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RomanceRe: How Can She Change Her Husband To Avoid This Divorce by pendo89(f): 10:33am On May 07, 2012
I feel so tired on her behalf.What a life!
I can't advise.Will only wait to read another thread with gruesome photos.
In the meantime let her take all the crap and force herself on a man who wants absolutely nothing to do with her.
Marriage or no marriage where life is at risk u move simple.Must u wait for it to get worse? really? esp when theres no hope in the horizon? cz of a child who may end up losing u as well?
Oh the question is how she can change him? well sorry she cant! Only God can.If she has done her best and her part as a wife and there's still no change?
By the way its always good to hear the other side of the story so as to make a proper judgement.These one sided stories aren't good/fair
RomanceRe: I Don't Want To De-flower Her! by pendo89(f): 10:13am On May 07, 2012
You don't want to so don't!! Jeez. Is she pointing a gun to ur head??
Why not date a non virgin then?? Besides there are many men looking for virgins so u are just a wrong pair.
RomanceRe: Nairalanders Remember Me? by pendo89(f): 10:06am On May 07, 2012
she's scared of your beard or past? grin
Never ever force things into being.She already has a soft spot so,I wish u could withdraw a bit and see how fast she comes running back.Girls can be funny at times.
Thing is this, once you discover she has a soft spot don't act desperate cz its not an attractive quality.It can be repulsive to a girl.
Show a girl u love that you are man enough to move on if she's not responding and leave the chase to her.
This doubting can be annoying but give her time to decide as she could be weighing several options.
FamilyRe: No Intimacy For 4 Years, Is Dis A Problem??? by pendo89(f): 2:33pm On May 06, 2012
I am just wondering if the hubby is also abstaining.
RomanceRe: Is It Advisable To Date Your Neighbour? by pendo89(f): 10:08pm On Apr 29, 2012
sexkillz: [color=#000030]Story story. . . I'll only believe this if you can tell me humans have lost the capacity of being jealous. . . You talk as if there are no emotions attached to seeing someone else hit on your lady "everyday". You think it's that easy as you make it sound? I'd rather they "hit" on her without my knowledge than actually witnessing it, or having friends or fellow neighbors discussing her, calling her a flirt or a cheat when they see other guys with her simply because the whole neighborhood knows we are dating. . . Thanks, but i'll pass on Dating my neighbor. . . Again and again and AGAIN! wink[/color]
1.No we haven't lost the ability but there's a point in life where our emotions mature.That stage where we can trust our better half to go on a biz trip with male workmates and still trust that she will not endulge in anything silly.A partner is not a dog on leash.


2.If they keep hitting on ur lady daily it means she is desirable.I think the opposite is worse.Think about it!You get hit on as well,that's ok as long as you know ur boundaries.Its okay to let birds fly over ur head but don;t let them lay eggs on it. I would only feel horrible if she flirts with those hitting on her but if she respects me I have no qualms.Some risks test ur relationship.
You will never know how deep you love each other till u face some risks and overcome them.Avoiding doesnt make you grow at all.

3.You telling me the reason u cant date her is cz 'neighbours will talkhuh' Damn! you cant stop people from talking! even here on nl they talk.They have been talking since Adam and Eve.If people dont talk about you,then you are irrelevant and useless. Thing is this,are they talking good of her/him? are they talking out of jealousy? Why listen to gossiping neighbours? Ok if you happen to hear aren't u able to sift,spit and stay strong??Where in this world will you find a place without gossipers?

4.Are u telling me that you would ignore that sweet neighbourhood girl with all the qualities u admire and hook up with some crazy one far away? cz neighbours will talk?? very shallow for me.

Its just my opinion.I wouldn't mind really as long as I got nothing to hide.

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RomanceRe: Is It Advisable To Date Your Neighbour? by pendo89(f): 7:18pm On Apr 28, 2012
[quote author=~Killz~][color=#000030]You get to see much of her unnecessarily. You tend to start feeling jealous when you see other guys around hitting on her. Basically, you'll find it hard to trust her after a while, and you'll just hate her for nothings sake! It's not advisable, unless you want frequent heartbreaks.

It's even better if she was 1000 meters away, i.e 1km away, than 100 meters. . . That's a NO NO!
[/color][/quote]Guys will still hit on her wherever she is,near or far. So what you don't see doesn't hurt? how about what you hear?
Do we trust our partners even though we can't see what they are doing 24/7?
If you cannot trust ur partner around guys or ladies then don't bother dating. Put a tracking devise inside them for ur comfort.
It's a jungle we live in, full of predators. One must learn to co exist with the predators and survive to see another day.
Hate her cz she's talking to guys? if she double dates just break it! But if she loves you alone, is she prohibited from talking to guys? a bit immature if asked.
What frequent heartbreaks? She breaks ur heart once and you cut it off and move on.Just don't dont commit a criminal offence as you do so.That way u remain friends.

Do we have couples that met in campus? student accomodation,sharing everything within the years spent there?
How comes familiarity didn't breed concept? At times this statement sounds like a fallacy.


My answer is yes.If he is single and posesses the qualites I admire.
RomanceRe: The Next Nigga That Approaches Me When Am Studying!!!! by pendo89(f): 6:54pm On Apr 28, 2012
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RomanceRe: My Phone Rang And All The Gals Just Went Crazy.. by pendo89(f): 6:52pm On Apr 28, 2012
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

@ replies. undecided
RomanceRe: Jagged Edge (romance, Fiction) by pendo89(f): 2:51pm On Apr 28, 2012
@naijasexy..

You got talent girl.
Don't let it rot on nl.Get it out there for the masses as well.
Blog,write book anything.You can do short scripts.
RomanceRe: Before You Date Anyone In Nigeria And Abroad, Read This Article by pendo89(f): 10:15am On Apr 28, 2012
~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima,

@ chima.dd ur husband write the above article??
FoodRe: What Is Your Favorite Relaxation Drink And Recipe? by pendo89(f): 7:32pm On Apr 27, 2012
Coffee,coffee and more coffee.
Black strong and organic.Nothing else. kiss
Foreign AffairsRe: U.S. Warns Of Possible Terror Attacks In Kenya by pendo89(f): 6:53pm On Apr 27, 2012
Yeah that is their daily song and then next the travel alerts.
Kenya has been aware of these threats since the war began months ago.Us just love being on news.
RomanceRe: Ten Great Things About Dating Older Women by pendo89(f): 3:05pm On Apr 25, 2012
Holorunloseyi: that means we should watch out for season2
smiley
RomanceRe: I'm Losing All My Married Female Friends by pendo89(f): 12:03pm On Apr 24, 2012
bennyraz: yes, we are not the same being. I just hope what you wrote here about yourself is the truth nothing but the whole truth if not? #GODISWATCHIN U
Life is too short to live in pretence.I lack the energy to act really.

And why does every thread have this 'GOD IS WATCHING YOU'? Did TB warn people?? undecided
Nairaland GeneralRe: My Canadian Friend Said Nairaland Is Childish And I Think Its True by pendo89(f): 6:06am On Apr 24, 2012
fubbyy: @ pendo , do you think censoring those words will make them pass their jamb? Beside if you censor the words will you censor the porn sites the kids visits? The remedy is internet denial from them not censoring common words their teachers uses for them in school while teaching biology,Its ridiculous when I see Joystick being censored,this is romance and sexuality section,why opening such section when he doesn't know the meaning? Seun is doing the right thing at the wrong place,its like preaching gospel in a night club.
@ ogugua , no vex o
If I don't like it I won't login.
If I want more than I what I get from sexuality I simply move to another website.no headache.
Nairaland GeneralRe: My Canadian Friend Said Nairaland Is Childish And I Think Its True by pendo89(f): 12:20am On Apr 24, 2012
lipsrsealed
Nairaland GeneralRe: My Canadian Friend Said Nairaland Is Childish And I Think Its True by pendo89(f):
Do you know that the number of adolescents on nl is more than the adults??

check the jamb thread.
whatever.
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 6:36pm On Apr 23, 2012
Ishilove: I am not much of a talker,so if perchance I find you boring,I'll copy and paste a smile on my face,nod my head and give you the standard two liners. You have to be a witty character in order to flow with me,so guys have to first study their object of interest before commencing on probing or non-probing questions
LOL But how will he do that unless he opens his mouth to ask anything? That will be like asking him to judge a book by its cover and if he does so he will def blunder nd you will complain.
But I guess we are not talking about complete strangers here?You are trying to strike a conversation with somebody who admires you.
In that case he must have gone past the 'studying the object of interest' stage. Its the reason he picked you but now he wants to know a lil bit more about you.
Now imagine yourself with such a guy in a restuarant and all you are giving him is the standard 2 liner undecided. Not fair or what do you think?
2 liners are for strangers.Not people we have fallen in love with.
And in case you find his talk boring like I said, change it.Ask that witty question and change the platform.He will be shocked and sail with you.
If he seems ignorant about what you are talking about then before u dismiss him, realise that nobody knows it all.He may know stuff you don't know and that is where we learn from each other.
If after the 3rd date you still cant find a common ground undecided prt ways cz you may both be good at fighting than talking. grin
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 6:06pm On Apr 23, 2012
Ishilove: I'd find this kind of conversation mind numbingly boring. I'd prolly make all the appropriate "hmphs" and "haas" at the right places while all the time my mind is far away in more exciting climes
I know what u mean and I have done that before.The problem with me is if you don't talk I will go.Oh I sure will cz I can't stand a man who doesn't know how to lead.I hat eit when I am the one pushing the conversation really.I am good at initiating and responding but I love the latter.
The many instances you will find me initiating is if the man is a bore.An extreme bore and these type do not even challenge you.They tend to agree with all you say.Something that really puts me off! angry
I dont know but I think some men want to read the girl,maybe see what she is capable of talking about.
Some are probably shy to stir up exciting conversations. No probs cz when you get to know each other well then you will be at ease to discuss anything.
These boring conversations as you call them are like the crust of the earth's surface. There is the core but as we said you only talk such stuff when your relationship is stable.Its not fair to do the haas LOL and make him talk and talk in vain. Just change course.

If I want to know how learned you are,I will for instance talk about the education standards in the country.Get ur input there.
Knwo why? cz some people hate direct questions esp if you are still trying to get to know each other.
See when I ask sauer about sailing? All I am asking is have you travelled anywhere before? That will give me an insight and I will know the next question to shoot.He will also answer in a way that will make me guess where he is at currently.I dont need to ask him 'are u in lagos or not.
RomanceRe: My New Girlfriend Persist I Must Meet Her People Before Starting A Relationship by pendo89(f): 3:35pm On Apr 23, 2012
buchi4action: i will send the contact no to you after i finish bleeping her...(first come first serve.) i've spend a lot on her (buy her phone,cloth etc) I NEED TO BE COMPESATED.
TYPICAL MENTALITY[b].AND YET YOU ARE THE SAME PEOPLE OPENING THREADS LEFT RIGHT AND CENTER COMPLAINING THAT YOUR GIRLS LOVE MONEY AND BB.[/b]
I stopped blaming the girls long ago because of this kind of mentality displayed by the majority.
You meet a nice girl,you buy her love then cry baby. What a pathetic mentality.
You are a free man so do what pleases you.But I keep saying that, if you perfect the habit of breaking innocent lady's hearts you are only cursing ur self.
The day to settle will come,you will search for a descent girl with tears in ur eyes.Or if you find one that you plan to marry,she will break ur heart in way that will make you curse all nigerian girls,like we see on forum everyday.

There are many girls not interested in real relatioships.Why not date them? Or approach this ur girl and tell her that you bought her love.She can return the phone u know.

Its your life anyway.
PoliticsRe: What Is Africa's Biggest Problem? by pendo89(f): 2:24pm On Apr 23, 2012
Uuhm did I read this question on L? smiley

Nway Our biggest problem is OURSELVES.

We hate each other
We fight each other
We are tribal,
We are difficult to change
We are too suspicious
We fear risks
We feel inferior
We just don't believe that anything good can come out Africa.

Well am none of the above but am african. smiley
FamilyRe: Will You Adopt A Child With Your Spouse? by pendo89(f): 2:23pm On Apr 23, 2012
oh yes without doubt.
If I am able to provide,care and raise them as my own why not? oh I would love to kabisa.
LiteratureRe: Naija Young Writers Club- Join Now! by pendo89(f): 2:20pm On Apr 23, 2012
lola needs to join this.The girl is talented.
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 1:36pm On Apr 23, 2012
9jadelta: that means u are boring .. U wnt start a topic and yet u wnt flow along with the topic the other party brought sad
I will swiftly change course if it's boring. You know breaking the ice here is the thing and to do so we try to pick any topic.
Now what you pick doesn't have to appeal to me and I don't have to struggle to keep it afloat just to please you.
Read through the responses and see what some guys suggest.Some want to go straight into the girl's pants. That's an automatic put off.
You don't expect a serious girl to flow along with that quest.just cz u wnt to know her colour ?. let me give u a tip.
Girls make up the kind of fellow you are through your opening statement.It takes the first few lines to conclude if she will go out on a date with you again or avoid you.Make sure you impress her with your conversation, if you want to see her again.You'd rather pretend that you'v lost your voice than ask an inappropriate quest.

Good eg.some time last year,I connected with one blogger on linkedIn because according to his profile he was a blog expert and i needed tips and advice.
After giving him my skype his opening statement was exactly what 190 suggested up there.I blocked him immediately and deleted him.
How do u go straight into somebody's pants before you even get to know them well?? Not every girl out there is a pro u know so tread carefully.
Now it doesnt matter how good you are at anything.Ask an inappropriate question and u find urself in the trash. grin grin
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 12:59am On Apr 23, 2012
[quote author=Mrs.Chima]You would be surprised how many dumb women would wear their wigs and loose weaves to the pool. undecided undecided[/quote]lol chima!! I once went into the pool with a weave on.Some years back. embarassed lipsrsealed
Mhhh my weave became like sisal!!it stuck together on my head like glue. I couldnt comb through so I removed it. embarassed embarassed grin grin grin

About coffee? I bought Nescafe in the US but I disliked the taste.It dint taste like our nescafe! undecided

I dont know if some of our brands can be found there but top on my list are

Nescafe
Dormans
Sasini.
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 12:50am On Apr 23, 2012
[quote author=Mrs.Chima]Did I say something out of turn? huh huh huh huh[/quote]lol not really.i used that in alight way. Ur comment was very very funny.About the wigs.I just visualised it and now my ribs ache
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 12:43am On Apr 23, 2012
sauer: High time you opened a coffee-exporting company with base in your village! tongue
make me some coffee too, would you!? I like coffee too and prefer it to tea; not crazy about it though. No i havent seen anything from the ethiopians. how do they do it? They eat it raw? grin
okay, waiting for the blog. . . .
But why laugh? I can chew roasted coffee beans like popcorns.Mild roast though.Its tasty. undecided
The ethiopians brew organic coffee and they attach culture to their brewing.They also burn incense in the process so it's usually a small ceremony but part of their daily life.
The coffee beans are washed,roasted and ground as the guests watch.Its later put in an 'Alladdin resembling kettle' grin and a lil water poured in.
They then boil it and serve guests in 3 stages.But before that the guests are given a type of bread or popcorns to eat.
That coffee I tell u can knock ur brains out if ur not a coffee lover.No cream, its just black and tasty.Not talking of the aroma. smiley

Back to me.I process mine without ceremony.I simply grab some beans from the store ie if some are remaining cz they are usually taken to the collecting centres for delivery.
I then proceed to wash,roast,peel and grind. It doesnt come out very fine like a machine woul but its still pure and original.Very tasty.

You see most of our coffee is auctioned.Its exported as beans and refined abroad.Those are the laws that were killing farmers.
The buyers abroad preferred to refine it on their own and resell.The package would read something like made in UK.Yet it came from some farmer deep in Kenya or Ethiopia. The laws have changed and I was told teh farmers are free to refine and sell it to whoever but through a local company.(their own of course)
Coffee has thus become gold.
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 12:10am On Apr 23, 2012
[quote author=Mrs.Chima]African men are lethal in the swimming pool! All women in the pool are subjected to bra and pants snatching. Of course, it is done by the boyfriend or husband.....follow by the overhead dunking! Needless to say that many wigs and weaves have raced to the finish line! lipsrsealed

I am still scarred from that! cry cry cry cry[/quote]huh huh Are you okay?

grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
brb to answer u
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 11:58pm On Apr 22, 2012
sauer: roasting coffee? wetin I never hear this one nite from this swahili lady! Give me your blog in the mean time, am curious!
I deleted the coffee part on purpose cz I know this talk wont stop! Jeez grin
Yes I love coffee like crazy.Whenever I travel to the village I roast the beans, grind then make coffee.No machines just a pestle and mortar.
The same coffee that is sold in UK like gold.smh.
Have u ever seen the way ethiopians do it? yep.
Will give u the link to the blog not here though.I am still adding pics.
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 11:49pm On Apr 22, 2012
sauer: Wow, did i just read that in 2 seconds!? And then again in 5 seconds? grin okay, goodnite, milady. We should talk again sometime soon. I'll drop my addy. . . . only if u up for it!
grin grin
Lala salama. sawasawa unaweza tuma salamu. (That's ur first swahili lesson)

Chima!! angry angry tongue
RomanceRe: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 11:37pm On Apr 22, 2012
sauer: okay, kenyan lady. stop right there. U got to teach me swahili, right away! oh man, u got to teach me that language!
I see you are a small Maathai yourself. I won't be surprised if you derive your inspiration from her already.
Oh, hmmm. . . .does it appear you are stealing my interests? U must be kidding me! I also love photography. I used to be a critic though, until I saw one of Oshodi's photographs where it appeared as though the building took a picture of itself. Saw this at an exhibition in Lagos. I appreciate photography more as art than as a personal, frivolous facebook undertaking. How about wildlife? Are your pictures restricted to just plants. . . .or trees and shrubs?
Well, I quite agree with you. i think I should begin practicing my swimming a little harder. but you sure won't find me in such ferry incidents sha.
No, am not related to Tom Saywer. Read the book though. . . .and many more of Twain and Dickens. I won't be surprised to learn you are a versatile reader. Read 19th century literature? and not just Ngugi?

Okay, I do hope OP is picking up one or two lessons from on here! grin
You got to stop first!! its my weakness I told u esp if I find somebody who shares my interests.
Swahili is beautiful esp the songs.People always tell me that swahili songs are sexy! I think Tanzanians (where is nayah) are best at that.
Perhaps u can start by listening to swahili songs and catching the rhythim.I recommend one musician called Kidum,Jaydee,argh just google cz they are many.
Kidum is a celebrated artist in EA but of burundian descent plus many more.
Oh don't remind me of maathai cry cry we lost her to cancer.Never seen a passionate environmentalist like her in my life.
You know she was carried in a haycinth casket and her body cremated?? No wood was used cz she believed that wooden coffins contribute to environment degradation. May she rip. sad
I love photography so much, It's actually people who call me paparrazzi cz I take pics of anything that catches my attention.I found myself with so many photos so I decided to just create a blog and upload them there.I find it quite interesting and if theres one thing I never miss in my bag is my camera.
Thank u for reminding me.Lemmie charge the battery. smiley
I also love wildlife ie if u consider geckos as part. grin.Maybe I should have studied botany and zoology! embarassed
Do I love reading? yes but Online! since everybody put their stuff online I have become so lazy to buy anything.Everything I need is just a click away.
Talk of life made easy!
Ngugi? who is he?? grin grin jkes.I love his books but he reminds me of history.And hey do u know most of our literature books are written by Nigerians?
Every kenyan knows a nigerian writer.Thats where we learnt words like Okwonkwo,fufu,Ihuoma,etc.Very very interesting books I admmit.
Wish I could read more by nigerian writers.They are very good.

I think a goodnite would be appropriate now. So gdnite sailor.

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