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Eriokanmi:
Number one, women are the same all over the world, regardless of race or ethnicity so, you can't avoid their drama.

Secondly, you said women are too complicated to deal with, if I may put it right . Yes, even the most religous ones amongst them are wired this way, the slight difference is the fear of God in them. The truth is, women don't even understand themselves at times.

If you're looking for the best woman, you won't find one, I'm sorry. You may remain single if you don't feel like getting married, the bible supports it but you must not indulge in fornication. You remain as you are till you vacate this space but this is always difficult to do so, the best option is get married but pray very well before you rear your head cos you can't judge by how good-looking or nice a woman is. Na when she enter you go know the type of woman you marry. Sadly, this is the cause of all the divorce cases we see today. You see a woman, you think you don see wife without going spiritual to really know who she is. Our forefathers would consult an ifa in those days so they dont get it wrong. That's why their marriages lasted.
But we don't have to do that nowadays as we have an easier means of reaching out to God through prayers. Marriage is deeper than many think. Be convinced she's the right one and you'd be glad in the end.

The solution to a happy marriage is tolerance. [b]Even if she's ranting, just tolerate her naggy manners. It doesn't make you a stupid man. When her head is cool, she'd be the one to apologise to you. [/b]But if you keep beating her each time. That won't make her to stop that habit, till you kill her one day and you end up at a place where you least expect to be.
Good luck

Let me tell You:

Lots of Women Don't apologize even if they are Wrong. (to them they can never be Wrong). instead, they will blame the Misdoing on you

Some Women Nag on Another Level (u never jam).... e.g. you Walk Away from an Argument and she Follows you anywhere you go. pestering and Nagging. trying to Push you to the limit.

I even watched a video recently, The husband walks away from a wife Drama (demanding a wig). he tried Driving out of the House and the Woman followed him Not allowing him to walk away. locking his shirt. you can imagine the frustration of that married gentle man

like you said, you will not know...until they are already in.
then they Turn TIGER

Fiscus105:
For me I have been in marriage for 9 years, I have never regretted for a second, offcourse, things are not rossy, but not because of Marriage but economy situation of country.

I have said and will keep on saying it, over and over and over.

IF THE TWO COUPLES NOT ONLY LOVE THEMSELVES BUT READY TO PLAY THE GAME OF MARRIAGE ACCORDING TO ITS RULES, TWO OF YOU WOULD BE FEELING LIKE KING AND QUEEN IN UR MARRIAGE.

my ADVICE., you and ur woman should make amendments, u will surely enjoy it, meanwhile, don't mistake economy or spiritual problems for "Marriage toxicity"

They are different kettle of fish.

The Truth is You can Only know the Outcome of the Bolded After you are already Married and TOO Late.
Marriage is Simply a GAMBLE!
if Might Make U or SCATTER YOU

just Braze up for whatever comes

Gasopanis:
I have been having some kind of pain in my ear for about 2 weeks now, i went to the hospital last week and i was prescribed this drug Augmentin, i was shocked when i went to the pharmacy and was told it costs 57k, i even had to ask the lady if she knew what she was saying, i had to google it and found out she wasn’t lying. I went to buy it today.. it has just 14 tablets. A friend of mine told me it used to cost about 6k in the past.

I’m fed up of the situation of things in this country

Buy Another Brand NOT GSK

MayowaTallguy:
U wan help me?

MY help: STOP BETTING!!

officialwdhtv:
Groom calls off wedding after discovering bride visited her ex the night before their wedding.

And guess what? Her ex also attended the wedding

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKooQ6jP_0Y

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C0a1iTbJ8Es/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

God is Great!
Languages Dey this World sha!!
Didn't Understand 1 Sentence.....

MayowaTallguy:
Someone should pls help me with something make I take chop
Betting don finish my live,I no go lie

U neva see anything!!!
you go carry Man u Straight Win Abi??

VeryWickedGoat:
That's a stone, okwute, used for stoning birds and thieves.

NeoWanZaeed:
If you no get sense.. fame will destroy you through keyboard warriors opinion..


If davio fires him now.. what's next for him

All of them will Disappear of Course!!
what else??

kingthreat:
He is now getting sense small small.
No woman will be proud of a man who prostrates flat stupidly for another man

You Mean if a Gate Man's Wife tells her husband that she doesn't Like the Way he Opens gate everytime for the House Owner...
He should Obey That and Never open the gate again for OGA.

The same Woman will Disappear immediately after he is Sacked and Call him a FOOL.

Dayvidoo:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUioG0l6nVc?si=VzsqzYgBUxRWIdfZ

Davido Touchdown Lagos As Israel Dmw Refuse To Greet Him As Before After His Wife Left Him

Source: Naijaeverything @IG

I hope he doesn't lose his job.
He has been influenced by the Public.

if he loses his job now, Everybody will disappear from his Case!!!

EmperorTolson:
I earn above 70k monthly and I was recently offered a job at Mutual Benefits Assurance Plc as a Marketing Executive, with no salary, only commission and bonuses.
What'd you advise I do? Do you think it's worth it? Please enlighten me.
Thanks.

AHHHH!

Let me Tell You just in case You Don't Know:

Insurance Job will Never Pay You if You Have No Clients You Are Collecting Premium From.
In most cases, You will TREK, and Transport Yourself to go get Clients (You will be BROKE and Your SHOE GO BEND)
As a beginner, You might go up to 6 Months without PAY...while trying to get Clients.

To collect Premium, You Might have to go see the clients(Using your Transport)
You might have to go without food in Your Stomach just to save for Transport.
When you go without food for Long, you will be Lean and Fragile.

When you bring in Clients, Your commission will Reduce in the 2nd Year. e.g. if a client is paying a premium of 20k (for a 5-year plan) and your commission is 4k (20% of Premium), You only get this 4k every month as long as you force the Client to the premium of 20k into the Company Account.

That 4k commission is only for the 1st 1 Year. In the 2nd year of that plan, it drops to like 5% of the premium: 1k (4k becomes 1k in 2nd year)
The implication of this is that You need to keeeeeeep getting clients with Absolute speed Every month to Keep Float.

The Transport Involved. Phone call follow-up involved is Huge and it is Not for the faint-hearted (and it is on your Pocket)
if you spend too much time There, You will have Lost Hope of being Employable in the Job world.



MY VERDICT:
stick to you 70k job, Develop yourself and CV and get a Better pay MONTHLY JOB

Jcomtrader:
If na even sub e go good
Sub na small thing
We have girls out there
Asking guys for iphones
House rent. And heavy bills while still chatting

Exactly

poweredcom:
Ladies pretend a lot , if you know you dont want to have sex on first date then dont make friends with guys , stay for ur papa house

Yeye things

Exactly.
What is the Real Motive for Giving out Your Number?
What is the Real Motive For Going out on that Date?
What is the Real Motive for Eating that Free Food?
What is the Real Motive for going home with Him?

The only thing is that MEN have become wiser and More Daring to Ask for it than before....

Before, Men will be have Spent Tonnes of Money for Weeks(in the name of Relationship) before Asking...and then Get Turned Down ==> in her mind She don CHOP AM.
Now, the Men are BOLDER to ASK Immediately to Cut his losses quickly and move on. (Times are hard, and Man Need to make the most limited esources)

PedoBear:
Werey even see shelter


What about us way day sleep for them corners??

WHAT!!

ExudeLoveToAll:
You have a sane mindset

You are doing well, never have an opinion that is antithetical to societal development just because a female is involved. Always make your decision devoid of emotions.

The only place I am not happy with you is that you have not developed a thick skin with respect to this type of issues. Don't give a hoot about anyone especially females when they start shaming you for having an independent thought process, show zero emotions in such scenarios. If you keep showing emotions like getting angry you may breakdown and do their bidding which may not be right.

Remember that most ladies are hypocritical, they will support an idea to take resources out of a man but turn around to negate that same idea when the culprit becomes their brother or father.

Remain sane as you have shown today, keep doing the right thing irrespective of shame tactics used by women. Keep it up pal.

Legend

Cinema4d:
Everything in life is like a game of cards. The more knowledge you have, the better you are at it. The girl you mentioned here is bereft of common-sense and clearly has what is termed "entitlement mentality ". Stay with me.
Now back to the situation. I won't say that friend refusing to lend his friend money is a "bad" person. Why? He made a choice and chose what he thinks is beneficial to him. It all comes down to human nature. Selfishness.
There's a reason why he gave the girl the money and refused to lend his friend whom is in dire need of the money. Because there is something he clearly desires! I'll stop here...

In One word: it called COVERED CONTRACT
a secret Desire to get something in Return. The friend can not give him that thing

Benwallt:
It is Igbo thing. That tribe is cursed. Person dey sick bed with part of body chopped off and his immediate associate dey syphon his hard earned proceed of monetary alm

Greed and Selfishness Knows NO TRIBE.
Stop the Tribal Hate!!

Justbehave:
In all this op stories,she never tell us how those men de Bleep her.

She Always Portrays Virginity...You Observed too

Jewessgratitud3:
LoL... I don't care. Once my mind is made up on someone, that's it! No looking back.

Maybe he'll still be chasing after small girls and using the single mother to get gifts, me I can't say. Or better still have gotten married but I doubt that man will get married because his elder sister too na case. Always trying to control him cos he's the last born. If shes see any girl she'll be frowning and spoiling the childrens mind but me as a no nonsense person I boned her till na she come dey open teeth after she see the children getting close to me and that's because I followed them one night to fetch water in the next house to show wife material , her mind come touch ground. .

Na Dem Sabi.

You were Really Fighting to Impress (Against you Real self)
I call that Move : Manipulative! you wan Marry by Force...Come turn TIGER After Marriage!!

Jewessgratitud3:
I just thought to share and again it's no bodys business what I share about myself here. I chose to do it and don't care if it sits well with anyone or not. My life, my share .

I'm sharing this just to let some ladies know that being a widower doesn't break a man and will not stop him from being an unrepentant cheat if he wants to. I used to think a widower will be more responsible and loyal to one woman considering the fact that he's now a second hand value bachelor and the death of his former wife will make him get closer and more committed to his spouse, home and family at large but I was wrong cos after my experience with one, I realized men will always be cheat men.

This happened in 2013 after staying away from relationships for a long time. So I joined Badoo ( it was the rave then, though I joined in 2012). A young man ( in his 40s then) chatted me up and I checked his profile. There he stated that he was looking for a lady for serious relationship and added he was a Christian. He was also looking very handsome and tall. We chatted and exchanged numbers.

When we got talking he told me he was a widower. It was hard to believe because he looked very young. He now told me he married very early. He went ahead and told me he has 6 children 👀👀👀. I didn't believe until he showed me their pics. 4 girls and two boys. He said the wife kept having children because she wanted a male child and died after giving birth to the last child, a male. She got home from the hospital after childbirth and started bleeding immediately and was rushed back to the hospital but never made it back. Meanwhile he was not in the country when this happened.

This made me have compassion and developed feelings for him. After a few months of inviting me over, I finally agreed to visit after he assured me the elder sister is staying with him to look after the baby ( he was already a year then but was not walking). He never liked the boy because he was always saying the boy caused his wifes death and each time the baby boy sees him, he'll be screaming due to the way he looks at the baby and I'll be telling him to stop, teasing him that it's him the boy resembles. So when I visited for the first time, I was shocked at what I saw. He actually owns the house he was living in in Sango. He built it when the going was good but after the wife's death, he came back and stayed for a whole year without a job. He just got the job he was doing as a hotel manager when I met him and his take home was not good at all. So to maintain the big house was a challenge. He could barely feed his kids. Even the two older ones were not with him. They were living with his brother just to ease him of the burden. when the sister saw me, she got angry and told him that he has not finished taking care of his children he's bringing in another lady. He told me to ignore the sister and face him. If I go there, I'll cook and serve everybody because he was always complaining of not having money but sometimes he'll give me part of the money I used.

Initially the children didn't like me and he said I should be buying them snacks. So then if I close from work, I'll go and meet him at his office and we'll go home together. I bought snacks and the children reluctantly collected the snacks. He went to work on that Saturday and I gathered the children and started telling them stories. They began to come close. When he got back he drove all of us to a football viewing center and bought me pepper soup. I thought I had found the right man. I was even saying I don't need to birth any children since he already has six. We'll just stay with his own children ( lol . small girl sense). He would tell me no, that he wants me to give him a beautiful daughter like me.

Six months into the relationship, I noticed something in his room while he was away at work. I saw a foreign prison card in his jacket I now began to connect the dots. I remembered him saying he was away when the wife died and while she was pregnant, he had problem abroad. So she developed BP. He even told me he wasn't around when his house was built that the wife supervised the whole thing before he now had a problem but be never told me what the problem was. I then discovered with the prison card, he was prolly in jail all that time. I didn't ask him anything.

Later he started telling me there's this single mother that has been begging him to marry her and she buys him stuff. I was like marry her now afterall two of una na second hand value. He'll laugh and say God forbid. That he wants chassis. The lady buys him and his children stuff. At a point I told him to stop collecting the gift or risk our relationship. He promised to stop.

One day he was sleeping and i was just going through his phone ( I never used to do that) and saw "my love". My head sparked. I woke him up with a heavy slap and showed him, he started saying its you I love. I said no! Tell me who this Is.. then I began to cry because I just knew it was over. He started begging and called his Aunty into the room. The aunty said the person is a family. I said call her. He now called the number and an elderly woman picked and he started telling her that I'm crying my eyes out here because I saw a message he sent to her. The woman spoke with me but I wasn't convinced. Throughout that night, he played "please forgive me' Brian Adams. hmm.. feeling nostalgic now. I calmed down and we continued.


After some months my chairman sacked me because I refused to go out with him and told him I'm in a relationship. After I lost my job I reduced my visits because bus fare from mainland to Sango was quite expensive and he too could not sponsor my visits regularly due to so much financial responsibilities and since I had been the one doing it when I was working. It became a once in a while thing.

Then one day, he told me to come to his office let's go home that he has missed me. I asked him, do you have money he said we'll manage. This man did not tell me we were going by train ( chai things we do for love) from his office we set out to oshodi. This man put head for train lane. I said waaaat t... I almost went back but it was already getting dark. I entered train for the first time. See me shaking. He had to hold me before one man now stood up for me to sit. Because it's been a while I've been to the house, when we got home, the aunty said you'll not stay in one place. Today you carry this, tomorrow you carry another one. I told him what the sister said and he told me not to mind her. In my mind i was like... see this second wen I dey manage too wan dey play ... I kept asking until he now confessed that the Aunt was referring to the other single mother that the lady has been forcing herself on him but it's me he wants. There and then I zeroed my mind.

After that visit, as we were going that morning, we quarreled on the way because the vehicle we borded got spoilt plus I wasn't happy after hearing what the sister said. So I was just edgy that morning and blasted the driver and some of the passengers. He got angry and left after trying to get me off the bus and I refused, saying I should run after him cos he's running late for work. I was just looking at him. I didn't get down. I waited for him to go far, I now got down and took another route to my house.

I didn't call for a week and refused to pick his calls because whats the point killing myself over a widower with six children who has refused to stick with one woman. When I eventually picked, it was my guy ( now ex) who told me to pick in the bus that day we were going to camp and he was chyking me. Oga kept calling and as usual I ignored him but the sound was disturbing our conversation so my gy told me to pick and hear him out. I picked and he was crying and put all his children on the phone to beg me. He said they are missing me and one of them is sick. I said ok, I'll call you later. That was it. I blocked him. Went to Badoo and blocked him there in fact I deleted my Badoo account. Deleted his number and ended the whole thing..

Men will always be men

Modified

When I said all men are the same what I'm simply implying is, whether they are poor, rich, widower or handicapped they will still cheat or have that tendency to cheat. Take it or get lost!

A man's vulnerability doesn't stop him from exhibiting those bad habits (cheating and deception). They'll will always do that thing that make us call them meennnn... If you know what I mean and if you don't Gerrit, forget abourit. .

oh, Now, you don't mind men with Kids....
Are You still a virgin?

Dcaliphate:
The food was a constant, k,...but after seeing new babe we break for a while, later I go back, I sweet talk her and still get kpekus, see baa, if u fine as a man, if woman really love u, esp those 26 and above,the love dey thick

Legend

potland:
thank you sir. So I went there today. I met the recruiter and here's what he told me: the work is monday to saturday from 9am to 6pm. salary is 80k. No accommodation. I will be doing basic desk job. It's owned by a Chinese man and they sell phone screens. Is it okay?

it's manageable if you don't have an Alternative.
But You need LIVE a Walking Distance from the Office so you don't spend on transport.
if not the majority of the salary will go to transport and you would not be able to save Any.

Also, as you begin, you need to keep searching for a better-paying job too because that 80k looks really small for a man.
you can maybe think of some self-skills to learn (like how to Repair the Smartphone including fixing that screen you sell).

After then, you can be an engineer working for yourself

All the best bro

odenkirk:
i am already in it. thunder fire our leaders

I'm on the Circumference, trying to Crawl Out.
BUT the Centrifugal Force of the Poverty pool is so Strong( from the Center)

God Help us all!

EmekaMD:
Nigerian politicians are an actual representation of the average Nigerian mindset.
He seeks power with only one intention in mind "embezzlement"

Read comments hete on nairaland and you'll realize that Nigerians deserve what they got.


One thing I've resolved is: Do my best to take care of my family, parents and immediate circle and nothing concern me with the average Nigerian plight.

You are a REAL NIGERIAN.
This is the exact Mindset of Every Nigerian. Including the POLITICIANs TOO.

We are all the Same...its just that we are not the one in power....

Dcaliphate:
I did. I brought another babe home.

what was her reaction?
Did she give you attitude or continue to give u freebies(food and Kpekus)?

potland:
hi, i need your thoughts on this job offer. I like the way you answer that guy on job section concerning business dev officer. I got this offer for the role of clerk at a shop in alaba. I think they import and sell goods. When i got there, they postponed it. I discovered it is run by a chinese man n nigerian from what i gathered. Mon to saturday. What do you think?

Did you apply for the Job and that very position?
1. if yes, you can Attend but make sure Your Relatives are Aware of your Movement.
2. if you see a crowd of people gathering to be given a lecture, just know that it is GNLD/ Network marketing. run for your life

If you did not apply for that position, don't bother to go. its a scam

its not even wise to take a low-paying Job too far from your Home.

God Be with you.

LoveUdie:
I got this interview invitation from this people, please is this fake job interview?

Dear Johnson,
Readi-Consult invites you for an INTERVIEW. You will be assessed as an OFFICE ASSISTANT
Date: Wednesday, 22nd November, 2023.
Time: 8.00am.
Venue: Suite A, 150 Oba Ogunji Rd, Beside Great Talent School, Agege, Lagos State.

Best Regards
RDC/001
Admin Unit

If you never Applied to that Company for that Exact position, BUT you were invited, then it's GNLD or Network marketing.
Don't waste your Transport money or put yourself in the line of Danger

Pray:
The house should also be bequeathed to the children.

when the Man has his own kids...
You go wicked for Judgement o.

telkevog:
Wicked landlord!

If you see where he'll be demanding for house rent from there parent, you won't even believe he is committing such atrocity against their children

This is what is paining you in this news. So you don't want him to collect rent? it should be free right?
Remember you can be a Landlord some day demanding Rent too

Flows001:
@Op.

Dem no dey chop house rat oo

Dont trade away your "freedom of association" by being tempted into getting intimate with her, jist let it remain on this free food level, unless you believe she is worth it, and you're ready to be caged!!

Exactly

Flows001:
Omoh you have a point here o.

I just moved into a new compound and I have been on a low key since I moved in.

I noticed that one of my female neighbours has been acting all nice and friendly towards me, atimes she would leave her room and give me her phone for me to help her charge (despite her also having light in her own room). She was always ready to kick-start a lengthy conversation whenever we saw (especially during weekends that everyone is home).

The day I brought one of my knacking mates to my house eh, she was around and saw the lady. I noticed a sudden cold in her response when I tried to joke with her (of course with my hands wrapped around my knacking mate's waist)

This my neighbour became extremely cold towards me since then.

I no kuku send because I no dey like chop house rat, I prefer importing them at my own timing.

Girls matter sha

Legend

OMEGA009:
Do it the Nigerian way.
Start by saying “Haaa, neighbor. This one wey you dey give me food steady, make your boyfriend no vex ooo. I no get power to fight”

or if you think she wants knacks and you’re able to do it, say “Neighbor, all this food wey you dey give me, my waist don dey full oooo. I for like pay you back with one night of Netflix and chill”

but if you want to end it, say “my girlfriend don dey complain say I no dey chop her food anymore. I no want make she pour you acid”.

Go and try any of the above but do it quickly before you chop winch.

bro, what if u wan Nack such a Neighbor "while expressing: u have a existing Girlfriend" ?
How will you say that one?