaved for in the early stage of thier marriage!

But interestingly I recently met a couple who seem to have thier act together, the lady even told me that her husband stopped buying fruits from one woman who seemed to be making untoward advances to him! I take that as him being disciplined.

I have also met wives with cheating husbands who claimed the " girlfriends had charmed them" just imagine!!!

The cheat never enjoys. Trust me. TRUST ME!! I'm speaking from knowing every single uncle and relative who most certainly cheated and lived to regret the carnage they wrecked.

Don't be deceived by the public face, never met a cheat whose wife left him and he lived happily ever after. There is even a statistic abroad that men tend to regret divorces more than women. If it looks like the opposite here in Nigeria, that's because our society is conservative and poverty is prevalent and there is a strong lack of accountability. Nigerian men are terrified of marrying and carrying their wives abroad because they immediately become accountable.

Even in Nigeria, divorce favors the poor wife than the rich wife: rich wife has more prestige to lose, who cares if the security guard and his wife divorced but Mrs Lives-In-Ikoyi will lose face in front of her friends and will have to retire from Polite Society for a while depending on how powerful her husband is (none of his friends and their wives want to be seen hanging out with her). So the wife then tries to make a shege amount of money (confers power to her) or remarries an even bigger fish (and moves up the food chain).
Seen it happen a lot.