Oga Kuwena
I wonder what you're apologizing for?
For being yourself?

Is it that you realised 'your fumble'?
If that is a fumble

My guy, just be yourself!
But I wonder the sudden change from a guy who often said that he would not marry because he wants to make money?
A guy who once posted that he doesn't feel any attraction to a woman but wanted to make money.
A guy who wanted to form a 'Catparian' secret cult of say, 100 people
A guy who wants to develope himself to the utmost he can, psychologically, spiritually, physiologically, etc, without the interference of a woman or family members?

A guy who posted such things above and many more .  .  .  .  .  and with such impunity   .  .  .
I wonder what you're apologising for?
I am at a loss! I need answers!!!!!!

Why the sudden sobering

And since I can't get one immediately from you neither am I guaranteed to get the 'truth' from you since you've no been consistent on many issues,
I am forced to take a perspective.

Jisi once lamented on this thread that there are two or more people living inside you!
I ignored it then, though I observed that she was not the first poster to make such a comment about your different 'personalities'.

I now agree.
I think that there are different people living in that one body.
Oops!

How else would one applaud God (so loudly) in one minute and the next, go into apostasy?
How else would one reject ones's family and refuse all entreties to get them back, only to come sobbing on the same thread that he is missing them?
I remember that on Princess Ugonna's case, I practically 'begged' you on Adeola Odeku not to dump her
As though I were her brother
And yet you went ahead.

I guess a lot of people would be wondering why I get so angry with you.
It's because I've been close to you beyond this thread.
And all these issues have been pre-discussed before now.

Yet you disappointed me
Like you disappointed everyone around you in your rage against NLNG.
And rage against life itself.

Anything you wan do, do!
You still have time.


But if I were Princess Ugonna, I won't take you back.
Because you dumped her so cheaply (like a rag)
And now that it is convenient for you, you are reaching out to her.
So selfish
And so heartless!

But I am not Princess Ugonna
So you may try your luck!

Remember that you lose 100% of the shots you don't take.
So I am glad that you're taking the shot!

Who knows? Love is blind.
If it was love she felt.
And if she has not woken up from it yet.


And come back to entertain us.
Never fail to understand that you're the most entertaining poster on this thread.
And that is the reason people tune in their systems to see what other 'madness' you may spew out.

I guess after you comes Opoks!
And that is why they look forward to our fights!
Even though most pretend not to be entertained
The few 'real' ones admit so.

But while at it, do yourself some good.
Do the right things for yourself, life and family!

Cheers!

It shows the state of mind of the two love birds
Both are immature esp the girl.
So I understand. (She could also be the jealous type fretting that other gals enjoyed her Bobo)
She does not even have forgiving-spirit and yet calls herself christian.

They should both put the r/lshp on hold (prob. indefinitely) until both are more mature.

Keep your mouth to yourself next time.

Nice preview!
So what will the title of the Novel/ movie be?

Speak for yourself poster!

Nice one!
Makes a good lecture as well as a good sermon.
Kindly convert these to action as talk is cheap!

Don't mind the first response.
Some of us in Naija earn very good pay (as good as those in the USA).
Don't resign from your US job yet.
Only take a vacation and come check out the offer in Naija.
It could be better than what you expected.

Nigerians like top jobs!
Create jobs for your country people; for where?

@poster
You're even cheap to have continued with that girl.
Please don't tell me that you're just catching fun.
There are better ways and better girls to catch fun with.

@Kuwena
You're simply a drama!

It seems you're sobering from your 'craze'.
From one high mountain to a low valley and then what next   .  .  ._{(another high mountain? )}

Thank God for that dream but I wonder whether the Ugonna (or whoever) you saw in the dream had said anything different from all I've said to you on the thread, off the thread, on the phone, when we hung out in V/I Lagos and subsequently .  .  .?

Or is it that your thick head chooses to listen 'only when it is convenient for you'?

Am I supposed to pop champagne because you've chosen to think wisely, admit where you've got it wrong all along and/or felt a need to embrace your family back?

Well, I'm just not moved yet.

At least your conscience is still working.

It wasn't Ugonna that you encountered in that dream of yours because as far as I know 'your' Ugonna does not walk in dreams!
It was another way that God wanted to appeal to your soul (however deaf it had been).
Because God works in mysterious ways!

Your story though (particuarly your 'painting' of Ugonna) is fit for a story book, no upgrade it to a romantic novel (Super Story perhaps ).
Oh boy! You can write?!

But more holes my guy!  .  .  .  more holes my guy!
Your last paragraphs simply implies that your coming back to Nigeria, seeking out your brothers, helping Chima to graduate and/or get a job in future and what's more?  .   .   .  being a christian again? All depends on whether or not Ugonna says 'yes' to your proposal?


Oh boy! Women get power o!


So what if she says 'No'?
You may not come back to Nigeria again, not seek to help your brothers and/or not become a christian again?

Oh boy! You never seem to amaze me.

You've not changed from putting 'what you may gain' before 'doing what is right'
I ask you whether that is 'being selfish' or not? You answer.


Let the Ugonna say 'No' abeg 'let us see whether the Heavens will break!'

As far as I know GOD, HE probably has several ways to achieve one thing.
If you refuse to reach out to your brothers (which is the one that concerns me), Heavens will reach out to them in some other ways and you will live the rest of your life regretting shuning them.

After all, who helped you all the while?
Yourself or Heavens?!


Please adopt more humble ways.
Do 'the right thing' because it is 'the right thing' and not because you want to gain back Ugonna.

@Pak
Still on stocks,
Always try and buy 'controlling shares'.

The term might sound ridiculous 'cause in the real sense, buying controlling shares implies that you either have lots of money, means or both.
But for the purpose of our stage in life. simply take it to imply buying as much as you can afford at any point in time.

The idea is that Rich men often acquire contolling shares in most of their acquisitions.

You don't have to be a rich man to start the practice. Just inculcate the culture and by the time you have either the means, money or both, the culture would have been imbibed.

Also know that you don't have to spread out your stocks.
Rather concentrate your investments on the few stocks that you can die for.
And watch them!

Grace!

From my own lay man's perspective, simply buy the stocks that you are not willing to sell in say . . . . . 100 years!
This sounds ridiculous 'cause definitely, one day 'you will sell'.
Simply buy from the perspective 'to keep' and not 'to sell'.

That way, you will definitely make long term profits 'whenever you sell'.
And always buy the company(ies) you love or have confidene in.
Period.

Ooops!
I didn't know I was starting a new page

And now, 'The Don 1' of stocks don respond.

Make we see wetin im talk talk

I hate to say it but I think I'm growing old on this thread
Im searching for better ways to entertain myself.
Or better things to do.

I sign out!
_{I can see gray hairs on my moustache}

I am so glad for Kuwena

Sometime on this thread (on page 25 precisely), I first mentioned the idea of everyone who was waiting for NLNG to have a ready PLAN B.
Just in case they fail to grab the Golden Fleece; NLNG.

The idea was so alien to the flow of the thread and the expectations of the 'regulars' at the time that I immediately generated hate on the thread.
Coupled with the 'no respect' manner in which I presented it and the intimidating presence of the likes of Kuwena & Adrianic et al.
Anyone who didn't agree with those two came under swords. I didn't care (I was ready for swords)
And the fact that being my first post, I would have shown more respect to the 'regulars' and their feelings towards NLNG.
I did not.

Well, that was the beginning of the definition of Opokonwa

That singular post generated so much hate that it began the first 'Royal Rumble' between Opoks! & Adrianic.
Ironically, that was when the thread generated much more readership.

Peeps like Kuwena stayed off from me by a long pole.
And when he eventually reacted to that post, it was in indirect terms, praising his 'friend' Jbyno, perhaps in comparism to troublesome Opoks!
I'm sure he didn't want trouble.
Because then he was carving an image of someone who was so spiritually positive and emotionally in control of himself and events around him

I was sure trouble. But I was making sense.
I often make sense with my troubles. You just have to look beyond the trouble, ignore my harsh words and see the wisdom in them
If you can

Today, almost one year later (precisely 10 months later), Kuwena is living his PLAN B.

Mmmmh! And his PLAN B seem to be sweeter than his original PLAN A (which was NLNG)

Kuwena, I am proud of you.
I wish that the rest of your life gets reconstructed for good.
My happiest moment would be when you will take your brothers back!
Live your dreams man!


Today, we don't have all the 'regulars' that we had back then.
A whole new crop of names rule the thread.
Plenty of the old squad have moved on, perhaps in search of a 'more meaningful life'.
Which is expected.

The likes of Stannessi, Niyoo, Alfaprime and inconsistent Jisi have ensured that we don't miss anybody.
Kuwena has been as consistent as the thread itself; kudos champion!
Kenosky (crazy Kenosky!) held the thread when nobody would, with his pal Skeelo! Thanks!

Pak has surprised everyone (including me) with his ever presence like the Rock of Gibraltar.
Aniffy is no less a surprise too.

And Opoks!? I wish I know what to say.


Furthermore, I wonder what the next one year will be like?

Will the thread survive? Extinguish?
Or who will be the next generation posters?

And what will life be like to everyone (on and off thread)
I always like to ponder on the future

My sincere wish is that all the other old names (like Adrianic) will once again join us!
And that we all make progress in this life and beyond!!

Regards all

This thread is not locked.

What was the poster complaining in another thread?

aniffy4eva:

Its more difficult for the sistas because most of them won't come to you, even if they like you.

Na lie e!
Who tell you?

It depends on your game! They don come tire!
Make I no sound like hunk but you do not need to spend time around females for them to sense your eligibilty or ability to spin 'game'.
You only need to be within eye-sight. And interract normally; no extra drama.
Every other thing is body language

My guy, come for lessons!

tommyex:

Opoks good to see you welcome me back even though with a yab,its allowed.

I dey vex for the other people wey don forget me oo,

My guy no vex! you know say na 'yabbis' be my middle name

aniffy4eva:


Its funny that there's no married person here i was actually hoping for some tips.

Even the married ones dey fear!
Whether them they fear say they lost their 'youth' too soon
Or they probably believe that this is a 'youth' thread.

Don't worry, we're all prob in our late twenties, heading towards our 30th Birth dates in a couple of year(s) time.
Not too late for Nigerian standards
But very soon (hopefully ), we may soon start hearing wedding bells And I.Vs

@Kuwena
I like your 'new spirit'.
And I'm glad that America can bring out 'this best' from you.
Getting to where you've always wanted to be seemingly catapults you to greatness.
It's not an American thing, it's a mind thing; and I'm glad for you
Keep it up!

And I feel that your new found 'positivity' will rub off on this thread.
Just one line of caution; if you want it to last, just don't paint Nigeria or Nigerians in black again.
We have our own pride.


Jisi
I'm also not 'shy'
Every other trait on that maple tree is what I've found (or observed) in me.
Just scrap out the 'shy and reserved' part.
I used to be. Now I'm crazy!
Thank you.


@pak
I pulled out from the stock market long time ago.
I won't be affected by either its rise or fall.


@aniffy
I knew it was 'exactly from your viewpoint'
Never mind that I deliberately ignored that part.

From my own viewpoint, I don't see what you see.
I see a lot of 'pretenses of righteousness' from supposedly christian sisters.
Many of them act as though they are 'angelic' in righteousness and do not have dirt, 'imaginations' or tendencies in their minds.
As though 'hallelluyah' litters every thought or imagination of theirs.

But as a Guy man, I see beyond the 'veil'.
I actually see more pretenses within the church walls than outside of it.

I don't mean to say that 'outside girls' are better. They simply show you their real selves faster.
Church girls? You have to wear binoculars (spiritually, mentally and social-wise) to decode who is faking and who is not.

I don't becloud my sense of judement by the simple reason that we are all in church (or are all 'christians').


Now to the other points you made there:

aniffy4eva:


1) xtian bruvas ain't got game! (i.e. uninteresting) . . . I hear that all the time

I would both agree and disagree with you.
xtian brothers as you described them above are the same as their xtian sisters
Both are products of the same xtian indoctrinations that make both of them act 'holier than thou'!

The result is that the sistas desire more 'game' 'cause they are afterall human and therefore sensual.
But the brothers would not 'deliver' because the indoctrination (or whatever ) takes away the fun, the natural spontaneity, unpredictability and naughtiness that comes naturally from being a man and from staking up game for a girl!

Also you have to differentiate between the 'xtian' and the 'person'. Unfortunately, most people do not.

Your xtian sistas did not meet Opoks! And unfortunately, I've been taken by a sharp xtian sista who saw game in me

aniffy4eva:

2) they are too religious. . . . more like, "having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof"

It's probably because they pretend just like the xtian sistas they meet in church.
The question then is; 'who bells the cat'?
Who will step up and become more 'real'?
Give me an answer if you have one.

aniffy4eva:

3) Lack spiritual discernment, wisdom etc. . . the list is endless. . . .

I would also both agree and disagree with you here.

It occurs in both gender, so, do not join a particular gender to point fingers at the other.

Do all those sistas who complain these things to you have equivalent spiritual discernment, wisdom, etc?
Even, do half of the so-called sistas who complain to you have such wisdom and discernment?
If they did, then they should have enough wisdom and/or discernment to attract their type of men.
And quit complaining.


As for rating anyone 'good' or not, everyone claims to be 'born-again' in the churches today (and outside of it).
In fact, it has become a fad.
How do you then know a 'good' person?
I live that to God.

I just go ahead to attract to my person, someone, anyone who shares my values.
I do not necessarily seek out 'good' sistas or 'good' brothers because that term is 'very relative'.
Humanbeings can disappoint
We change like the weather.

aniffy4eva:

Well, from my viewpoint, there are far MORE [/b]good females than good guys. I meet them all the time.

Oga aniffy, what is your idea of 'good'.
I think it's rather unfair to say that there are more 'good' females than guys.
You don dey work for National Population Commission?
Even at that, how do you rate '[b]good'?


Kuwena
Glad to see you back

Forget that thing! I told you that this thread is your third babe (only surpased in order of importance by your Bank A/c and the USA).
So moi knew you will be back as fast as you left it

That your 'World of Enemies', I hope Opoks! no go dey there sha! Just kidding

Congrats! Finally landed your ass in America!
E yaa! What bliss! Nothing like a dream come true!

You were swindled of N400k? So sad
You see what I went through when I was swindled about N600k.
When I posted it, I'm sure you probabaly felt I was stupid & reckless to have lost that amount of money.
Now you know better.
Business is win or lose. Before you set out to win, you must be prepared to lose.
And the loss can come from the least expected factors.
Glad that you're learning from experience.

Glad to see that you're still a very good story teller.


niyoo
Exactly! Not being 'married' but being 'happily married' is what is important.
Just make sure you marry 'your best friend'. That's all.


Jisi
Too many riddles all over the place.
I may fall into your maple date but damn! I didn't see any 'reserved' in my character.


tommyex
Glad to see another 'Noah' drop back into the thread.
It's beginning to feel like 'home' here.


@silent readers
Make una just keep reading.
Una get any other role?

Go take your grievances to your girl not in an open forum.

Am I a soothesayer?
What can I possibly do for your friend?

Father, please bless me with a heart and mind to help the needy
Bless me with a heart to create time to visit them and care for them
Bless me with a mind and heart not to focus solely selfishly and narrowly on my immediate family
Bless me with the money and other resources to channel largely to the cause of the needy
Bless me with a life-partner who feels the same way I do and even drive my cause for the needy
Bless me with like-minded people who may unite to genuinely fund and help the plight of the needy
Bless me with the organisational acumen to help-out needy people
Bless Radiant for starting this thread!

Finally, may I never have rest until I put smile on the faces of the needy
So Help me God!

@poster
You know the answer and you're asking for advice
Why are people so mugu?

Biafran thank you.
I appreciate constructive criticism b/c that is the only way I can check my excesses.

It is obvious that I've become vulgar; I apologise.
At times, I hit the vulgar mile for lack of better words to buttress my point.
But I apologise to anyone who was offended by my vulgarity.

Arrogant? That one I cannot determine.
_{seriously examining myself to see if I was arrogant . . .}

It's just that you cannot tell the difference between super-confidence and arrogance.
But does anyone find me arrogant? Again I apologise.

Biafran welcome to the club, thread, whatever.
I thank God for finally fishing out another 'silent one'.

I would urge you to try and contribute more positively and more frequently.

Kuwena won't always be here.
I won't always be here either.
So if everyone waits for either Kuwena, me or any of the 'regulars' to turn on the show.
Then very soon, there will be no show.

Kuwena will even be proud, when and if he comes back that the seed he planted has become a tree.
And I will be glad to welcome him back.

Good morning everyone!

niyoo
Read that Kuwena's post about white men pursuing him but didn't comment 'cause I had trash to trash out with him.
But frankly, I share the same impression you did.
White men pursuing him in a dream to catch him and transport him to their land is simply his own version of Kunta Kinte!
Reels of slavery to me. Call it modern slavery if you like.

Talking about marriage, na so them dey marry?
Anyway given my state of mind, I for don tidy am but situation and forces around me are asking me to chill.
In other words, I think I've found the person but I've got to appease some gods!


@Pak, Mukina2 & Stannesi
Speaking of football, Lagos no fit give us light, no be every night I go dey burn generator.
Besides I'm not a die-hard fan. I've got so many other things doing at that time.
I would rather watch the Final.


Stannesi
Experience is still the best teacher
Giving the test before the lesson makes you never forget the lesson.
Yes, experience is often painful and ruthless in delivering its lesson but that way, you never forget.

Speaking of that picture you posted, I would say that you have a knack for posting gory pictures.
Kenosky called them 'Horror movies'.
The last one was quite  disgusting but the message was exhilirating!
I'm surprised that it was only Pak that commented on that post.

Not even our so-called 'silent audience' would so much as comment.
They are all waiting for Kuwena to come and entertain them, perhaps with Opoks! and the rest of us.

Yet, when a fight erupts, everyone suddenly finds a voice, to judge (and/or take sides).

And when I call them 'pretenders', my words are too harsh.
'Pretenders' is a soft word. I think we have too many hypocrites hovering over this thread.
I can see them flying!

If I may ask; are you a 'Picture Journalist'?

izi-n-bizi:

Where is Kuwena? :

Who has seen our kuwena? Kuwena's exit note really made me laff, seems I seen a similar "Kuwena's resignation letter" couple of months ago.

On a serious note I think we should appeal to kuwena to come back. He single handedly started this thread when we all needed it the most and has been very committed to its success. He has his own perception to arguments which are his candid opinion, and should not be victimised on it. At a point Opoks was quite harsh on him, which also shows opok's unique personality. We all have a different approach to issues and as such everyone should be allowed to voice his, without fear of victimisation. This thread is meant to be informative, and for everyone we loose, we loose a source of information, lets make it live.

KUWENA WE MISS YOU, Please COME BACK :

Ok make I help una:

[size=15pt]KUWENA PLEASE COME BACK! WE MISS YOU!!!!!!![/size]

That's if you like.

pgm:

I agree with you 100%, no 70%, actually 69.99%. I like to think it healthy to consider no one as indispensable in this thread, but I also think it's healthy to make an exception here. Some people are almost indispensable. Almost! Very nearly so!! In fact, they are approximately indispensable _{remember good old maths}!!! Kuwena is definitely one of these.

Oya, Commentator! When did you get this new job of commenting on posts like a BBC football commentator?
Nice job!

pgm:


So Kuwena please, like izi-n-bizi said, come back!! Please. I think you are a junkie as far as this thread is concerrned and before long you will need your regular fix. So, for the sake of your self and your numerous fans, please come back home!!!

Now this one is really funny!


Now for the records, I know that it appears that Kuwena left the thread b/c Opoks! lashed out at him.
And for the records, I will not hesitate to take part of the responsibility.
'cause Kuwena may have been so incensed and disgusted by my take on him that his only other defense was to bail.

I also had a right to speak out against what I saw as a consistent tarnishing of the African or Nigerian image.

But the choice of leaving the thread or coming back lies entirely with an individual.
After all, I no hol gun here.

I, myself had been so incensed and disgusted with Kuwena’s take on Nigeria at a time that I left the thread.
But I came back after a while of cooling off.

Hence we all have our differences (not just Kuwena and I), but we all must respect one another’s differences.

If you do not like Nigeria, fine. But if post after post, you keep reminding me about how good-for-nothing where I come from is or how nothing good can come from where I come from or even how perpertually bad the people are, then I am bound to react angrily one day.

I don't need to hear about Nigeria's problems any more than I have heard them for the past three decades!

What I need is solutions! solutions!! solutions!!!

Or shut the f**k up!

Let us discuss things that will uplift the Nigerian citizen, the Nigerian soul and the plight of Nigerians.
After all, this is a Nigerian thread.

Otherwise, let us leave the goddamn thread in peace!
I sign out joo!

It seems like it's the ladies leading the way on this 'adoption' thread.
Guys have completely faded out.

Well I would love to adopt a kid or two in future and give life to whom it has been denied.
I hope that I create a 'circle of friends around this idea'.

It will be a dream come true for me.

They say it all the time via their actions!
Actions speak louder than words.

I love her b/c we are a team!
We understand each other so much that we do not need to talk to communicate.
We seem to be made from Heaven!

It's somehow embarrassing and harassing to stars.
Must they face up to and be nice to every Tom, manliness and Harry all the time?
I mean they need their privacy and sanity too!

@poster
Which of the wicked acts have you done?