 Romance › Re: God Please I Don't Want A Girl From Imo State As A Girl Friend Or As A Wife by poik(m): 10:56am On Jun 05, 2015 |
Pope22:
Every tribe or every state has what is known for, accept it or not. Well, to a minute extent. |
| Romance › Re: God Please I Don't Want A Girl From Imo State As A Girl Friend Or As A Wife by poik(m): 7:13pm On Jun 03, 2015 |
Tribe doesn't define anyone,man. |
| Phones › Glo Bis On Play Book Blackberry by poik(op): 12:42pm On May 27, 2015 |
Please, can anyone help put me thru on how to use my glo bis on my blackberry play book 32gb?my email is henchyman@yahoo.com, 08037605744. Thanks |
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| Christianity Etc › Re: Is It Possible To Change God's Will Through Prayer ? by poik(m): 6:17pm On May 10, 2015 |
Orijin101:
During our Sunday school service in church today, this question was being asked by one of our members and it leads to a serious argument. So, I've decided to share the same question with you guys also.
Is it possible to change God's will through prayer?
your opinions are highly welcome.
cc: lalasticlala Prov. 19:21- there are many devices in a man's heart, nevertheless, the counsel of the Lord shall stand. If we say God is omniscient and omnipresent, and omnipotent, then the answer to that question is clear. But there is something called permissive will. There are instances in the Scripture where God listened to man's effectual prayer eg when Hezekiah was to die and he asked for more time, yet evrything will boil down to what God wants to achieve. |
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| Family › Re: 10 Things Every Pregnant Wife Needs From Her Husband by poik(m): 11:40am On May 08, 2015 |
Gboyeboy:
Hmm. I'm learning.
Number 3: I love the prayer part Seconded |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Is Abortion Right In This Instance? by poik(m): 9:44am On May 07, 2015 |
yinkard4me:
214 of the girls rescued from Boko Haram
have been confirmed pregnant. (not that I'm
surprised anyway). My question is this,
considering the psychological consequence of this,
both long and short term, can abortion be justified
in this instance??
Christians and Muslims, your view In as much as I don't want to sound insensitive to the plight of a woman who was humiliated and violated in such dastardly manner, I would still advocate for her not to abort it. For one thing, the God that frowns at abortion is wiser than all of us. Bible actually calls the foolishness of God the height of the wisdom of man. The fact that there are dire and painful consequences of keeping the baby is most times a figment of what we think. Whoever obeys God ALWAYS has the last laugh; I don't care how long it takes. My two kobo!! |
| Romance › Re: How Many Men Is Too Much For A Lady To Have Slept With Before She Get Married by poik(m): 1:17pm On May 04, 2015 |
MORNDEW:
The issue of a woman's past life sometimes determine her future and most times too, affect how serious a man will take them. Some ladies have spent their lives choosing and realy being careful of how they date and the men they sleep with before they get married. While some, have decided to just live their life without minding whatever consequences that might arise from such way of life.
I have always wondered how many men is ideal for a woman to must have had gone down under their sheet before she eventually get married. By woman, i don't mean a prostitute but an everyday woman or the lady next door as the case may be.
I have a lady friend who started tasting the forbidden fruit right from sixteen (16) years oldold when she was in SS1. Now she is twenty (20) and has slept with 13 men. She is neither a runs girl nor a prostitute but this are guys that she met on diferent places and platforms. The social media like 2go, Facebook, Twitter Eskimi, Badoo etc. Did not help matters as she said.
Recently, she called me to inform me that she has gotten admission into the University after several attempts that failed. As we were discussing she told me she was going to flex hard and have lots of fun. I said ''u go blow tire na" she said "before nko.If a lady who had already tasted 13 different men from 16-20 years and now in the university, how many men will she sleep with before she graduates? Lets say she minimises her level of libido and decides to make it one guy in each year in school then on her graduation day she must have slept with 17 men in total. Lets also assume she did not get married after her graduation but 3 years later, then your guess is as good as mine.
Now, i've always pondered within myself on the issue of how many men is too much for a woman to have slept with before she finally decides to settle down.
Friends, what do you have to contribute?
Princewill Chimereze.
Writter, Facilitator, Public Affairs Analyst and Social Commentator.
Curled from: http://www.enlightennigeria..com/2015/05/how-many-men-is-too-much-for-lady-to.html?m=1 What people do not seem to understand is that sex is not just a perfunctory union of complementary sexual organs, but a lifelong bonding of two souls. That is why it is meant for the confines, blessedness and sanctity of the marriage institution. Any thing other than this is flagrant disobedience not just to the Word of God, but the cyclic balance that upholds the cosmos in the mental and psychological parlances. It therefore means that one who has had ten sexual partners has bonded with ten people already; and he or she is not married yet. Even if the person does not cheat, which is nearly impossible except by the grace of God, it is guaranteed there will be issues when nuptials are eventually tied. Compatibility issues, sexual chemistry issues, libido issues, perfomance issues and the like are just a few, which would not be there if the person had remained chaste. I hav not even mentioned psychology of an ex an how debilitating it can be to a marriage. That's why I love the Israelites, you sleep with a girl, you marry her. God knows, nobody will serve me used and spent commodity in the name of marriage. It won't work. No one goes round the Word of God without snake bite and consequences. Sorry if I sound judgemental |
| Christianity Etc › Re: My Experience As A Church Worker For 6months by poik(m): 3:57pm On May 03, 2015 |
classicB:
Don't get me wrong abeg, am not a baby anymore and I know the difference between a guy that has a good intention and the one that basically needs only sex from me just to boost his ego among his peers.
These are guys that have slept with countless of girls in the church choir and other workers, what is the difference between me and these girls that will make this same guys have good intention towards me?
This isn't asking out, it is simply boosting their ego so they can go about and say 'i have slept with the new worker too'
I do have a boyfriend and theere is nothing hypocritical about that. Hold it right there lady. The concept of boyfriend and girlfriend negates Christianity, true Christianity |
| Romance › Re: Ladies,which Of These Guys Would You Have Said Yes To? by poik(m): 10:22pm On May 01, 2015 |
kambili999:
I really don't get it. why in the first place should a lady be closely and seriously involved with more than one man? Ijuo m m ga ju onye? She has even slept with the. Peter guy. The kind of Christians we have these days sha |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Is A Prayerless Christian Really A Powerless Christian? by poik(m): 7:04am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Ymodulus:
Typing
Prayer leads to a false sense of accomplishment. That false sense of accomplishment stymies action to address real world problems.
While the main purpose of prayer may be to help others, it never demonstrably does that. Prayers benefit only those believers who say or hear them. Prayer gives them comfort. It lets them think they have some control over a situation that may be out of their hands. It’s the last resort of people who have run out of ideas, and the first resort of people who never bothered to think about how they could actually fix the problem at hand.
It is illogical, even in religious terms. If God has a plan, why try to thwart it? If God can be swayed by prayers, what kind of God would allow the horrors we see in the world? And if two devout believers pray for different things, how does God choose the winner?
In Conclusion Prayer is useless and as such does not give or make someone powerful Your display message has told me all I need to know. My Bible calls you a fool. Simple. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Is A Prayerless Christian Really A Powerless Christian? by poik(m): 6:59am On Apr 27, 2015 |
Gombs:
But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth (Acts 1:8 ).
Some people say, "A prayer-less Christian is a powerless Christian". But power doesn't come by prayer. In the New Testament, the word "power" is frequently translated from two words, namely: "dunamis" which is the dynamic ability to cause changes and "exousia" which is authority.
Jesus refers to power in our opening verse. You received it when the Holy Spirit came into your life; you didn't get it through the effect of prayer. On the other hand, 'exousia' or authority means delegated power. The effect and the efficacy of authority depends on the power that's behind it.
We've been given authority in Christ Jesus to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power (ability) of the enemy (Luke 10:19). The "power" that's behind our authority is the power of the Almighty God. This, again, didn't come by or through prayer; it was bequeathed to us in Christ as our heritage.
In Matthew 28:18, Jesus said, "...All power is given unto me in heaven and in earth". That word, "power" again is translated from the Greek word "exousia", authority. In the next verse He said, "Go ye therefore...." He delegated His authority to us immediately. Halleluiah!
It's important for us to know what we have in Christ Jesus; we have authority in His Name! We have power to effect changes and live the supernatural life every day. I would to God that Christians would know this! What impact and changes we'll make in this world!
You're fully equipped with divine power to preach the Gospel and change the world! That power is in you through the Holy Spirit. Brother, the fact that your submission is true does not in any way undermine the importance of prayer in A Christian's life. 1 Thessalonians 5 says Pray without ceasing. Things like spiritual growth, difficult battles and situations are ONLY conquered and achieved on one's knees, and not any other way. Christ knows all we need (Mat. 6) yet he commands us to ask ( Mat 7). Let's not be indolent and lax as Christians. We are soldiers. |
| Business › Re: Xenophobia: MTN Nigeria Warns Of 6,000 Job Losses by poik(m): 7:05am On Apr 21, 2015 |
Far as I am concerned, we caused this for ourselves. No be their fault. |
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| Literature › Her Fate by poik(op): 1:44pm On Apr 20, 2015 |
Ugonma stared unseeingly into the space in front of her. The space in front of her started from her tear-blinded eyes, in the dock where she stood, flew over dozens of heads, to the presiding judge’s horn-rimmed spectacles which she placed aristocratically a good distance between her eyes and the slope of her well-carved but sagged nose. It seemed the state had specifically chosen a woman like herself, who from the facts presented, would not waste time to pronounce the ultimate penalty for a crime of this magnitude. Being a legal person herself, she had come to observe this fact herself, from her over ten years of involvement in jurisprudence. Male judges would like to go over the facts over and over, seeking any semblance of an opening to inject leniency, but not their female counterparts.
She opened the large notebook, and made some notes.
Allen stared longingly and lovingly into Jenny’s eyes, hands interlocked with hers as they sat too close for comfort on the three-seater settee in his living room. They were in that posture for the better part of three minutes. Three minutes which saw lots of thoughts criss-crossing both minds. Three minutes which contained meditations and unspoken sentences that wondered what life would have been if they had not met by such stroke of happenstance. For Allen, he wondered how on earth he had made the mistake of considering Ugonma for a wife material, not to talk of the malady of marrying her. Here was a more beautiful, more mannered, more homely; a more humble replacement who was everything Ugonma was not, staring him full in the face. As a matter of fact, it was good riddance Ugonma had gotten the hell out of his life. What better gift could God and life give to him in female covering other than the Mona Lisa whose soft hands he wished he wouldn’t have to let go of?
On Jenny’s part, it was a scheme well played out; it was a joker in this game of cards, a sucker punch in this boxing ring. Ever since she had set eyes on Allen at Surprises, the image of his slim handsome features had secured accommodation in her head, and paid rent in hard currency, from days to weeks to months before today. She had even stalked him to his house on one occasion, and got disappointed at what she found out, right that first day. But here she was anyways, in not only his house, but his arms, and that was all that mattered.
Presently her thought flow and pattern was rudely sliced in two by Allen’s probing lips and tongue, which performed better than Schlumberger’s drills in her mouth. They were engaged in the session of unhealthy mouthing for what seemed like a while, and it seemed to have the potential of graduating into something on a more intimate level, judging by the roving motion of both their hands on sacred parts of their anatomies. It did not end well, though.
The curtains directly facing them parted slowly to reveal an average heighted silhouette obstructing the rays of the sun which seemed to approve of their romance, feeding them warm rays to add pep and steam to the mutual expression of love. The image which appeared in the house, the means of which awed the both of them, had a bland look on her face, was dressed in a white flowing gown which left the contours and ridges of her physique open to imaginations and wild guesses. She said nothing throughout the two full minutes she regarded them, and the stroke of the second minute saw the first long and thick tear course from her eyelids, through the length of her oval face, graze the tip of the fabric just above her breast and drop right on the top of the Persian rug. She had gathered enough steam and offence to fuel her assault. Her best friend’s large lap was already curled round her husband’s. There was nothing more to imagine. She lunged forward.
With the speed that would make one ask where her diving medal was, she was airborne already, and landed dastardly on the both of them. She remained there long enough, still not a sound escaping her lips, and when she got up, she knew she was ready for whatever the outcome would be. The knife on her left hand had dug too deep for survival into Allen’s mouth and throat, and stuck out on the nape pf his neck behind him and pinning him to the sofa. With his eyes rolled unnaturally open, and motionless, he stared horribly at an impending afterlife, and it did not look good at all. When she removed the knife, bloodied as it was, she did not feel a tinge of regret. With the same bloodied hands, she snapped his eyes shut, and moved on to the next one.
She, too, did not deserve pity.
In a most cruel manner, she plucked the knife from Jenny’s breast and with it cames unbowelling spurts of blood and light tissue. She was very, very dead, and she did not consider it worthwhile to mete the same treatment to her that she did to her husband. She left the house, her clothes and body a sorry, bloody mess. Without a care in the world.
‘I do not like the way my husband shouts at me’, Ugonma dropped as she collapsed into the sofa in Jenny’s apartment. She held out a glass and it was promptly filled up for her. Don Simon’s blackcurrant. Ten percent alcohol. She downed it in one swig, and held out her glass again.
‘For the flimsiest of reasons, he just raves and rants. Nothing I do ever pleases him. The other day, just because there was a little too much salt in the soup, he nearly flung it at me. Of course that was the end of the meal for him, and he hasn’t spoken to me for days on end. Is this how marriage should be? What have I entered into?’
Jenny regarded her for a while, saying nothing, drink in hand. She took another gulp of the dark red liquid. It was now she considered replying her friend.
‘You are stupid, do you know that? Very stupid. This was the exact same thing I went through in the hands of my former husband. That figure-head and a cheap excuse for a man. Look at me now. Am I better off or not? If I need a man I just buy one off the shelves. I can’t take or tolerate an abusive man, under any guise. Just because he paid a pittance of a bride price? In this day and age of equal rights? Continue with him, till he kills you, and attends your burial with your high school friend, if he ever attends at all.’ She ended the chide with a loud, menacing and concluding hiss.
The obstinate hum of the engine of the Mercedes as it taxied to a stop in front of her window made Ugonma stir from her sleep. Parting the curtains a little, she was not surprised it was her husband, who was right home on time. She jumped on the bed, wondering how she was going to cope the next five hours he would be home, how to cope with his persistent nags over things she considered trivial..
The door clicked, and turned. He let himself in.
Allen wished there was more work to do at the office. He was infuriated his boss had insisted he would personally take home the statistical analysis the United Nations had contracted their firm to do. That woman’s whining and sulking over little corrections he tried to administer for her own betterment almost made him wonder who he had married, and if this was actually his house. What he saw when he entered the bedroom he shared with his wife made him more annoyed with his boss.
The tufts of hair littering the tiled floor was reminiscent of a local hairstylist’s space on a busy business day. On the wooden wardrobe hung a wet large skirt, dripping with latherish water. There was a brassiere, a blouse, and two tops on each of the four corners of their bed like a beacon landscaping the area around the bed from desperate land poachers. To make matters worse, there she was, lying spread-eagled in mock-sleep, he was sure, pretending not to have heard the door click.
‘Ugonma, what is this?’
The next day, Allen came back to find his house devoid of each of his wife’s belongings.
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With a satisfied smile on her face, Jenny took a long look at the mirror, and started oiling and pan-caking her face. Last night had been anything and everything but unsatisfactory. Allen was surely a heart-saver. He reminded her fiercely of her first love, Dennis, who defined romantic love in its deepest and truest import to her. She knew where she would be by now, had that cruel accident not rudely snatched him from her.
They were meeting again tonight. She expected nothing less. He even wrote her a touching, deep-worded poem which he slipped into her bag when she was busy with the menu. She was going to marry him straightway if he asked.....
‘So Jenny, you have the heart to do this to me? You have the heart to snatch my husband? My best friend whom i confide in? Whatever have i done to you to deserve this?’ Ugonma had stormed into the room, seething with a rage that had potentials.
‘Relax, Ugo.....what are you talking about? Which husband? The one you said you didn’t love anymore? The one you said shouts the life out of you? The one you accuse of raving and ranting? The one out of whose house you moved? I do not consider Allen your husband. No one treats her husband in the manner you have done. Besides, i love men that shout. It has a way of adding the spice of challenge to our romance.’
The next ten minutes was spent reviving Ugonma. She ended up in the hospital, looking up into the kind eyes of the handsome doctor.
‘From the evidences before me and the honourable men of the jury of this court, i hereby find you guilty as charged, Ugonma Nnakwe. Nothing should have warranted you to take two lives, under whatever level of provocation. The society ought to be rid of sociopaths like you. You are hereby sentenced to death by the hangman’s noose. I rise.’
Her soul had long risen, up and away, to an inevitable hereafter.
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| Christianity Etc › Re: My Terrible Experience In A Church Today by poik(m): 12:22pm On Apr 20, 2015 |
Bekwarra:
My friend who's a worker in a new generation pentecostal church (I won't mention names) invited me to his church. Although I don't normally go to church VERY EARLY, he succeeded in persuading me to go early with him because as a worker, he should be in church very early and he knew fully well that if we didn't go together, I wouldn't go; so he succeeded in dragging me along.
When we got to church, they started their normal Sunday School like chit-chat and later praises, worship songs and the service started proper. Born into an Apostolic-inclined orthodox and later crossed over to RCCG, I wasn't at home with the mode and method of their service. I was getting bored and feeling out of place while silently praying for the service to end. Then it came to things like "run to five people and tell them greater things are coming your way this week, you must run o", "grab the person beside you and shake him happy sunday". I was getting tired and shaking my head in despair.
The worms in my stomach were not helping matters, they launched a massive #BringBackOurFood protest because I couldn't take breakfast before leaving for church. The only thing that kept on pushing me on was the hope that the pastor would soon say "run to 5 people and hug them happy sunday". I would gladly and patiently look for 5 beautiful sisters with their killing mini/pencil skirts and tight-fitting shirts to hug but unfortunately, that command never came. All those times, I was feeling frustrated already and whenever my eyes meet those of my friend where he was standing with the engines and mixers, he gives me that "padi no vex we go soon finish" smile.
Just as I was resigning to fate and hoping that the service would soon end and I would bolt home the worst of it happened. The pastor had been preaching for close to 45mins harping on the need to give and sow as good Christians. He gave several examples in the bible of people who gave and later reaped God's blessings. He urged us to give and test God. After that, it was time to give offering. The offering was going to be in two parts; normal Sunday offering and the commitment towards the church building because their auditorium is under construction. We gave offering and afterwards the pastor came back on the pulpit and started complaining why people refused to give generously despite taking us on a journey through the word of God about the essence of giving in a Christian life. He preached for another 10mins. I wasn't even listening to him again because I was gradually dozing off.
What actually jolted me back into reality were these words "now it's time for operation search your neighbour". I sat up immediately to listen well and that was when I heard the pastor saying
"this is time for operation search your neighbour, search your neighbour's bag, wallet, purse or pockets as need be and bring out the contents, if there is no money there return the bag but if there is money bring it out, we must learn to give to God. He gave us the money and we must return it to him".
After all those words, people took the bag of the person sitting beside them while the pockets or wallets of brothers were being searched.
The brother beside me was taking his hands towards my pockets about to begin his own search when I said with venom in my eyes and in a Russian mafian voice
"What do you think you want to do??"
He replied me
"You heard what the pastor said brother".
I told him not to even contemplate trying it. He was then trying to pacify me and cajole me telling me there is no harm in giving towards God's work. I told him I'm not against giving but I'm against collecting by force. This is no more giving, this is collecting. He smiled at my words and said
"My brother it's the same thing, God's blessing awaits the two"
and he made for my pockets again, I felt that my phonetics were not having any effect and I replied with
"Bros abeg no try that thing o, I swear I go change am for you".
He was shocked. 
One usher noticed us and came to us and he was trying to calm me down because my voiced had changed as my face too.
My friend remained where he was to avoid being seen as the person that brought Orubebe to church. I don dey para for them like mad and the people sitting around us were trying to pacify me. I said "Okay, no problem," carried my bible and.............................with one last Dracula look I told the usher
"Please don't even try to follow me". 
He remained rooted to the spot and I made my way out of the church and straight home. I feel you bro. There is no Bible for collecting from people by force. What nonsense! You were even lenient to the searcher. Haba |
| Family › Re: 21 Ways That Will Make Your Husband Keep Loving Youmore And More. by poik(m): 10:26am On Apr 04, 2015 |
NONSENSE OF THE HIGHEST ORDER!!!!!
you can do all these things you mentionned (to the T) and your partner could/would still cheat on you.....it all depends on the people involved.
here is a simple clue: nobody should be "AFRAID" to cheat, they should NOT do so because they know fully well that it's WRONG!!!!
fear is a very poor way to keep a family in order, because we all know that after a while, the fear will be gone. and btw, if someone is cheating, then there is not much anyone can do to have them stop (if the cheater doesnt want to), and certainly not with what you posted, lol!
as for what you wrote:
1. Discover his favorite pet name and call him by that.
shouldnt wifey simply find her own pet name to call him, instead of using what others may have already used?!
2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.
there is a difference between being the head of the family and being a careless dictator.
3. Do not challenge him when he is hurt.
just because someone is hurt, does NOT mean women should allow anything thrown at them. if what he says/does is against this woman's way, then she has all the right to challenge that.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology and explain why you behave that way that annoyed him.
lol, you must live in a cave....why should that man be angry to begin with...are they not adult? cant they talk like adults do?
5. Be quick to say " I am sorry dear". Whenever u offend him, insist on his forgiveness and kiss him when he does.
NONSENSE!!!! women should only be sorry if they BELIEVE they are, and nothing else. there is absolutely no point in saying sorry, if they dont mean it(just to stroke an insecure man's ego).
6. Speak good of him before his friends n siblings.
what if there is no good to speak of?!
7. Honour his mother.
honour EVERYONE that is worthy of being honoured....... his mother is just one out of the gazillion of people that should be honoured.
9. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially when he has no enough money at hand
if there is money problem, then wifey should cook what is AFFORDABLE, lol!
10. Do not allow maid to serve him food when you are at home, because you may lose him to them.
if a husband can "be lost" to maids and servants, then this person shouldnt be married to begin with. marriage is for the mature that wont be tempted by maids and servants.
11. Give him warm reception with an embrace when he returns, collect his luggage and help UnCloth him.
lol what next?! kiss his feet and clean his dirty a.ss?
12. Smile when u looks at him and give him occasional perks when u are out socially.
again, a woman shouldnt laugh IF SHE DOESNT WANT TO. there is no reason for being fake in marriage, NONE!
13. Praise him before your children.
praise whoever DESERVE praising!
14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower.
....and let him wash yours when you are in the shower too.
16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.
...if a women does miss her husband then YES, but if she doesnt then NO!!!!
17. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell him I love you
...if a woman loves her husband then YES, if she doesnt then NO!!!
18. If he is a public figure or politician, gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him to the point of demand. He will not be enticed by any other woman that day.
BWAAAAAAH! so you mean the wife needs to fukc her husband DAILY for the rest of her natural life?! come on bro! if a husband wants to cheat, then it doesnt matter how many time you fukc him, he will still do......simply because that other gal will be more satisfying than wifey. most men will fukc a brand new toto, even if they are dead tired (abi to lie down is a problem now?!)
19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your husband.
if you are lucky then YES, if you aint then definitely NO!!!
20. Give him a hug for no reason.
for no reason whatsoever?! well i hope the husband does the same too then? |
| Family › Re: 21 Ways That Will Make Your Husband Keep Loving Youmore And More. by poik(m): 10:25am On Apr 04, 2015 |
NONSENSE OF THE HIGHEST ORDER!!!!!
you can do all these things you mentionned (to the T) and your partner could/would still cheat on you.....it all depends on the people involved.
here is a simple clue: nobody should be "AFRAID" to cheat, they should NOT do so because they know fully well that it's WRONG!!!!
fear is a very poor way to keep a family in order, because we all know that after a while, the fear will be gone. and btw, if someone is cheating, then there is not much anyone can do to have them stop (if the cheater doesnt want to), and certainly not with what you posted, lol!
as for what you wrote:
1. Discover his favorite pet name and call him by that.
shouldnt wifey simply find her own pet name to call him, instead of using what others may have already used?!
2. Allow him exercise his authority as the head of the family.
there is a difference between being the head of the family and being a careless dictator.
3. Do not challenge him when he is hurt.
just because someone is hurt, does NOT mean women should allow anything thrown at them. if what he says/does is against this woman's way, then she has all the right to challenge that.
4. Be silent when he is angry. You can go back to him in his sober moment with apology and explain why you behave that way that annoyed him.
lol, you must live in a cave....why should that man be angry to begin with...are they not adult? cant they talk like adults do?
5. Be quick to say " I am sorry dear". Whenever u offend him, insist on his forgiveness and kiss him when he does.
NONSENSE!!!! women should only be sorry if they BELIEVE they are, and nothing else. there is absolutely no point in saying sorry, if they dont mean it(just to stroke an insecure man's ego).
6. Speak good of him before his friends n siblings.
what if there is no good to speak of?!
7. Honour his mother.
honour EVERYONE that is worthy of being honoured....... his mother is just one out of the gazillion of people that should be honoured.
9. Surprise him with his favorite dish especially when he has no enough money at hand
if there is money problem, then wifey should cook what is AFFORDABLE, lol!
10. Do not allow maid to serve him food when you are at home, because you may lose him to them.
if a husband can "be lost" to maids and servants, then this person shouldnt be married to begin with. marriage is for the mature that wont be tempted by maids and servants.
11. Give him warm reception with an embrace when he returns, collect his luggage and help UnCloth him.
lol what next?! kiss his feet and clean his dirty a.ss?
12. Smile when u looks at him and give him occasional perks when u are out socially.
again, a woman shouldnt laugh IF SHE DOESNT WANT TO. there is no reason for being fake in marriage, NONE!
13. Praise him before your children.
praise whoever DESERVE praising!
14. Wash his back while he is in the tub or shower.
....and let him wash yours when you are in the shower too.
16. Phone and tell him that you miss him.
...if a women does miss her husband then YES, but if she doesnt then NO!!!!
17. Dial his number and on hearing "hello" just tell him I love you
...if a woman loves her husband then YES, if she doesnt then NO!!!
18. If he is a public figure or politician, gently wake him at the early hours of the morning and romance him to the point of demand. He will not be enticed by any other woman that day.
BWAAAAAAH! so you mean the wife needs to fukc her husband DAILY for the rest of her natural life?! come on bro! if a husband wants to cheat, then it doesnt matter how many time you fukc him, he will still do......simply because that other gal will be more satisfying than wifey. most men will fukc a brand new toto, even if they are dead tired (abi to lie down is a problem now?!)
19. Tell him how lucky you are to have him as your husband.
if you are lucky then YES, if you aint then definitely NO!!!
20. Give him a hug for no reason.
for no reason whatsoever?! well i hope the husband does the same too then? I wish you a happy married life, with this kind of attitude. |
| Family › Re: 5 Things Ladies Must Look Out For In A Man Before Marrying Him by poik(m): 9:52am On Apr 04, 2015 |
mentorandfriend:
Thank you for your honest contribution, but I still think that a man who listens to nobody is a high risk for any lady. As much as I see the lady's point of view, having an authority figure also has its downsides too! Most of these boss figures expect you to act on their whims and caprices, mistaking advice for order. I should be the final authority in my home, and not the opinion of some father figure who has his own life to live. That said, most ladies also exploit the father-figure window to water down the man's ideals for his family. By the way, why will a woman I call my wife report me to someone? What happened to discussion and communication? |
| Literature › Me And You by poik(op): 3:50pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
Me and You, oyim
We have something
Something they won't know
Something they don't see
We are on a pledge
To be a half that's better
To we both
We have something, me and you
Something that's like air
Something that will stand every question, option and sneer
And that's we both
We have something, me and you
Our hearts beat for each other
When we see each other
The world seems to sit still and watch
Nothing mattering
Butterflies fluttering
Me stuttering
You stammering
We have something, me and you
Irresistibility, synchrony and a chemistry
Ababio can't explain
When I see you
I consume you and ask for more
You devour me, yet Oyim becomes Oliver Twist
The way you matter to me
Surprises even my basest of instincts
And the way you care about me
I know you can't explain
So..what can we do..you and me
His oyim and her oyim..what next
But a lifetime of sharing worlds
A forever of togetherness
An eternity spent in locked arms and sweet embraces
Dotted with laughs and mutual company
Godly kids and rapturable children
Till we grey and age...
I love you, Oyim...much. |
| Romance › Re: Yeah....confused! by poik(m): 10:37pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
MzzTega:
You don't understand my post. I actually asked a question
Btw I'm not a teenager. And I gave an answer. And treated what I considered more important. Whether u are a teen or not. Sorry |
| Romance › Re: Yeah....confused! by poik(m): 2:44pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Maybe I am just being my old-fashioned self.
But you mean your parents condone your boifriends coming to your house to frolick with you, a tEenager who ought to be buried in her books without the distraction of a boy? Apart from the fact that its sinful? What kind of parents has Westernization made of us?
That's one.
Two, you are 'commited' to one person, yet you go as far as collecting gifts from another-we don't even know how many they are-and comparing the two? Your eye no dey house.
Different macaroni for different folks o, but there are things my own parents won't hear of.
My advice: be virtuous. Marry or face ur books. |
| Romance › Re: 11 Signs To Know If Your Girl Friend Is A Good Girl by poik(m): 11:35am On Mar 26, 2015 |
My wife-to-be is a good girl then. She possesses everything. No jokes. A'int I favoured? Who says God dosent gibe wives to His sons no more? |
| Literature › Poetry by poik(op): 11:24am On Mar 20, 2015 |
ROMANCE WITH MY GOD
I knew You were meant for me
By the way You were sent to me
So soothe was your woo
I felt light, and off my feet in flight
My soul and essence went
To that Scriptural Eldorado
Where returning feels worse
Than a stab to the chest.
Who am I
That you mind me so?
What have I got
That you love me fro and to?
With gloved hands You reached deep in the gutter
And lovingly placed me on the altar
Now, I dial your number, You pick
I call, you answer
A riffraff like me, a Gibraltar as You
A nonentity like me,a Personality as You
A Taribo like me, a Pitt as You
You are the fire, yet the water
The question, yet the answer
The issue, the panacea
I love You on the life of me
As I know You won't be the death of me 2 Likes |
| Nairaland General › Re: Open Letter To NCC On MTN Spammessages by poik(m): 4:54pm On Mar 11, 2015 |
machidoh:
Dear NCC,
Please take action on MTN. I can no longer stand
my inbox, no thanks to them. This madness has
been going on for a couple of months but it
reached its crescendo mid-last month.
I feel these messages are a form of punishment to
me concerning the last letter I wrote to MTN. I have called 180 twice to complain of this but each time,
the customer service guy cuts me off with ‘Thank
you for calling maam’.
These messages sometimes comes in form of flash
messages, meaning, if I carelessly touch my screen,
ME and MY CREDIT ARE FINISHED FOR LIFE!
How can they ask a grown up like me to
text indomie to 5030 to know the colour of
indomie pack. Are they mad or stupid?
I should text YES to 5038 if I am tired of being
broke. Do they know who my father is?
I should text IQ for daily riddles. Don’t I have better
daily problems to solve?
All these messages costs N50 naira. Are they that
desperate?
This is coming at a time I have four creditors. I’m on
the verge of hypertension each time my inbox
blinks. Rather than get credit alerts, here is what I
received.
This is how it all began! I receive four spam
messages within three hours. A summary of my
inbox that week.
I sms stop to opt out. Lai lai dem no gree. They
replied me with the same spam!
Finally, I became humble. I had to plead with them
but my pleas fell on deaf ears reason I had to make
this public.
I also want to us this opportunity to make three
facts clear to MTN.
1. I will never ever buy any callertunez! The sooner
they stop telling me to text 33112 to 4100 to
receive olodo girl (WTH does that mean anyway) as
callertunez, the better for them.
2. I have and will never be ill. Stop insulting me by
asking ‘Are you tired of getting ill?’ Have some
F***ING RESPECT FOR YOUR SUBSCRIBER!
3. They send me messages as early as 4am. Are
these people witches or wizards?
These messages would have been understandable
if I won my phone from them.
I am honestly tired of being victimised. Looking at
the dates of the messages, this letter is long
overdue. When I attempted to write last week, they
doubled my airtime balance by 100% but I came back to my senses when the unused credit was
withdrawn from my phone at midnight.
Please NCC, don’t advise me to port to another
network. For some weird reasons I’m stuck with
them that’s why I need this change.
I have been tolerating MTN for 9 years.
I have been an Arsenal fan for 9 years.
I have been banking with ECOBank for 9 years.
PHCN has been my sole provider of power supply.
(Generator spoilt 9 years ago)
I have been single for 9 years.
Do you guys feel the pain of a Nigerian girl?
NCC, please do something!
My email address is machidoh@gmail.com
should MTN need my three MTN phone numbers to
effect this change.
Thank you.
Sunloaded.com I thought I was the only one. So there are thousands more who are under bombardment from these thieves |
| Romance › Re: 5 Types Of Guys Every Serious Minded Lady Should Be Wary Of by poik(m): 2:37pm On Mar 06, 2015 |
buygala:
lol... you don take am cardiovascular
Anyway,
I say what I feel like saying at any time without any sense of responsibility to anyone..... I might be a woman wrapper today, a male chauvinist tomorrow, a rascal the next day, an armed robber the next... dem no dey give scolarship for nairaland, so I see no reason whatsoever to be a 'Pope John Paul' all the time. if you have the time to scrutinize my posts, you will realize that I always like swimming against the tide or seeing things from a novel and unpopular angle. sometimes people hail, sometimes they abuse... But I would have already said my mind
now, about your grouse;
I personally don't give a damn about protecting the 'psyche' of the so called 'advanced ladies'... During their blossom period, most of them were forming 'mega super star' and unreasonably cherry-picking men until they had finally become rotten tomatoes that no man wants... If they wish to keep on cherry-picking till they become septuagenarians, e no concern me in any way. .. The Lord is their Muscle.. But my point is that their common sense should make them reduce their husband cut-off mark if they are really interested in dropping the 'Miss' title, since the quality of their 'assets'has also depreciated by reason of old age, rough use, or wrong marketing technique....
You don't put on sale a rickety bicycle and expect it to be bought for the price of a Lamborgini 
Oh Lawd! That was blunt |
| Family › Re: Please Help!who Do I Confess To,pastor Or My Wife? by poik(m): 11:15am On Mar 03, 2015 |
[quote author=gunnerman post=31231426][/quote]I don't mean to sound judgemental op, but the post is funny.
How do you express sympathy by kissing a strange woman's innards?
Let me tell u what happened. The devil was angered by your hammering on faithfulness and decided to test you on the same grounds-which you fell plumb for.
Like the Bible says, old fire never dies out. It was referring to ex-lovers. You made a mistake by as much as re-opening contact with her,cos I guess you guys were hotly in love. Not to talk of going there alone, which triggered all this.
What to do: confess to both your pastor and your wife. As a matter of fact,the forgiveness is not complete UNTIL she forgives you; you sinned against your marital vows. I want to believe you are genuinely repentant, for posting this here. Forget about your wife and her condition; nothing will happen. I am not guaranteeing she will not be pained, but that is a joker the enemy s using to keep u spiritually stagnated, and caged. And I think anything is better than that condition, trust me.
You may be shocked sef to see how easy the reconciliation will be, both with God and your spouse. Shalom!! |
| Family › Re: I Hit Her, I Regret It But She Deserved It by poik(m): 11:41pm On Mar 01, 2015 |
mcdokwe:
I read a lot about how men who hit their partners are nothing but beasts, I nearly joined the bandwagon of accusers because I couldn't fathom how uncontrollable one's temper could be as to turn one's partner to a punching bag.
Don't get me wrong, I deeply regret I ever hit her, unfortunately that is one reason that apparently hold water as a reason for leaving even though she never gets to tell the whole story.
She had been a very good girl, and even till date, the only girl I have lost myself in love to. Yes, I have been a broke ass nigga and thankfully she could be a low maintenance lady.
She once told me how some of her stupid friends asked if I have hit her before obviously looking for shortfalls to convince her she shouldn't be dating me and how she proudly told them I hadn't for once.
In fairness to the truth, I learnt a lot from her and having her taught me how to treat my sister who was her age better.
At a point in her life, she had no genuine friend and would always moan to me how bad some friend or the other treated her and how she wasn't interested in their friendship anymore and I had to constantly remind her that people are different and so with their motives, I always encouraged her to try to understand such motives before writing them off.
I literally became her only friend and unfortunately shoved some people who could have been some sort of relief aside so much that we had just each other
Days became weeks and months and she conceived for me and a lot started changing about her. Maybe in her bid to feel acceptable, she got entangled with people she wrote completely off before, this wasn't a so much of a challenge because atleast she could whine less about them to me, her dress sense changed and she turned deaf ears to my appeal for explanation, I had to adapt to some of those challenges but unfortunately those friends became more valuable to her than myself even though we had a child coming and lived together, she shared less of her worries with me but would tell them even the minutest detail of our relationship which were frequently misrepresented maybe in a bid to gain sympathy which she eventually got. They explained my actions and inactions better than I could and she could go for days without talking to me so long as the meal was provides and the babies need met, she opted for a break anytime I told her of her upsetting attitude and the need to work on it, but would never tell me of her own misgivings towards me even when I plead so I could work on myself too, but would rather discuss unthinkable issues with her friends.
Fast forward to that particular day, a lady who I encouraged her to make friends with because of her distress and the feeling we could be of help to sent a text to her sim which happened to be on my phone saying she needs to know when I left the house so she could come over and I was wth! This is some one I brought in, someone whose coming means she is to fend from my toil, and I asked what it could be that I did that should warrant such. I sent her a text telling her never to bother coming anymore as I wasn't leaving the house that day anymore. She called her back and asked her only God knows what and my lady went up in frenzy insulting me not minding that a third party was there.
Minutes later the other girl stopped by to apologise stating that I misunderstood her text but my girlfriend continued the insult asking why she should bother to explain or apologise. After a while every other person left and she became apologetically cosy, well I shrugged her off knowing her being apologetic doesn't stop her from insulting me the next minute if she felt like, and true to my prediction, even while she was still being sorry, her words turned from being apologetic to outright insult, calling me unprintable names and how I am a hopeless orphan (I lost my dad the previous year and my mum is still very much alive and she is so lettered and knows what an orphan means) well I said something too of her family because I was hurt but could never match her with words and I made to leave the house in that fit of anger. But she locked the door and wouldn't let me. She turned apologetic again and then insulting, in that state all I could do was pity her because I couldn't imagine how someone could be so unstable, I was visibly frustrated and made to leave the house which she wouldn't have either and I had to forcefully remove her from the way. She came back hard on my, making for anything. That could be converted into a weapon, thankfully I was stronger and made her efforts futile. I pinned her to the ground with the intention to make her realise I am stronger than our love sessions where I played weak to let her have an upper hand so she could give up already, but the moment I released her a bit, she reached for my phone and smashed it on the floor repeatedly, I regrettably gave her some blows and because I didn't want it to continue, opened the door so a neighbour could come in a stop the fight. I later stormed out with the child and headed for a family who had rendered enough care to us and she later found her way there, I expected her to behave more in their presence but that was to wishful of me and unfortunately the ladies couldn't stop me as I gave her even deadlier blows but mehn, she never really got enough.
She was later forced into one of the rooms in the apartment and locked up with the baby.
After a while I walked to that point seeing how pitiful she looked asked her with tears in my eyes why she was acting the way she does to which she replied with a tone that could melt the devil's heart that she didn't know and was sorry. We packed up and went back home to the astonishment of all who saw us fight. Needless to say we made love that night after which she confessed she never knew I could hit her even after I was with her at the delivery room and declared no woman should be beaten by her man. She also owned up and apologised for pushing me to that point.
She also told me how a particular friend of hers who came in after the fight had told her not to have sex with me that night and all that.
The relationship lasted for a little longer without fights and she left while I was away for reasons still not clear to me, and looking back I regret that I ever let her pushing me to the point of hitting her but I still believe firmly that she deserved it. That girl needs to be prayed for. Deliverance. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: 5 Funny Things Pastors Do On The Pulpit. by poik(m): 8:34am On Feb 24, 2015 |
starlingleanets:
Like play like play these things are becoming unbecoming and more like an outbreak among the pastors in Nigeria. Well as a young scientist i'm born into a world of observation and as an observer i pay attention to minute things. But much more as a Christain it seems good to put into light some bad habit exhibited by pastors of various churches in Nigeria. Below are some of them:
1. Shout Hallelujah: the Pastor will just climb the pulpit and as soon as he does he tells the church "Let somebody shout Hallelujah" and the church will shout Hallelujah though the church don't know why they are shouting hallelujah so to them it has become a routine. For a sermon of 15 minutes the pastor go don give hallelujah order like 30 times
2. Amen: Pastor sees the congregation is not interested in his formulated sermon so hm go say "Amen somebody" the church go reply Amen like he has just said a prayer.
3. Praise the Lord: while there is nothing wrong in praising the Lord yet everything is wrong on how you call the Holy name of the Lord. The pastor may see a sister sleeping so to wake her up he says "praise the Lord" for the fun of it. You think God will be happy with you ba?
4. I can't hear You: He just said a prayer like this "Before the end of this month you are going to smile to the bank" and so the people respond with a loud Amen, though he heard them he will still say "i can't hear you". Una dey lie for pulpit ba?
5. Wiping of Face: Still under Air condition pastor go still dey wipe face. Picking up and dropping the white handkerchief every minutes and that happens when he is on pulpit only.
If you have some you can drop it Pastors must learn. U nor get talk |
| Family › Re: Babyosisi's Marital Advice To New And Intended Wives by poik(m): 1:28pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
I have been following this thread for some time and I feel its only right I drop a piece of my mind.
Why do I have this gnawing feeling our women are fast losing their sense of duty as the days go by?
Why do I get this nagging feeling that role reversal is fast becoming popular?
The Word of God clearly prescribes the role of each gender in a relationship. There are exceptions where on mutual consent, things may tilt a bit.
If there is any snippet of doubt about a partner, never attempt the plunge. But God's opinion on the matter is key, and chief. |
| Family › Re: He Is Punishing Me On Our Honey Moon by poik(m): 6:12am On Jan 22, 2015 |
blesie:
I just wish to share my honeymoon bitter and sweet experience for you and also get inspiration.
A little Intro to how it all started: So i met this guy during the course of work in my former office and he started chasing me, my colleagues then ask me not to agree that he looks like a player. He looks like one that never get a No for an answer, so me and my colleagues use him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever we just feel like going to that cinema, he won't ever dissapoint, he'll take us there, a year after i left the company but he kept on chasing, so one day i was passing through some difficult times in my career, i felt like resigning but he came to me and advise me wisely, he told me how to tackle the challenges and when i did, it works perfectly so i started liking him, so i called him that we can date if only he will adhere to my conditions, he asked me to list the conditions and i did as stated below:
1) No Sex
2) No romance
3) No Kissing
Infact no touches.
He agreed with so much pains in his eyes, but after 6 months of dating, we begin to hug anyway and light kisses.
But through out the relationship, i was always walking with shoulders held very high up there, thinking that shebi he's the one begging me, i will scream and always want things done my way.
For a year, i misbehave alot but after i begin to be the girl he would want me to be, i wasnt really shouting or screaming anymore but i was still so full of pride, but i started loving him very well.
On the first week of August he proposed, and we got married over 2 weeks ago, the wedding went well everyone was happy but after all the happiness, dancing, eating and greetings by friends and family, i found out later i was left with him in the car and the driver.
We went into the hotel room that evening and he started answering calls, so i use that opportunity to rush to the bathroom and took my bath, after i finish bathing, lying down on the bed and thinking of how sex will look like, he tapped my leg and said i should come and bath him, i was like, bath you? how na, he said i should not waste his time, i wanted to say something again and he opened his eyes, the way he has not opened it before so i was scared, i jump off bed to the bathroom and started pouring water on him, he ask if i was in my right senses in a very fierce way, i shake my head saying yes, he said he doesnt think so that if i was i will be unclad by now, so i told him i wasnt going to bath him anymore, i left, went to the bed and lie, he completed the bath and came to meet me in the room.
He held me and said, yes i married you, he didnt say anything again he just stared at me, then dragged me closer and started kissing me, then he said i should UnCloth him, what was surprising to me though was that his stuff was now 300% bigger than what i saw while i try to bath him, i thought maybe he had used something on it so i started to shift back, he pulled me back and i never knew how powerful he was until that evening, cos his hands just seem to be pulling me like im an ant, at that point i tried to fight him but he practically raped me, i screamed and shouted my life out but it seems he is enjoying the shout so i started to remain calm and then he said hold me, hold me very tight and i remember my mom telling me, do whatever he says to make him happy, so i grabbed him with two hands very tight to my body and as i did, i also started enjoying the sex so i started calling him baby.
After the first round, it was like i had an accident, i was so tired i couldnt stand up, i couldnt even hold a paper i was breathing fast, it felt like i will die, i ask him to get me lucozade or something to regain my energy, he gave me drink and i just wanted to sleep off, he came waking me up and wanted to start another thing, i screamed at him and he said look at me very well, you see all that up shoulder you use to display while we were dating? you've got to drop it at the wedding reception because if you take it to the wedding, you will just be crying, do you know how many years you make me impotent, should i analyse the insult you gave me and all of that, now respect yourself, stand up and do the needful.
Fear crib me like i have made a mistake, i cried and ran down to the bed to UnCloth he said no way, now i want it standing, i tried to imagine how somebody will stand to have sex but before i could finish thinking, he's dragged me out of bed and there it goes, painful and annoying i was just crying.
After he finished that, i went on my knee to beg him for forgivenness for all the shout and scream i use to shout at him that i was ready to make a new turn, he said fine, that the new turn will mean that i will now respect and do everything he wants me to, i said yes i will do.
Then he said, come on suck this, you won't imagine what he ask me to suck  , how in the world can a husband be so wicked
I said not this, he said ok, seems you are not ready to comply, he came for me and i bit him, fought him, he allowed me beat him after i finish beating him, he raped me and its really hurting me like i want to die.
Now everyday he made me suck him, all the bad things one could dream of is what he likes, if he ask me to do something and i refuse he wont beat me, instead he will come for me and rape me.
I am so tired, i don't know why one man will want to have sex up to countles times in a day, i was just wondering.
UNTILL HE CAME TO REVEAL TO ME TODAY THAT HE IS PUNISHING ME FOR WHAT I DID TO HIM OVER THE YEARS.
He finds joy in doing it and im so pained, is he going to change, should i report him to our pastor or my parent? This is the problem with our women. Imagine-' we used to use him to get free lunch and go to that cinema-he won't ever disaPpoint. So while you were enjoying his money, he wasn't a maniac. Only now he's taking his pound of flesh back. I am sure tha man has a side to this story too that will be interesting. Just keep begging him till he softens up. If not something I woulda said u deserve what you are getting. |
