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Abiagirl777:
I use to enjoy itoo at ist truth be told but its no more funny,'ve had it up to here,a lot of ppl will laugh but its becoming frustrating,when things are overdone it can cause problems.everybody said with time he'll stop or get tired but it gets worse each passing day.
it is my hubby who can't stay one hour without cleaning things,today alone the house has been mobbed thrice and swept four times of course by himself,the most annoying is that every activity has to be halted while work is in progress.i mean this cleaning goes on at all times even during sex.
I'm not a dirty person and never will be,intact my friends always complimented in that area but when you have someone who overdoes it,I get tired.
even my 1 Yr old is not allowed to play too much,I just suggested this afternoon that he buys us flying carpets so we fly around the house.
I have watched videos of ppl with OCD but ain't convinced.
is this OCD or normal over cleanliness because the nagging is getting to me.right now in my house even if you wantvto eat garden egg ,he'd gladly get you a large tray so that even one seed doesn't touch the floor

One of my brothers has OCD. One of my cousins has OCD (and he has 3 kids and all-white carpets all over his house). I think you have to get used to it. What you can do is encourage him, with baby steps, to mention something he notices should be clean and then leave it to you to handle. And you have to be very patient and reward him for everytime he allows himself to lose control of the situation e.g. "Baby I'm so glad you left me to tidy up the kitchen, I even cleaned the fridge!". Positive Reinforcement works a lot. If he wants you to use a tray to eat Garden eggs, use it. Let him win the small battles and start weaning him off his need to control his environment.

pheesayor, doctors in the U.S. give Vitamin D to newborna because of their diet and medical concerns. Here in Nigeria, we don't have such dietary issues (ours are different) and I'm quite sure a lot of doctors would not recommend any multivitamin till after 6 months.

Don't give Agbo. I do not trust our current crop of trado-medical practitioners (and I say that as someone who likes Alternative Medicine). You don't want to do anything to a newborn's fragile constitution.

mumsgirl27:
Thank you so much mama..how is your Lo doing nd also can u recommend any milk for my 13months daughter apart from NAN and peak 123. Thanks

Well, a couple of little birdies told me that after 1 year, toddlers can drink any type of Whole milk. That follow-up milk is a marketing ploy to package whole milk and sell more expensively. Also, DrAda mentioned here that actually Peak123 is loaded with sugar. So, you can give Nido, Dano or whatever as long as it is Whole/Full-cream milk (same thing).

Prettyhurts, thanks for sending out those greetings to our missing-in-action Mums. I guess some of them may have moved on or are more active in the Pregnancy Thread and that is fine, if they feel comfy there. Though I have a feeling sometimes questions are lost and it would be hard to answer pregnancy-related questions.

We welcome all our new and old mothers, please always feel free to drop in, say hello, share your funny stories and tough times. We are drama-free here (due to lack of sleep ) and we pass on our advice with Love (even if it may sound harsh, I'm sure everyone means well). If you don't get a reply immediately, ask again and mention some monikers (questions may get lost sometimes), we aren't ignoring anyone. Remember, we are all rooting for you to succeed and be an awesome Mum and help other new mums. It's a circle

cutiereborn and musmgirl27, at that age, wean verryyyy slowly. We just weaned at 15 months. The hardest feed to stop is at night, especially when baby uses it to fall asleep. So for one week, just stop feeding her when she wakes up at night. Baby will cry and all you can do is hand her over to hubby and leave the room until she sleeps back. Also when she wakes at night, give her water to drink. Then once that has been established after a week, stop feeding her to sleep. She will really cry, but know that in 2-3 weeks, she will be fully weaned. The slower you go, the less engorged you feel in your breast. The good thing is, once you wean, baby starts sleeping through the night.

cutiereborn:
Good morning lovely Mothers!
Please help me celebrate and bless God.
My princess, Olivia is One today.
Sweetheart, you will live long on earth to fulfill God's purpose for your life, Amen.
Happy Birthday!!!

Happy birthday Olivia! Have a wonderful day and may you continue to bloom and grow wonderfully.

ozycy:
How many times does she poo in a day? If you know her routine, you can target and put her so as to avoid washing diaper with poo. You can also put her from time to time to piss especially after drinking plenty water.

She doesn't poo every day which is why a routine is a bit difficult. But I'll do the rest, thanks.

Hullo, Zionx. How are you and your LO?

Guys, how was your day? I went to Balogun, Oke Arin, Dosunmu, Tom Jones, Oyingbo and Iddo all in one day. All by myself! So proud of me! I'm a grown-up now

We have started potty-training. I know to put her on the potty in the morning but when else during the day do I put her on the potty?

mompurity2:
Hello mamas. Been a while I posted here. Welcome to the new mamas.

MY LOS of 13weeks plus no longer sleep until about 11.:30pm and then sleep without waking up to feed till 5am or so.
Should I wake them to feed at night or just allow them to sleep till 5am?

I dunno, I'm of 2 minds: my sanity-loving mind asks why on earth you would want to wake sleeping babies when you should be doing your best to get a little more sleep and be grateful they're even sleeping through the night. My Mother mind wonders if they got enough to eat during the day and if they didn't, maybe you should wake them up.

I do know a lot of people say Babies and Children will never starve themselves. If you are stuffing them with milk at 11pm, I think it's fine. Go get some sleep, perhaps?

Gerrard59:
Thanks for the feedback.

I have not undergone any recent scan. Just two which were last year and were described in the mail.

Please check your mail. Nothing too serious but you may need some follow-up.

Dyt:
I realised I don't have a talent
So I can do anything and everything
But in all honesty
I AM SICK AND TIRED OF NAIJA

deep sigh


Yeah
You can reach me with that

I hate hearing stuff like this. Because this is how i feel and it hurts when I acknowledge it. Nigeria feels like punishment.

Dyt:
Then give It a shot

Maybe cos my son has too many friends sha
He will go bring everyone of them upstairs and share them his biscuits and caprisone

I discovered it's fun when you learn in group
So it started from there
The kids won't even let me rest
They will rush to me
Idaya my homework
They are spoilt
They call me what my son calls me
But I am actually not moved cos when it comes to being serious
They know it's not playtime no more

I get this excitement going home to them
I have these websites where I print out free samples of worksheets, craftsheets and flashcards

please what website is that?

Dyt:
I do strictly Dubai visas
Yes I know it's lucrative
I have a full time job cs/marketing executive
I also teach kids on weekends and after work

Maybe I have just developed so much love to impact knowledge on kids
But ofcus with best pay

We talking of 250k upwards

mehnnnn now I feel lazy. Why am I not teaching kids on weekends? I'd be great at it.

There's a difference between dating a guy you're not sure of and dating a guy you are wondering what you're doing there. I have been on dates where I wondered what made my legs come to this place and i have been on dates where I was hoping the guy would like me but inside me I was baffled why I was setting my standards so low.

See, if you think this longings you have and loneliness you feel are bad, try getting married to someone whom in a year's time you think to yourself "maybe I should have waited a bit longer". That is the truth of so many marriages, each spouse thinking "maybe, just maybe if I had stayed a bit longer, the next guy/girl was The One". So don't rush. The only people who can live a happy life in a loveless marriage are those whom are able to effectively distance themselves from any sort of emotion: happiness doesn't carry them away and neither does Sorrow. They are pragmatic to the core. That's less than 15% of the world's population. You're not one of them, because this is getting to you. You get?

If the pressure gets to you, get off social media. Why bombard yourself with a million pics of your classmates posting pictures of smiling babies and happy husbands and blissful peace? You're not jealous, just being sensible: no need to punish yourself looking at cake when you're dieting. You get?

What are your interests? Go find them. It is better to find someone who likes you the way he met you. So if you like going out, it's better to meet a guy in a club than meet him in church and pretend to be what he wants for a ring and dying inwardly. Go pursue your interests.

When you meet a guy, take a look at your list. Find the one thing that you really need, not what you desperately want. The first thing in my list was a Strong Sense of Humour and Wit. But every single witty guy i met didn't want me. Guys are weird, they want girls they can impress, not girls that can match up to their skills. That Intelligence factor you crave, well those guys will friendzone you so quickly for that chick who thinks a Sidney Sheldon novel is deep intellectual thinking and puts up motivational pictures which she barely understands. That's why every wise woman will tell you to "laugh at his jokes and don't crack yours ". You get?

Live and love your life. Don't wait around for Prince Charming, go out there, attend the ball like Cinderella did. He may be waiting there. Enjoy this minute because you are never getting it back. You get?

You're gonna be fine. Fist bump!

Doubledouble:
Hello mamas!
I need opinions and advise. My kids have wasted all the cereal I bought. Not even half of Gerber cereal did they eat...after buying so much! I was of the school of thought that it's whatever you teach/introduce to them they will take after all, what do they know?? So I bought plenty but they've shown me they are the ones in control not me!

With my tail in between my legs, I listened to my sis and tried pap- after all my mouth on never giving babies pap...smh. Anyways, they take pap like PROS. My 1st problem is the groundnut powder I mix the pap with. If there's a tiny seed of groundnut my girl will gag n throw up. I now decided to blend with a lil water into paste n refrigerate. Is this okay?? How long can it keep?? Refrigerator is on 90% of the time. Is there any other way to incorporate the groundnut with the pap grains??

The other thing is my boy- still not eating much solids. The first few mins he will open his mouth and eat but loses interest after 4-5 tiny filled spoons. He will shut the mouth like those soldiers guarding Aso Rock. Thing is if you smear on his lips or by mistake get the food into his mouth, he will lick n eat ooo, but to open the mouth of his free will, that is like world war 3. How do I get him to eat better?? Feeding time with him does my head in. His food is still mainly formula, he weaned himself from breast milk at 8months. His weight is fantastic and his paediatrician, thinks am worrying over nothing...but she's not the one buying formulas...

Pls I need help before I run away...

When I had Baby E, I switched from Enfamil to Gerber formula. She drank it readily so I bought like 6 and packed it in my box and flew more down. At 5 months, I put a bottle in her mouth and she gave me a look that translated to "What is this sh*#?!". Na so the security's child enjoyed formula of N10,000 per can (my house in Heaven must be furnished with antique wood and silver for that blessing I passed on ).
Feeding for them is always like that. We have chased her around the living room, begged, sang, ended up try in 3 different meals at mealtime. The more you stress, the harder the baby fights you. So even if it hard, DON'T STRESS IT! Always have his backup meal at hand. Right now, Baby E will throw rice out of her mouth if you give her with a spoon, then calmly sit on the carpet and feed herself every grain. As long it enters her mouth, I don't care how it entered! As for buying of formula, just do like my mum: every time we buy from her, she collects the payment 3 times over (something of N1000 can be paid for 3 times, paying N3000). That is her "retirement find fund from childhood".

I don't know about the groundnut paste, I'd be scared but can you freeze it?

barak4real:
Good evening mama...please can my dd of 2 wks has appolo...and if yes what is the cure .... my mil visited us yesterday and she has apollo but when my dd woke up this morning i saw that there is mucus in her left eyes but this evening after shw woke up her left side was reddish .....


Note:. My Mil left today to avoid my dd from contacting it
Cc all mamas

I think you can check at the hospital with your doctor. 2 weeks old baby is too fragile for us to be telling you to go and buy anything to apply.

Gerrard59:
Good day,

I met with my ophthalmologist who said my issue is astimagatism. However, he recommended I reduce my always on the screen addiction.

Please, what has been your doctors comments? I know that being professionals, they're always busy. Which is why I waited for a while.

Thanks.

The only thing one said was asked if you had done a scan recently to make sure there's no swelling. But I'll check back again for an answer.

MizOmalicha:
Pls mama's help me, i don't know what is wrong with my 2month old baby's eye! Started dis morning, he'll jst shut d eye n tears may start rolling dwn wen I try 2 open it n sometimes he'll cry n even shut it more.. pls what could b wrong n what do I do
Thnks alot

Clearly there is something affecting it. We can't see it and we don't know if it's itching or swollen. The best decision you can make is to take him to the hospital first thing tomorrow. Leave him in peace for tonight, avoid letting soap or anything touch it during his bath tomorrow and be on your way to the hospital as soon as possible.

#Troubletime

If your husband has ever attempted to milk you during breastfeeding like a cow (because he was curious how "it worked ) and you threatened "if you try that again, I will leave you!", then remembered you're a Stay-At-Home-Mum and you want to ask him for money that same day, you're on a looonnnnggg thing

Seun:
Only people who have celiac disease should be worried about gluten. Gluten is also present in bread and all pastries so if you're avoiding gluten...

Gluten-free and Paleo diets are actually causing problems in the U.S. In their fear of Celiac disease, they've caused more complications. It's best to do everything in moderation

Optimum20:
Sometime ago Lagos state divested its interest in Econet as it was then called. Lagos was suffering from the withholding of its funds by Obj. Lagos used the money to do some stuff and some went ...... Delta state did the same divestment and Ibori did what he knows to do best.
Nigeria has 35,000 km of federally constructed roads. As at today only about 6,000 are good, 11,000 passable and the rest in deplorable conditions. Many can be death traps based on our driving culture.

Water irrigation in Nigeria is less than 8% of arable land. Successive lip service to irrigation keeps the farming at subsistence levels. Crop growing is still seasonal.

The current Federal education infrastructure gap is horrific. Ironically there are funds trapped in the UBE system not accessed by states.
That we lack primary health care is to state the obvious. After Professor Olikoye Ransome Kuti under the IBB regime, no serious attention has been paid to primary health care.

One good thing the GEJ administration did was to improve aviation safe through the deployment of Tracon. The Airports though are beyond the second century. Muritala Mohammed is a blight on the face of Lagos.

When Fashola planted flowers in Lagos, Lagosians complained loudly. One day I was in the company of Rohr the Country head of WB then and he said that beautification of Lagos improved its ranking on the doing business index.

The point, you need money to make money. You want to diversify revenue, you need cash to do it.
There are challenges here. Cash alone will not do it. But go see business plans that litter dustbins because the ideas could not get seed funding.

well said. But will it work for a country, not just a state?

repogirl:
But we have to reason that selling off might actually be what we need at this point. The government obviously can't manage the assets well, so why not sell it to people that will?

Just as how Obasanjo did the telecoms industry which has now put a phone in everyone's hand when NITEL was fucking up.

What's the use of holding on to something which is being improperly managed and not yielding as much returns as it should?

It it is who gets to buy that is the issue. Certain assets should be sold to outside sources e.g. NLNG. Whatever FG does, they should NOT sell that to a Nigerian owned company. Because the buyer will use it to manipulate other companies into bankruptcy by withholding the one thing needed for them to power their production plants: Gas. Example: we are all tomato sellers at different levels. I buy the only tomato-blending machine in the market. Every time you, my competition, wants to blend tomatoes for your customers, I tell you the machine is not working or increase the price. Meanwhile, I send my boys to tell your customers that not only will I sell them tomatoes, I blend for free. Won't they stop buying from you? That means your business is gone and you're out of a job. Now, imagine that happening on a much larger scale. Imagine I am Danjuma or Dangote or one of the other big players who guys at the bottom don't hear about. Imagine if you are any other company running a business in competition with them. Think of all the job losses when they buy up assets other companies need. Sure, we can call it Capitalism and hail them, but when a small group of people own every viable business in the country, their risk is larger. If anything happens to those small group, the whole country suffers. If that group decides a weak Naira is better for their business, it is you and your family that will struggle to buy fresh tomatoes to eat and will consume unhealthy Tinned Tomatoes, not them. America in the 1930s had Rockefeller and a depression, Russia had Oligarchs and is now struggling. Why would we be different?

Nigeria's problems aren't about laws, it's about the the fact that the person making the law will be hand-in-pocket with the person planning on breaking the law. Even a level 7 civil servant is stealing public funds. We need a national re-orientation.

Buhari did one thing, which people don't know: he went to China to convince them to stop buying our illegal crude oil. That's why militants and their backers are pissed (do you know how much money Nigeria was losing by it? Imagine a Naval officer telling me how much he pays his different crews to siphon off oil). So that that revenue will come back into our coffers. If you think I'm lying, go and check the actual locations of some of those pipelines bombed. They are underwater. I know militants, they don't have that skill. So who does? The same people in Govt making noise.

Reflect on that: who are the people who benefit from an impoverished country desperate to sell off assets?

Sale of asset should be carefully scrutinised. Certain conglomerates should not be allowed to buy certain assets. If we are serious, Government would have reduced their numbers at the highest level down, told states to go and find their own money to fund themselves and poured every single penny of what we borrowed into massive infrastructural spending. The Ministers we should be seeing working tirelessly should be Fashola and Amaechi, followed by Agriculture and Minister of science and Technology should be investing money in Universities and Technical colleges processing our raw goods, not supplying viewing centres for watching an eclipse.

We are not ready and we are not serious. So the sale of these assets will not do any much good.

comtem2011, happy birthday to your LO. May he continue to grow from strength to strength.

Christybabe, enjoy the increased libido and be happy for it because a lot of women had the opposite. Lucky you!

eolowu1, a lot of ladies use the breast pump to pull out their nipples but i was told it could damage nipple tissue. There were other methods but I can't remember. I'll look it up.

Doubledouble:
My bad...apologies. Checked it out after reading Onegai's response. It is wrong. I was told it was and it truly worked me. I ebfd my twins for 6 months. Heard about it from my lactation consultant. Thing is you have to drink about 750ml (ewedu) at a go- not easy. The fennel n basil oil worked for me too. First time I used it and went to the mall, I thought my boobies was going to burst!

Babe, if Ewedu works that well and is a fraction of the price of Fenugreek and readily available, you're the smart one for getting that info and sharing with us. Thanks.
So it seems Ewedu is good for producing breast milk.

Did you just blend the Ewedu leaves and drink neat? How many times per day did you do this and for how long? Were there any side effects?

OP, it seems a bit weird that you could borrow N100 for a Recharge card but allowed your children eat oranges. Are you in the village, because food is cheaper there and at least you could have asked a neighbour to feed the children and watch them as you work (that is reasonable and just buy one yam or something as "thank-you" for the neighbour afterwards). I mean, I just don't know but you're losing credibility. It looks like parts of your story is true but you're twisting other parts. All the best to you.

Adeime:
Good morning mamas as regards the breast milk flow issue i remembered in the pregnancy thread when someone mentioned fenugreek as one of the solutions to boost the flow. However when I Google it is found out online that local name for fenugreek is ewedu......please can our yoruba mamas or any other Maka help verify this claim if it's true or otherwise. Tnx

Technically, Fenugreek is not Ewedu. They look alike but they are not the same and Fenugreek doesn't grow naturally in Nigeria unless you plant it here so it is not our local plant. Fenugreek is a bitter type of leaf (even the powder has a taste) and Ewedu isn't. I could go into this more but I confirmed it by their classification and all my Indian "waka" I used to do in the past. Fenugreek is good for milk production though.

phunmykay:
Happy Sunday to all Sabi mamas and papas,my lo is using his fingers to inch his gums and I was told to use teething powder,pls how safe is it and is it advisable to use,he will be 5months next week

No, teething powders are not recommended or considered safe. If you look up Teething Powders with the Search function, you'll be able to read plenty of discussions about it. HTH.

dp but will modify

blank:
You can go to Oando filling station by 4th roundabout. There is one book store there. Really nice and they have other stuff as well. The prices are also reasonable. They have some kid's things on sale. Some books were 450, 550 and all were new.

that's true, I forgot that place. I keep saying I'll go there o. Thanks.

Esama is trying to consolidate power since Tinubu seems to be losing his. I wonder what Oba feels. Oh well, I hope the bride knows how to navigate this, all the best to her.