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poweredcom:
Ladies pretend a lot , if you know you dont want to have sex on first date then dont make friends with guys , stay for ur papa house

Yeye things

Exactly.
What is the Real Motive for Giving out Your Number?
What is the Real Motive For Going out on that Date?
What is the Real Motive for Eating that Free Food?
What is the Real Motive for going home with Him?

The only thing is that MEN have become wiser and More Daring to Ask for it than before....

Before, Men will be have Spent Tonnes of Money for Weeks(in the name of Relationship) before Asking...and then Get Turned Down ==> in her mind She don CHOP AM.
Now, the Men are BOLDER to ASK Immediately to Cut his losses quickly and move on. (Times are hard, and Man Need to make the most limited esources)

PedoBear:
Werey even see shelter


What about us way day sleep for them corners??

WHAT!!

ExudeLoveToAll:
You have a sane mindset

You are doing well, never have an opinion that is antithetical to societal development just because a female is involved. Always make your decision devoid of emotions.

The only place I am not happy with you is that you have not developed a thick skin with respect to this type of issues. Don't give a hoot about anyone especially females when they start shaming you for having an independent thought process, show zero emotions in such scenarios. If you keep showing emotions like getting angry you may breakdown and do their bidding which may not be right.

Remember that most ladies are hypocritical, they will support an idea to take resources out of a man but turn around to negate that same idea when the culprit becomes their brother or father.

Remain sane as you have shown today, keep doing the right thing irrespective of shame tactics used by women. Keep it up pal.

Legend

Cinema4d:
Everything in life is like a game of cards. The more knowledge you have, the better you are at it. The girl you mentioned here is bereft of common-sense and clearly has what is termed "entitlement mentality ". Stay with me.
Now back to the situation. I won't say that friend refusing to lend his friend money is a "bad" person. Why? He made a choice and chose what he thinks is beneficial to him. It all comes down to human nature. Selfishness.
There's a reason why he gave the girl the money and refused to lend his friend whom is in dire need of the money. Because there is something he clearly desires! I'll stop here...

In One word: it called COVERED CONTRACT
a secret Desire to get something in Return. The friend can not give him that thing

Benwallt:
It is Igbo thing. That tribe is cursed. Person dey sick bed with part of body chopped off and his immediate associate dey syphon his hard earned proceed of monetary alm

Greed and Selfishness Knows NO TRIBE.
Stop the Tribal Hate!!

Justbehave:
In all this op stories,she never tell us how those men de Bleep her.

She Always Portrays Virginity...You Observed too

Jewessgratitud3:
LoL... I don't care. Once my mind is made up on someone, that's it! No looking back.

Maybe he'll still be chasing after small girls and using the single mother to get gifts, me I can't say. Or better still have gotten married but I doubt that man will get married because his elder sister too na case. Always trying to control him cos he's the last born. If shes see any girl she'll be frowning and spoiling the childrens mind but me as a no nonsense person I boned her till na she come dey open teeth after she see the children getting close to me and that's because I followed them one night to fetch water in the next house to show wife material , her mind come touch ground. .

Na Dem Sabi.

You were Really Fighting to Impress (Against you Real self)
I call that Move : Manipulative! you wan Marry by Force...Come turn TIGER After Marriage!!

Jewessgratitud3:
I just thought to share and again it's no bodys business what I share about myself here. I chose to do it and don't care if it sits well with anyone or not. My life, my share .

I'm sharing this just to let some ladies know that being a widower doesn't break a man and will not stop him from being an unrepentant cheat if he wants to. I used to think a widower will be more responsible and loyal to one woman considering the fact that he's now a second hand value bachelor and the death of his former wife will make him get closer and more committed to his spouse, home and family at large but I was wrong cos after my experience with one, I realized men will always be cheat men.

This happened in 2013 after staying away from relationships for a long time. So I joined Badoo ( it was the rave then, though I joined in 2012). A young man ( in his 40s then) chatted me up and I checked his profile. There he stated that he was looking for a lady for serious relationship and added he was a Christian. He was also looking very handsome and tall. We chatted and exchanged numbers.

When we got talking he told me he was a widower. It was hard to believe because he looked very young. He now told me he married very early. He went ahead and told me he has 6 children 👀👀👀. I didn't believe until he showed me their pics. 4 girls and two boys. He said the wife kept having children because she wanted a male child and died after giving birth to the last child, a male. She got home from the hospital after childbirth and started bleeding immediately and was rushed back to the hospital but never made it back. Meanwhile he was not in the country when this happened.

This made me have compassion and developed feelings for him. After a few months of inviting me over, I finally agreed to visit after he assured me the elder sister is staying with him to look after the baby ( he was already a year then but was not walking). He never liked the boy because he was always saying the boy caused his wifes death and each time the baby boy sees him, he'll be screaming due to the way he looks at the baby and I'll be telling him to stop, teasing him that it's him the boy resembles. So when I visited for the first time, I was shocked at what I saw. He actually owns the house he was living in in Sango. He built it when the going was good but after the wife's death, he came back and stayed for a whole year without a job. He just got the job he was doing as a hotel manager when I met him and his take home was not good at all. So to maintain the big house was a challenge. He could barely feed his kids. Even the two older ones were not with him. They were living with his brother just to ease him of the burden. when the sister saw me, she got angry and told him that he has not finished taking care of his children he's bringing in another lady. He told me to ignore the sister and face him. If I go there, I'll cook and serve everybody because he was always complaining of not having money but sometimes he'll give me part of the money I used.

Initially the children didn't like me and he said I should be buying them snacks. So then if I close from work, I'll go and meet him at his office and we'll go home together. I bought snacks and the children reluctantly collected the snacks. He went to work on that Saturday and I gathered the children and started telling them stories. They began to come close. When he got back he drove all of us to a football viewing center and bought me pepper soup. I thought I had found the right man. I was even saying I don't need to birth any children since he already has six. We'll just stay with his own children ( lol . small girl sense). He would tell me no, that he wants me to give him a beautiful daughter like me.

Six months into the relationship, I noticed something in his room while he was away at work. I saw a foreign prison card in his jacket I now began to connect the dots. I remembered him saying he was away when the wife died and while she was pregnant, he had problem abroad. So she developed BP. He even told me he wasn't around when his house was built that the wife supervised the whole thing before he now had a problem but be never told me what the problem was. I then discovered with the prison card, he was prolly in jail all that time. I didn't ask him anything.

Later he started telling me there's this single mother that has been begging him to marry her and she buys him stuff. I was like marry her now afterall two of una na second hand value. He'll laugh and say God forbid. That he wants chassis. The lady buys him and his children stuff. At a point I told him to stop collecting the gift or risk our relationship. He promised to stop.

One day he was sleeping and i was just going through his phone ( I never used to do that) and saw "my love". My head sparked. I woke him up with a heavy slap and showed him, he started saying its you I love. I said no! Tell me who this Is.. then I began to cry because I just knew it was over. He started begging and called his Aunty into the room. The aunty said the person is a family. I said call her. He now called the number and an elderly woman picked and he started telling her that I'm crying my eyes out here because I saw a message he sent to her. The woman spoke with me but I wasn't convinced. Throughout that night, he played "please forgive me' Brian Adams. hmm.. feeling nostalgic now. I calmed down and we continued.


After some months my chairman sacked me because I refused to go out with him and told him I'm in a relationship. After I lost my job I reduced my visits because bus fare from mainland to Sango was quite expensive and he too could not sponsor my visits regularly due to so much financial responsibilities and since I had been the one doing it when I was working. It became a once in a while thing.

Then one day, he told me to come to his office let's go home that he has missed me. I asked him, do you have money he said we'll manage. This man did not tell me we were going by train ( chai things we do for love) from his office we set out to oshodi. This man put head for train lane. I said waaaat t... I almost went back but it was already getting dark. I entered train for the first time. See me shaking. He had to hold me before one man now stood up for me to sit. Because it's been a while I've been to the house, when we got home, the aunty said you'll not stay in one place. Today you carry this, tomorrow you carry another one. I told him what the sister said and he told me not to mind her. In my mind i was like... see this second wen I dey manage too wan dey play ... I kept asking until he now confessed that the Aunt was referring to the other single mother that the lady has been forcing herself on him but it's me he wants. There and then I zeroed my mind.

After that visit, as we were going that morning, we quarreled on the way because the vehicle we borded got spoilt plus I wasn't happy after hearing what the sister said. So I was just edgy that morning and blasted the driver and some of the passengers. He got angry and left after trying to get me off the bus and I refused, saying I should run after him cos he's running late for work. I was just looking at him. I didn't get down. I waited for him to go far, I now got down and took another route to my house.

I didn't call for a week and refused to pick his calls because whats the point killing myself over a widower with six children who has refused to stick with one woman. When I eventually picked, it was my guy ( now ex) who told me to pick in the bus that day we were going to camp and he was chyking me. Oga kept calling and as usual I ignored him but the sound was disturbing our conversation so my gy told me to pick and hear him out. I picked and he was crying and put all his children on the phone to beg me. He said they are missing me and one of them is sick. I said ok, I'll call you later. That was it. I blocked him. Went to Badoo and blocked him there in fact I deleted my Badoo account. Deleted his number and ended the whole thing..

Men will always be men

Modified

When I said all men are the same what I'm simply implying is, whether they are poor, rich, widower or handicapped they will still cheat or have that tendency to cheat. Take it or get lost!

A man's vulnerability doesn't stop him from exhibiting those bad habits (cheating and deception). They'll will always do that thing that make us call them meennnn... If you know what I mean and if you don't Gerrit, forget abourit. .

oh, Now, you don't mind men with Kids....
Are You still a virgin?

Dcaliphate:
The food was a constant, k,...but after seeing new babe we break for a while, later I go back, I sweet talk her and still get kpekus, see baa, if u fine as a man, if woman really love u, esp those 26 and above,the love dey thick

Legend

potland:
thank you sir. So I went there today. I met the recruiter and here's what he told me: the work is monday to saturday from 9am to 6pm. salary is 80k. No accommodation. I will be doing basic desk job. It's owned by a Chinese man and they sell phone screens. Is it okay?

it's manageable if you don't have an Alternative.
But You need LIVE a Walking Distance from the Office so you don't spend on transport.
if not the majority of the salary will go to transport and you would not be able to save Any.

Also, as you begin, you need to keep searching for a better-paying job too because that 80k looks really small for a man.
you can maybe think of some self-skills to learn (like how to Repair the Smartphone including fixing that screen you sell).

After then, you can be an engineer working for yourself

All the best bro

odenkirk:
i am already in it. thunder fire our leaders

I'm on the Circumference, trying to Crawl Out.
BUT the Centrifugal Force of the Poverty pool is so Strong( from the Center)

God Help us all!

EmekaMD:
Nigerian politicians are an actual representation of the average Nigerian mindset.
He seeks power with only one intention in mind "embezzlement"

Read comments hete on nairaland and you'll realize that Nigerians deserve what they got.


One thing I've resolved is: Do my best to take care of my family, parents and immediate circle and nothing concern me with the average Nigerian plight.

You are a REAL NIGERIAN.
This is the exact Mindset of Every Nigerian. Including the POLITICIANs TOO.

We are all the Same...its just that we are not the one in power....

Dcaliphate:
I did. I brought another babe home.

what was her reaction?
Did she give you attitude or continue to give u freebies(food and Kpekus)?

potland:
hi, i need your thoughts on this job offer. I like the way you answer that guy on job section concerning business dev officer. I got this offer for the role of clerk at a shop in alaba. I think they import and sell goods. When i got there, they postponed it. I discovered it is run by a chinese man n nigerian from what i gathered. Mon to saturday. What do you think?

Did you apply for the Job and that very position?
1. if yes, you can Attend but make sure Your Relatives are Aware of your Movement.
2. if you see a crowd of people gathering to be given a lecture, just know that it is GNLD/ Network marketing. run for your life

If you did not apply for that position, don't bother to go. its a scam

its not even wise to take a low-paying Job too far from your Home.

God Be with you.

LoveUdie:
I got this interview invitation from this people, please is this fake job interview?

Dear Johnson,
Readi-Consult invites you for an INTERVIEW. You will be assessed as an OFFICE ASSISTANT
Date: Wednesday, 22nd November, 2023.
Time: 8.00am.
Venue: Suite A, 150 Oba Ogunji Rd, Beside Great Talent School, Agege, Lagos State.

Best Regards
RDC/001
Admin Unit

If you never Applied to that Company for that Exact position, BUT you were invited, then it's GNLD or Network marketing.
Don't waste your Transport money or put yourself in the line of Danger

Pray:
The house should also be bequeathed to the children.

when the Man has his own kids...
You go wicked for Judgement o.

telkevog:
Wicked landlord!

If you see where he'll be demanding for house rent from there parent, you won't even believe he is committing such atrocity against their children

This is what is paining you in this news. So you don't want him to collect rent? it should be free right?
Remember you can be a Landlord some day demanding Rent too

Flows001:
@Op.

Dem no dey chop house rat oo

Dont trade away your "freedom of association" by being tempted into getting intimate with her, jist let it remain on this free food level, unless you believe she is worth it, and you're ready to be caged!!

Exactly

Flows001:
Omoh you have a point here o.

I just moved into a new compound and I have been on a low key since I moved in.

I noticed that one of my female neighbours has been acting all nice and friendly towards me, atimes she would leave her room and give me her phone for me to help her charge (despite her also having light in her own room). She was always ready to kick-start a lengthy conversation whenever we saw (especially during weekends that everyone is home).

The day I brought one of my knacking mates to my house eh, she was around and saw the lady. I noticed a sudden cold in her response when I tried to joke with her (of course with my hands wrapped around my knacking mate's waist)

This my neighbour became extremely cold towards me since then.

I no kuku send because I no dey like chop house rat, I prefer importing them at my own timing.

Girls matter sha

Legend

OMEGA009:
Do it the Nigerian way.
Start by saying “Haaa, neighbor. This one wey you dey give me food steady, make your boyfriend no vex ooo. I no get power to fight”

or if you think she wants knacks and you’re able to do it, say “Neighbor, all this food wey you dey give me, my waist don dey full oooo. I for like pay you back with one night of Netflix and chill”

but if you want to end it, say “my girlfriend don dey complain say I no dey chop her food anymore. I no want make she pour you acid”.

Go and try any of the above but do it quickly before you chop winch.

bro, what if u wan Nack such a Neighbor "while expressing: u have a existing Girlfriend" ?
How will you say that one?

Dcaliphate:

She wants ur D bro.
Chop the food, chop the cook.
Was in a similar situation few years back, it was so sweet, there were no strings attached, I just dey eat, knack, eat, knack. It was clear she wanted me. I too wanted a taste of the food and the cook.

BUT, could you bring another Babe Home??
i guess Not

OMEGA009:
Do it the Nigerian way.
Start by saying “Haaa, neighbor. This one wey you dey give me food steady, make your boyfriend no vex ooo. I no get power to fight”

or if you think she wants knacks and you’re able to do it, say “Neighbor, all this food wey you dey give me, my waist don dey full oooo. I for like pay you back with one night of Netflix and chill”

but if you want to end it, say “my girlfriend don dey complain say I no dey chop her food anymore. I no want make she pour you acid”.

Go and try any of the above but do it quickly before you chop winch.

Legend!

backtalkG:
Na so one mature lady I had for a neighbour was being nice and cooking for me that year although I do give her money for the cooking. The day a gal came to sleep over at my place I see red for this woman hand, come see ranting and malice for days lol. I come dey wonder wetin she want from me because I have never had any romantic thoughts about her b4

Assuming she had been seeing Girls coming and going already OR you had playfully told her stories of some girlfriend(s). BEFORE collecting her food, you would have passed the message indirectly to her that you can not have anything serious with her...
that way her Anger will be Avoided...you go just dey enjoy

Because you didn't do that, She felt you were Available for Capture!! (to be boyfriend)

Is04970:
On the due date Sir.

sad, but i hope he paid up sharply!

sweethoney1234:
See as I just Dey laugh

Would you Laugh if the News was the other way around?

adesegun121:
Mummy our teacher said we should bring two live chickens toschool for December practicals, reply as a Mum.


Me: Your teacher mind No go tourch ground

you will carry over that Practical

Is04970:
We have the most useless government in Nigeria.
Send the message a person received on his due date from a loan shark.

YOU MEAN PAST THE DUE DATE!!

BananaPeel:
The first place I worked was a private school back in 2011. Every time the proprietress issues me cheque for my salary,she will instruct me to run to the bank without hesitation. Others that goes to the bank late won't be able to cash the cheque because the little in it has been collected by me and two others.
I left after the waec exams when I found out some staff are being owed between 5-8 months salary.

Monaboo:
Please what does Business Development Executive job position mean?

Is this job same as a Marketing job cos I see it as same.

All of you working as Business Development Executive in a private firm, what do u do?

You will be looking for Business for the Organization.
You go out and get Clients.

if it's a big company, they might give u a car to go get clients....BUT the monthly Target will not let you sleep at Night!
but if it's a Small company, You might have to transport yourself to go get clients...Just like Insurance Companies.
The compensation could be Salary, Incentives or both.

lavylilly:
I've actually had three experiences...

The first was in 2015 , I was working but I had issues with the job and wanted to get a job Before leaving, this was before I knew anything about the called GNLD, I called them to find out about it and a man told me to come to their office for the "interview".

When I got there and listened to their cock and bull story, I asked them where the factory is and they then told us that it's actually a marketing job, while showing us pictures of people who were sponsored by the company to Dubai... After a while, I discovered that it was a sham and left....

The second time was in 2017 when an old classmate of mine who told me that it was an "free empowerment seminar", I had rushed there hoping to maybe learn a small skill for a minimal amount... When I reached there only to discover that it was GNLD with the usual stories, I just stopped by the door and left and told the hungry looking manager that I wasn't interested.

The third time was actually out of boredom, when I never knew that the job adverts on Facebook were shams. I went to attend what they said was actually a "hotel job interview" only for me to reach there and see the usual stories... I simply played along and even wrote their fake exams, then some hungry looking guy came out and introduced himself as the director wearing an expensive looking suit (which looked obviously borrowed)... He came and gave us a mind blowing speech about how he is making millions and we can do the same and when he asked if any of us wants to leave , I got up and left (which really shocked him since he felt he's got everyone by his lies).
I just pitied the people that remained, Because they don't even know that it's all a sham.


Just very few private companies in Nigeria are worth it, Some of them, you are at the "whims and caprices" of the CEO. A few actually trying the best they can and others it's a big NO for me.

GNLD , Network Marketing Back to back

thesicilian:
First you list your wife as your sister.
Then you get married to a foreigner, get citizenship and divorce just a few years after.
Then you bring back your Nigerian wife (whom you previously listed as your sister!) to the same country, while allowing her to attach her original marriage certificate.


How can a professor of Economics be thinking like an uneducated bricklayer?

Do you think it's easy to Lie?
if you lie 200 times, you will have to remember all the lies so that you don't commit blunder in the future.
That's what happened here. BLUNDER

12inchess:
Honestly we need to create like a consent app or something to get these ladies to sign abeg. Too many men have fallen for this no consent she was drunk rape thing. Even a lady that did it with clear eye can comeback and claim rape tomorrow.This is too much power to give your sex partner. They could totally ruin your life with this.

Great Thinking.
Can you Create the App and put it on Play Store?
You would be Saving many innocent men who got a YES before Entering Jerusalem
only to be told they came in through the Window. in the morning