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#TipTuesday

It's probably getting messy in your house, with all the toys and books for the bebe(s). Try getting a laundry bag and putting them in one corner. How about a basket, Mende underbridge has several basket weavers (insist they treat or paint the cane, because it could attract insects), crochet one up (for awon handy chics) or better yet, get a big bucket or plastic dustbin and some spraypaint(s) and stencil for design (ABRO is the popular brand here, I should do a tutorial on spraypainting). Store toys inside. Very easy.

There really is no need to cover the entire compound in concrete. Why not leave a space for your plants? Use it to create a nice small garden. Most of the garden shapes I see are square or rectangular, when curves and circles would be more flattering. Why not add stone tiles instead of concrete sef? And avoid any hedge plants, stick to smaller plants. Don't cut a tree down, build your garden around it!?

The last pic, is so easy. Build a set of shallow steps, fix irregular shaped stones on the concrete (Nature isn't symmetrical), place soil around it and put plants and then run a hose through the plants to create a false fountain. The metal pots can be welded to a support at the back to give them that elevated look. It's really easy.

eddyline:
I'd really like that. following keenly

Welcome

armyofone:
After my mom got done with her preaching of why i should stay away from boys, I found comfort in Mill and Boons and other books...dreaming of my prince charming. But staying away from awon Boyz got its advantages.

Those books are funny, loved the titles: "The Greek Billionaire's Secret Baby". I kept looking for sexy Nigerian Prince Charmings. Do you know how HARD that was?! I truly don't get how girls fantasize about bedmatics with them. It was verrryyy easy to stay away from guys till I was older.

queenhecate:
I have a tip I want to share.

When your baby has cataarrh, I mean that thick one that blocks the nostrils, do this: be watchful for that time they will sneeze which is often and usually comes in twos or threes, when the sneeze is about to land , quickly use one finger to press down one nostril and see how all the nyamanyama gunk will ooze out of the other nostril leaving her airways clear. My mum taught me this.

I took it a step further and will carry the baby and tickle her nose with a cotton bud and wait for the sneeze. The mucus that will come out ehhhhh. No be small thing and me nko, I find it very satisfying

Try it and see

Scary but sounds like it may work!

http://nefescorner..com.ng/2017/09/confessions-of-slay-mama.html?m=1

How's everyone, happy new month! Lots of blessings and happy upcoming birth stories.

http://nefescorner..com.ng/2017/09/confessions-of-slay-mama.html?m=1

I really want us to discuss Gardening Ideas, how to plan them. All comers welcome

Mindfulness:
Girls are not supposed to have any s.exual desires. And if it happens, it is the devil's work, it must be killed by fire by force.

And after they get married, they must immediately turn into a por.nstar and have masterful knowledge of adventurous positions, both good and degrading. Whilst wearing a red bra and black pant. From Tia Mowry to Blac Chyna. Overnight!

rezzy:
I did implant. I noticed my se x life has moved to zero. I don't feel arouse, nothing, I mean nothing even after 1 hour of pre-intimacy. I'm planning to remove it.
My tummy and bombom is more than extra large even though I hardly eat 3 times a day.
These are the side effects I'm experiencing


It's not painful because the place will be numb, and it is not noticeable on the arm.

My sister had headaches on implant so she removed it and went back to her coil. Some people can't even take BCP, due to abnormal bleeding.

Living Fences

Domack99, this one's for you.

You can make a fence in your compound out of living plants. I wondered if it were possible here and then I went to visit my sis, who has a front fence of Bougainvillea. Most of her neighborhood does, it's an estate so low Fences, right in the middle of Lagos. They paid gardeners to do it for them.

Suggestions for Fences include Bamboo (you'll have to source for it in Lagos, Ogun and Ondo states), Bougainvillea is pretty colorful. Also any plant that can be used as a hedge. Even talk Masquerade trees in a row will look elegant. If you create a screen (like a window screen), any climbing plant will grow and form a wall.

For a professional touch, Omar Gardens will do a fence for you. They're Lagos-based.
http://omargardens.com/blog/2014/09/you-can-grow-your-garden-in-a-corner/#comment-19142

Use your living fence to cover a wall that wasn't screeded or painted right or to add green to any overly concreted house.

More ideas. They sell this Grecian Urn planter, it's plastic, add brown, Grey and white house paint to cement and paint over to look like stone. Very nice and easy effect.

Combine snake plant with spider plant.

Cc hettetatattam, touchmeder, aghiabiam


PS: I have some packs of seeds the lovely Tearoses gave me, will try and see how I can share them.

Decor with a Snake Plant

We all have learnt that a Sanserveria (Snake Plant) is good for cleaning up the air and very hard to kill. But how do you incorporate it into your home decor? Here are some ideas. BTW, no need for seeds, just head to your nearest roadside gardener and get a Snake Plant for about N300 plus (depending on the size and where you live).

1. Try a glass planter: get these at Iponri and Balogun. Fill with pebbles or white granite (you can get from guys selling water purifiers) and sharp sand.

2. Get a regular plastic planter from any roadside gardener for about N500 (made in Naija) to N2000 ( imports) and a can or two of ABRO spraypaints. Spray into any design, mine has lasted for over 2 years in all weather. Just sandpaper the surface lightly before spraying and wipe it clean and dry. Use painter tape to mark a design and spray.

3. Get one of the block makers and sellers to make you a cement planter. It can be costly but it looks classy outside your home, on a verandah. You can combine Snake Plant and Purple Hearts in one container for a colour punch. Then add a fern for a transition colour.

4. Spray paint old tins of milk, knock 3 holes in the bottom for drainage.

Cc Seun, babythug, cococandy, emary, frugalandnatura, domack99, Rabzy etc

oyetpel:
Where have you been, which site can i order flower seeds from?

Hello, please do your research based on where you live and what you want. Compare your conditions to like conditions and order. Or go to Rosety Gardens, Taison or any gardener and start with some plants. Maybe Rosety can help you order the seeds you want. HTHs.

Abeg ifyalways for Head of EFCC! Let's Make Nigeria Great Again!! #MNGA

Locust Bean Tree

Okay, this one shook me because I had seen pics of the flower and I did not correlate it to our common Locust beans we use for seasoning and so much!

Parkia Biglobosa is a tree, Locust Bean Tree to be precise. I believe it grows well up Northern Nigeria so it must like mild temperatures. It takes 5-10 years to start flourishing so this is not a rush job people! Almost every part of this tree is good (from nutritional to medicinal to agricultural). It has real life antibacterial properties, similar to Streptomycin. The Locust Bean Tree's foliage apparently improves soil conditions around it (Peppers grow beautifully underneath it). So love your Locust Bean Tree today.

Knock knock.... Who's here?

J0hnTrevolt:
Hello great mamas. Please what could be the cause of persistent rash on my baby's skin? He has taken more than excessive antibiotics, skineal, tribotan yet the rashes still appear after disappearance of like a week. It's even spreading to his head.
Please Mamas help a concerned dad.
Note we've bn to hospital severally the same antibiotics they keep prescribing.

If you're in Lagos, I can recommend 2 Paediatric dermatologists. It's not a free option (you'll go to meet them at clinic) but since you keep getting prescribed Antiobitics and it's certainly not that, best idea is these guys. And they're consultants.

Mzleemah:
Good afternoon wonderful mamas, i am new here, my baby is 3 days old and we are having issues with latching because my tip is flat, the nurse used syringe to pull it out but it still went back to being flat, anytime ds puts his mouth the milk will be pouring from the two breasts but there is no tip for him to grab he will just be crying, i have been feeding him mainly with the syringe i was given at the hospital but its not enough, please what can I do to bring this tip out.

All sabi mamas dont jump and pass because i am beginning to get frustrated with his cries

Try and take a deep breath.

You can get a manual breastpump and it will help pull out your nipples.

I think you have flat nipples (I had that too). Try and hold onto your nipples and gently do a twisting motion to pull it out. It will go back to being flat but with time it will protrude.

Meanwhile, change your position: baby is not supposed to be grabbing the tip, he's supposed to get the entire Areola, especially the underside of the nipples. So make your fingers in a V (scissors like shape) and put it close to the nipples when feeding and push back or use your thumb and fingers to cup around your nipples (thumb on top, fingers on the bottom) and push back, it will help expose Areola more.

Buy the breastpump as soon as you can. Everything is going to be okay, alright

Fruitfulhome,

For safety of your child, it's best to not have her around you. Constant recurring cough, coughing up blood, not best for a baby. Can she go elsewhere? If not, send her back to grandparents with some cash to cover the tests, explaining that you don't have any more money and this is all you can do for them, they have to source for funds for treatment.

Send her back to her grandparents, pay for the tests. It seems like they knew and deliberately kept that information from you (she had been coughing up blood for at least a year). This is sad but unless you know you can devote time to taking care of her, let her go to people who can stay home with her. Give her gifts to take home, to keep her busy during recuperation.

https://www.cdc.gov/tb/topic/populations/tbinchildren/default.htm

imurboss:
Thanks mama but i'm sorry to ask,what's valve and flange?

The breastpump flange goes over the breast and comes in different sizes like 21", 24" or 28" (that's why sometimes it's painful, because it's an uncomfortable fit). The valve is the yellow bit. Both parts are replaceable. I have some spares so if yours doesn't fit, I can trade you.

Mizbaby:
Greetings mamas, I have a severe addiction to Aden & Anais ooo. I don't know what to do about it, any color or design of the bibs I get am, even the blankets both swaddles and the dream blankets. My husband don complain tire. It seems like that's what all the mums around me use so the bug caught me. Anybody with my dilemma?

I have been cured of my addiction to Aden&Anais (I only have one unopened pack of blankets). And you will reuse those blankets, they're quite durable. They are a bit big for swaddling but you can make it work. It's also pretty good for Naija weather. I'll bet the United Association of Mummies around you are all lugging their Sophie Giraffes in Skip Hop bags, right?

Imurboss, Medela manual breastpump is quite good, you may need to change the valve and don't boil the flange too much. http://nefescorner..com/2017/07/milking-it-for-all-youre-worth.html

tatacherie:
Woohoo! Welcome back Ma'am. Na you I thank pass oo
My ruff and tumble biz has kicked off .I'm still charging 6k for the crochet tutu dress for now
I made these too.eshe pupo for all the ginger

Cc ifyalways, she has dropped price. Tatacherie, shey you know "Tata Cherie" can be translated to "Sweet/Love/Dear baby", so you already have a business name. Make some more in different styles and patterns, organize photoshoot in a park, use balloons and flowers as props. Your logo "Tatacherie" can be in pink cursive font (you can whip up something in MS Word). You make bespoke dresses for girls, especially for special occasions like 1st birthdays or bridal. Can you incorporate Ankara or native fabrics?

Una see how bizness don start?! No copy am o

Whew, finally back, what did I miss how's the thread going? This place is filled with new faces so hello everyone! Try and contribute, also bring up new topics you may wanna share.

Will go through all mentions and try to answer them.
BTW, everyone using Mall for Africa, how reliable are they, what are their rates?

Tatacherie, I'm so proud of what you did with that crochet-tutu dress. It looks like it won't be too hot in our weather. How much do you charge for dresses?

http://nefescorner..com.ng/2017/08/why-i-love-newborn-cotton-prefolds.html?m=1

We are back!

PS: please, work on your marriage.

Work on your marriage.

Work on your marriage.

Work on your marriage.

I log onto NL and it's hot topic waiting for me

Hmmm...

Handling Infidelity is dependent on the 2 people involved: husband and wife.

Cheating is emotional and physical cheating: both hurt a lot and are both extremely damaging.

If the cheating spouse is extremely repentant, open about it and is accepting blame for his/her actions (rather than saying "I'm sorry I cheated but it was your fault that I strayed, due to your blah blah), if the cheating spouse is begging like life is over, give them another chance. But things that led to the cheating must change. On both sides.

Remember, it's going to take time to heal and there will be a lot of pain but never should the innocent spouse be rushed into forgiveness.

If you're married to an unrepentant cheat and you're going to stay, make sure you're safe, healthwise and financially. A lot of wives are staying in bad marriages because they can't support themselves and their kids (even with their income, Nigeria rough o!). If you are leaving, leave with an exit plan: keep money separately, look for people who will support you (if you're gonna fight for custody, you need them) and get a lawyer so you understand Nigerian Marital Laws (it costs about N30, 000 to file for legal separation, for example).

I know women who stayed because they were there when the man was nothing and now he had everything and they didn't want to disinherit their kids. I know a woman who was made to beg, kneel down, her and her kids, because one of them found a video of his dad in bed with another woman and took it to school. The man retreated behind Naija Culture and Cheater's Manipulation and everyone made his wife beg for "disgracing" him deliberately (Lekki wife o, not a village babe). Making the wife beg is a common thing that happens (we're in Nigeria, your male pastor will make you beg sef) so you need strong support because when you tell that erring husband "Fvck that shii", your support should be behind you, baying for his blood. He and his family/supporters will amazingly get sense and become amicable and realize he screwed up.

And there are a lot of cheating wives. And every single one of them is a strong "Christian", sweet, humble, gentle "good" girl. Do NOT be deceived, women can do this better and hide it more efficiently. Many men are sharing their wives and training their non-biological children. Which is why I laugh when I see the description of the ideal Naija girl. Karma is real. Heck, still deciding whether or not to inform one's hubby, though I suspect he was one such idiot that had several babes but was treating the so-called good girl as the only "decent" one and messed the others up without a backward glance. Reeeaalllyyy looking forward to screwing with them two

sassyangel1:
My sister, tiriiii gbosas 4 u n 2 crown insult ontop injury, u need 2 hear the epic insults that most employers will dull out on employees and mk one feel as if they r doing u a favor by employing u. I jst couldn't take the stress any longer b4 I shoot person 4 leg cos of insults. Lemme cut long story short, I'M SUPER INTERESTED. Abeg hint me up abt d offers. I'm anxiously waiting n expecting ur response.

Why not start with "What do I like doing? What can I talk about for 3 hours?". Because truly, there is something out there for everyone, try not to jump into anything because "I need money", I've done so and it backfired, yet when I got into something I was interested in, I got a great paying job, infact I created my own job in the company. For me, I'm good with ideas and concepts. I think I have identified someone on this thread who is good with finances and investments and setting up businesses. So, please what are you good at? What is that thing that people say about you? Money management, creativity, hospitality, fashion, catering, organisation etc.

SomebodysMum, I'll type up some ideas and hopefully share them today (my phone is bad and so is my laptop so communication is very tricky for me). Thanks.

Jaygrl:
Hey mamas,I am thinking of just resigning from work to take care of my LO. I resumed back to work last week

Okay! Let's do this

Please let's talk about your job: is it a career-defining job? My sister left her children (youngest aged 3 years) to go to another country to get a Masters...came back with an M.B.B.S (she's a consultant paediatrician) and is advancing her career. Is that what your job is, an amazing opportunity for growth? Is it a financially-rewarding job: my last job paid me more than N200,000 for 4 days of medium-stress work. I should have kept it, because I never got home later than 6pm max and would probably even get home earlier nowadays. Is that your job, a financial comfort?

Because if your job is neither of those things, you are sacrificing a lot for nothing.

I get it, Nigeria is awful with this economy and Lagos is a nightmare (I'm a city-dweller lagosian and reading you describing jumping bus daily to the island, with a young baby, is horrid. You must be exhausted). But, in Nigeria, we do a lot of things out of foolishness, even me, Because "That's Just How We Do It". So calculate your income and how much you are spending living in Lagos (one of the top 20 most expensive cities in the world to live in, please google this fact) and see if at the end of the day, you have upto N10,000 to save in your personal Savings account. Because, if you still need money monthly from your husband to support your household in Lagos, your job ain't cutting it. So move.

A clever person I follow on Twitter said last week, "a lot of people feel you must be in Lagos to make money, it's a false narrative". He's right, you would be surprised that moving out to Akure/Benin/Kaduna/Nassarawa etc will open up an opportunity you never thought of...and you will blow. I've seen it happen. So move, with a plan.

Damisinto, what is your job? Is there opportunity for growth? Because, you gotta think outside the box. There are jobs you can create for yourself (no, not baking, makeup, small chops, sewing etc. Too many people are doing it, and doing it badly). Do you know, I have seen 3 opportunities outside Lagos, in more affordable cities (one up North, one down South, one can work anywhere, heck even a small town, that can be taken advantage of? One can be turned into an awesome career (so many people will copy you eh). All they need is the right person who has a passion for it, and unfortunately you cannot fake passion for something. But yes, people do make money off their passions, if they plan right and carefully.

So, what do you like doing? What interests you? What can you google obsessively for fun? Let's start from there, let's put heads together, if you want.

Jaygrl:
Hey mamas,I am thinking of just resigning from work to take care of my LO. I resumed back to work last week

Okay! Let's do this

Please let's talk about your job: is it a career-defining job? My sister left her children (youngest aged 3 years) to go to another country to get a Masters...came back with an M.B.B.S (she's a consultant paediatrician) and is advancing her career. Is that what your job is, an amazing opportunity for growth? Is it a financially-rewarding job: my last job paid me more than N200,000 for 4 days of medium-stress work. I should have kept it, because I never got home later than 6pm max and would probably even get home earlier nowadays. Is that your job, a financial comfort?

Because if your job is neither of those things, you are sacrificing a lot for nothing.

I get it, Nigeria is awful with this economy and Lagos is a nightmare (I'm a city-dweller lagosian and reading you describing jumping bus daily to the island, with a young baby, is horrid. You must be exhausted). But, in Nigeria, we do a lot of things out of foolishness, even me, Because "That's Just How We Do It". So calculate your income and how much you are spending living in Lagos (one of the top 20 most expensive cities in the world to live in, please google this fact) and see if at the end of the day, you have upto N10,000 to save in your personal Savings account. Because, if you still need money monthly from your husband to support your household in Lagos, your job ain't cutting it. So move.

A clever person I follow on Twitter said last week, "a lot of people feel you must be in Lagos to make money, it's a false narrative". He's right, you would be surprised that moving out to Akure/Benin/Kaduna/Nassarawa etc will open up an opportunity you never thought of...and you will blow. I've seen it happen. So move, with a plan.

Damisinto, what is your job? Is there opportunity for growth? Because, you gotta think outside the box. There are jobs you can create for yourself (no, not baking, makeup, small chops, sewing etc. Too many people are doing it, and doing it badly). Do you know, I have seen 3 opportunities outside Lagos, in more affordable cities (one up North, one down South, one can work anywhere, heck even a small town, that can be taken advantage of? One can be turned into an awesome career (so many people will copy you eh). All they need is the right person who has a passion for it, and unfortunately you cannot fake passion for something. But yes, people do make money off their passions, if they plan right and carefully.

reniduke:
Please why are people saying no ice? Its called a cold compress. You do not apply the ice directly. You're to wrap it in a wash cloth, test that its not too cold by pressing on your skin before you press down on baby's injection site. It's what i did for mine or else you'll let the injection site heal hard like that. They say Dont rub the injection site because they dont want to introduce infection into the wound. You can also apply (not rub) a little mentholatum to the site. I did mentholatum in the mornings, cold compress in the evenings. This is after i had left it untouched for almost 5 days and it wasnt getting better and even looked red. Do cold compress so you dont wait for it to get complicated. It can happen with any nurse, it could be a vaccine reaction but just incase ask the nurse to be gentle when next you go.

I was about to type the same thing. A cold compress is what is needed. I was told to apply the ice to my palm and gently touch the injection site if and only if I noticed any redness or swelling.

Prettyhurts:
Hubby just left to get food for me.
I stopped using disposable wipes for her at 8months, I wash her bum with water

There is something you can do: try and get her blanket, some few toys or maybe a book for her, even a sticker for her wall. A lot of times, we underestimate how our surroundings affect our recovery and hospitals are such cold places. it will make you and her feel a little better and mentally being strong makes you stronger to beat any infection, it's uplifting. So just some colour and a few of her things to make the hospital room not so cold. if you see hospital rooms abroad, they do it and they encourage people to bring things from home.pele