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Magnoliaa:
Won tun gbe tun tun de.

A life without pussy = a life of loneliness and bitterness for men? So men's happiness and fulfilment in life is intricately tied to access to sex?


This is what happens when you swallow agenda buzzwords without no thought and mental filtering of your own. You end up regurgitating rubbish.

Lack of money will not lead to a life of bitterness for men. Poverty will not. Unfulfilment will not, broken relationships will not, childhood trauma will not, a lack of support system and community from family and friends will not. Work pressure will not. Mental illness will not. Social anxiety and low self-esteem will not. It is pussy, of all things, that will lead to a life of loneliness for men.

Can we also go further to hypothesize that the bitter men we see all over NL are the way they are because they're not getting any pussy? It's not as a result of heartbreak or women not being good people. Nope, they're incels because they're simply unattractive to women.

And you say you're the superior gender, when you've unwittingly attributed this much power to the pussy. So much so that a man's life can breakdown and get derailed from not matching sexually with women .

Jennyclay:
Money
Sex
Love

If I can’t get enough of these 3 things I listed above from a man, I would gladly leave the relationship/marriage .

BigDawsNet:
Micro penis should be around 3Inch

Average fingers is 4/half Inch

Fingers always do wonder.....

Why d complain den

Jewessgratitud3:
Na penis you marry abi na the person? See people don't understand what love really is and heys! Before you come and start telling me how sex is equally important in marriage, let me breath! Sex this, sex that.. let financial challenges come youll know that even that your over hyped sex can not save your marriage.

It's only true love, commitment and the decision to be with this person that can weather any storm or challenge (apart from cheating) in marriage. Where these three are lacking, forget, common misapplication of tooth paste can crash the marriage.

I've dated a man with a small p before. those days of searching for a life partner ( before I rededicated my life to God) and I never saw it as a problem because I loved and just wanted to be with him. That didn't count as long as I was happy but the mumu started seeing another girl and that's the only thing that can make me leave a man; cheating. He didn't know I found out and after I left him, he started begging saying please come back, na only you be my size. Huh . So you know? I say no, go and meet those boreholes because they are giving you money, Ewu. He gathered all his family on the phone begging, meanwhile my last ex was already toasting me in the bus on my way to the camp while on the call. . Na so I cut phone face the new bobo wen I don dey eye for choir since.

If he didn't cheat with that his small p, I probably would have still been with him. .

Skyview01:
Prayer can all things.

Just take the micro-pe**nis to God in prayer and tell him you need 10 inches.

Jewessgratitud3:
It's amazing how I was contemplating making this post before a member here requested or should I say started asking me questions in that line and being a very free and open person, I promised I was going to post about it.

Well... Let me start from my background and up bringing which also contributed indirectly to my nonregrettable actions that has left me in this wonderful marital status.

I grew up in a Catholic christian home where good virtues moral values were instilled in us by engaging us in christian children activities from an early age. The Most social part of my childhood ( apart from school) was around the church then back home with close monitoring. So there was no room for nonsense even up to our secondary and tertiary level. the monitoring was topnotch. So we didn't really get to do shit like our mates who got exposed early to certain lifestyle,; dating number one.

We were overprotected and shaped with these guidelines that a mindset was formed that boy and girl relationship is a taboo ( and it's true). So we knew better than to toll that part.

In the long run, after I have come off age, it became very difficult to date. This was at age 21. Whenever I manage to give a man a listening ear and he mentions sex, I'll run without looking back because that was a danger sign we were taught to look out for. So i was always running away from men because of premarital sex. It got to a point, after looking like that's the only way to get a husband and I was already in my mid twenties, a time when a girl should be getting ready to settle down, I said ok, let me see if I can bend the rules a bit for this one. This man was a chronic responsible bachelor. So I felt it could work out since he's ready to settle down. He was in his mid 30s the and never married. We were in the same compound. So I gave in and we started dating. Mind you there was no pressure from both parents to get married. My parents will never pressure you to get a suitor.

Being a novice in the game, I never knew men could double date or even knew how to handle one when it happens. So, on this fateful day the randy goat came home with another girl. It was our last born that came and told me some girl came to look for him because everyone in the compound knows us together. I was heartbroken and right there I broke up with him without even finding out who or if what they both have is serious. Though I made him cry cos I started entertaining other boys that have been chyking me and bringing them to the compound but I never had anything with them or knew any of their houses. I was just using the to pepper him. Once they say hi, I'll drag them to the compound and we will sit on top of his car sometimes until he now confided in one of our neighbors who now told me to stop that the man is always crying. E never cry. I showed him two can play that game. He tried coming back but I bulshit him.

After that I locked up and never trusted any man. I began to see why my dad was being overprotective. I didn't date again for almost five years and then men were coming but that was when my own shakara increased. I mean responsible well to do men o. That was when men had good jobs from banking, investment and oil companies in ikoyi and vi both staff from five star hotel like Eko hotels and suites, federal palace cos those were the places I worked so I had many suitors and friends but the moment they mention relationship, Ill take off.

Part 2

It continued like that and I was enjoying my life with peace of mind that I forgot about time or didn't bother about it cos I don't care.

When I entered mid thirties, I said let me loosen up a bit but because Ive gotten used and enjoyed single life with peace of mind to that age, I found it difficult to commit again because anytime I tried, I'll start having anxiety. The thought of him cheating on me or even as little as admiring another woman will just make me unsettled and I'll think of aborting mission before it's too late.

So I said to give one man a chance, he too brought another girl in my absence. I found out from the sister and that was it. I called it off he begged and begged that the lady was forcing herself on him and sending him money bla bla.. he made a conference call with his family begging, my mind was made up I dumped him and moved on to a Choir boy Ive been admiring who was also trying to talk me into a relationship. I truly loved this guy and I think I was older than him in age . Though he refused to tell me his age but I was able to deduce from his Facebook profile cos he wrote class of 2006 while I finished 1999 but because I don't look my age, we just looked like age mate and we loved each other.

I met him when he just finished serving and was squatting. I was out of job then but one thing that made me stick with him was, even though he was not working, he shared whatever little he had with me. We were together when a very rich young pastor came asking for my hands in marriage. I told him about it and he started feeling sad that because he doesn't have a bearing now some guy wants to take me away from him. I on the other hand don't really fancy the pastor but wanted to force myself and see if it will work but it wasn't working because I didn't have feelings for him. To now make matters worse, he started showing stinginess. In the three months we courted, we didn't get to sit together because he's a pastor so we only see in church, stand and talk very briefly and disperse and each time he kept posting me about money I asked for to enable me travel for Xmas and the day was fast approaching. It was my Choir boyfriend that wen to borrow money from one girl selling recharge card to give me to travel. Now coupled with the fact that I don't even like him, i just texted him to look for another sister. The highest he ever bought me was two two hundred naira recharge card a stinkingly rich ajebota pastor for that matter ( 2014) but he would always call me.

Lastly, in 2016, my bobo got a job in Chevron with a nice apartment in lekki. Before then we had a small quarrel and we're not in talking terms because I requested for money for hair to attend my twins introduction and he told me no money but he didn't tell me he was saving for an apartment. Even then, how much? So, after months of not talking, he called and invited me over to see his new place. A surprise I guess. I got there and we had a nice time. He tried to make it up to me. He gave me his short and polo to wear that day and took me to a pepper soup joint. **Smiling**
later we got back and ad I was about to shower, I saw a used shower cap in his bathroom. He now handed me a new one from his wardrobe where there were many more. I asked him who used the one in the bathroom, he said baby don't start again. I held my peace.
The following morning he did something that I can't say for sure what really happened.

I slept over because there was no way I could go back from lekki to the mainland that day. That night he came to disturb me and I told him you know we can't be doing this. Please let wait till everything is formalized. When he wouldn't let me be, I left him and went to sleep on the floor. In the morning he woke up and was saying you, you, I was just looking at you as we were talking someone knocked on the door. It was a ladies voice. My ex went to meet her and they were together for almost 30mins before he came back inside. Me i didn't talk. I suspected he went to do nonsense because his thing was up when he left only to come back and it has come down.

We prepared and left together that morning for work. When I got home, I called and told him off. Na small thing dey vex me. He didn't believe it. So many things on my mind that made me take that huge decision. Men are not worth my type.

Since then till date, I stopped anything relationship especially if it's not a born again and I must like him. I faced my God ever since and decided to give myself peace. I can't stand a cheating partner. Disease dey town and I don't want to end up a baby mama.

Now, with the way things are, no jobs, the few decent men can hardly fend for themselves let alone catering for a family, I just decided to let sleeping dogs lie. Make person no come enter from fry pan to fire. Some family men now are dumping their family and running away from their responsibilities leaving the women to carry all the burden. So tell me what will make marriage enticing to me again? Abi na domestic violence? Biko Biko.

SIXTEENTH:
They think we men belong to the same class as them forming big chick's back then

Adewale1603:
I like saying the truth. The woman is ugly

profodbaba:
I wish the young women would see this and learn.

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Angelfrost:
That's not difficult... Once she has the money, guys will queue up to do the needful.

Justkatty:
Sir, A billionaire can also be irresponsible shey you know?
See from the context of having children without contributing to their welfare spiritually morally and otherwise
That's why I tell people, money can never balance everything in the lives of your family especially your kids.

Justkatty:
This is not all about money so far I'm concerned...
Looking from her angle, she doesn't want her kids to face what she faced while growing up without having a responsible father.

will this your logic hold?
will she /You still choose the Husband

EndRape2:
Shut up, is not because of your children but because he is giving you money and taking care of you, which your father can not do, assuming your father is the billionaire why your husband is poor, you will see your father and allow the poor husband to die, because you know with your father your children and you will be taken care of.


So rest.


Women will always save that man, that treats them.well, father or not.

friendl:
My wife would rather donate her kidney to her dad than me ,... just be trueful

Raskimonojendor:
The lecture hall doesn't look familiar. Kids these days are very bold. In the early 2000s, she go just manager like 2 extra years. Times have changed.

Maxtipulation:
Ogun should be removed from this country

AMI3:
in the real sense of it i will not just draw conclusion on this rape issue because one need to hear from both parties before taking side

if the guy is guilty of this accusation it is bad.

Well at that age he should have married and settle down and be nacking his wife has he like.
sometimes we don't have to trust police narration on issues. this Nigeria anything can happen

This can also be a set up.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

Maize247:
EFFC was very wrong to have forcefully entered students hostel to arrest students at random in the name of looking for yahoo Boys. There is no where in Nigeria expecially the student environment where you won't see 10 potential yahoo boys among 50 students picked at random. EFCC under this new boss should be careful

BoluwatifeNG:
Na to japa leave this country. Thank God say 3 intl universities recently opened there portal for scholarship program. See my thread if you are interested

segzysexy:
Many Africans (potential deportees) in Germany are solely relying on government benefits. Some of them have more than six children and have been receiving substantial social benefits for each child from the government. A significant portion of these parents seems to be focused on collecting funds from the government, but in return, the government isn’t benefiting from their contributions, as they often choose to remain inactive and become a burden. I don’t blame the German government for this situation.
Let them face the consequences of their actions.

tsdarkside:
kiki....awon japa south east....
you remember how another chinedu was cryin in thailand because nigeria is soo bad that he ended up dealin in drugs....??

that video was hilarious....

the shock in his face was soo funny when the thai police guy mentioned igbos....

LAW2577:
You be local man, this threaded a month ago. ladies with fake parts; 80% of ladies appearance these days are fake; [b]fake puna, [/b]everything fake.

ravensckar:
Your own better, shebi na Ashy you carry. Me, it was my then ex-fiancee that we were engaged to be married. For three years, I didn't touch her. She was screaming 'no sex before marriage'. Then, after the engagement was fixed and done. Something just whispered to me to even make an attempt to see what I'll be enjoying for the rest of my life.

O boy! Na that day I know sey no sex before marriage na scam. Her breast be like Agbalumo, very tiny, but it appeared big all these while due to padded bra. Yansh self small like man own. To make matters worse, hanty come get broad shoulders join. I could have even overlooked all that for the sake of love, but the kind bad odour that was oozing out of that place was disgusting. I made sure I forced myself to cvm then I told her immediately that the relationship was over.

She begged me severally and called all my village people to beg me. I stood my ground and said it was over. As a respect to her, I never told anyone what transpired. It was after some years that I told my parents. Each time I think of that issue, I give thanks to God for helping me dodge a bullet.

Godada:



This reminds of a time I got a lady home. I was hot and ready to go.

We got down to the business of the day then, I took of the bra......

I found out the bra was padded. Nothing dey up.

Even the pant dey padded.

That was it for me.



I gently disengaged and discharged her off.

havecycle:
Inability to drive has deprived me opportunity from getting a job and as I don't have money to pay and be trained by a driving school, I decided to use online resources to learn it.

Steps:

Put the car on neutral before turning it on or press the clutch pedal if it's on gear.

Start the car

Press the accelerator pedal and release your foot from the clutch pedal slowly and the car is on motion.

Press the clutch pedal again to change gear.

Press the break pedal alongside the clutch pedal to slow down and bring the car to a stop.

And so on.

With these, I pray I'm good as I am about to pick up a driving job.

Pray for me and other road users.

I can't stay jobless anymore especially with penniless pocket.

God help me.

Love800:
Every year ending, am always sober, down, fallen-apart, depressed and shattered.

Kobojunkie:
So many millions who don't believe in God also enjoy the same mercy and are not making a big testimony of it. I hope you are not somehow of the mind that if you claim it is a big testimony, God will reward you or something. God is not your mumu abeg!

fullclub:
i recently placed a land with foundation for 9m but no buyer yet... even if i sell it and change it to pounds how much nko

SalamRushdie:
Why will you be living in Brooklyn, Chicago, Philly and even arguing with anyone , most people in these places are frustrated and ready to kill

fullclub:
how many Nigerians can even afford full fees. we are talking between 18 to 25m. i have to sell properties to raise this sum.

after payment of fees you still need about 6m to apply for visa n health insurance and alo flight... even fact keep 35m.

justwise:
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We all know the answer to that question.

Don't tell people not to come to the UK because according to you ...Indians, Pakistani, Malaysia, china etc is overwhelming...

Tell them to come with that money they showed the embassy and the university before getting CAS and visa

If you have that money you will be focusing on your studies now and not job and how to pay remaining fees.