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FixAm:
Oga OP I hope u allow dis hit FP u have always denial me

Hey NL, I kind of want this topic as a talk show here to both male and Female NL! Who should apologize between a man and woman? Ok it goes like this you Wife its obvious was the one that start trouble so bad that family member were involved your mum,dad and siblings,however dis same woman you show much love her though she's quick to cause trouble now its at the point of divorce though its coming from her you both have kids together as a male u you move to reconcile or just allow the marriage end. Should the man just cross his mind and let it all end cos trouble and quarrel is inevitable or they should go for marriage counseling and allow for a very last chance?
To crown it all should a man apologize to a woman knowing well she offended you real bad? Pls mature respond only

Why would you offend someone and wait to be apologized to? i dont understand this.
So the woman wants a divorce, on top of offending you?
Things ought to be put in proper perspective, saboda Ubangiji.

yemi16:
I courted her for about 1yr..before we got married 6months ago..
Meanwhile while courting, she had told me she left her former relationship because the guy she dated then was like the breadwinner to his family catering for all his siblings and she felt quite uncomfortable with it....

I didnt read much to it coz in my mind it happended to my favour and i already have a well to-do siblings...as at my courtship period though...

Shortly before we got married, my elder brother who also just had a baby lost his job....and i had to support him and his family on a need basis especially with their little cute baby boy growing but i noticed my my then fiancee didnt just like it at all....

After we got married....i got a great job with this good pay and was very comfortable....meanwhile my brother search for job was to no avail....and his wife was on maternity leave.

To cut long story short, each time my brother comes to me for help....and i send him money, my wife complains that i larvish my money on my brother...that he should go and get a job and not rely on me always...we would quarrel seriously for days/weeks before time eventually settles things...

Just last few days ago....we were relocating to a new area within town and i called my brother to pick up a few stuffs (electronics, household items) i know i wouldnt or i planned replacing with a new one......He came and picked them up as i had informed him....After he left, my wife let hell loose....she went completely mad and we had a big quareel...she even called my brother to return a few stuffs he took even when i already bought the replacements...

I am used to going back to her to apologize just to let peace reign ...but this time i have had it upto my neck..!!!!...
I dont intend apologizing one bit as i am sure i did her no wrong......

Now i am thinking deeply.....did i really overlooked the signs...?...did i really marry the wrong lady??....

Please i need your advise on how best to manage this...

Admin..pls help to update this on fp..i really need lots of advice at the moment.

Thanks.

In things like this, it is always better for there to be agreement. the house and the things therein are for the both of you, not you alone. You two are not compatible when it comes to giving, apparently.
But make the woman calm down abeg. wetin?
i hope she has siblings and extended family, too.

Moses247:
Lol See yawa!!
My PASTOR asked me how much I bought my
Iphone 6 and I said 25k instead of 140k
because I don't want him to know I have that
kind of money, now he gave me 50k to get it
for him and his wife.
Watin una advice mk i do abeg

tell the truth, and apologise. he knew you were lying. simple and short.

Adasun:
Hellow fellow,am in a big mess right now.



My pervetious heart lead me to cheat on my wife and unfortunately i got caught red handed.i woun't explain dat awkward experience for now.



My wife trusted me so much,but i broke those trust.now my own home is broken too.


When da deed happened and i was caught,she cried nd cried and later left my house.due to pleads frm those she respected so much because i ask them for help.she later came back to da hwz bt not in gud terms


we no longer greet,she hardly talks to me,she cook when she wants to.once she did not cook,i had to buy fud for da kids


most of all,she now started acting wield nd free.she picks suspicious calls right under my nose.laugh anyhow when charting.


When it first started,i thought it's just a plot to get me jealous so i dance to da tone.i use my body language to atleast show her am jealous and want her badly.


Bt it got worse,she now comes home late and even brought a guy home.and when i saw dis guy in da sitting rum,he introduce me as her cousing.


i was mad,but i myself i guilty.how do i show her dat am in charge when i myself was caught cheatingshould i send her out?on what ground

should i continue to make peace reign?bt i have tried my best.i need ur help my fellow landers.help a brother to make da right decision.

Not in any way to excuse what you did.
But there us something called forgiveness. You have apologised and you are repentant. Haba.
Assert your manliness. Which one be all ds one na?

Destined2win:
I am only seeing a lot of scented paints

abi o

masonkz:
You're even more daft for saying the bold. You can rightfully assume a gay guy is having sex and I can't assume you're also having sex?? Or you think it's all gay guys that actually have sex?


Ignorant mofo.

Remember you are the one doing all the assumptions here, not me. Homosexuality at it's best is worse than the worst form of heterosexuality. Go and get delivered; its a bumpless ride to hell.
And I prefer to be THIS kind of ignorant.

masonkz:
LOL@the dude quoting Leviticus.

Hypocrites who just had premarital sex using the bible to judge others.

lol.
I dont know why people misconstrue telling truth for judgement.
What happens, just in case, just supposing, i have not had sex my entire life before? You would have committed presumptuous sin, for calling me a hypocrite. If only you know how much David prayed for deliverance against that, and how grave it is before God. Not everyone is rotten, brother.

Durentt:
Are u God?
How do u kno homosexuals were created heterosexuals but decided to pursue same-sex?
Nigerians sha.
Same argument bout homosexuals chose their sexuality blablabla.
See sense in d air, catch one. I assume God also created u with sense but u decided to be senseless.

I am not God, but He has a manual which when applied rightly, should help me know almost everything i want to.
I also know there is something called the Spirit of God, which was given to teach me all things.
All i know is that homosexuality is not normal. It shouldn't be treated or accepted as normal.
I also know that if you lived in the days of Sodom and Gommorrah, you wouldnt have escaped the hailstones.

MRBrownJ:
@Zaicon1
we all know that Christians only follow (from that said Bible) what fit their selfish agenda.

here is more:
MURDER/INFANTICIDE IS OK
- If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die.
Deuteronomy 21:18-21

SLAVERY IS OK
- You may purchase male or female slaves from among the foreigners who live among you. You may also purchase the children of such resident foreigners, including those who have been born in your land. You may treat them as your property, passing them on to your children as a permanent inheritance. You may treat your slaves like this, but the people of Israel, your relatives, must never be treated this way.
Leviticus 25:44-46

CANNIBALISM IS OK
- If in spite of this you still do not listen to me but continue to be hostile toward me, then in my anger I will be hostile toward you, and I myself will punish you for your sins seven times over. You will eat the flesh of your sons and the flesh of your daughters.
Leviticus 26:27-30

- I will make them eat the flesh of their sons and daughters, and they will eat one another’s flesh because their enemies will press the siege so hard against them to destroy them.
Jeremiah 19:9

RAPE IS OK SO LONG AS YOU MARRY YOUR VICTIM
- If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay her father fifty shekels of silver. He must marry the young woman, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives.
Deuteronomy 22:28-29

MURDER FOR BESTIALITY
- If a man has sex with an animal, he must be put to death, and the animal must be killed.
Leviticus 20:15

BANG YOUR CHILDLESS BROTHER'S WIFE
- Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother.
Mark 12:19

STONING OF NON VIRGNS
- If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the young woman’s virginity can be found, 21 she shall be brought to the door of her father’s house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done an outrageous thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father’s house. You must purge the evil from among you.
Deuteronomy 22: 20-21

CURSE YOUR PARENTS, YOU DIE
- anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death. Because they have cursed their father or mother, their blood will be on their own head.
Leviticus 20:9

WEARING OF CLOTHING MADE OUT OF DIFFERENT MATERIAL
- Do not wear clothing woven of two kinds of material.
Leviticus 19:19

YOU SIN WITH YOUR ARM; LEG OR EYE, YOU CUT IT OFF
- If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out. And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than to have two feet and be thrown into hell. And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell.
Mark 9:43

SOMEONE STEALS FROM YOU, GIVE HIM MORE
- And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.
Mathew 5:40

NEVER GETTING A ROUND HAIRCUT OR CUTTING YOUR BEARD
- Do not cut the hair at the sides of your head or clip off the edges of your beard..
Leviticus 19:27

A BASTARD (or any of his descendants) CAN NEVER EVER BE A CHRISTIAN
- No one born of a forbidden marriage (bastard) nor any of their descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord, not even in the tenth generation.
Deuteronomy 23:2

OK TO THROW KIDS ONTO WALLS
- Happy is the one who seizes your infants and dashes them against the rocks.
Psalm 137:9

WOMEN CANNOT TEACH MEN
- I permit no woman to teach or have authority over men; she is to keep silent.
Timothy 2:11

WOMAN TOUCH ANOTHER MAN'S DIKC, CUT OFF HER HAND
- When men fight with one another, and the wife of the one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of him who is beating him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the private parts, then you shall cut off her hand.
Deuteronomy 25:11-12

WOMEN UNCLEAN WHILE MENSTRUATING
- When a woman has a discharge, if her discharge in her body is blood, she shall continue in her menstrual impurity for seven days; and whoever touches her shall be unclean until evening. Everything also on which she lies during her menstrual impurity shall be unclean, and everything on which she sits shall be unclean.
Leviticus 15: 19-20.

LOOKING AT A WOMAN IN LUST IS A SIN
- But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Matthew 5:28

CIRCUMCISED MEN CANNOT BE CHRISTIAN
- No one who has been emasculated by crushing or cutting may enter the assembly of the Lord.
Deuteronomy 23:1

SHARE ALL YOUR POSSESSIONS
- Anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the same.
Luke 3:11

WOMEN MUST PRAY WITH THEIR HEADS COVERED AND NEVER SHAVE THEIR HEAD
- But every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved.
1 Corinthians 11:5

so, to you, all these have been abolished by the coming of Christ? oh my God. who is your pastor? Pastor Chris abi?

Teempakguy:
why do gays get the best faces?

this is literally the most unfair thing ever.

Not to mention they get the Highest IQs . . .

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It's cool though..

I dont see whats cool with a full-blooded male God created heterosexual, running after the anal hole of his same sex. Its demon possession! In Levitical days, they would be stoned to death; these people we are celebrating like this.
Judgement awaiting the earth is gathering steam.

Secretario:
Habits is a usual way of behavior: more importantly, something one does in a regular or repeated pattern {Merriam-Webster}. Your habit could be anything you love doing irrespective of the fact that it is or may be detrimental and carries a negative effect.

This is one reason why a kleptomania will see no wrong in stealing continuously and consecutively even if caught.

Habit can be inborn or innate and can also be picked up overtime either by observation or as an influence from our nearest environment. But the good thing is that you can overcome.

To be well placed and successful, you need to be able to put your negative habits in check and build upon the positive ones.

Without deviating, we are talking about your life here (no disrespect!) and I will put it to you that you are already struggling because you are not the master of all your habits and little wonder you get so depressed and dejected most times.

Every man has a negative behavioral imprint and I will show you some of them that will perpetually stand as a stumbling block to your overall progress, let’s get down to business!

DEADLY HABITS THAT WILL MAKE YOU UNSUCCESSFUL AND STRUGGLE ETERNALLY IN LIFE

Below I will outline some of the habits and possible solution to override their effects and also, I believe with the insight gotten from this article, you can do some more self-evaluation and come up with more and see if you can improve positively.

deadly habits that will make you unsuccessful and struggle eternally in life

YOUR DAILY ROUTINE IS NOT IN A PATTERN AND IS DISORGANIZED

The start of everyday for everyone is the onset of another struggle to stay alive and achieve more. It’s not just enough to wake up in the morning and think the day will set itself in motion.

Most of us have no routine and this makes the whole concept of time and taking control seem totally foreign. May I ask you the following questions?

When do you wake up every morning?
What do you do when you wake?
Do you plan your day?

70% will be answer in the negative and this is the difference between you and that man who keeps raking in all the accolades and success.

Always try to wake up at the same time every day, even if you are sleeping late, just try to sleep early to wake up early!

Don’t just wake at the same time but try to wake up very early each day, least 6am, this gives you an head start into the day before others.

Most important, plan your day and stop letting life take you by surprises and by the collar.

YOU ARE YET TO DEFINE YOUR SOURCE OF HAPPINESS

Do you know the power to do more and exceedingly, is in the ability to discover what makes you happy and ultimately pushing towards it.

Most of us don’t have a defined source of happiness and so, waking up each day becomes a hard chore because you have no source of inspiration.

Define your source of happiness and you will be surprised how well you will take on each challenge as they come, your happiness source could be a loved one, your job, your hobby and passion, your dream and aspiration… and if you don’t have any then make the RESULT OF SUCCESS your happiness source.

Always imagine the kind of comfort you will get if you can conquer and succeed, that alone will give you all the push you want with an unwavering amount of confidence to do exploit.

YOU ARE SURROUNDED BY NEGATIVITY AND ILL FEELING

Damn you my friend if the force and energy around you is dark. Negativity is like a malignant cancer and it will eat up at you from inside. Ill feelings are the behavioral locusts and they will eat at you from outside and at the end, you become a living cadaver.

No love lost, but you should learn to analyze your environment for any sign of negativity and discouragement that will put you down, strife and ill feelings will do you no good too.

Learn to always voice out how you feel at all times and stop bottling emotions up, you will implode into a paranoid with a degraded self-worth and esteem.

Look for places and people that always bring out your best and make you see positivity and light, stop self-pity and never ever compare yourself to anybody, not even ME!

SCARED TO TAKE RISKS AND LACK OF TRUST IN YOUR INSTINCTS

My motto has always been, “BEAR A RISK TO AVOID A RISK” sound bare but it’s a coded message if you can decipher.

My friend, let me open your eyes to the guarded secret of life,

“THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FOR THOSE WHO CAN TAKE RISKS AND TRUST THEIR INSTINCTS.”

Trying to be simple and tethered is great but the feeling of been free and able to explore all risks is heavenly. I am not advocating you engage in ventures that are dangerous, negative or that you already know the results will be dead on arrival.

Don’t hold yourself back, smell the coffee and fly to the stars, the worst is that you will fail but hey, you are experienced now and you will only get better.

Do not be a mediocre because of fear, or do you want to keep licking the icing without been able to eat the cake?

YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH, POTENTIAL AND CANNOT CONCENTRATE

No one is worthless in life and I believe you already know this, then what is the problem? You cannot concentrate and discover your innate potentials.

No one is a mistake, inasmuch as you are on planet earth, you already have a great purpose to the grand scheme of things, the only issue is you don’t value yourself high and how do you want others to?

Why not sit and try to know what your strong points are, what purpose you want to drive to and what potential is in you that can be set in motion to achieve more.

The only way to do this is to learn to concentrate better, stop having divided attentions and put all your focus on one course and see if you will not do exploits!

YOU DON’T MAINTAIN CONNECTIONS AND ARE NOT APPRECIATIVE

How appreciative are you? I guess not, because you have a low concept of the idea behind maintaining connections and working as a team.

No man is an island, and I am not saying you should make friends with everyone but align with people with the same drive and motive as you and see if achieving great things will not be a piece of cake.

Connections will always prove beneficial in life and at any stage you find yourself, so start to build them now and learn to be more appreciative for any little thing been offered to you.

The test of man is in little things and you will know how he will handle larger things.

Meet with people of like minds and share dreams and aspiration and this will ease your struggle in life.

CONCLUSION

These habits are ultimate hindrances to your success and the purpose of this article is not to scare you but to tell you to get bigger and better.

Most importantly you just have to be yourself and change from negative to positive!


SOURCE: http://collegereap.com/deadly-habits-that-will-make-you-unsuccessful-and-struggle-eternally/

Secretatio

This is good. it is helping me.

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I am beginning to dislike this Basket mouth. Must you bring everything around comparison with Bible and Biblical things? We all know we can't try this with Islam. And that's why we are not taken seriously. Does thus Basket mouth know that jesting is forbidden for a Christian? And this is what he will present to God as what puts food on his table.

Jennystyle:
I can't sleep, am confused,a guy I like just told me i virtually threw myself at him, and am asking for money, this guy in question is twelve years my senior, I've never been insulted in my whole life directly. Please nairalanders what should I do. I have to nip in the bud, before it gets too late.

but when you were collecting money from him you didnt remember he was 12 years your senior. these girls eh....
by the way, there is a soft landing for you. he said he was also attracted too...so no cry too much. its called symbiosis.

confamgist237:
Can anyone spot the stubborn twins? They just wont stay in their house, they like peeping out!


http://www.gistmelove..com/2016/02/see-what-lady-wore-to-event-in-lagos.html

That looks like Okocha on the Right

Joy1706:
So going by your logic Adam slept with the serpent too? Cos he also ate of the forbidden fruit

The forbidden fruit was clandestine sex, and bestiality. The devil went ahead of Adam and had his wife. Eve on her part, allowed herself to be seduced. Adam's complicity was joining his wife to eat the same fruit instead of cudgeling her. How much are u paying for this lecture sef

asuustrike2009:
Like seriously! So if she slept with the serpent why didn't she gave birth to serpent? How come animals have sex to reproduce Or where they part of the forbidden fruit too?

Like seriously, let me tell you why. Remember when God cursed the serpent in Genesis 3. He said, On your belly shall you crawl. it means the serpent was hitherto an upright creature, having the bodily characteristics of a man and being actually able to copulate, but with beastly features. Have you ever wondered where the thought of killing Abel came upon Cain from, if he was truly the son of Adam, made in God's express image? Dont forget that was the first murder committed. where did that come from?

The answer is the fact that both the serpent and Adam had Eve, producing Cain and Abel. Like i said, it is superfetation, and a lot of cases of such have been repeated in history to truly prove the Bible right. The serpent's seed came out as Cain, and so did Adam's: Abel.

asuustrike2009:
Eve did not sleep with the serpent in the first place but was only lured to disobey God's command on eating the forbidden fruit.

The question is, what is the forbidden fruit? What kind of fruit do u eat and realize you are naked? Certainly not apricots or mangoes.
Again, God pronounced curse on the woman's reproductive because of eating the forbidden fruit. If it were the mouth, I believe the mouth would have been the first recipient of the curse, but God went for the reproductives, from childbearing to menstruation and all that paraphernalia.
Cain was the first fruit of that union. 1 John 3.12 clearly states that Cain was born of the evil one. The two seeds in Eve were of different fathers. The phenomenon is called superfetation.
The serpent got there first and she served the knowledge to her husband. That's why that Genesis Scripture said when she saw that it was pleasant to the eyes and one that could make one wise, she ate and gave to her husband to taste too.
So...the act was entirely sexual and not literal eating.

netizenbuzz:
Oga, it is clearly stated in Ephesians 5:21, it is not my opinion. Where did I say a man should stop being the head? Read my article again please. You say love? Love comes with humility as Christ continually showed. Why don't you advocate that instead? Jesus was and is still the most disrespected man that ever liveth, yet he never stopped loving us. Love should cover all things including disrespect but it is the other way round with you. You respect me, I show you love. You say respect isn't reciprocal? Well, we can say the same about love then. By your logic, if I am your wife, I don't have to love you since I'm only asked to respect you right? Does that even make sense to you? At the end of the day, you didn't answer my question, you only came out extremely defensive. I can't say I'm surprised. Before we say ah, you people shout westernization but alas, you are online because of the so called westernization. Why pick only what suits you? How selfish. God also cursed man that he would till the ground to eat but woe betide a woman that wants a man who can provide. Gold digger alert. Stop speaking from the two sides of your mouth uncle. You cannot eat your cake and have it.

I am sorry ma, but the submission you quoted in Ephesians 5.21 was not talking about husband and wife submission. Read the preceding verses. It is talking about the general body of believers.
2. Let's look at it this way. We all know without being told that love is an all encompassing word, but there is a reason it was used there. Besides, nowhere does it say that a man should send his wife away because she disrespected him. The only criteria for separation is fornication. Instead, she will be saved in childbearing if she respects him. You see why its so important?

3. Your take on my citation of westernization is rather funny, but you know its true. Why is it that its the negatives that will hold attraction for people all the time?
Finally, I answered your question as Scripturally as my level of Holy Ghost has taught me. Not that I expect it to go down well though with you. You are not the first to disagree. To most women, the definition of selfish is one who will not having your way as you want it. How manipulative. That's why man fell in the first place. Through the woman.

netizenbuzz:
Okay guys, let us leave religion and culture out of this. On a personal level, let us know why respect or will I call it submission is so important to you as a man. My reason for this is because, whenever there is a case of marriage failure, the first assumption is that the woman was not submissive enough. Even when there it domestic violence, it is because the woman was not submissive enough. I personally don't have a problem with giving anybody respect, both male and female, young and old. Where I have is problem is men expecting women to be blindly submissive. I mean, you can't keep treating me wrongly, disrespecting me, taking advantage of me and expect me to still respect you. That is just common sense. Women have feelings too and we get tired of bullsh.it too.
Is it about ego? To me ego is as good as pride, and it saddens me when even Christian brethren emphasize on a man's ego as of it is a thing to be proud of. We all know what the Bible says about pride. I also believe submission should be from both parties just as the Bible clearly stated so why do we keep twisting the scriptures. There can still be a head even with equality. I love to liken marriage to the affairs of this country. Buhari is our president but he is still equal in the sight of the law. If he commits a crime against me as a citizen, I have every right to sue him. He has some veto powers but he is still held accountable for his actions. And he is still answerable to us the citizens. We criticizing him does not and will never make him less of a president. Do you get my drift now?
So guys, honestly on a personal level, why is submission/respect from a woman so important to you? Leave culture and religion or of this.
Note; this thread is for mature individuals and it will help me know how to understand & address guys I find chauvinistic & mysoginistic better.

When you want to give an opinion, give one that is entirely yours.
I tend to have a problem when you want to say what the Bible did not say.
I am a Christian, and my wife has to submit to me BECAUSE the Scripture says so. No where in the Bible did it say that submission is mutual. the man is commanded to LOVE his wife.
Our problem is that too much movies and westernization has eroded both our cultural and Christian values.
I don't mean to sound misogynistic, but have you wondered why the Bible is mostly silent about women in demographic analysis?
From Genesis, one of the curses God laid on the woman for commiting adultery with the serpent was that her desire will be to her husband, and he will rule over her. that's the Scripture. Any other thing is just sentiment. you find this in Genesis 3.
Intrinsically, God made man symbol of authority, its in our DNAs.When we get attracted to someone who will show us respect, it happens without our knowing it, or having control over it.
i wouldn't advocate for the man to abuse the woman's submissiveness, but the family unit has an organogram which has to be followed strictly.
The fact that an opinion is popular does not mean it is right before God. He will only vindicate the truth. Respect is not reciprocal. A Christian gives it because God demands it, not because the receiver is deserving of it.

' Hey Sammie, why were you late to church today?'
Abegi.... what about those who didn t come at all? Are they not human beings as well?'
This kind of discourse has become very common place among a lot of people, so much so that it has become very acceptable and even fashionable as the latest means of watering down the import of their wrongdoings, by comparing it to the next worse possible level. At such times, the interrogator who is mostly also guilty of such at one point or the other in the rememberable past, become tongue-tied and the issue is mostly laughed over or the topic substituted almost immediately. The only exception to this postulation will be if the interrogator is someone of higher authority, and even that is subject to some degree of probability.

The truth of the matter remains that, for every inaction or action, there is a ready and waiting consequence. That one is as true and sure as the midday sun. The Scripture and Mother Nature are sisters on this one- it is the way the cosmos has been fashioned. The timing and placing of the consequence is immaterial.
Now, correction has basic components which include content, which is the real substance of the wrongdoing, what makes it wrong and why it is wrong, giving practical reasons. Another component of correction is the sternness of it. A correction qualifies as an effective one if it carries enough deterrent in it. this can come in form of harsh words, punishment, declarations, insults whether veiled or open. Most times, the correction intended for the defaulter is stripped of content and bite, by this method of negative comparison which in turn gives leverage to that next worse level.

Man is bad by default. That is why no effort ought to be spared in the bid to make a good person out of someone, and mindsets such as this are usually bad for business. With this kind of approach, corrections become ineffective and devoid of steam, the defaulter tends to carry on unabashed and unquestioned, because there is usually a next worse level of offence to compare the present to, absolve oneself, and keep sliding down the steep incline to doom. Needless to say, the grave consequences waiting somewhere down the line blooms and blossoms enough to adequately reward and repay.

A lot of good will be achieved if we do away with this escapist theory of receiving corrections. It is bad enough that the offence was committed, it will only be wise to take every form of correction in your stride and learn from it

I wonder why suicide ranks topmost in peoples minds when thinking of the end to desperation and despair.
Suicide is sin. dont expect to go to heaven when you wake up on the other side. You took a life you could not create, forget the fact that its your own.
But how will someone think of suicide when there is 112, Jagged Edge, Joe Thomas,Mario Barrett, Mario Winans, Elijah Oyelade, Lecrae, Canton Jones, Donnell Jones, Tank, Jussie Smollet, William McDowell, Tony Evans, Dave Hollister, Sinach, Da Truth, Erica Cumbo, George Huff, Steve Crown, Cam, Vashawn Mitchell, Women of Faith,PlayStation 4, Dru Hill, at least 50 women who will make passes at you in your lifetime(depending on your social skills and looks, forget money, the more this xtics the better), pineapple juice, pounded yam, okro soup, dear blessed English Premier league, and too many more of which i cant begin to mention now.

People tire me o.

So its approaching February 14. There is love in the air. the radio, television, the internet and mass media are all awash with adverts and promos and the slogan is always 'in the spirit of the Valentine season'. Opportunistic ladies put on their best garb of behaviour, ostensibly to hook a partner down to 'be their Val'. Guys with the same labelling perfect their baits  and charm and wit for a nice good hunting and happy landing. The period is usually an interesting piece of entertainment, there being no end to the drama that is wont to unfold.

   I do not want to believe that the lion share of the enlightened population have not cared to inquire after the origin of this commemoration. One can easily understand with those who are only content with general proclamation of February 14 as Valentine's day as the only cue they need to indulge. Afterall, the information on almost anything one needs is there for the asking- at the touch of a button.

   In the Nigerian parlance, I  will not be wrong to say that the population is equally skewed between Christians and Muslims, which are the principal religions that make up our demography. but the hue and hype of the Valentine produces mostly Christian vibes... at least to the best of my knowledge.

  In all the accounts that chronicle the origin of Valentine's day, there has been one constant feature: sexual deviance and debauchery, or at best inordinate sexual relations outside of marriage, which is the Biblically prescribed visa into the foray of sexual adventure. While it is still debatable the veracity and truth of any of these accounts, that is a lesser evil compared to the glaring fact that a commemoration stuffed to the throat with such maverick show of depravity and impunity is attractive to people, Christians in particular!

 While i see nothing wrong with married people taking time out to reaffirm their vows and unwind a little, which does not have to be on a special day anyway, the level of moral decadence that characterizes this period each year is simply appaling. A ten year old girl told me today they were organising a prom night in their primary school to mark Valentine's day!

  In summary, Valentine has no godly or religious significance or benefit to a Bible-believing, heaven-minded Christian. If anything, it is nothing more than an avenue to promote and market lasciviousness and lust and clandestine sex, if we want to be sincere about it. This may sound leftist and harsh, but sweet truth is usually not truth. Truth will only be sweet to those connected to the Truth- Jesus Christ.

  Christians, take note.

So its approaching February 14. There is love in the air. the radio, television, the internet and mass media are all awash with adverts and promos and the slogan is always 'in the spirit of the Valentine season'. Opportunistic ladies put on their best garb of behaviour, ostensibly to hook a partner down to 'be their Val'. Guys with the same labelling perfect their baits  and charm and wit for a nice good hunting and happy landing. The period is usually an interesting piece of entertainment, there being no end to the drama that is wont to unfold.

   I do not want to believe that the lion share of the enlightened population have not cared to inquire after the origin of this commemoration. One can easily understand with those who are only content with general proclamation of February 14 as Valentine's day as the only cue they need to indulge. Afterall, the information on almost anything one needs is there for the asking- at the touch of a button.

   In the Nigerian parlance, I  will not be wrong to say that the population is equally skewed between Christians and Muslims, which are the principal religions that make up our demography. but the hue and hype of the Valentine produces mostly Christian vibes... at least to the best of my knowledge.

  In all the accounts that chronicle the origin of Valentine's day, there has been one constant feature: sexual deviance and debauchery, or at best inordinate sexual relations outside of marriage, which is the Biblically prescribed visa into the foray of sexual adventure. While it is still debatable the veracity and truth of any of these accounts, that is a lesser evil compared to the glaring fact that a commemoration stuffed to the throat with such maverick show of depravity and impunity is attractive to people, Christians in particular!

 While i see nothing wrong with married people taking time out to reaffirm their vows and unwind a little, which does not have to be on a special day anyway, the level of moral decadence that characterizes this period each year is simply appaling. A ten year old girl told me today they were organising a prom night in their primary school to mark Valentine's day!

  In summary, Valentine has no godly or religious significance or benefit to a Bible-believing, heaven-minded Christian. If anything, it is nothing more than an avenue to promote and market lasciviousness and lust and clandestine sex, if we want to be sincere about it. This may sound leftist and harsh, but sweet truth is usually not truth. Truth will only be sweet to those connected to the Truth- Jesus Christ.

  Christians, take note.

aoyih:
Valentine’s Day as we know it now is very bittersweet: Sweet if you’ve got a
generous crush/love and/or lots of friends to shower you with gifts, cards,
emails, tweets, flowers, and candy, until you’re swimming in red and pink
colored flattery. It’s also sweet if you’re a pop star who spends Valentine’s
Day with a dying fan.

But it’s also very bitter, for those who think it’s just another cynical holiday
meant to sell candy and cards, and of course, if you’re not linked up to anyone romantically during this time, it just seems like everyone who is is just rubbing it in your face. That girl at work that keeps getting flowers delivered.
That kid at school with all the candy grams. Your best friend/sister/mortal enemy and her reservations at the poshest spot in town with her fiance (who’s in finance, looks like George Clooney, and loves puppies.) Really, it’s kind of sadistic when you think about it.

So, how did this wretched/wonderful holiday come about?
It turns out the history of Valentine’s day is even more brutal than finding an empty Valentine’s cubby in elementary school.
It’s also kind of all over the place, and there are all kinds of weirdness going
on here, but the beginnings started with The Romans (those crazy Romans!)
From Feb. 13 to 15 the ancient Romans celebrated the feast of Lupercalia, to
ward off evil spirits and enhance the health of the community. The name came
from Greek λύκος — lukos, and Latin lupus, meaning wolf. In Roman
mythology, Lupercus is the god of shepherds. His festival took place on February 15, and celebrated the founding of his temple. It was also partly known as “Wolf Festival” because it honored Lupa, a legendary she-wolf who suckled infant orphans.
The (drunken) festival began with the sacrifice of two male goats and a dog.
A feast followed, and they made thongs out of the skins of the sacrificial
animals, called Februa, which gives February it's infuriatingly spelled name!
Lupercalia also had strange and brutal mating practices. Young women would line up for men to beat them, and then the men would draw the names of girls from a jar. The name they picked would be their sexual partner for the rest of the festival (and longer, if it was actually a good match).

The Roman populace still continued to celebrate Lupercalia even after pagan rituals were outlawed in 5th century A.D. Rome. That century Pope Gelasius I
established Valentine’s Day at the same time of Lupercalia to honor two martyred Christian priests named Valentine (they actually may have been the same guy, more on that later.) Around that time the Normans (Norse) also had a day, called Galatin’s Day (that’s right, Leslie Knope didn’t make this one up,) which celebrated the love of women. To further confuse things, the “G” in Norse is pronounced “V” in English. It seems like Lupercalia, St. Valentine’s Day, and Galatin’s Day all kind of got meshed together.

The two St. Valentines:
1. Valentine of Rome – During the third century Roman emperor
Claudius Gothicus – known as Claudius the Cruel, had abolished marriage because he felt marriage and family life was preventing people from joining the military. Priest Valentine of Rome was discovered illegally marrying people. Before he was clubbed, stoned and decapitated on February 14, 269 A.D. legend says he fell in love with his jailer’s daughter, Julia, and left her a parting note signed “From your Valentine.” In some stories, Julia was blind, and he cured her sight. His skull, adorned with flowers, (pictured above) is currently displayed at the Santa Maria in Cosmedin in Rome Italy.

2. Saint Valentine of Terni:
He was also executed on February 14, but on a different year, though some scholars believe Valentine of Terni is the same man as Valentine of Rome. Terni’s story is that he championed the validity of Jesus, and is said to have restored the sight of a blind girl (St. Valentine of Rome is also rumored to have restored the sight of the girl he loved.) At that time, it was illegal in Rome to practice Christianity (Emperor Claudius again), and he was eventually arrested. Claudius initially took a liking to him, but had Valentine put to death when he tried to convert Claudius to Christianity.
See, Valentine’s Day isn’t all teddy bears, cliche sentiment, and candy hearts,
it has its origins in bloodshed, martyrdom, religious persecution, drunken, debauchery and strange and sexiest mating rituals.

The road to heaven is a narrow one. Only few will find it. Most people don't realize that most of these ungodly feasts are rooted in idolatry and heathenism, and no matter how much we want to Christianise and rationalize, the spirits that rule theses things do not die. Only the humans they inhabit do.
Any Christian worth his or her salt knows better than engage in things like this. My take.

EggovinMma:
That babe deserves some hot resounding slaps! !!
Why reveal that? Every body get skeleton! That dude sef fit be murderer.


Silly lady!

Na so una go dey support rubbish. There are virgins at 43, male. Not everyone is rotten.

insycarc:
You have done the damage already. It goes a long way to show u cnt control your anger. No matter what your wife does to you, u shouldnt lay your hands on her, instead just take a stroll or go outside or keep quiet:Thats why u a man. She will forever remember the slap and the love she had for will never be the same no matter how much you spend and the love you show, you have already created a dark spot.. Just being nice and caring to her and avoiding arguments will help reduce the hurt for the main time but it cant eliminate it. It

Suddenly the man alone is the villain. The woman suddenly is the Hail Mary. Our world....Even so, Lord Jesus, come quickly....

utenwuson:
how a guy n a lady becomes besties is wat I cnt really figure out!!! maybe am insane I don't jst get it or u actually don't knw wat a "best frn" is! I. can visit my best frn for days, bath, cook,eat,play scrabble, hang out, sleep on d same bed 4 weeks wen am on leave! am jst imagining if he is a "lady"

I give u the number of likes equal to Naija's budget:6 trillion. I talk am, dem say my mouth dey smell. How on earth can a guy and a girl be 'just friends'? Just how? Now look at it

Nkasiobi87:
Hi everyone, after what happened in my husband church on Sunday how he embarrassed me and his worker slapping me. I decided to consult his doctor friend to talk to him ,the only reason he gave the doctor is that the mistress saved his life when he wanted to kill him self because of a woman that died years ago in his church which left him confused then(I traveled with My last child when this incident happen) and the girl telling him not to kill him self is enough that the girl love him and that from that day he swear never to leave that girl nor let the girl feel bad in any situation.

He said that the girl is his life. so for me becoming pregnant is enough to make the girl feel bad so he now tries to defame me and make the girl happy.he suggested that the only solution that will bring peace to my family is me becoming friend with the said girl and serving her.and that I should beg the worker that I have forgiven him if I want him to accept me again.

Now the girl in question here is rude and proud. she insult me anyhow.she laughed at me now that am going through this with my hubby. today she saw me and started laughing that she must make me leave my home with my 5kids.

Now all am asking my self is how can I step so low to the extend of begging my husband mistress just for my husband to love me again. how can I befriend this witch of a girl. How can I worship this girl in my own house all to please my husband. A girl that saved my husband name with Baby m. Will that make me a peace seeker or a fool the more.will a reasonable woman do that?

Prayers, prayers, prayers. The man is not in his right senses.

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dre11:
Jobless husband beats up pregnant wife over refusal to give him money







http://dailypost.ng/2016/01/27/jobless-husband-beats-up-pregnant-wife-over-refusal-to-give-him-money/

I don't like this.

SQLmastar:
But Did the ghel beg or pay the guy to chat with her?

She owes him no explanation. Abi na the guy buy fone for her? Mtcheew!

Just because he didn't buy phone for her doesn't give her licence to be lackadaisical or rude. You people are the ones that make these girls behave the way they do.