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englishmart:
just wondering if a soldier who has maybe killed many, whether in the war front or whichever means can finally make heaven if he or she dies...

A soldier can make heaven a million times over if he lives his personal life right. Murder isn't an exclusive crime Biblically. Kiiiling on the post of duty is no sin. Killing in self defence is not wrong. After God said do not kill, He still said suffer no witch to live. He commanded that homosexuals be killed in the old testament. King David killed in battle, yet he was a man after Gods heart.

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

This is what happens when people date, as exclusively frowned at by the Scriptures.
Bottom line: you are both fed up but can't man up to admit it.
Break the ice. Tell her its over. This is what you want, for your own reasons. Whether she agrees or no is another matter. She will come around soon.

Get into a focused relationship that will lead somewhere, like marriage.

Call Henry on 08037605744, henchyman@yahoo.com

Or what do u think? He's British, fit, young enough, has the guts, a dogged fighter...what other requirement. I would like to see him in that coveted role.

Sometimes these spin doctors get it all wrong. When they cook up excuses to be relevant and in the news, it falls way short of requirements and merit. What has the President's shyness around women(even if its true) got to do with putting food on the table of the common man? How has that delivered on the APC campaign promises? They should step their game up. Its boring.

hensben:
Demonym (/ˈdɛmənɪm/; δῆμος dẽmos 'people, tribe', ὄνομα ónoma 'name') is a recently minted term. (Previously, the term gentilic had been referenced by the Oxford English Dictionary.) Demonyms are words that are used to identify residents or natives of a particular place. A 'demonym' is also derived from the name of that particular place.Examples of demonyms include Chinese for the natives of China, Swahili for the natives of the Swahili coast, and American for the natives of the United States of America (or sometimes for the natives of the Americas). Just as Americans may refer to two different groups of natives, some particular groups of people may be referred to by multiple demonyms. For example, the natives of the United Kingdom are the British, or the Britons. Demonyms are capitalized.

In languages other than English, a parallel demonym sometimes does not exist, which may lead to the use of an English demonym as a nickname or descriptive adjective of a group of people. The term has not been adopted by the Oxford English Dictionary or the Merriam-Webster dictionary.

English widely includes country-level demonyms - such as "Ethiopian", "Guatemalan", "Japanese", and "French". But English much more rarely includes lower-level demonyms - such as "Seoulite", "Wisconsinite", "Chicagoan", and "Fluminense".Indeed, even some large cities such as Australia's Perth, and many other places, lack a commonly used and accepted "demonic". This poses a particular challenge to those toponymists who research demonyms.

Also, demonyms must be considered a subtype of adjectives and nouns used as appellations.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demonym

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I don't know,why or how, but I just notice that when I get friendly with kids the next thing is negative teases.
On a first meet, children want to pinch me, pull my goatee without fear. It doesn't happen with other people. And being hostile to them doesn't sit well with me, yet it seems they don't fear me.
You go see five year old pikin go dey yab me say I fart.
Yet I love them kids. Especially the fine ones.
Anyone with similar xperience and possible solutions?

[quote author=davies123 post=39276404]What is wrong with Nigerian youths?

There is something fundamentally wrong with the Nigerian youth

Why do Nigerian youths fail to put ethnic, religious, and every other affiliation sentiments aside and fight and defend their future!?

Can’t we think?

How long will the political class divide and rule us?

Can’t we see what they are doing?

PDP = APC = Political class

They are the same people. They cross from one to the other for their selfish reasons while we fight and abuse one another on social media they are looting us dry!

What is wrong with the Nigerian youth?


In 1989 the chinese youths and studenst went on hunger strike and they where without food for days demanding policy changes that will make their lives better - and today China is a first world country and the biggest beneficiary are the youths

What is wrong with us!?


Next month, November the electricity charges will be hiked by 40% and we are online throwing tantrums at one another


While South African youths are out protest the proposed school fees hike as I speak!


Is it a wonder that they are making progress and moving towards being a first world


what is wrong with the NIgerian Youth?






Cc Lalastica Pls let people read this
The problem: hydra-headed. The cause? Fear. Of what? Nothing!!!

delectablegyal:
I am just saying. Shout out to all the virgins out there. Even though the konji is strong, we are still holding on to our pride, we are not letting it go.

Because others are doing it does not make it right. Keeping your virginity is the right thing to do, forget what these non virgins say to you. No shaking.
#teamweddingnight.

Thumbs up gal. Its the right thing to do. Be virtuous as a woman as well.

I understand u op, but ur reason is flimsy. Haba. Yes your reasoning may be plausible, but it may not be could be coincidental too

Oliviaarims:
Satisfaction isn't relative or dependent on what more yhu can get. Once u're satisfied,then u're satisfied!

I beg to disagree. Coming from a biology standpoint, the brain is the engine room of both feelings and hormones. Therefore satisfaction is what the brain interpretes it to be. On a brain and mind muddled up with gross sexual images and ideas, anything less would most likely be undesirable.
Abstinence is important. And who can guarantee that sexual prowess can be maintained over time? Am asking the advocates of sexual philandering?

Call Henry on 08037605744. A taste will make you agree. All sciences and Mathematics. You smile, your child smiles.

OZAOEKPE:
I'm about to take a bold step, but I don't know if its the right one. I'm not sharing this just to seek anybody's opinion but to educate and teach guys out there on how to avoid such mistakes. Just as my mummy use to say, "anything you no wan chop, no taste am".

Back in school, I had this sweet and pretty babe, we started as very good friends, we attended mass together, was always at my place to chat and play with me, she was so in love with me but I was just myself, no feelings at all. I never wanted to ask her out but it got to a point she was waiting for me to say those words.

It got to a point I was everything she wanted and loved, she blanked her EX totally because of me, the guy even called me one time and was spewing thrash, then I had nothing to do with her(we were not dating then). There was also a post-graduate guy that was asking her out then, she told me everything the guy was telling her and I was just playing the good boy(that I am).

After much pressure, I finally told her my plans and immediately without any screening she said yes, all my friends knew about her and we were bubbling, meanwhile, I wasn't too in love but she was so crazy about me and all of that. I played along as a good guy, she was submissive, I was so jovial, encouraging her, helping and doing things a normal boyfriend would do for his girlfriend. She was always coming over to the house, I would cook for her, we watch movies together, I gave her all the attention a lady deserves. All these made her to 'fall in love', but still I was just myself.

During my final days, we had planned to spend the final week together because I was rounding up and she was entering 300 level, we planned to make that week 'interesting'. On getting to her house(a stone throw from my place), we ate together, cuddled ourselves and the romance started. After much romance and fore-play, I noticed that I was not with my wallet that moment, no condom, no place to buy condom around 10:30pm for those that know ilorin city too well. Immediately, I alerted her that I can't 'KPAKE' her without 'barrier', she got angry and was saying she wants it 'skin-to-skin', I still stood my grounds and promised I was going to make it up with her the next day. After much pleading and petting she succumb to my pleas, and I rounded up my romance. She wasn't too happy but I had to leave else I was going to fall prey no matter how hard I try not to'pe ne trate' her. I got home late that night, met her online and we chatted all through the night about 'love'.

I went to her place the following day, she was ready and set all through, short skirt, no pant, skimpy top, and my brain was 'beeping' the minute I stepped into her house, I gave her an 'erotic' hug and we kicked off asap. I brought out my wallet, immediately she saw my wallet, she started complaining that she won't allow my 'protected GBOLA'. I tried to convince her that there is no way I was going to enter her without protection(the normal custom). She wailed and wailed but I was still adamant and stood my ground, I was never going to trade off my 'future' for just a '5-minutes' enjoyment. She got angry and sent me out of her house(as a coded guy that don't want friends to know anything about my runs, I owe my girlfriends the duty of secrecy). I left her home sad, she got pissed off, I wondered all through the night why she ever wanted it raw and still could not figure it out.

The next day I didn't show up, I just called her to come pick up some stuff from chicken republic opposite Bishop's house near tanke junction. She came over picked her stuff, I escorted her and we departed to our various tents after much chat and the normal 'I love you' lyrics. Two days for me to leave ilorin, I went to her house to see her, the normal ritual started and when it was time, I heard again her voice, "baby, no condom, its flesh-to-flesh". That very minute, I told myself I wasn't going to allow my diick do the thinking, I became angry and told her I got a call from 'above' to get to Edo state(my base) the next day, I had to change my plans because I was supposed to have spent the next day at her place through out before I travel to my destination. She kept on insisting that I must 'blow' her 'RAW' and I told her its condom or nothing.

The next day, I traveled out of town to Edo state against my plans and wish, but I had to and then I made a decision to call it a quit, because I noticed she was so 'hot', and I don't trust her to keep herself till when we meet again. I just wanted to cut the relationship short, the trust was no longer there, and I never knew it was going to be a 'big problem'. I started behaving anyhow to her, didn't call her all through and she became sad and sent me a text that its over.

I moved on and she too moved on, I called her after some months and we started chatting again, I apologized for the way a screwed up and she said she has forgiven me.
She told me she has a new boyfriend and I wished her well, but anytime I tease her how much I love her, she gets angry and keep saying things I don't want to hear. Something happened last week, I just sent her a message, saying I love her so much, she responded by saying I should 'go and die'.
I have tried every way to apologize to her, she keeps getting angry by the day, I made a mistake asking her out, I regretted asking her out because she makes me feel that I'm wicked. I send her money most times just to calm her down, but she keeps vexing at any little joke I make, I don't know what to do to please her anymore.
I'm planning on cutting every communication with her, to save her the stress of remembering the past.



NB: what you know too well that you won't eat, don't taste it. Girls are very fragile emotionally when they fall in love, don't toy with them.

Don't ever 'KPAKE' without your condom, your future is at stake. Don't trade off your future for just 5-minutes enjoyment.

Abstain from sex, but if you feel you cannot please use you 'condom'.

For those who are 'engaged', be faithful




Cc: lalasticlala farano



* pardon my grammatical blunders, #rushing things

You see how trouble can be avoided. Unmarried people have no business having sex.

Like my man Denzel Washington said, when you pray for the rain, u gotta deal with the mud too.
I have nothing against being real, whether to marry a made man or struggle thru with a beginner.
But there are consequences. The question is, as an individual, can you handle em?
But not to say as if there are no benchmarks or thresholds.
The Bible calls a woman a help meet. There are actually men who nEed the presence of a woman to inspire, kickstart and ignite them. Others are by predestination, late beginners. By no fault of theirs. So they don't deserve women abi, op?

This is not an attempt at negating hard work. Besides, that instance you cited, was an environment, system and milieu that was controlled, created and supervised by God Himself. Can you, in conscience, op, say the same of our system, Naija in perspective? You know you can't.

Let God just help us all, kowai

phenomena16:
How do you know your current man is a keeper? It’s not about you loving
him right now, it’s about how much he loves and appreciates you. Love is
meant to be mutual and not one sided.
Mélanie Berliet of YourTango lists a few signs that you man is totally
worth your everything:
1. You never have to wonder if you’re being too clingy, too forward,
too emotional or too anything with him.
2. There’s certainly no limit to the number of couple-y photos you can
post to social media without weirding him out. In fact, he welcomes
the rea$$urance that you’re as into the relationship as he is.
3. When he comments on your posts or tags you in a comment, he
doesn’t shy away from making it obvious that he’s your boyfriend.
4. Because dating you is a badge of honor for him.
5. He’s not the type to waste a single second worrying that his
“game” is ruined just because he has a serious girlfriend.
6. It doesn’t even occur to him that appearing taken (online or IRL)
might discourage other women from hitting on him.
7. And if the thought of repelling other women does cross his mind,
it’s in the context of being glad that he doesn’t have to deal with
all that anymore. Thanks to you, he’s got that part of life all
figured out.
8. He would never even think to lament the loss of his single status, or
dare disrespect you by complaining to his friends about the pitfalls
of having a girlfriend.
9. He definitely wouldn’t liken the experience of dating you to “a
second job,” or anything else short of the absolute pleasure it is to
know someone as awesome as you so intimately.
10. Being with you doesn’t make him feel like he’s missing out on
anything whatsoever. You are pure value added in his view.
11. He’s the guy who actually tells his buddies that he’s lucky to have
met someone so special. And he doesn’t stop to think how “girly”
or stup*d he might sound saying it.
12. In fact, he encourages his male friends to consider the benefits of a
serious long-term relationship, rea$$uring them that it’s totally
worth it—with the right person, that is.
13. He’s proactive in demonstrating his affection, both physically and in
other ways. And he never ever feels stup*d about it, or thinks to
question his manhood.
14. He knows how to be cheesy and tug at your heartstrings in a way
that’s totally works and makes you squirm a little in the best way
possible.
15. He’s the type of boyfriend people cite as proof that there definitely
are good men out there.
16. Sometimes, in fact, you shy away from sharing just how great
things are going because you don’t want to brag.
17. Your friends actually do kind-of low-key hate you for landing
someone so wonderful, but mostly they’re just grateful that your
boyfriend sets the squad’s bar for how a man should treat his
girlfriend.
18. He doesn’t measure his self worth in terms of how often he gets
laid. And if he ever did, he stopped the exact second you met.
19. $ex is great, but he was always searching for something more—
something he finally found lying in bed on a rainy morning right
next to you. Add urs too

I agree its a heavenly feeling when u meet someone terrific. But how many of them are woth all this emotion? How many of them will jump off their high horse of culture of entitlement to savour the mutual feeling of requited love? How many will not see an expression of somewhat cheesy sentiment as their hereditary birthright, and turn the guy into a lampooned maga? How many real Christian women are out there?

EasternLionn:
Source: Al Jazeera
http://www.aljazeera.com/programmes/listeningpost/2015/09/nigeria-brown-envelope-journalists-150913113556304.html

But its true na

shegsky:
But why is it that only girls are asked to keep their virginity? What about us men, eh? I have read a lot of posts and comments that talk about girls keeping their virginity, and some guys even insult those that are not virgins.

But my question is this: Is it only girls that are meant to keep their
virginity?

What about guys? And again how will a lady be able to keep her virginity when guys are always asking for sex then turn around and
insult her for losing it?
It is not only women that are expected to be pure, guys should be pure as well. You want a lady to be pure, yet,
you won't stop asking for sex. If she still refuses, you try to make her weak in her
defence. Yet, you will come online or elsewhere and shout about girls keeping
their virginity until marriage.. Are we immune to virginity?

Let’s stop asking ladies out, and even when they accept to date us, don't ask them for sex.

Help them to keep their
virginity until marriage and stop putting the whole virginity and purity struggle on them alone!

Just my humble opinion though.

Thanks!

I agree with you 200%. No theory of how males are sex gods and stuff can stand this one. Let the men keep themselves too. It's safer and healthier.

CuteMaryJ:
Most times when we walk into big malls, boutiques, supermarkets, we never question their prices. We pay exactly what we see on the price tags and even hand out tips to the staff. But the moment we are out of these shops and want tobuy banana, our bargaining game gets off to the roof.

Poor widow with 12 hungry children at home tells you banana is N100. She even takes out her time to explain how difficult it wasfor her to even buy it, how the economy is so tough. But we insist that if it's not N50, we are not paying. Some of us even step back into our cars and make to drive away.

But because 'half bread is better chin chin', this woman is forced to call you back and sell to you at little or no gain. In her heart, she cries, she's worried about how she'll survive with her children. She silently reassures herself that 'It's well. God will definitely provide.'' While you happily chop the luscious banana.

Take some seconds out and think about this, guys. Please don't bargain hard with small vendors like this. They do business not to buy designer bags, Gucci shoes but to LIVE and EAT!

Love,
Laila Ijeoma

Source: http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/07/something-really-urgent-to-ponder-on.html

true. and i do it sometimes. God have mercy on me.

yungkiz:
Hi to everyone,

Am a student of unizik 200 level, on my way to lecture this morning beside my lodge, I saw people pouring a girl paint in the name that she just finish her final degree exam.

Please, I want to ask does this also happen to other institution, because this is becoming too much here in unizik, you don't know who Is your enemy, they might use this oppurtunity to do you bad may be by pouring you acid... Please let the school authority look about it because me am afraid I don't want this on my own time.

see sentence construction na. and u say u are in 200level?

omartins:
If you can sustain up to 3 months without pay, don't apply.

Ur head dey there braw.... De no dey pay. Inda isaiah is one of the shrewdest in the business.

dechandel:
Taxi will not carry you for free in Obodo Oyibo?? And in which part of Nigeria do you see cab men doing that Charity work??
Nothing is free in Obodo Oyibo? Is anything free in Nigeria? Even the electricity that isn't free in Nigeria is a mess but in Obodo Oyibo what do you get? I guess you really dunno what 24/7 eletricity is though?


Loneliness? When you have your Job, school, trust me, your social life won't be in shambles!

Cost? I am sure you prefer paying your Light bills and yet you keep buying litres of petrol daily!! Talk about cost!!
Tax? If Nigeria wasn't ruled by greedy old mofos, trust me, you'd really be glad to catch a reality of what it is to live in a civilized world!!






There is no place like home when it comes to our food sha

I just love you.

hatux:
The Radio OAP shows off how flexible she's getting from her fitness
training with celebrity personal trainer/rapper, Uzikwendu...

Looks kinda funny to me...

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Also, check some comments below....

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Cc: lalasticlala

She looks like Madea

i have no problem with being open with your intending partner to that level. but i hope she is not suggesting intending couples 'test' themselves, because it looks like that's where this kind of talk is heading to. what if you finish testing and lo...on that night, PHCN disappoints.



you cannot be wiser than the creator of marriage. our keneri brain has never taken us anywhere, and it never will, particularly when God is involved. my two naira.

Baba, I duff my hat joor.
He always a delight to read anyday.
I make him my mentor in my writings and people are screaming 'too much grammar'
See as grammar full the place, yet the writing dey flow dey go.

We are a country ofsensual and sensuous people, most unfortunately. I am pained.

Christians, the time is close! I pity people who are still looking at this with political or economic eyes, not that everyone is meant to understand anyways. It is slowly building up, Europe has started it, Africa is in tow, before you know it the world will be connected to one source of sustenance. Legal tender will be converted to gold,phasing out paper. Remember the vatican is standing on an unbelievable deposit of gold. It will culminate in the Pope assuming charge of all political and economic power, and seize that platform to declare a single form of worship. Any opposition will be crushed, according to the book of revelation. The mark of the beast is NOT a literal mark on the forehead or right hand; it is simply a symbol of action(hand) and belief(forehead) of any system that is in opposition to the revealed Word of God for this age.in short any church or system that acts and stands for any truth or doctrine parallel to the Word of God is already a part of the AntiChrist system. As I type. Those who want to make the rapture, it is time to buckle up and seek God and get the passport- the Holy Ghost! What will follow after the rapture is horrible and unimaginable. God help me too!

Well, I can relate with their reason for not going to church, but I believe anyone seriously desirous of making heaven would not take any whit of the Word of God lying low, or sacrifice it for anything, no matter how plausible. The Scripture says don't forsake the assembly of the saints. While caring for other people's welfare, they shouldn't forget their soul needs rejuvenation, time and again, too.

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babs01:
"1. Lead me to some place as your second wife?
2. So you want me to be your extramarital affair partner?

Had it been he pampered u with gifts and huge amount of cash u would have become one of the two.

Don't mind her.