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onye ego: This your STORY is it a NOLLYWOOD movie SCRIPT?

No I suck at scripts.When I was talking to my friend, they were getting ready to go visit the lady cz she's close to the family.
That's what made him tell me the story plus it's the background.

She moved him from student accomodation to her flat in downtown Southampton, gave him access to everything car, bank details etc
He started dashing about her car as she continued to work.

I told him the guy must be married back home already. But he is enjoying stolen money together with his family while the lady is on medication due to stress and shock. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all enjoying such money.

I say again,enter any relationship with the right motive.Do unto others what you would like them to do for you.

When I said do no bite more than you cn chew this is what I meant.I know there are some sober men but few going for older women r selfish and want things easy.
Was told this story by friend yesterday. Happend in UK not long ago.

A lady,She works as a nurse in one of the hospitals gets hooked up with a student - a finalist at the place where my friend teaches.
Many saw a smelly rat in this young person
At face value, the boy looked so decent, calm and collected. (Hope you r not the one op )

The lady from Zim was older than him by may be 10 years,drove a flashy car she was stable and very kind.
She starts showering the finalist student with gifts of all sorts,expensive stuff.She too seems so happy because in her eyes she was taking care of her inlaws and her future husband.
When time for his graduation came in Nov last year, she took charge of everything - all the cost includng parties etc at an expensive location in town
She even helped him bring his parents from Lagos nigeria and when they came, they lived in her house for some good weeks
Weeks and months passed,He decided to go back to Lagos with the promise of coming back.She was also facilitating him while he was there etc
But then slowly the phone calls died down and finally no phone calls at all.The time for his return came and went
His phone line eventually died,His fb became redundant.Nway he used her to the full measure.
When she eventually got through to his parents, they simply said they did not know where he was...
The worst bit is that and the socker of it all, came when she realised that all her back accounts were empty,completely cleaned
Because she trusted him enough to give hm full access to her back acounts. She was all trusting and that to her own downfall.

The lady has been hiding herself in her own house for a few months now.She is so, so down and on medication.

I have a feeling the dude is a nlander.Evil guy even though the lady trusted him too much.

If you are hooking up with whoever do it with the right motives not selfish reasons. That way age wont matter.

Flashaldrin: If you're really good, how come you cant differentiate the romantic section from the music section

That was nasty!

what is not happening here?
am soo lost between karl,shiloh and debra.

mykejones: R u tryin2justify ur apparent union wt dat white lady?

bolargeez: I was opportuned to grew up with and befriended some remarkable women. But, as we are growing older and many of them are getting married, communication between us keep diminishing.

These were ladies I considered my best buddies, some I dated and the rest were just my buddies.

Is there some stuff that made people to change after marriage? Although, I find it somehow difficult keeping conversation flowing among those that are still trying to reach out to me.

So folks, how best can one keep friendship with married female friends?

Well your question is genuine and it happens to a lot if single folks. First it's important to respect that institution of marriage.
Do not expect that you are going to spend as much time together as you used to..She has a bigger commitment,changed priorities and a marriage to build now.
I like people who know how to balance.Its wrong to just get rid of all your single friends because c'mmon don't u have a thing or two to teach them about marriage? There are things married people can learn from singles too you know.
You can introduce your single friend to your partner to remove any fears and doubts,assuming that the friends are level headed and sober.
If you feel left out in the cold,don't despair,keep the communication going cz at times people are so engrossed in stuff that constant communication becomes a challenge,but if you do your part of maintaining it they will appreciate.
Next behave! Don't go uninvited into their homes like u were used to.That is not her home alone rem.
Bottom line is Respect and knowing where the boundaries lay, Otherwise I see no big deal.

Do not bite more than you can chew is my advise to you.

Unbranded0029/tpm

You are wrong.lick ur wounds and move on. You have been adviced enough.

And people assume that by calling their kid great names they will automatically become that?
We have many loser clintons,bills and richards,theresa's
And yes there are people called 'Jesus' who live like the devil himself

A sweet, victorious,mighty and godly name is good.But TRAINING a child is what will cause the good attributes to be reflected.
Character is not in the name.A name will not create character whether you like it or not.
Feel free to call your child Rice.It doesnt mean he will become condoleeza rice or love rice.

Finally go choose a name for ur baby.Its not hard or just call him Nameless.

I feel sorry for this baby.
make sure he/she doesn't sue you when he discovers the meaning of his name.

Nairaland 2

puppy love teething probs.

People are indeed different.
This lady thinks you are too intelligent for her liking? I thought that was a good attribute!! Wow .am left with no words.
She's says she's always in charge,meaning? she calls the shots,domineering? what is she?
Her coldness is scary cz you never know what is boiling inside such people. Infact I run away from such as fast as I can.
I think its true you guys aren't compatible.

Chief of Defence Forces Gen. Aronda Nyakairima has warned Uganda will not sit back watching Gen. Omar Bashir bomb the South, Chimpreports.com reports

The Uganda army commander’s threat comes hardly 24 hours after Sudan leader Bashir threatened to wipe out SPLA from oil-rich Heglig and also topple Gen. Salva Kiir in Juba.

“Having suffered a proxy war for over 20 years, we are now getting intelligence that Kony, who was left with less than 200 fighters, is now in contact with Sudan. That is intelligence,” said Aronda during a meeting with regional security chiefs in Kampala on Wednesday night.

“In one way or another we are going to get involved. We cannot sit and watch. As a member of this region, Uganda will intervene,” Aronda threatened.

Aronda’s statement underlines Uganda’s preparedness to render all logistical support to South Sudan not only to consolidate her hold on Heglig but also remove Bashir from power.

Aronda called upon all members of the region to join hands to avert war between the two countries. Bashir on Thursday told a huge rally in Sudan that he would teach SPLA a lesson they would never forget. He threatened to seize Juba and liberate Southerners from the bad rule of SPLA.

Uganda enjoys a jovial relationship with Juba, having supported South Sudan forces for over two decades to gain independence from Khartoum.

According to army spokesperson Lt. Col. Felix Kulayigye, Uganda backed SPLA in response to Sudan’s support of Kony.
LRA perpetrated massacres in Northern Uganda before the rebel group was kicked out of Uganda in 2006. Three years later, UPDF war planes attacked LRA’s hideouts in Garamba thus sending the bandits into disarray. Mobile Special Forces intelligence squads are hunting down Kony and his elements in Central African Republic.

The war rhetoric has been escalated by SPLA Liberation Council Senator David Majur who has called upon all South Sudanese especially students in Uganda to rush to Juba to defend their nation from Bashir.

“Bashir is a wounded hyena capable of eating up its own offspring. How many will he fight? He has to fight the people from Blue Nile, Nuba Mountains, opposition in Khartoum, the international community and the International Criminal Court (ICC),” Majur said Thursday during an interview with NTV.

“We keep telling Bashir not to drag his people into war because they will suffer but he does not listen. I welcome Uganda’s support. Bashir calls people insects but we are used to that. It’s not new. He has in the past called us infidels,” said Majur.
He assured Uganda SPLA would hunt down Kony and his master Bashir if LRA resumed its atrocities.

“We are returning to the trenches. We are a sovereign country. If somebody says he is invading us we shall fight him. Ask what happened to Saddam when he invaded Kuwait. We are no longer rebels. These are Bashir’s last days,” warned Majur.
Military sources say the Ugandan army is on red alert in preparation for war with Bashir in case he attacks the South.

dayokanu: Its obvious the OP came here to tell stories of how everything in the world is against her and none is her problems but its soo easy to see
How many ppl can eat 6 pieces of meat at one sitting especially females.

How big is one piece of meat?? What do people have in mind lol
lemmie focus on food now.

WHY ARE PEOPLE DISCUSSING FOOD AND SOUP?

NO its not about soup.lOL no.Its issues threatening and food is just a way to vent out.Women can be evil and cunning.They know where to stab and if its culturally disrepectful to serve oneself then the best way to hurt is to do exactly that,with attitude.

What irks me most is her finding the inlaws sleeping on their marital bed!!! with the husbands permission thereby displacing her so she ends up sleeping on the couch A whole nursing mom in her house.Thats proper displacement that goes beyond the soup.A take over.
You know if I visit my married bros house ,any married relative's house,I avoid the master bedroom completely unless 'THE WIFE' herself sends me to get something.
I feel like its an intrusion to privacy, so this whole thing of sleeping on their bed with the wife around I just dont get!.Then they go back to sleep as she ends up on the seat?
Unless those women leave that house there's not going to be peace.
She feels unprotected,mishandled and displaced by everybody.
God will hear u

debby999: Dear married women and men,pls I need your advice on this issue. I just had a baby boy and still on recovery, my sister inlaw came and Since then my peaceful home has turn to war zone. The next day my husband called me that her siSter reported me to him. So I told him and he to said it was right. I didn't knw they have tabled the matter with their other sisters and all of them called me and saying I must allow their sis. My husband came in I told him all that happened,he couldn't stand on his ground to defened his wife infront of his sisters. I felt unprotected. The last one that happened that made me write this was the day my husband brought up dat issue again,bcose[b] he noticed his sister has not been eaten the food in the house. [/b]He said I have to treat his sisters with care and piortity [/b]my husband pushed me out, took the food frm me and gave his sister to feed him. [b]Carried me up and threw me on the bed, my hand hit the wardrobe, I was carrying. I dressed up to get a recharge card to let my people knw, he carried me up again and threw me on thE bed. I found his sisters sleeping on my bed, I left them and slept on the couch. I asked the little girl he said my husband told them to sleep there.

This story is very sickening.

How insensitive can people be?? These sisters are too cruel and immature.They reason childishly,have no respect for their brother's marriage and have perfected teh act of throwing tantrums to get ur husband's attention.I feel sorry for you.
What are they doing camping in your house by the way For heavens sake! Is he married to his sisters or you? The soooner he makes up his mind the better.
The marriage vows are very clear.Will protect and yaketi shmaketi blablabla.
Blood is thicker than water they say,but a mature man knows how to properly take care of his sisters without allowing them to ruin his marriage.
But this one is choosing to destroy it at the expense of his sisters.
Its sad but his act of throwing you on bed yet you just delivered is a sign of future domestic abuse.It only gets worse if it doesnt stop now.
I dont care about the food or wht.My stand is,they must go to their home and get the hell out of your house for that marriage to stand cz they are not helpful at all.
If they should stay for a short while(jeez how many are they) then they should be offering you support not break you.

That marriage is going down not because of you but because of those women and your husbands stand.You two must talk as one.That way you remain strong.
Please dont fight physically. Let ur family know of the developments(just in case) but stand firm.
Is there a way you can bring a mature relative to stay with you while that inlaw camps? You need somebody on ur side to keep watch and help you till that inlaw goes,cz it's kinda scary.

suzzisweet: The bible says that a woman shall leave her parent house and cliff to a man [/b]and they shall become husband and wife. Also, [b]a woman should marry so as to abstain from fornication. So what should a single woman do without a hubby in this case, must she continue to stay and die of emotions?

WHICH BIBLE IS THIS?? Nl version?

[quote author=Killz.][color=#000030]Yada Yada Yada. . .[/color][/quote]LOL

Not married.

ogbeche77: How old are u? 75? ' cos with all this experiences u should not be less than that

lmao! some people r just adventurers.

initiator: My next stop is actually Tanzania and Kenya - want to do Mount kilimanjaro and mount kenya. That is
some adrenalin to take me for years.
have

Karibu.Make sure you are in good shape. Tourists are always advised to practice for a while before they go mountain climbing.
Its not a joke those 2 mountains lol.
I only went halfway.

Congrats Roki.

But in your case seein you just got married.Well who am I to decide anyway.You can wait a year or two,or go for it and balance but newborns are no joke.You will need ur sleep to keep up with studies and babies don't accord one such luxury.

warrior101: I have been watching this topic like forever... You sound like a perfectionist from what you've been saying. Not that's its bad or good but i think you should slow down because everything has +/- side to it... Guys are humans and should be seen as one...

These kind of girls are to be seen as men haterz... They think we should be like this and that or do it like this and that before this and that can happen whereas they themselves are not good... (now i am not referring you you here my dear sister)... Cheerio

A men hater will not give u audience.She may even chew gum and look the other way as you talk. (rude).She will always discredit men.
See.the reason you are dating the person you are, is bcz when you asked open or closed questions she took time to answer in details. She did so cz she felt you. Don't get all mixed up please.Some men can be pretty stubborn even if you tell them you are in a relationship.
The best way to answer a guy that doesn't take no,is in such a way that won't leave room for more.I close it before it starts cz there's somebody else.
Leave alone that,In many cases I am usually the one sustaining the conversation cz I will talk about everything under the sun.I just place borders and know what to discuss with who based on the level of our relationship.
Platonic relationship? I will elaborate cz there are no feelings attached.
Biz? Strictly biz
Dating? Single word if am hooked already.

Skii: This goes without saying

It depends on the platform from which you are making the conversation. In this regard, I take it that you are speaking to ladies from the approacher or potential toaster point of view.


Depending on the quality of the lady as well as your own quality and especially what you say (since most women are moved by what they hear), the first moments are very important.
What you say, don't say or how you say what you say determines the level of responses you get and I daresay regardless of the mood, except she has been befallen by some extreme tragedy which is hardly the case.

Advice, too much preparation for conversation and too much confidence building dey kill. You have to work yourself up to that natural masculine level of confidence that can get you into any conversation with anybody and sustain it. [/b]

Now that man understands it well.

[b]very very important. Those who haven't mastered the art of talk use money to entice. And they boast of winning any girl.It works.But you are still a loser if you cant charm your way into a girl's heart through talk! not pocket.

Theres nothing worse than a man who tries too hard to strike a conversation and sustain it. Some ask the wrong questions at the right time. Others ask right questions at the wrong time.
Some men have mastered it and what they do is read the girl before bombarding her with unnecessary queries.

I agree with slimyem

MRbrownJAY:

- oh you are a student, so why did you decide to study medicine/law etc?-parental influence!
- there was a huge traffic jam on the way, how did you manage to come here so quick?-short-cut!
- woah you are a lawyer/doctor, tell me how exciting or boring a day at work is?-just there!
- really, you are from Kaduna? so how different life is, now that you are living in Lagos then?-i get thru!
- are you single, really.......so why/how did your last r/ship ended?-yes!, misunderstandings!
- why is a beautiful girl like you single?-a choice!
- he cheated on you? but how did you found out and how involved in the r/ship were you at the time?-complicated!
- how do you view men now that you have been burned ONCE?-deceivers

if a guy gets two/three answers like these and he still doesnt know its time to shut-up,he must be a real fool!

There's a diff btwn playing hard to get and just trying to get rid of a nuisance guy.Some men don't give up easy and they don't understand what No means.
Instead of sounding rude.Just give them closed answers.Next time he wont know what to ask.

I repeat again.If she likes you she will answer in details whether you ask open or closed questions.

This is how I would give closed answers to MBJ's

MRbrownJAY: bro, i disagree with you, as it all has to do with how you approach your intended "target".

@OP
if you give this lady the chance to give you BS answers then she will, so change your tactics and get this lady involved and comfortable with you. here are just a few questions that CANNOT be answered with one liner answers:
[b]- oh you are a student, so why did you decide to study medicine/law etc? Its a career like the rest and its suits me just the same way architecture suits some.
- there was a huge traffic jam on the way, how did you manage to come here so quick? Overlapping bus. No traffic cops on sight
- woah you are a lawyer/doctor, tell me how exciting or boring a day at work is? There are good and bad days.It depends on what comes you way.
- really, you are from Kaduna? so how different life is, now that you are living in Lagos then? I am the life.I influence my environment not the other way round so no big diff except in scenery
- are you single, really.......so why/how did your last r/ship ended? Its a long story and I prefer to let bygones be bygones.I hate resurrecting the dead.
- why is a beautiful girl like you single? We are many in the world really. Its just a personal choice.When I feel I want a relationship I will initiate it.
- he cheated on you? but how did you found out and how involved in the r/ship were you at the time? I have moved on.That was past.Can we talk about life cz past is dead?
- how do you view men now that you have been burned ONCE? [/b] Men are good and we need them.I got a Father ,brothers ,uncles and cousins.I can tell a good man in less than 5 min

anyway you can clearly see where i am going with this: GET HER INVOLVED IN THE DISCUSSION, and when she finally relaxes around you, it will come out naturally out of her mouth.

If I answer you like that just park and go.

ArQueBusieR: My turn!
-Despite the huge traffic jam on the way, you managed to get here on time. Tell me about it?
-Now that you've been burned once, you must view men differently. Tell me about your new perception of men?
-More often than not, beautiful girls are hitched in their early 20's. You're 30, beautiful, and unmarried! How come?!

Now if you want details ask like this.I will narrate much if I am attracted to you.Because they are open questions not closed.
But if I dont feel you,this is how I will answer.

-Despite the huge traffic jam on the way, you managed to get here on time. Tell me about it? There's really nothing to tell as its not unusual.I managed just like everybody else did.
-Now that you've been burned once, you must view men differently. Tell me about your new perception of men?. Well men are just men and they are all different.
-More often than not, beautiful girls are hitched in their early 20's. You're 30, beautiful, and unmarried! How come?! Because I don't follow crowds. I have my priorities set and I stick to them. That is me.


End of conversation.If I feel you? you will beg me to stop talking.

Now lemmie tell u guys a secret.If you find a girl answering generally,you know without trying to get personal,watch out. See like my first answer above I said,I managed 'just like everybody else'.See? I am trying to make you view me like the rest.Trying to divert your attention and focus from 'me'.She's telling you am not unique and don't treat me uniquely cz I have no absolutely no interest in you.
See how she personalises* the answers to your questions cz if shes in love she will try to lock out the world and talk about herself.
My straight or closed replies are meant to stop further queries and stop you in your tracks.
A girl that feels you will talk about what you dint even ask her. She will talk a blog.

Yes I am guilty of this.Will tell you why and when I use it.
1. If I am to busy concentrating on something and he keeps pestering when I have no time for stories I use yes /no/later /wait.
At that moment my concentration on him is 2%
2. If I am very bored or moody and don't feel like talking.At times you just want some peace and quiteness. So one word answers work.
3. If I want to create suspense and make you probe further ie if I am in a happy mood.I will always explain if you probe cz that is the fun am getting at.
4. If you are a plain bore and I have no interest.I use them to politely cut you off instead of being direct and rude. Its for you to sense I have no interest and leave me alone.
Note.If a girl is into you she will keep stealing glances and checking your face and body. If not she looks the other way while giving short answers.