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fatymore:
It does... Except yours is beyond redemption

Are u sayin there are things word of God can not do? Ure contradicting urself madam.. Meanwhile try n aurgue without insult n be civil

fatymore:
Simple thing to do.

Fast everyday until what you can only think of is godliness and read your holy book constantly.

Also do away with things that might lure you into having sex... Delete all those oloshos number from your phone and change that route that takes you to the hotel you use.


And the best deal is to get married
It works

Trust me this doesnt work for men.. Have you asked why many known pastors amd imam fall for sex like pack of cards?

soberdrunk:
Any man that can stay "10 months" without sex isn't a "sex addict". I don't know why some people just like to create imaginary problems for themselves, you are healthy brah, all you have to do is channel that sexual energy to your lady and a few side chics(if you are a variety man) or stay loyal to only your lady and your palms, you will reach a certain age and slow down naturally. Stop looking for what isn't missing, every "normal" man wakes up with erection every single day......

You av said it all my brother.. 10months without sex and you say ure addicted? Me, I can hardly do without sex for 2 weeks straight and I consider myself normal. The only thing is that i am married and my wife once said i am not a sex freak eventhough she knows ill start worying her if i dont av sex in 1 full week... My career is going great.. I do many other things excellently well.. So why create problem where there is none

The solution is get married.. Good enough you currently have someone you love.. Until then avoid prostitutes like plague.. Personally i feel most of them carry bad energy

Aminuyababa:
Nigeria say something!

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Mstick:
When ever men talk about monogamy being unnatural they do so out of pure selfishness because they only expect monogamy from a woman not themselves.

Have you checked the word 'monogamy' from the dictionary before commenting?

Single or multiple marriage partner for women are described by another word entirely, madam 'let me sound inteligent'

juiicii:
I married last year. My wife is a choleric just like myself.she is the type that will not tolerate mistakes from me, if i don't keep things in their position, then hell will let loose,she hardly 'respects' me, she behaves independently and when i threaten divorce, she will say i should do it fast, because of her attitude i hardly give her money, when she demands for money, i will ask her, what of your salary, she will tell me that its my responsibility to give her money for somethings irrespective of her personal earnings. Meanwhile she never brings any money on the table for the family upkeep, i foot the bills :rentage,food,nepa, etc. I stopped buying clothes, etc for her since she put up those attitudes that piss me off. Infact i just don't love her again, we argue a lot except i just lock myself up in one room which is my new method now. Pls experienced advice needed

I doubt both of you are cholerics, peolple with choleric teprament hardly attract each other.. Infact its from dating stage u guys would av started irritating each other... I know this cos i am one.. You guys just need to study each other more and understand that 1 year after marriage is the adjustung stage and you need to weather the storm together.. Treat her like u would like to be treated and say it each time u do so.. She also need to follow biblical principle which is submission while u also need to do thesame which is lovinv her unconditionally.. You are the leader and u should work this out. Speaking from 7 years blisful experience.. 1st year too was storming

sassysure:
U know u are both choleric so why did u still marry her to start spewing rubbish now?
No 1 mistake by you.

Whatever u accuse your wife of doing, u do the same.
Why are u absorbing yourself of any wrong?

I have noticed that to every story here, the person always like to paint him/herself as saint that always married the devil.

Anyway, choleric personality have weak points and soft spots. Look for her weak point and get through her.
Also check her secondary temperament, u 2 May differ and look out for her strong points and encourage her through those strong points. Never ever cage a choleric. Give her maximum freedom and support and watch her relax. When she is relaxed, she will give you her best
Female choleric are very faithful and supportive. Tell us what u did or said that made her react this way.
Words are very important to u guys and u know it


There is one major thing couples that want to marry don't ever look into and that is how the intended spouse lived his or life during their formative yrs.
This to a major extent is what determines who will be as an adult.

God bless you for this piece... Meanwhile which book did u read on temperament? So on point with caging cholerics

Ohemababy:


Nothing wrong sir.

Two cholerics will have to work hard at making a marriage work.

My husband is a very annoying choleric and am phelgmatic. Despite being phelgmatic i still find him very annoying most times.

I know how cholerics behave. Their opinions rule, whatever you think you have to say is zero.


Since your also choleric, look at it from this angle.
How do you want to be treated when you are angry?
How do you want to be spoken to?
Generally, how do you want people around you to behave so as not to upset you.
What would a partner do to make you feel happy and loved.

Ponder on these things and start doing them to her.

Nice one

Islie:
https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/jonathan-visits-soldier-injured-during-gunmens-attack-on-his-residence.html

Doing wat he does best �

DonFreshmoney:
Not that am supporting him but what did the victim do to him that he hit her.. am sure he didn't intend killing hertha girl must have insulted him, no respect for elders..

You are silly for asking this question... So someone should av also killed you the last time u insulted them

MondayUche:
Please, friends, I need this Sienna 2005/6 for transportation on a (HIRE PURCHASE AGREEMENT) For transportation.

PS: I don't have money for a deposit but I have 2 plots of land worth 700/800k at IFO ( Atun close to Winners chapel) as collateral with family receipt.

I just want to work to feed my children please

Please anyone interested in the business should contact me on 08169934065 for discussion and agreement. I am a good driver with over 7yrs experience.

Thanks

Sell one one of the lands and use it as deposit... Stop disturbung peolple here oga

Someone i know is still im police net for pitying someone i know in your condition.. Nigerians are dishonest people

ajibola1979:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/tribuneonlineng.com/2023-elections-buhari-warns-against-using-official-positions-pledges-credible-elections/amp/

That's the spirit... Anyone wanting to contest should ride on his personal history... Your responsibility is to ensure free and fair election. Shikena

netpro:
Netflix is not a religious organization. Select the movie you like and move on.

When will Suleman, Reno and other opportunistic folks, boycott the Internet? There are far more sin on the web than Netflix will ever be.

They should simply make a scene where Mohamed is sucking pussy n let's see the difference

Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.

The only advice I have for you is to please please n please take care of your current woman... She is an angel in human form.. Understanding to the fault Kai...

voltron14:
If he hadn't been embezzling state funds for his private use, many more would have been employed.

The law has no time to look at who else loses but the complainant.

Sense will not kill you

Officialgarri:
So the AGF wants to assume the responsibility of the DSS... What a joke!!

Sowore is a person of interest to the DSS, what does AGF have to do with National security?

I think those of you supporting this impunity will realize how brutal it is when such thing happen to you...Sanctity of human right must be respected not as a personal interest but should be upholded and defended by everyone....One day..you will be held on the street by your enemy (even while you are innocent) who will also prove that you are a person of interest. He will detain you and will ignore law court order to free you until you become a chained human.....

Its not because of sowore, its because everyone has responsibility to ensure sanity of our society....

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

What if the working class lady loose her job immediately after marriage? ... Marry character bro, not job.... I married my wife without a job and today her support has grown my career to the extent of earnings times 4 of my friend and his wife (combined) who married his wife with a banking job 6years ago... Marry character baba..

BlackfireX:
Bring tinubu out for prosecution.... North bring gandollar out for trial.... I will bring deziani out for EFCc..



Anything less than that, shut up..

No more emotional blackmail.

If Tinubu is jailed today so be it...He is not my father or uncle...so if any corrupt politician is being dealt with irrespective of his tribe(even if he is from my hometown) goodluck to him...I was not thee when he/she was eating the money....so don't bother asking me to bring anyone out

BlackfireX:
Leave the woman alone you jobless, propaganda media..... The money she was accused of stealing ,is it your Father's money

Lord have mercy on this slowpoke half baked idiotic individual

CreepyBlackpool:
Before anyone starts abusing the woman, let's not neglect to ask the most important question here,


did the man cheat or not

Does that give the woman ordersity to do that... Are there no men with 3 wives?, Europeans came to this Africa to tell you aw to live your life...

Don't marry more than one wife but it's okay of men are sleeping with men and women with women... We as Africans with low self asteem went ahead to adopt their way of life and the result is more divorce and disfunctional family

Monogamy:
Typical iyanmiri reasoning.. Always upside down

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Let me help you..

Typical iyanmiri mentality..Always ridiculing his mother on online forums...Awon omo irankiran

Why should raping someone mother be something to play with??

sulasa07:
I don't need to disprove anything,did it mention where anyone should punish anyone,ALLAH specifically said:We will punish them with our punishment.

absolutely

frosbel2:
Wrong, you obviously do not read the news.

ISIS was defeated almost single handedly by the Kurds with support from US troops and it was Obama who laid the foundation for this approach during his presidency.

You guys are so far down the pit of delusion that only a miracle can awaken you to facts.

I disagree...how come it took so long for Obama?

Also he issue of preaching regulation and merry Xmas greetings(Which Obama as planing to change to Happy Holidays)......May be you should speak on that..I personally like him because he promised his supporters something and he is doing exactly that. Not the tipical hypocritical politician
I do not support him based on Xtain community point of view, I am only trying to give you ponts why they like him...

because he stoped the evil agenda of ISIS and muslim leaders planing to Islamize the world through western migration and terrorism....

Obama was busy romancing ISIS claiming to kill Osama and condoning Islam shenanigans

TVSA:
I understand it, you don't need to explain to me. Hope you will listen to an Ogun worshipper's explanation why s/he makes rituals.

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ok Good luck

Kylekent59:
All I noted is that you both ain't matured.

So a full grown adults who are married can't control their sexual urge.

From my view, you are the problem. Who knows, you could have been the one that insisted on raw sex. When you were releasing / ejaculating inside her, you didn't know you were about to form a baby.


The deed had been done, endure it so that next time you are about to release inside her, you would remember your past mistakes.


If you are waiting for Nairalanders to advise you to get the pregnancy aborted , you are wasting your time.

Obviously, you are not married or you are st best newly married..How will you advice a married man to abstain from sex with his wife? Don’t you know that’s what causes mist misunderstanding at home.. couple that will have issues start from abstinence... I think the couple should better go for itge mrams of contraceptives. CopperT is there n more reliable..

TVSA:
Christians criticizing other religious texts always make me laugh

No one is criticizing..we only telling them to explain what we do not understand..Just like you are talking about communio and other Chrsitian practice without understanding. If you ask, we will explain

sulasa07:
I don't need to disprove anything,did it mention where anyone should punish anyone,ALLAH specifically said:We will punish them with our punishment.

Yes, many verses talked about punishing Apostates

Below

Quran 16:106 - He who disbelieves in Allah after his having believed, not he who is compelled while his heart is at rest on account of faith, but he who opens (his) breast to disbelief-- on these is the wrath of Allah, and they shall have a grievous chastisement.

sulasa07:
All the evils done swiped away with just one person's death,what about all those that died,for nothing.Christianity is a joke.
Thats called trying to escape being judged for the evils ur god committed,such a stupid excuse.Grace and Mercy my ass.Someone died for your sins,so you can keep on committing your sins.How is ur god different from Ogun,Obatala,Esu that requires human and blood sacrifice,the Romans just modernized and advanced it to look good and beautiful.

If you do not understand the concept, ask and we will explain to you...Any controversy you have in Chrsitianity, Ill answer you with scriptures and paste it here boldly not hiding behind emotions like you guys do....

FYI.Chrsit did not die for us to continue in SINs

Romans 6:1-2

1. What then shall we say? Shall we continue in sin so that grace may increase?
2. Certainly not! How can we who died to sin live in it any longer

On death of Christ for atonement of Sins, It was prophesied many year ago before his arrival. not anything made up by any Roman or Constantine

Zacharia 12: 10 “And zI will pour out on the house of David and the inhabitants of Jerusalem a spirit of grace and zpleas for mercy, so that, awhen they look on me, on him whom they have pierced, bthey shall mourn for him, cas one mourns for an only child, and weep bitterly over him, as one weeps over a firstborn.

Many scriptures cited him before he lived

You can ask me any question bro

sulasa07:
The verses you are going to bring will be doing with war/battle times.There is no single verse in the Qur'an that says anyone should punish an Apostate.

I have mentioned the verses, please disprove it

Please bring out the verse and highlight where it talked about after life.

Dont just make emotional argument. Remember I tld you I once converted to Islam when I was not sure of hat christianity is all about

so please provide me answers not argue blindly

sulasa07:
There is a saying:"Show me ur friends,and I will tell you who you are."
When dealing with an Atheist or someone neither Christian nor Jew,I will answer them without refering to the bible and if they are either Christian or jew,I will refer them to in the way of the bible coz thats the only way for them to reason to it and believe.
All the verses he quoted about Apostates has to do with after death not when they are alive.Qnd I don't know how you people seems concerned in a book you are not supposed to believe in.

sulasa07:
Are there no honour killings in India done by Hindus, Honour killings is synonymous to the Asians especially India and Pakistan not the Muslims
Have you read the killing verses from the bible that even said to kill babies(but,arent babies sinless),check the bible first.

We are not talking about Hindus..Lets leave those ones for another topic.

We are talking about Islam, so if you av a counter productive verses to disaprove my point and view of many logical Islam critics, please state it here

Meanwhile, I agree bible also contain horror stories.However, Christ death and resurrection nullified all those stories and replaced it with new covenant and that where you missed it and that is where it is totally different from your so called Qoran and preaching of your prophet