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Ishilove:
Which is why I want to believe the OP is not telling us the full story.

Yes o! That's the bit of the story that's missing. I strongly believe there must be something.

A male friend once told me things about his wife, how they've become mere flatmates. The wife too zipped up for about a year running into two. Then I asked him if he did anything, I particularly asked if he cheated, he said no. She denied him sex over the issue of a third party (wife's sister) staying with them, he deemed her a bad influence. Now the man keeps side chicks and is considering remarrying. I pray op's case doesn't get to that.

SmellingAnus:
If you had stopped begging her and focused on your life and daughter... She hardly would have moved out from your house... Now that she is out of your house.... Stop begging her... You have lost your dignity and self esteem in trying to make up with her but to no avail...

Maybe you need a slap to reset your mind but something tells me even if Nigerian Army beats you , you will always remain the way you are...

I agree with most of you saying he should stop begging her.

He did bad but he's apologised.

Men have ego and if they can stoop to beg.... Who are we? Even God forgives.

I had a scuffle with hubby yesterday afternoon and he said things to me. In the evening, he came begging. He took back his words. It was a moment of anger, which I am responsible for. He then made promises of things he'd do just to appease me. The way he was reeling out promises, I felt pity, I had to let go. This morning alone, he's delivered three out of his promises. What else?

My problem here is why would she zip up for 2 months?

What has the man done that she found so unforgivable that'll make her to just recline into her shell?

Mr. Man, stop begging really. I believe in communication. She should talk to you before this issue degenerated to this level of having to leave the house.

Later, when the dust is a bit settled, seek to talk things through with your father-in-law. You might get lucky. Good luck to you man.

phemmyfour:
Cos he plays the role better. Who are the not so learned that are getting better roles cos the likes of Odunlade, Femi Adebayo, Ibrahim chatta are graduates.

Many people don't realize that this modern day Nollywood is different. A very big chunk of them are educated now unlike back in the days. Infact if you are not educated now, it's like you shooting yourself in the leg cause you're not gonna fly.

One of my favourite actors. Congratulations to you. May God grant you all of your heart's desires... aspiring Prof. M. Oladapo.

Dominion791:
I had sex for the first time last night (I'm a guy) but I couldn't ejaculate. I wasn't getting much pleasure from it and by the looks of things neither was she. Also I couldn't get as hard as when it's just me on my own doing my thing. Is there something wrong with me? Do I just need more practise? More pre-intimacy maybe? Help

How old are you?

OrdiNaka:
Mumu man instead make him japa Usain bolt run amh �‍♂️�‍♂️�‍♂️�‍♂️
Him till wear 9mobile shirt him no even buy designer inside 20m

Japa to where exactly? and to sentence himself to a life of forever looking over his shoulder, is it worth it?

My company once overpaid us like that. Many of my colleagues said it's their luck and they spent recklessly. If there would be salary increment, we'd know. Since there wasn't any info like that, I only took my money and left the balance. Lo and behold, it was accountant's error and in the next month, they removed the money. Some people nearly died. There's something we call integrity. Anything money, I'm usually careful and steer clear of stains or dirtiness.

aboyaji:
She is not yet a wife, Oga. She is a baby mama for crying out loud. Her type is not entertained in our family, hence my advice to him.

Did you hear me say I was advising our 3rd brother? No. Because he has a nicer WIFE. I call her children my children. That's how we live in our family. When they had issues, the lady ran to us and we CHANGE AM FOR MY BROTHER, STRAIGHT UP!!!

Who will the second brother's woman run to in hard times? Me? Our only daughter? Or mom whom the lady warned my brother not to spend more than 4hrs with while visiting her for the first time in the East? Imagine traveling from the north central to meet your mother in-law to be for the first time and could not pass the night but rather spent more days in the neighboring town doing nothing?

Na that mother in-law go send you?

By which law? Baby mamas can easily be put away. Make hay while the sun shines. That's it.

Oga, that's your opinion. I'm afraid in this case, your opinion really doesn't matter. You're not to decide who gets put away, your brother does and he's ok with his baby mama.

Go and sit down. That's my honest and simple advice for you. When you get married, you'd be free to run your house as you wish.

You should be worried if as a baby mama she wields so much power, what if she becomes a certified wife?
Wait till it's your turn, easier said than done.

I'm never in support of her supposed rudeness or hostility but I know a lost battle when I see one.

Rachel98:
He's my elder brother, not my uncle.

So? He should send his wife away because you are family?

See, mind your business. The most important person in your brother's life is his wife, just like the most important person to her is your brother. If whatever thing she does doesn't prick your brother in any way, why should you be bothered? They owned each other. Family members become secondary the moment they both said "I do." The most you can do is tell your brother to call her to order. He may refuse to, or she may refuse to change, they're adults. You can't compel them. Just stay off and never be bothered with whatever happens to them both. Daada lo ma ma sele but if the opposite happens, they shouldn't call me, I am not at home!

God! How can a woman become like that? Don't you think it's some kind of disorder? And the men doing free banging, doesn't it look dirty to you? How can you poke where somebody has poked before when she hasn't cleaned up? The whole thing is disgusting, you are not scared of infection, everyone is not clean. I used to ask my 'egbon' at home how prostitutes cope with so many dicks entering and leaving. How do they do it? I'm trying to cope with one even cos his urge is a bit high. Some girls, Lai s'afise!

Dagger79:
For once am proud of my country

Me too. Really proud of them. At a point, I thought I was watching a premiership side.

yommen:
See as you dey mess up yourself! That's not trouser but shokoto. You might even refer to the top as shirt, right? Moreso, that picture was snapped 23 years ago. So, go and pack all the pictures around you taken towards year 1999 and begin to compare. Some youths of ours lack critical thinking ability. They just talk which is too bad.

That is the big problem I see here about our country. I don't want to outrightly call this generation fools because just a handful of them are different, but the majority No Sense! They lack cognitive abilities, they can't read a narrative of one paragraph to the end, they want summary. They can't innovate let alone create! It's a blurry future for Nigeria if many youths are like this. They have exchanged virtues for vices.

The majority of the people in this picture are still alive, check them out today, they don't dress like this anymore. This must have been the fashion of the time. Baa lakaye!

robinso01:
Aregbesola, osinbajo, Fashola and some other people that I didn't really recognize.

The woman with customized gele is Chief Mrs Kemi Nelson. Great socialite. The party is not like if she's not there. Then Muiz Banire is the first man from left. He worked hard then and his impact was felt.

INSTANTCASH345:
Hiss

Sch this ,sch that.

You guys will not stop scamming Nigerians ba?

Instead of luring them to sch with their limited funds and after leave them to the mercy of unemployment ,why not tell them to go learn digital skills?

1900 curriculum na im una still dey use for all the old and newly established universities,una no dey shame,idiots!

Not a scam! The university is owned by Evangelical Church Winning All (ECWA)

Education is not free anywhere. University education and digital skills do not disturb each other. Plus, you know nothing about their curriculum, don't just assume.

If you are looking for any idiots, look inwards; you will surely see one.

Almost unbelievable! You'd think it was real for a moment. God really bless the hands that made this. Incredible!

Felimax:
God's continuous blessings on your union in Jesus name. At least if nothing marriage will give you a purpose, a reason to be alive. Marriage has made me feel so godly. Whenever I am home alone and family is not around I feel so empty.
Just as there are not too good women all around likewise there are very useless men all around, so one will now start stereotyping because of what?
My younger brother is there forming James Bond, changing women like boxers, approaching his 40 yet he will tell me he wants to marry like me and there are no good girls again which is a big fat lie, if I tell you the yardstick I use in picking my wife. She was the kind of woman every man will run from but I saw gold in her, took her, bathe her and made her glow. After taking her for a photoshoot before I left Warri she couldn't believe her beauty and today after 3 kids she more beautiful than ever, with good and better curves that drives me mad each time I see her.
A lot of men nowadays don't know how to choose a woman, they stupidly do on people's approval.
So you make the wrong choice by not putting God first then you will come and blame it on the woman.
Shey Dem force you marry her?

God bless your marriage. You two will enjoy a special grace that marriage brings till forever and a day.
They don't know how enjoyable it is. My oga just dropped his guitar now. He's been playing and I have been singing to the tunes. We stopped cause I need to go make dinner. They don't know, if only they know.

Wow! Nice. May give it a try soon. Really nice.

Felimax:
I dated for almost five years and has been in marriage for more than five years now. Yes, marriage is tough and not for kids but with the right wisdom and know how marriage has been my best decision so far.
I love my wife because of the level of person I found in her and so far so good I have no regret.
Last month, we went out together dancing and flexing our Union together.
When you are not married just shut up and stop making a fool out of yourself.
Marriage is the only thing you don't learn from outside.
Do you know how it feels when your angel look at you in the eyes and say in her next life if any, she still want to get married to you? Then you know you are a real man.
Continue typing, I am reading.

Don't mind the miseducationist. I'm not a man but I'm married. I've been for a decade now. My husband can't stop gushing over how meaningful his life has been. He's holding me as I type. Mr. Redpiller shouldn't marry if it suits him but many won't buy his lies. Every weekend, people still tie the knot, so....

I've caught people making out about twice now.

One was our neighbor back in my university days. The guy is a neighbor and friend. We (my friends and I) live upstairs while he stays downstairs and his window opened to the outside of the compound. I was coming back from somewhere (can't remember) that afternoon, being that he's our friend na, it's a normal thing for any of us to stop by his window or even enter his room to say Hi! before going upstairs. This was my intention that afternoon but as I got to the window, I froze. There were days I'd be calling out even before I get to his window, but not that day. I stood transfixed for minutes. They didn't even notice I was there. When I was out of the trance, I just dragged my feet upstairs. Of course I told my roomies and we all teased him about it. The lady was his school girlfriend but she was married. She resumed next semester with a heavy tummy and that was the end of the relationship.

The other unsightly sight was in my own bf's house. He worked in a bank, CBN, at the time. He was comfortable. He lived in a 3-bedroom apartment and owned a restaurant in town. He lived in one of the rooms, the other room for his boys (workers) from the restaurant and one room was empty. I do go there anytime I wanted cos I have my own keys. He told me around the time that his uncle (also works with CBN) just came to town (on transfer) and will be with him pending. Ordinarily, one would think he'd stay in the empty room. On this Saturday afternoon, I just decided to go chill a bit in his place. I got there, the door was locked, I used my keys. I got to the sitting room everywhere was empty. He'd be at his restaurant. I first sat down a bit, contemplating whether to go join him or wait for him, then I started hearing some faint sounds, I decided to probe. I went straight to my bf's room where the noise was coming from. The door, it wasn't locked this time then I saw two bodies on the bed!! They were like two elephants in a combat. They were so engrossed they didn't notice they had company. I stood hiding in the heavy curtains. I watched everything, the turning and tossing. All of a sudden, the lady's body was shaking like she was in a fit and the man too grunting like an animal. I knew it was time to go. I left where I was, took my bag from the sitting room and I went home.

The next day, my bf came to my place and confirmed that was the uncle he told me about. I just wondered, how can someone be new in a place (he'd been there only 2/3 days) and was already sleeping around. Men!!!

You better run..... I once witnessed one. I pity the wife. Can't type now, maybe later. I have to be somewhere important.

Happy birthday to you Seun. You're a true son of your father. I salute your eloquence, I salute your mastery of our socio-political space and your energy for a true revolution. We hope to see a Nigeria that our kids will be proud of. Hearty Congratulations!

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s] In your mind you saw me as a fool, yet you chose to reply my post and messages? Wow...that means you must be a bigger fool than me !

Some mothers do have your type. We can't throw away the baby along with the soap water.

November24:
My sister,are you pained.
You can go and date a yahoo boy.

Ojukokoro

It's obvious you don't understand the narrative but it's ok. I don't have the luxury of time right now (maybe another time) to explain to someone who is hard of comprehending.

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s] I have taken it upon myself to do awareness for the next generation of girls, since dimwits like you cannot do it because of your compromised lifestyle

Good luck trying but the way you talked....you even dared to pray for more evil to happen, you have failed before taking off.
Many of you sit behind your keyboard, with your leprosy infested fingers and type rubbish. People like us look at your foolhardiness in dismay, because it's only a dimwit that's capable of such tomfoolery. Be gone Mr. Foolish!

Ammishaddai:
Send the link make I add am to my collection. I dey do awareness for some of students, and their wayward sisters

You awareness? I laugh in Mandarin! Awareness my foot! People who do awareness or volunteer work are people who the blood of humaneness and sympathy is flowing in their vein. With your comment up there, you sounded like a cold, mean, brutal soldier bereft of emotions. Just say you want the video!

doggedfighter:
Buhari's state in the mud.






All his children and probably neighbours contributed to raise 50k.




To raise 100k roofing sheets are removed and how sure are we that it will amount to 100k?



That's poverty !



This is evil and sad but sadly they will support Buhari even unto death.

Just what kind of country are we in, and one Bishop accused Buhari of being soft on terrorism, he was taken by SSS! What type of life is this ehn! Poor old man looking for what to eat!

Maxymilliano:
The Governor should be more concerned that a security guard could father 6 kids in this austere period ...

That's the reason for the kind gestures. Or would you rather prefer the governor killed some of his children to fit into your idea of a dream Lagos?

dnawah:
u r very polite,the first am seeing on nairaland.

Thank you but I'm not always like this sha

dnawah:
bring ur grammar down,

Awww! Sorry

Pumpumking:
Siofra is the 2nd preeetiest female on nairaland..finer pass u thou & she my ex babe.we glad they ban her coz she a trouble maker...2 years ban. Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

You're just impossible!

dnawah:
na only u Papa be headmaster?

Sorry, meaning?