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sauer: fisherwoman? wow! now, that's cool. Never heard of omena. but it sure sounds tasty with the way you describe it. I'm no veggie myself, anywyz, though I think I'd love to be one. It just such an honourable undertaking.
i sailed on local rivers, inner waterways, if you will. I've sailed in airplanes above larger waters, though :p
did you just mention environmentalists? are you one? that's another lofty undertaking that tickles my mind.
Now, I really don't think it so scary being a bad swimmer and parading the waters. I take necessary precaution. Life jackets and such things. I can't stop myself traveling on water. I simply cant!

Arghh my weakness.I can talk hours on end and I got to prepare my fishing nets for tomorrow.
Nway Omena is the name given to the tiny fish by a famous fishing tribe in my country.Their economic activity is fishing.It's alocal dialect so I do not know what they are called in english or swahili.(my national language)
Tasty? never tasted.They look like small little shiny swords ready to wound.Not very mouth friendly to me.
Well well am an environmentalist in my own small way.Never won an award though cz my environment is my little sorrounding.I however love anything that touches on nature.I even have a blog on nature photos. Oh did I tell u I love photography?? ah! that's a topic for another day.
Now now Mr.Sailor,I will tell u why its important to learn how to swim.
In my country some years back, we had a major ferry tragedy.Hundreds of people lost their lives in the shark infested waters! The few who made it knew how to swim.Even though its not easy during that moment of panic cz a drowning person can take u down with him.
Life jackets are good yeah, until you see a shark swimming in ur direction!! you will curse the jacket.

Finally are you in any way related to one Tom sawyer? Your name reminds me of the character.And guess what? he was a sailor!!


Jeez am even scared of my own self and talk.I surrender now.

Flashaldrin: babe i love your swag
you dey do me yori yori
babe you fine die
guy when you go take me out naa
guy send me credit naa

sauer: oh, well, I've been out on the sea. Not many times, though. I've been so close I could touch the water as we moved, and quite far I could only admire its deceptive serenity. Streams? I must have had a bath down in one while younger. Oh yes, I spent some time in the countryside Though am a bad swimmer, I don't think am afraid of the waters.
and you? don't tell me you a sailor! Plus who watches Veggietales and is not a vegetarian!?

Well me! I watch them yet I can eat a roasted bull alone.Do you really think that people sing about how they live?
I believe the characters behind those cartoons are meat lovers. Yeah on tv they talk vegie but at home they eat meat burgers in darkness
Back to sailing. How did you guess right?? .Yeah,I sail cz am a fisherwoman.I catch small fish called omena.You know those lil tiny silverish things with shiny eyes? Mmhh .That is what takes me out into the ocean everyday.
So which sea was this you sailed? The black sea? cz we got many black seas in Africa. The environmentalists can confirm that.
Now tell me, how cld you risk sailing if you can't swim? Anybody contemplating going out into the sea must at least learn hw to swim.You never know and its good to increase ur chances of survival you know.I cant even cross the ferry if I do not know how to swim! I just have this phobia.

Ok I guess that's enough practicals for the op

[quote author=to+by]sup mama, how'r you doing really been its long time hearing from you.[/quote]Would you be kind enough to just introduce yourself? All these usernames I cant tell who is who really.

^^ in the library

sauer: of course, it could work. the talk would certainly branch out according to each person's likes or dislikes. Having no idea about vegetarianism or being in opposition to it could as well be a nice topic to discuss.
Perhaps we need to talk someday, so you'll discover how interesting such talk can be

You know there are several ways to reach that very topic on veges without taking on a vegie character.
You now remind me of my favorite cartoon series, the vegie tales and their sailor song.
Talking of sailor,have you ever sailed anywhere or are you a boatman afraid of deep seas?? Ok first,have you ever been out in the sea,river or stream? which one?
If so am ready to hear of the adventure as soon as am back from fixing us a mug of coffee. BRB.
There you go! I have kicked it off.If you answer you are in trouble cz now you won't rest.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]My advice is to be friends first and let it flow naturally.[/quote]well said

Flashaldrin: You'd be awed at the kinda things they discuss.

eg?

If you run out of things to talk about, SLEEP!

And have sex? Sex in the early stages of a relationship dulls ones mind esp for smbody who has nothing to talk about.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Find things that are of interest for the pair of you.

When you are incompatible it will show in the conversations.

It is also good to incorporate other people in the conversation. Not personal conversations, but general conversations because then you will learn more things about your partners.

I learned a lot about Mr. Chima by how he interacts with his friends, coworkers, and family.[/quote]You know there's nothin as bad as dating somebody and having nothing to talk about. You exhausted the intros at the first date!
At times,I see people out on dates and all they do is stare at each other and keep busy with drinks. They look bored and the girl starts fidgeting.
My tip is, for instance
if you are in a restuarant,pick a topic out of what you see.Say the waiter,the service,the menu,the music.
If you are in the park,talk about the city,the people,the environment
If in the library choose an interesting book or discuss a love poem.
On the highway,cars,traffic,craze.

In short the sorroundings hold the conversation.Learn to unlock and everything just flows.There's no rule or program if you are at ease with each other.It automatically pops up.
Gd luck.

sauer: [b]For instance, if she ate meat, ask if she's thought about being a veg.You guys can then talk about the advantages/disadvantages of being a veg. There's a lot to talk about there!

Vegetales?? Ok ok,not bad but gosh that won't work for me no way cz I will leave you talking to yourself

annoymous: Truth z dat we know almost everything bout each oda already.
I need advice on exciting topics we can discuss.
I also don't know if her refusal to commit to a relationship should be a warning sign because it is very obvious she digs me.

Guy are you serious? Can one run out of topics? I think you guys hve talked about your lives a lot.You have exhausted everything about family,growing up,hobbies,school and the present.
Now you are stuck!

This is where the challenge is.Testing each other's intellect on real life issues. You go a step higher and start bringing in the world to spice up your talk.
See,Life is more than the two of you.We live in a political,environmental socio-economic world.
We watch events happen around us everyday. We come across stuff as we go about our day to day errands.
You want to tell me that you cannot find a topic out of those I highlighted? Wow I always complain about not having enough time to chat, not topics because I always have something cooking in my mind. A million things infact cz my senses are alert 24/7.
You know what I think? I think it also depends on ur life and what you do.Do you keep up with events local and international? do you read magazines,blogs,journals stuff,watch tv?
Out of all those it's very easy to pick out subject and dissect it for hours or days.
If one is not exposed to events happening around them,they will find nothing to talk about except what they ate for lunch and dinner day in day out.
And the relationship becomes a bore.

Why do men like to act single becz Mrs is pregnant?

1. They are insensitive.
2. They feel insecure.
3. They do not value or uphold the marriage vows.
4. Fear of the unknown.
5. They are lustful.
6. They are greedy -coveting what is not theirs.
7. Lack of knowledge on pregnancy.


There is no excuse for cheating because humans are not wild animals.Animals don't make vows before God and the community.
Try to appreciate what you got married to.Help her become better.Don't run away from her because her tummy is increasing in size.
You can still enjoy sex up to the 8th month with your wife!.You just learn how to do it.

Well for the women.Do not neglect ur self and start looking like youv just come from the market when you are around him.
Look good,smell good,wear nice dresses not sheets.Just look good and stay sober.Involve him in the stages of the pregnancy.
Some women's attitudes during pregnancy chase their husbands away.
And please take care of those crazy cravings.Communicate with him so he doesnt find his dirty socks eaten.

*seen*

omg what is online transmitted disease!!??

you r all funny and crazy.

Ouch.Is as much as the picture is graphic the reporter is just another one.
The narration sounds sadistic.Spare some explanations please.ouch
The pliers and screw driver details gives me chills!!
Can't even comment cz this is extreme madness.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Pendo! Pendo! Pendo! Pendo!

How many times I called you?

Come eat this rice and eggs with me. The fight is getting good![/quote] Why did u call me many times? I understand tht calling smbody's name x3 is death!!

Ok what dd u call it?jollof? sounds like it contains sponge

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]Dies on Arrival. . .

Did i make the list? [/color][/quote]Apparently everybody that happened to be online at the time of his posting was a Bokoharam,including seun himself.

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]I'm saving that ID for future use. . . If i log on with it now, there'll be an uproar. [/color][/quote]Now ur mad! U know a dude once came up with a great discovery.He said hes discovered tht all NLanders are Boko harams.My name too was on that list.
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[quote author=~Killz~] [/quote]Where did Mamilola19 go? did u send her parking out of Nl? .
[quote author=Mrs.Chima]No darling.....I am very salty raw particularly to manbitches. Killz is getting there though. However, I am married to Killz' strapping and handsome brother.

Be right back....gotta stir the rice.[/quote]lol !! Have u forgeotten the thread where somebody said pendo was cuddlemii?? and tht 190 was a robot made by seun??

yep.
This is my analysis.You always post after sexkillz.So you must be him.I have exposed you!

chima is sexkillz.

[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]Who is fighting? Can't you see what is "really" going on here? [/color][/quote]what would happen if you just ignore this thread?.
If u feel targeted just step out and the arrows wont have anywhere to land.If it was offline then it would be a diff case.
I know who hawtin is.A she of course.But so what?? it shouldnt bother me.

Mamalola19 opened a thread here and begged u guys to stop fighting, where is she to bring some sanity?.

acidtalk: From the above, it is evident that the most common thing said here is "PRETENCE". Which leads me to the next question;

HOW CAN ONE IDENTIFY A PRETENDING PARTNER

By spending lots of time with them.Don't be in a rush to seal a relationship. Take time before you commit and don't be blinded by sex or the lack of it.
Do not ignore all advise.You do not spend 24 hrs with ur partner so what do u think she/he could be doing behind your back? If anybody tells u something nasty about him/her don't just assume that they are jealous.It could be true after all.
I like googling up people.If you claim not to have a past (good/bad) I doubt you.One must be open with the person they choose to share their lives with.
I prefer you bring out the skeletons then al know if I can handle them cz sooner or later they will pop out of the closet.

Finally,If you don't want a pretending partner do not be one. At times people react to what they are presented with in order to fit.

swiftycool: @pendo u must really believe this ur story is very touchy cos its happened to one woman in a million? I stay in Uk and for your information this is exactly and in many cases even a small deal of the experience at least 3 in every 10 young guys in the Uk have had especially with young ladies they brought from d bush in Naija and trained up here in uk, only to ditch them after all the sacrifice made on them.
Am even sure ur story (if true) must have happened to a guy dating a younger lady rather than vice versa.

I agree with you.It happens. That is why it's better at times to pick out a partner from the crowd you hang out with frequently cz they re used to a familiar environment.You get to see their true colours where you both are.
I think a majority of African men aren't particularly good at handling such relatioships genuinely because of society influence.They will date an older woman but end up settling with younger one for the obvious reasons.(just my thought)
A man that goes for an older woman must be mentally sharp and mature for his age or else it won't last cz I don't think women enjoy baby sitting a grown up.
If the man is dumb and young then I can only assume its a parasitic kind of relationship.

oh lord

Holorunloseyi: what is the title of this movie

Tribulations of dating a younger Man.Real life exp.

Now since nobody believes the story this is what I am going to do.My friend lectures where this student was and he knows him well.
The lady is their family friend.I am going to request him to send me his full details,his graduation pics, including the family,to back this story cz I will show him the link.
Maybe one or two people will be able to identify him. Then we can call it nolly/bolly/holly wood

bennyraz: kai, u get time o. So if OP was married to you, you would be ok with it if he kept his past single female friends as close buddies hun? Make you & shollypopz and op dey deceive una self dey mislead all d mumu wey dey NL. Shiooo! tofiakwa!

I have sober mind and I interact with like minded individuals.I mingle and interact with all manner of people,single married,teens,kids.I know how to behave like Roman when I go to Rome. Keep boundaries and if you do not trust yourself or if your friend doesnt feel comfortable having you around then stay off for peace sake.
I cannot stop my partner from having single female friends! Is he a prisoner or child? What of single biz colleagues,Must I always suspect him everytime a woman calls?
Why should I be so insecure? It simply shows that I don't trust him at all.Then the problem is not the friends but him.

I dont even know why women/men spend so much time dealing with the the 3rd party.It only fuels the fire.
Manage/tame what you 'own' what is yours and set it free.His conscience won't allow him/her to do some things even if the opportunity presents itself.
Are there such men and women? of course.They owe it to their family and know what a vow means.
But I guess we are not all the same.

Lemmie give my 2 cents here.
First no one comes as a ready made package. Have you ever talked to divorced people? They always say HE/SHE changed!!
Truth is, people don't change.Their evil nature was only lying dormant waiting for the right time and environment to manifest.
That is why trials are good.They come to test our character and all the good virtues you've highlighted up there.
When people are dating they hide a number of flaws.They hate revealing their true self cz they fear losing the one they love.
But once the relationship is sealed through marriage,they feel free to be their real selves.The small demons that have been acting as angles break lose.
Now that is what.
This is what I prefer.Just be yourself.Naturally and emotionally.Don't try too hard to be what you are not so as to please or trap anybody.
Truth be told theres always a person for each one of us including even the madman.
Allow ur partner to see ur true self before you walk down that aisle.That way she/he will not say she was deceived or blinded.