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inspiROHM:
Why not?

When we devote time in training the maids on how to cook well, how to clean the house and on good mannerisms while leaving our own daughters untrained.
We overwork the maids and they adjust with equanimity because they need us to survive.

The maids turn out to manage the indignation and insolence we and our children subject them to.

All these make the maids better wives who can manage even the angriest of men.
Our precious daughters are pampered through nursery and primary schools. They speak the English we want and know all the cartoon slangs by heart. We beat the maids blue black if they ever ask our girls to help out in domestic duties. They see kitchen things as maids' things.
The girls move from boarding schools to the university, do their NYSC, Masters and get a job. Of course, they are ripe for marriage and you wish that to happen soon.
From one relationship to another, the same story. The guys would parade and dump them. They are only good in bed, outings, clubs and red carpet functions.

The boys de-commit when they notice that the possible wife cannot cook, arrange things and are very domestically untrained.

The rich guys can manage as they would mitigate the handicap by hiring a domestic help.

Not all guys can afford this for a start.

The upcoming and very sensitive guys who would make good husbands, fathers and leaders would not manage these parents' inflicted shortcomings. They would settle for well trained ones.

They know the value and the pride in hosting friends at home to delicious delicacies prepared by a wife.

Not all your maids would remain your servants for ever. Some of them would finally do part-time studies and like a train, get to their God ordained destinations sooner or later.

Like a perfume, good guys perceive well trained wife materials from afar and dump the daughters of the bourgeois like hot iron. Long term happiness is at stake. No explanation is given. Sometimes, the sack message is made through a social medium.

Let our daughters learn what we teach our maids to make them compete for the few available good men if marriage is important to them.

There are few guys who believe that marriage is for better for worse.

Don't be deceived; love is an active verb. Yes it is. You love; you loved; and you used to love. You can also hate who you used to love.

Therefore, some men are immune to pre-marital love blindness. In practice, love can't cover the stench of bad early formation of our daughters.

Right now, educated former maids are now cornering better men on offer because they possess the requisite or set skills the highly perceptible and ready husband materials need.

Mothers especially should please take note.

My God. this is perfect. Whoever wrote this....your crown is waiting in heaven. May God stop everything that will stop you from making heaven

Feranchek:
Lol. I know guys will enjoy this story. Buh I think the guy in this story is quite a jerk!! For heaven's sake she mentioned that she'll be coming with her 2 friends, and the pomo gut Said YES! Since you know you weren't financially buoyant to cater for all of them, why agree to let her come with her friends? I'm sure she'd have still come if you told her not to come with her friends. Let's be unsentimental and say the truth biko. The level of immaturity in some guys in quite annoying


(Oya Bashirus!!! Ngwanu, coman bash me!! I dey wait!! I know Y'all! So I won't be surprised )

I knew it!!!! I talk am!!!! Bashirus never fail to disappoint! 23 BASHING mentions in just 20 mins!!! Gush!!! Guys dey Para o0o!! (Mumu guys I mean)

Buh some guys can be so foolish just to bring cover their shame o0oo!! So cos she didn't say "can my friends come with me and you'll pay for their tickets" now means he's exonerated from any allegations??!! C'mon fellas!

Olamide came on stage and was hitting on the organisers of a particular event. He never mentioned Don Jazzy buh we all knew (including The Don himself) that he was referring to Don baba Jay! Why??!! It's an IMPLIED STATEMENT kiddos!!

She needn't mention the paying of tickets part to the boy na.... since he agreed that she bring her friends along, then he should know what that implies!!

"Honey, my friends wants to JOIN US in seeing the movie, are you comfortable with that?" Guys make una sef give unasef some level of respect na....If she wasn't matured enough to tell her friends NO, he should be matured enough to do that!!
In Psquare voice "no start watin you no go finish, I no be George Finidi, oh oh!!"

see, my guy, you are a nigga like me and you know how these girls behave. for the love of mike this is a first date. You know how it is with first impresssions. You will be insincere if u tell me you will say the friends should not come as you dont have the means to sponsor them, if you were in the guy's shoes. You that i know wont do that. Not that i am supporting deception and all that, but its a pseudo world and these girls like it fake. trust me. Besides, that he said they should come does not automatically imply he would pay for their tickets, logically speaking. his paying would further prove him a gentleman...not that its compulsory. He did not invite them. so....abeg....lets not murder the guy.

mrvitalis:
God told u wearing trousers is wrong??
Please what the difference between the dress jesus used to wear and the one Mary also used to wear??

Just thinking tho??

It was not the same.
God cannot give a law, then come in the flesh to break it.
Transvestism is not just sin, its an abomination before God. Deut 22.5

He did nothing. Besides, you don't probe politics money. nothing will come out of it. who has probed Amaechi?

teddy77:
Oga abuja has a centre na......MOGADISHU CANTOMENT asokoro before A.Y.A. (The barracks was formally known as ABACHA BARRACKS)

Bros, theres no centre in Abuja this yr. I am in abuja. Thenearest is Kaduna... Thats where am going

fabnikky:
Pls send me the past question too hareekahs@yahoo.com

henchyman@yahoo.com

mimzy007:
Yes! You broke it down well.

pls
I need it too.. henchyman@yahoo.com. thanks

[quote author=ColinAdua post=44766249]Staring is not lusting, Oga!

You can even stare in disgust. Even if its lusting. If I realize it, I will just ask God for forgiveness and move on with my life.

That settles it. Thank God for Jesus Christ and His ever effective sacrifice on the cross at Calvary.

God bless you.
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Listento yourself. You will keep lusting and asking God fir forgiveness, because u are in charge of your life abi? Gid has told u when u will die abi?

ObiOmaMu:
This story left goose pimples on my body....

Nwadike Gloria Kelechi aka Miss Japaree won Miss Planet Nigeria Tourism 2015.


http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/04/lady-who-refused-to-forgive-ex.html

There's adifference betweenbeing sorry forwhat you have done and being sorry you got caught.
I bet you wouldnt feel this way if he were still alive. Its because hes no more. And from the narrative i can also vouch that most of thereason u two broke up is you.
Had a friend like that, just blanked me all of a sudden, refuses to tell me what i did despite begging her for what i didnt do and all that. But nothing will happen to me oo.
Lets face it. Be truly sorry.

Calebosko:
She bought a beautiful dress and put it on,she then ask me, describe me in one word. I said to her "you look like mamy water..and am ur demond." now its up to 5 days and she is not picking my calls

I think its more of the way you said it than what you said.

freecocoa:
I'm someone who has always thought revenge to be a 'bad' thing, believing that when someone hurts you and you also hurt the person in return, then nothing makes you different from that person, because you both are a people, that hurt someone, but is this really true? Can/should it be called hurting someone, if they deserve it?

Now, as I keep growing and dealing with people, I'm starting to think my stance on revenge is flawed.

I think I'm beginning to see revenge for what it really is, justice. We often hear, "leave it to karma" some say "leave it for/to god"(this shouldn't be an option btw) but at the end of the day, we can't really say people get what they deserve, in that, bad things happen to good people and good things to bad people and for all I know, "bad" people seem to have it better than the "good" ones in this nonsense world, so should we fold our arms and let people who wronged us feel fly, while we feel miserable?

Someone will argue that, feeling hurt is more a thing of choice than consequence, asking, how can someone hurt you, if you don't want to be? Talking about how it is our minds that hold on to things, therefore we can condition it to let go or not, but is this really true? Do we have absolute control of what we feel? I think not.

Now if someone hurt me and I'm really feeling it, why shouldn't I validate this feeling by seeking revenge? I mean, don't we have a right to want to feel better? Does revenge make one feel better?


what's your take? Should we seek revenge or not? Lets discuss.

Being hurt, i no go lie, is a REAL emotion. Anyone who denies in the guise if being in control if what you feel and any such explain-aways is not just being sincere.
However, we are called as Christians to forgive and not seek revenge. Hard as it is, it us the safest. First, revenge initiates a cycle of assault whose end and reach is neither guaranteed nor controlled. Second, forgiveness elevates the forgiver, whether the other party realizes it or not. I havent heard of any tale of one who forgives losing out in the long run.
Thats why being a Christian is so essential. It is guaranteed that no one hurts a Christian and goes scot free-seeking revenge is absolutely unnecessary, because God does it His most touching and effective way. In His most touching and effective time.

Dygeasy:
Lol.. Free the girl jor.

Don't goan hurt the poor girl in future. Don't let her suffer for your ignorance about love.

The reason why you can't have everything in one package is because you aren't a complete package yourself. You can only be a few girls' dream not every girl

I dont think it will be better uf he eventually marries her and cheats on her. Something fuels love, it has a platform, love is not blind. If he knows he will not be able to put up with her size, let him leave her. Love is a compound word, there is a physical component to it.

ColinAdua:
I am 36+, single, loving it and will love to be single for life, forever. Infact, I have decided to be single forever. Today, I just looked back and I feel so happy, taking this decision 10 years ago during my NYSC.

My life is so clutter free and stress less when compared with those of my married peers. I said this is definitely one of the best decisions I have made in my life. Because my life is so peaceful and predicted. I work only on my business and starting post graduate studies.

I feel I need to celebrate my 10 years taking this decision to stay unmarried and single(MIND YOU I DON'T DO BOYFRIEND - GIRLFRIEND RUBBISH. I BELIEVE ITS A SIN).

In celebrating, I think it good to encourage more young men to embrace this way. Just like Bible says; "He that is able to receive it(singleness), let him receive it"(Matthew 19:12). You can read from verse 10 for better understanding.



140 Reasons Why You Should Consider never marrying.
There are lots of good reasons to stay single. At first you may think that staying single isn't a good thing, but there are few things you should consider, well 140 things to be exact. This is a comprehensive list about not being in a relationship or marriage and the perks that come with it. I bet a lot of these things don't even cross your mind, and perhaps after you read this you'll give the single life a second thought.

1. You can do what you want, when you want.
2. You don't have to dress up for anyone.
3. You don't have to cook for anyone but yourself.
4. No nagging. Ever.
5. You don't have to pay for your girlfriend/wife or children.
6. You can snore when you feel like snoring.
7. You don't have to meet her parents, especially if they dislike you.
8. You don't have to share scare resources.
9. No wife to invade your privacy (email, facebook, cell numbers, whatsapp etc).
10. Don't have to worry about marriage and it's costs.
11. Don't have to hear "But, honey.. we never have our alone time!"
12. You don't have to share the television.
13. You can play video games all day in your free time without feeling guilty.
14. You decide when to go to bed.
15. You don't have to make dinner for anyone.
16. You can scratch yourself, stretch, yawn and fart, and all that other rude stuff when you want.
17. Your food/foods stuff lasts much longer, only cooking for one.
18. You can sleep till noon on weekends without feeling bad.
19. Less pressure about your weight.
20. You are the king of the toilet seat, it can remain up or down, as you like.
21. Don't have to worry about "accidently" having a child.
22. You can vacuum when you feel like it.
23. You don't have to worry about being "dumped".
24. There is no jealousy, people won't know how poor/rich you are, if you don't want them to know.
25. You can "geek out" without being nagged.
26. Everything in your home is yours, and stays where you keep it.
27. You don't have to explain where you were last night.
28. You decide when to do the dishes.
29. A lot more time to spend with friends or at church.
30. Less pet peeves to deal with.
31. Don't have to worry about her hanging out with guy friends (and vice versa).
32. You are not morally obligated to do things against your will.
33. No one else is going to eat your leftover chicken and pepper soup.
34. You can concentrate more on your own life and targets.
35. You can answer the phone when you feel like answering the phone!
36. You can sit there all day in your underwear or even naked and not feel obligated to dress.
37. Going out to eat and then to a movie is cheaper for just one.
38. You won't have that "I want kids" discussion. Nonsense!!!
39. When your car gets old and has a lot of miles on it, you can trade it in for a new one without anyone complaining or feeling bad.
40. You can eat whatever you want, when you want, without a compromise.
41. You don't have to hang with her annoying, disrespectful, lazy, saucy, attitudinal friends.
42. You can walk around naked without fear of her bringing friends home.
43. No sharing of the fan, it's all yours.
44. Only have to deal with your own insecurities, and not hers too.
45. You can stare at the gals all you want without the "uh oh, busted" feeling.
46. You don't have to come up with excuses for things.
47. You don't have to worry about your checking account vanishing mysteriously. Well, not as much.
48. You don't have to suffer a pink puffy bathroom.
49. Speaking of bathrooms, you don't have to worry about "the smell" after you go.
50. You only have to deal with your own fetishes, and not some abnormal fetishes that are totally alien and nauseating to you.
51. No one is telling you that you need to work out and lose weight.
52. You don't have to buy gifts for the holidays for the 'extended family'.
53. You don't have to tell white lies. "Yes dear, that dress is pretty", when you know its whack.
54. If you live alone, you can pee(even on your bed and no one will know) with the door open without grief.
55. You don't have to suffer her going through your belongings.
56. You don't have to worry about your cell phone bill being huge because she borrowed it for a whole week or sending any one recharge card.
57. No one will steal your covers at night.
58. Paying for vacations for one is cheaper.
59. You don't have to suffer the aftermath of a breakup.
60. You don't have to hide your habits.
61. You don't have to shave.
62. You get the entire couch to yourself.
63. No one sees what you look like when you wake up in the morning.
64. No waking from the other person's snoring, farting or even bed wetting!
65. No one to accidentally see your dirty or torn underwear.
66. You get the entire boxed "meal for two" for just yourself!
67. No one telling you to get your clothes out of the washer or dryer.
68. When you cook you don't have to worry about how bad it is.
69. You don't have to share your soap.
70. No one telling you what you can or cannot buy when shopping.
71. No one is telling you to go to the gym because their embarrassed by how you look.
72. No one complaining about what you are listening to in your car.
73. You won't have someone throwing out your stuff because they think you don't need them any more.
74. All of the space in the closet is all yours.
75. All those dirty messes you made, you can leave them that way for as long as you want!
76. You can drink milk straight out of the container without anyone telling you to use a glass.
77. You won't have any other opinions to contend with.
78. You won't have to bother about birth control, pills, condoms or even whether your kids are yours and all those rubbish.
79. When you get home from work, you can do whatever you want without someone telling you to get something done around the house.
80. You won't have someone else telling you what is right and what is wrong.
81. You won't have someone taping over your favorite movies.
82. You don't have to laugh at jokes that are not funny.
83. Someone isn't telling you to cut the lawn.
84. Someone isn't telling you to not hang out with certain friends.
85. You don't have to appear to eat healthy around her.
86. You won't have your in-laws telling you about their religious beliefs, which are not your own.
87. You don't have to spend thousands on a engagement ring.
88. You won't have to tell them you love the ring they got you, even though you think it's rubbish.
89. Speaking of weddings, it's cheaper not having one. Imagine spending over N300,000 just for a wedding.
90. You won't have someone vacuuming during your nap.
91. You are the supreme master of the refrigerator.
92. You won't have doubts if the person you are with is really in love with you or not.
93. The only debt you have to worry about is yours.
94. You won't have to worry about marriage counseling.
95. You don't have to give anyone reasons for buying the 100" big screen 3D LED TV.
96. You won't have someone nagging you to get a better job or why you resigned.
97. You don't have to worry about compliments and if they're good enough.
98. There is less noise if you live alone.
99. You can run around in a make-shift toga and do a little dance while singing opera without someone giving you a strange expression.
100. You clean the bathroom when you feel like cleaning the bathroom.
101. You don't have to worry about coming up with vacations and if they are good enough for your significant other.
102. You don't have to buy gifts for her or her brood!
103. Your car is yours, no sharing.
104. You will always get the best seat in the house to watch your favorite shows and movies.
105. You are never late for anything. Ever.
106. You decide if you want pets or not.
107. You only have to worry about retirement for one.
108. If you want Tom and Jerry bed sheets, you can have them!
109. You don't have to listen to someone else meaningless preferred music, like Nigerian hip hop music(very meaningless).
110. The only sick person that you have to worry about, is you.
111. You won't bother about paying school fees(high rising school fees), except your own.
112. A cruise to Obudu Cattle Ranch is cheaper by yourself.
113. You don't have to clean up after anyone but yourself.
114. When you shop for food at a store, your have the authority on whats good for you or not.
115. You never have to hear the line, "Let's just be friends".
116. You control the thermostat and remote, in your house, if you are too cold crank that sucker up.
117. You can play video games all night without someone telling you to be more productive with your time or come to bed.
118. You can talk on the phone for hours with girls without hearing the "who's that, who's that??" line.
119. There is no compromising on how to decorate your house, it's totally up to you.
120. You don't have to explain why an entire pan of brownies have been eaten in a single night.
121. Speaking of desserts, you only have the ones in which you like. No fruitcake for you.
122. You decide when to do the pile of dishes in the sink.
123. You don't have to worry about bailing your wife out of custody at 3am in the morning on a work night.
124. You don't have to explain why you have a brand new expensive sports car in the driveway.
125. You can veg all day in front of the television watching your favorite TV football club without complaint.
126. No one complaining why girls are leaving comments on your Facebook, twitter, etc.
127. The only "voice of reason" is your own to deal with.
128. You don't have to say "I'm wrong, you're right" even though you know that you're right but you're just saying that you're wrong to stop argueing.
129. Pray as like, shout it as you like, as long as you like, without bothering how she feels..
130. There won't be any "meet the parents" problems.
131. You only have to support yourself.
132. You don't have to wonder what they mean when they say "No, I don't need flowers", yet when you don't get flowers for them they get mad.
133. All the money from the tax return is yours to spend on whatever, without being hassled.
134. You won't have to deal with the "I love you" question, and whether or not if they really mean it.
135. No one will throw your stuff out on the lawn.
136. There will be no one asking you "What time will you be home?" and giving you a guilty feeling about even going out.
137. No one is wondering why your are reading this list in the place, at all. Single or Not?
138. Bible even recommends it.(Matthew 19: 10 - 12, 1 Corinthians 7: 8, 26, 29, 32, 37, 38)
139. You can't worry how to explain to her people or police how she died, whether you used her for money rituals or those rubbish that in-laws usually throw up.
140. You won't bother whether she is lousy in bed, frigid, barren or even infected with STDs.

Let's keep it here for now.

In a nutshell, in fact you're as free as the air.

Is the single life better than being married? Single is better.

Waooo! Singlehood is strength! Singlehood is sweet! Singlehood is sumptuous!

Have a taste!!!

You mentioned that you could stare at the girls and not get busted. that's lust. and it floors the assumption i had that you were a eunuch for the Kingdom. so, singlehood will lead people like you to masturbation and one night stands. Theres nothing Christian about that kind of arrangement.
and for me, i will pass. i will marry. i am no eunuch.

trendystuf:
Readers Mail: I was married to my Ex Husband for 6 years but because he was not meeting up and was constantly in financial problems, my family encouraged me to divorce him. I ended up marrying someone else but now I am not happy anymore. All I think about now is my ex-husband. He is now the only thing I think about all day.

At the moment, I am breaking up with my current husband because I am no longer happy with him and he seems to agree that we go our separate ways. I have been thinking of contacting my Ex husband but I don’t know how he would react since i left him when he was really in a financial mess. It’s been 2 years since we divorced. I was told that he is rich now and has a wife and kid.

Please Help me, I love my Ex husband and I want him back in my arms.

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/03/please-help-i-want-my-ex-husband-back.html

Is this a joke or something?
if it is true, try your luck at begging and begging. Even Scripturally, your ex had a right to remarry since you wilfully divorced him.
You just want to shatter a home, simple.. and no one will be happy or allow you. Besides, leaving a man in a financial mess is not very easy to forgive.

kullozone:
She'll open up for him to enter abi

dirty mind. of all the meanings to that statement, this is the only one that pops in your head abi

ThisYourTatafo:
So I was having a talk with a friend and he made a statement which stirred some calm waters.

He said and I quote
"I NO FIT MARRY BABE WEY NO BE VIRGIN O''

Then came the ultimate question,
I asked him:

" OH BOY WHAT OF ALL THE GIRLS WEY U DON DISTABLIZE THEIR POLITY?

WHAT OF CHIOMA WEY U DON DESTROY HER OZONE LAYER?

WHAT OF AMAKA WEY U DON DIVERSIFY HER ECONOMY?

WHAT OF IRUNOOBOO WEY U DON TURN TO STUNT WOMAN 360?''

WHAT OF IJEOMA WEY U DON TERRORISE HER COUNTRY?''

WHAT ABOUT ANGELA WEY U DON DRILL HER OIL WELL FINISH?

WHAT ABOUT OSAS WEY U DON OPEN HER UNIVERSITY LIKE GATEWAY?''

WHAT ABOUT LADYF WEY U DON BREACH HER WARRANTEE?''

WHAT OF NENE WEY U DON DASUKI HER TREASURY...

ALL THESE GIRLS SO, WHO WAN COM MARRY THEM NA?''


Guys don't be selfish,
If u love her,
Protect her like a child,
Love her like a mother,
And treat her like a Queen.


AND THEN I ASK GUYS DO YOU WANNA MARRY A VIRGIN?

i agree its selfishness not be a virgin and desire to have one. what about the guys who are?
While i agree that virginity isnt all that makes a marriage tick, it has inherent blessings and advantages.

shine12:
Sir, you said Grace is a snare, that means Grace is a trap {a deceptive trap sort of]. Please I beseech you sir, cancel that definition of Grace from your mind, Grace is not a trap. Jesus did not condemn that adulterous woman and He also never tolerated her adultery, let me give you my expressive thought here Sir, that woman could have gone away without ever committing adultery again because she received grace and she could have also gone away still struggling with the sin even though she received a sort of grace. The difference is as far as She has a true and sincere desire to overcome that adultery, She will receive the grace one day (It could be instant or it could take time, God knows why some people change suddenly from a particular sin and why it takes some people to toil and toil with the same sin for over 5 yrs before changing), the other side of the coin is if she goes on sinning without a true desire to change, the grace will expire one day by maybe means of Her dying in the sin or her just totally backslidden and reaching a point of no return.
In the case of the Mosaic Law, She would have been automatically condemned without even needing to have any desire to change once she was caught, but with Grace, She will eventually be healed and overcome the sin if She has the desire. Afterall, scriptures says you will seek me and find me when you do with all your heart, therefore, Gods grace is not what you look for like a ten Naira note you lost in a dark room or on a field(you don’t look for it with sweat over a long time), but it’s what you look for like a 1 million naira cheque that dropped from your wallet, you will never leave that room until you find that cheque, so when I say Grace, I by no way mean you’re fine, your sin is covered, chill and keep on sinning, but rather it’s what we can receive if we diligently and truthfully seek for Grace in any area.
The Law could never make people righteous with God, no matter how much tithe or Sabbath you obey, Christ fulfilling the law is simply “Christ came to fulfil the demands of the law by attaining a righteousness that no man who lived before Him could attain". Now we can be perfect even as our Lord is perfect because we now have an example to follow, we have a high Priest (Hebrews 8:1) seated in heaven, We have a priest who learned obedience by the things he suffered (Hebrews 5:. The question every Christian should ask is what will God have me do now or what will Christ do in this situation and not simply acting coldly and dry.

Its just that you chose to understand me literally.
I meant that grace can be a snare when it is mishandled the way it is viewed today. But it was not meant to be so.
All other points you raised are valid.
Shalom.

clip:
Some interpret this passage to mean that women should never teach in the assembled church. However,others commentators say that Paul's word "I suffer not"( I never let) can be more literally translated"I am not allowing" Paul did not forbid women from ever teaching men. Paul' s commended co-worker, Prisilla,thought Apollos,the great preacher ( Act 18:24-26). In addition,Paul frequently mentioned other women who held positions of responsibility in the church. Phebe worked in the church ( Romans 16:1) Mary,Tryphena were the Lord's workers (Romans 16:6,12) as were Euodias and syntyche (Philippians 4:2) Paul was here prohibiting the Ephesians women, but not all women from teaching.

So since Paul was prohibiting the Ephesian women from teaching men, where is the Bible for Nigeria or Nigerians?
Remember that those epistles were written to Christians in Gentile lands, my man.

If someone had told me i will be making a life changing decision like this many years ago i would have been enraged, not at he or she but at the force that would dare cause that.

Was born a catholic, baptised by a priest and cofirmed by the state bishop. I annexed to this by becoming a member of the legion of mary (tho left at one time) i was still faithful to the blessed virgin mary with my bead ritual.

The truth is i only had to do this and that and then the other and relax. By relax, i mean do what ever i wanted. Club, have sex, drink, curse, lie, cheat, disobey other authorities, go nude etc as long as i came back for confession all the time and obtained mercy from God through the priest, i was fine. Maybe they didnt think it was fine i.e my lifestyle but the silence and indifference they showed, gave me the wrongest impression. After all i was always encouraged to go for confession like my life was hanging on it.

This is something that all catholics will understand. After confession we feel a bit unburdened with guilt...for a while. I dont know about others, but mine was not always more than an hour and i would be back to square one (or may be i never left there but thought i did). I was not freaky about the sunday communion thing like others cos i didnt think i was worthy.

Going to the university exposed me to other religious groups. I didn't like the way they shouted while praying but i admired the way they reverred the bible and talked about Christ more.
I thought the catholic church was doing little in the teaching of biblical truths but was still a good model for other churches, mushroom churches.

There were times i made resolutions to turn a new leaf but they always never came to a fruition.
Up till now. I couldn't, i cant keep them. All the rules of right living get lost on me. I just cant change. Talked with our priest every day about this after our doctrinal classes (joined the Opus dei) He suggested i read books of saints who had lived and overcame evil and of course by following the many laid down rules and rituals of the church. I read about mother Theresa, Pope John Paul the II, Saint José maria. Still nothing. It only made me feel unworthy but no power in them.

I decided to read the bible at last after so many procrastinations. I started with John and i have not seen any slight resemblance with the Church. I will continue with Matthew, Mark and Luke this month.

So many things in this old boring book are startling me.

Brother.

Leaving that Roman Catholic church would be the best thing you did for your soul.
I have been there, done that. My parents are beefing me for that but I don't care.
Let the Bible guide your choice of faith. You don't offer acceptable worship to God in a strange land. In Deuteronomy 16, it says worship where I put My name.
The catholic church is just a system where roman idolatry was Christianized. You can't background any of their doctrines rightly in the Bible. From Trinity, to worship of Mary, to Christmas, Easter,....even their version of holy communion....everything is just anti-Scripture.
Look for a church that comes closest to Biblical doctrines as you can find. Else you stand the risk of having run this Christian race in vain.

aaronson:
If you was to live by all that was written in the bible you would be in jail because of that sadist God killing upon killing.

Homosexuality might be wrong to your understanding from your society and culture perspective but it doesn't rule out the fact that human won't express their free will. If you so conservative about gay people then I think the problem is you still need to learn yourself out of your ethnocentric culture and stop being religious because it only makes you submissive to works of other men for the reason of mind control.

Nobody is perfect, hell I know I aint either but stop the discrimination of gay people it only shows how close minded and backward primitive your mind is. No intelligent society would act the third world mentality and expects to develop as the first world.

Respect Gay people and love them that way alone might even make them want to change to be bi-sexual but hating on them is a reflection of your own bad self orientation.

Just one question. Where in the entire Bible does it suggest that God is a modern God? So why should I a believer of His word modernize what He has gazzetted just to be in the league of first world countries or people, who have no place in Gods programme?

Alphanancy:
Please i am just curious how my christian friends will address this issue.
If i go to my church and be praying for all my or a particular enemy to die. It is deemed as okay because it was done in the church.
Likewise when i go to the herbalist shrine to pray for same enemies to die, i am accused of being evil. What is the difference since the will and intention is the same.

Just needed to express my thought.

See.
If the Bible is the manual for a Christian, then it behooves the believer to pattern his life after it.
Christianity is not that holier-than-thou, can't-hurt-a-fly mien. Christianity is real, a religion of reality that touches on our every day lives.
If you read Psalms 55, your views on this topic would change. David was a man after Gods heart, yet he prayed that Hus enemies should be hastened to the grave. Another example of that is in Psalms 109.
While that may sound convenient, one can also exploit the Bible for clandestine whims. That one God frowns at.
Suffer no witch to live. God has given us power over them, so will you because of gentility disobey this commandment, and allow them kill you instead?
It takes the Spirit of God to really understand the Bible.

shine12:
How come we don't stone adulterers as God's word cannot lie.Brother set yourself free.
Hebrews even states that old covenant is obsolete.Give to God cheerfully end of story.

I pray for the day people will understand what Abrahimic Covenant,Mosaic Law,Sermon on the Mount and New Covenant are.Christianity is not a mixture it's a new living way instituted by Christ in that what the law could not do He did by becoming the way once you go back to mosaic law you are bound to fulfill all.
Let me ask you,is tithing the only thing God put a curse on in the Bible,there is a curse on every wrong thing in the old covenant.So brother as we do wrong everyday that's means we are cursed and condemned everyday,that's the whole point of grace[We are not cursed anymore.]You can never fulfill the law it's impossible.

Abraham paid to tithe fine,is it a command or out if His freewill?
Noah built a ark,should I start building an ark?

David or Solomon,I don't remember gave a thousand burnt offerings Shuld I start slaughtering rams and say Solomon did it?

Let's understand scripture!!!!

Oh, brother.
Jesus said, i have not come to abolish the law, but to fulfill it. Most of those things that you cited were shadows of things to come by virtue of the coming dispensation of grace, they do not mean they are abolished. But grace is a snare and many do not know it. Yes we don't stone adulterers now, and you are deceived into believing they will go free? Impossible. Even after you confess, the consequences will catch up with you one way or another. Its in the new testament the Bible says 'hand in hand, no sinner will go unpunished'. Don't forget that.
In law, you have to have two eyewitnesses to adultery, but in grace, simple list is enough to indict. Its even more deadly.
That's why grace makes way for what can help us live through the harshness of it: the Holy Ghost. That is the simple answer.

MzOnajin1:
Lol, i don't know people still think this way. Do not generalise talk for yourself alone.

i second highIQ. I still think that way. God does not change. Besides, trousers are originally English. Have you ever seen the Queen in trousers?
Make una dey there dey deceive unaselves, and dont end up in hell, please.
Trousers ar not female wears. its even a Biblical commandment.

deyemia:


Dear Nairalanders,

I've come again to hear your views about this issue.... especially married "Egbons"

So it all started like this, My new fiancee and I just finished a sunday service and I was about going to drop her at home when one of her single friends asked if she could join us which we agreed.

On our way they started talking all wife stuffs sharing their views on a marriage and shii, then one thing led to a financial topic where my fiancee started saying she can never support a husband financially, that a man should be a man and take all responsibilities of every penny to be spent, that the reason she's working is to be able to afford all the things she wants that all the responsibilities of the household is for the husband . I acted cool at first.

Her friend was even saying that she doesnt like to be a liability that at least it should not be the man's responsibility 100% that the wife should be able to support financially, My fiancee outrightly disagreed with her saying support doesnt have to be financial from the wife, that it could be through prayers.

I couldnt keep mute anymore I had to ask her "what does it mean when people say supportive wife? " she replied she doesn't know, that she's sure it doesnt have to be financial.

At some point when the friend had already alighted, I asked what if the man is building a house and needs immediate support for just window frames, she said never!

She even said if she has money in the bank and their is no food at home, we will all drink Garri.

Now here are the facts,
-We got introduced through match making,
-there are some good things about her that is worth consideration.
-I dont think she has dated before because she obviously has no experience whats so ever when it comes to relationship behaviours. she's "efikko" kind of.
-This her ideology seems deep rooted in her upbringing and family., her mum is rich.

My Challenge is,
Should I stick around and try to change that ideology or just move on because I am sure it's a destructive ideology.

wont be easy, but it will change if she loves you. To that extent.
She nor know wetin world dey talk.
if i were you, i would bounce if she doesnt change o.
the problems this could cause!

Rapmoney:
It is now becoming a norm in our society to see numerous churches, especially, those in the pentecostal group, organising what they call 'special prayers' for the unmarried women. It is so pathetic that this has become a daily routine in most churches, as you will see young and middle-aged women who are unmarried trooping in and in droves too, to various miracle centres in our cities!!! This special prayer sessions normally last hours!

It seems these modern posh shiny-suit -wearing punk-haired pastors are not telling these ladies the truth. The bottomline for this so-called special prayers is just to maintain relevance for these pastors! They are fully aware that there's a growing number of single women in our society and they are capitalizing on that to create a soft life for themselves.

The truth is that, many Nigerians are religiously over zealous. They ascribe everything to the evil manipulations of perceived spirutual enemies. Except these pastors are praying that the ladies get married to the children of specific wealthy Nigerians like the Otedolas and Dangotes, I don't see anything reasonable in organising meaningless special prayers for our young ladies to get married! We should be more realistic than being idealistic in these modern times. It is a thing of joy for young women to marry but we shouldn't make it an avenue to distract people's attention from the real cause of this 'lack-of-husbands-phenomenon'. When pastors 'pray' for these women to get married, who are those they will get married to? The young men in the society of course! Now, most of this set of people are either jobless or underemployed! Would it not be better if these young men in your congregations are empowered through trainings and job placements so that they can marry among the ladies they have been desiring? I think this growing number of spinsters is more of an economic issue than religion! I don't think there's an old woman sitting somewhere in one village that has made Vanessa or Ejiro not to have married. Even if there was an old woman, what's the percentage that this is the cause among our unmarried ladies?

I believe the people in the Scandinavian countries like Sweden and Norway didn't pray as much as we do before their young men were able to comfortably take a wife at the age of 23!!! The average young man in most western countries have access to a reasonable economic life! In my country, our pastors see this phenomenon as a means of flagrantly extorting people and brain-washing them. On the other hand, the unnecessary high expectations of most of our young unmarried women have blinded them absolutely from finding out the truth! Most of them see their would-be husbands in the image of their posh-looking pastors. Until you look inward...search your heart...find out how you can be of economic value to yourself and your would-be husband, you will continue to live in deceit.

I am concerned, Oga Pastor...our marriageable unmarried ladies could still be my sisters, cousins, nieces, church members, neighbours and friends!

Happy Sunday!

Intelligently and aptly presented, true talk most importantly.
I agree that the the spinsterhood issue is an economic rather than a spiritual issue.
But for balance's sake, some cases are really and actually spiritual.
Africa has its share of peculiarities, and i believe this matter is one slice of it.
But i would advocate NOT the time of the marriage, but the quality of the marriage.
And in some cases it has nothing to do with prayers and programmes, but God's timing, which is the best.

oludyke:
Signs that you are not a child of God

1. Hatred for the truth of God's Word
The gospel is described as the Word of truth (John 17:17). Those who are of God hear and practise God's Word, but those who are not of God will refuse to do the same (John 8:47). Although many of today's Christians profess to be Holy Spirit filled and tongue speaking, yet they will not accept God's Word when it speaks of repentance, sin, the judgements of God, the power demonstration of The Holy Spirit and the necessity of holiness and separation from the world. If you belong to this category of people, then you are not a child of God.

2. Disregard for God's Holy Nature and Standards
To disregard God's holy nature and standard of holiness and righteousness is to disregard the very essence of God's character. Holiness is His nature. God is holiness. And holiness is God! The holiness of God is God. When you think of God, the first thing that should come to your mind is His holiness. When you think of holiness, the first thing that should come to your mind is God. Holiness means to be separated from sin and be dedicated to the glory of God. Whosoever, therefore refuses to practice this all important foremost nature of God is not of God, his or her status in the church, notwithstanding. Psalm 97:10 says that those who 'love the LORD, hate evil.' Conversely, those who love evil and unrighteousness hate GOD.

3. Love for the world
John the beloved says in 1 John 2:15 "Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him." To love the world is to love the vast system of this age that is promoted by satan and enhanced by his agents. It is to promote the world's attitude, values and sinful ways. Anyone who loves the world is also a friend of the world. One example of being a friend of the world is by belonging to worldly social clubs like Lion Club, Rotary International, Lagos Island Club, People's Club etc. It also includes participation or membership of orders like lodge, Rosicrucian, the grail message, Eckankar etc. No true believer can be part of these cults and still profess to be a child of God. You cannot walk in light and darkness at the same time (1 John 1:5). The bible warns in James 4:4 "that the friendship of the world is enmity with God, whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God."

4. Hatred for preachers of righteousness
If you hate or dislike (or support those who hate or dislike) any preacher or teacher of righteousness because he emphasises on where The Lord Jesus and the early Apostles emphasised, and will not compromise the Word of God, no matter what he costs him, then you are not a child of God. If you hate those who are truly of Christ, then you are of the devil. Satan is your father. You are only doing the deeds of your father the devil (John 8:39-41, 44). You hate the Lord Jesus Christ and His Father (John 15:18-23).

5. Continual Resistance to the leading The Holy Spirit
Paul warns believers in Ephesians 4:30 not to "grieve The Holy Spirit of God". The Holy Spirit experiences intense grieve or sorrow when believers ignore His presence, voice or leading through their unbridled sinful lifestyles. Grieving The Holy Spirit leads to resisting The Holy Spirit, this in turn leads to quenching the fire of The Holy Spirit and ultimately insulting the Spirit of grace. Hebrews 10:26-29 in the New Testament declares thus: "For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses: Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?"


6. Preference for error to truth
God's Word is the Truth. Christ Jesus The Lord said in John 8:47 "He that is of God heareth God's words: ye therefore hear them not, because ye are not of God.” Anyone who rejects the truth, and embraces error is not of God (no matter the position he occupies in the church). Whoever builds outside "the foundation of the apostles and prophets, with Jesus Christ Himself being the Chief Corner Stone" (John 2:20) is not of God. He is of the antichrist. Most unfortunately most of today's preachers, evangelists, teachers, pastors etc are building outside of this foundation and are leading millions not just astray, but to hell. The landscape is filled with error messages such as prosperity messages, faith without holiness messages, love without obedience to God's commandments, miracles extravaganza etc. Most unfortunately these messages are not from God, no matter who may be preaching them. Because we in the latter times when men have departed from the faith, these messages have become the order of the day. Paul says in 2 Thessalonians 2:10-12 that those who hate the truth shall perish. John the beloved said in 1 John 4:6 "We are of God: he that knoweth God heareth us; he that is not of God heareth not us. Hereby know we the spirit of truth, and the spirit of error."


7. Love for wealth, fame and worldly honour
For church leaders to receive honour and recognition from worldly leaders, governments and organisations and yet see nothing wrong with that is one of the surest signs that the church of this generation has drifted very far from God. Some of these church leaders go to the extent of putting the pictures they took with worldly world leaders on the pages of their ministries websites. What a shame!

Can we imagine the Apostle Peter, John the beloved, Paul the Apostle and a host of other early church ministers receiving awards from king Herod, Pontus Pilate or Emperor Nero? As you can see what was unimaginable then, has become a form of status symbol in this generation.

The more we look at the church these days, the more any true child of God is saddened. The vanity seen from many preachers of the gospel is tummy-churning. Yet many of us profess to be children of God and Holy Ghost filled believers. Love for wealth has led many astray and put them out of the faith (although they may still be shouting Hallelujah, Praise the Lord). Paul the Apostle warns believers in 1 Timothy 6:9-10 "but they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition. For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.”


8. Living without eternity in focus
Paul the Apostle says in 1 Corinthians 15:19 "If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable." The early believers of the New Testament lived with eternity in view. This was the reason they were able to withstand afflictions and endure hardness. They reckoned that their sufferings of their present time were not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in them (Romans 8:17). They saw themselves as strangers on earth and lived as such.

To live in a contrary way is to lay up treasures on earth. It is to become covetous and focus on acquisition of properties, accumulation of wealth via more money making, buying jets etc. It is to care less on how our actions bring the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ to ridicule. It is to become enslaved to sin and unrighteousness. It is to reject the warning given by the Lord Jesus in Luke 12:15 "And He said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth.”

Conclusion
Being called James, John, Mary, Matthew, Sarah etc does not make you a child of God. Neither are you a child of God because you are a pastor or worker in the church. You are not a child of God because you speak in tongues, prophesy and have faith that move mountains. The size of your congregation if you are a pastor does not make you a child of God.

Those who are children of God are those who love the truth of God's Word; abide in the truth by living it. John 8:31-32 "Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." Children of God like their Saviour Jesus Christ will love righteousness and hate wickedness (Psalm 45:7; Hebrews 1:9). They are not worldly and do not seek the praise of men. They see themselves as strangers and pilgrims on earth and are eagerly looking forward for a city which hath foundations, whose builder and maker is God.

He that hath ears to hear, let him hear. (Matthew 11:15).

true talk.

UncleSnr:
The inequality subjects them maltreatment which is condoned by Religion. isn't religion meant to serve as succor?

Trust me, it pained me when i discovered this. All i can say is that Gods plan supercedes all. But the Bible has prescriptions as to how slaves and masters should relate. thats all i can say.

joseph1832:
And when is it going to happen?

Please give me a date, time, place, not abstracts or proverbs like you see in the Bible.

At least you have agreed that there will be a rapture like the Bible states.
how can me, a mere mortal, give you a time and date when Christ said the time no man knoweth, save the Father?
if you were God, so you would let people know the date of such an important occurence?
so that these intrinsically evil people will keep committing atrocities until that date, and then make it abi?

Sanchez01:
This piece may be hard for dogmatic Christians to digest, largely because they, as dogmatic as they are, have never been encouraged to think on their own and in turn, find out the truth concerning some of the practices I'm about to mention. Therefore, I apologize to anyone who feels slighted or angry at any/every part of my write up which I consider a "hardball". Please be open minded as you take your time to read through this piece.

1. Statues, Symbol of Christ/Mary in Churches is a sin: https://news.bbcimg.co.uk/media/images/55915000/jpg/_55915655_cristo_riotur2.jpg
God, through Exo 20:3-6 makes His intention known. If you attend a church where symbols, statues of Christ, Mary or Angels are mounted within its premises or you have one at home, then know you're on your own. Christ never commanded this and every action put up in the Old Testament concerning this was purely condemned. You have no business with that statue! (Also read: 1 John 5:21; 1 Cor 10:14). If you have a cross, statue, rosary or image depicting Christ in your home or church, then you are in the congregation of the dead.


2. The Worship of Mary: https://www.jesus-is-savior.com/False%20Religions/Roman%20Catholicism/Mary2.jpg
The worship or "honour" accorded to Mary by some within the Christian fold is nothing but a misleading. Mary WAS a fortunate vessel used by God to birth Christ. She was a virgin at the time, just like most ladies of then. God could have used anyone. In short, God used anyone and that person was Mary. The Worship of Mary or mentioning her during prayer is a sin. Why? Christ gave a template fro prayer through the Lord's prayer. Mary went on to birth several other children through sexual form with Joseph.
https://www.jesus-is-savior.com/False%20Religions/Roman%20Catholicism/catholic_idolaters.jpg
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Notice the Halo around Mary (especially her head). That is an idolatrous practice of Christians which symbolizes deity (that she is equal with God). The Babylonians practiced the same idolatrous worship to the Queen of Heaven. Mary is NOT deity, she was a normal every-day woman. God makes CLEAR in His Word that He will NOT share His glory with another (that includes Mary).
http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/False%20Religions/Roman%20Catholicism/bowing_to_mary_is_a_sin.htm

3. Church Marriage: https://cache.elizabethannedesigns.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/Traditional-Chicago-Catholic-Church-Wedding-Ceremony-600x400.jpg
This is perhaps a practice Christ would never be happy with. Why? The church from the onset has no right joining a couple together. Never! [color=#990000] When a man and a woman agrees to marry, as far as they have sought both parents' consent, then they have God's favour and not the church's. Unfortunately, most churches prioritize this practice even more than the traditional wedding which started with Abraham's family in the Old Testament [/color]. Most ladies even live for the moment of church wedding without realizing the practice is wrong. Does it not baffle us as Christians that the wedding at Cana Christ attended was neither conducted in a temple or on a religious ground? Does it not speak volume, that despite being Christ, He did not lay any example as to how weddings should be conducted in the Scripture? Western wedding tradition has crept into the Nigerian church and our pastors are even outdoing those who started it. Amazing!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_wedding

4. Christmas: https://media-2.web.britannica.com/eb-media/62/550x367x147462-004-5ED6E913.jpg.pagespeed.ic.7mxURrhh39.jpg
Ah... Everyone loves this season. Who doesn't? Everyone feels it and breathes it when it is near. Unfortunately, the origin of December 25 is idolatry. Christ was never born on the 25th of December. Christ said, [color=#990000]. Christmas is not a command of God—it is a tradition of men. Christ continued, . Every year, throughout the world, on December 25th, hundreds of millions do just that! Read more on the origin of Christmas here: http://www.hope-of-israel.org/cmas1.htm

5. Tithe: https://allchristiannews.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/tithing.jpg
At this point, I know many will come for me. Therefore, this may be longer to drive my point home. Tithing started with Jacob and not on God's instruction, contrary to the belief of many people. [/color]Voila! And it started. But what was the original tithing system before the popular Malachi 3:10 method.

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The passage above was the proper way of tithing; use your money to buy what your soul lust after and eat before God. Why pastors don't preach this, I don't know. Greed, perhaps. Christ while on earth in human form taught man all he needed to know about God's worship and living with fellow men. From prayer, to fasting, to offering, to giving, to sacrificing, etc. What did He say about tithing? Nothing! What did the Apostles teach about tithing? Nothing! As a matter of fact, Christ paid tax to an earthly government, prayed, fasted, gave, sacrificed and so on, but did He pay tithe at all? No! [color=#990000][/color]

I know many will claim "we operate both the Old and the New Testament". If this is true, how come we don't practice some of the commandments in in Leviticus 15

1. As the Old Testament practice, a woman with her monthly flow MUST not come near the Temple because she's unclean. Do churches examine this? NO! Save a few (white garments).
2. When a woman is caught in the act of adultery, the Old Testament practice was instant killing by stoning her to death. Does it happen in Christianity today? No! If we operate both Testaments, how come we cannot carry out this act? Simple! Because Christ demonstrated the perfect example - forgiveness. Under Christ, some Old practices were abolished, including tithing which is an Old Testament practice to the then Israel. It is hypocrisy to pick some parts of the Scripture that suits you and dump the rest.

There, you know which is which. Which should be abolished and which should be done away with. Happy Sunday

Some of your points are valid, but my excitement ebbed when you mentioned marriage and tithing.
How can you say Christ will not be happy with church marriage, when He said in all you do, do in the name of Jesus Christ (Col. 3:17)? where else would that happen, save for the church and by an officiating minister?

About tithing.
For your information, tithing is NOT an Old Testament commandment.
The first person who paid tithes was Abraham, and he was not a Jew. Rather his offspring formed the Jewish root. Again, he did it out of conscience, and not of compulsion. it was because men did not do it willingly that God made it a law in the Levitical days.
Check people who do not pay tithes. Gods word cannot lie. there is one way or the other that same amount is taken from them. do so carefully and conscientiously. the devourers God promised in Malachi 3 WILL NOT go unless that commandment is obeyed. God is not our mate.

Yteflon:
Am a humanist-atheist and I don't see anything wrong in marrying a christian or muslim, but I discover most religious folks av problem with one being an atheist. Is that what religion preaches?

Two cannot walk together except they be agreed,says my Bible.
I cannot marry anyone who does not believe exactly what i believe, or is not willing to do so.
The problems will be legion.

Bitterleafsoup:
Matt 24:34 It clearly states in the Bible that Jesus will come back during his own generation.
34 Verily I say unto you, This generation shall not pass, till all these things be fulfilled.

Also check out Matthew 16:28
Some of you will not see death but will meet me in the Kingdom of God
Verily I say unto you, There be some standing here, which shall not taste of death, till they see the Son of man coming in his kingdom.
So was he wrong?

Matt 24:4 he told you don't be deceived many will come and tell you I am Christ...
Thats his words in the Bible
4 And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you.
5 For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many.

Let no one deceive you. There is going to be a rapture, a secret catching away of select Christian faithfuls.
Read 1 Thessalonians 4 from verse 15.

UncleSnr:

I am not ready for long statements, a real Bible reader knows all the Bible says concerning slavery.

It's really painful but true. Men are not equal. Physically speaking.