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fuckingAyaya:
MAMA PEACE

You sabi. Mr Allen Onyema is but a figure head.

frank317:
perhaps I should ask you... what really is karma to u?

is it the result of mistakes people make or is it some force that ensures evil people or good people gets payed back?

What if Abiola's inability to become the president was because of a wrong decision he made in the whole presidential race process? How did u come to conclusion that his inability to become the president was because of the evil part he played in politics against Awolowo? have u taken into account, some wrong decisions he must have taken while seeking for president?

trust me, u dont believe in karma... if you do, u wouldnt even want us to have police or fight back when someone hurts u. u would just relax and wait for karma to take its cause like, according to u, it did to abiola.

Nobody has these answers and I'm not here to pretend to.
Do you agree that Life/Nature is all about Balance and Cycles?
Everything eventually balances out, it may only take time.

safarigirl:
there are people who don't believe in God, even less His grace, that have long-lasting marriage.

They don't believe in God doesn't stop God from believing in them.
Call it Luck then if you please.

IamaNigerianGuy:
The common connotation of grieving does not include the pain of illness unless it is terminal. The term is usually reserved for death.
If he's grieving now how would you describe his sorrow if the son dies ?

Reserved for death by who?
There's an App on Playstore called Dictionary, download it. I'm not here for English argument.
I've made my point.

IamaNigerianGuy:
Grieving ke ? The boy is not dead...

Sorry I thought you were educated.

iHart:
you train people to acquire skills in software, computer maintenance and printer repairs. The people you train are expected to go and start their own business. Then you repair/fix computers and printers for clients. So you have the skills and now have contacts of customers/clients. What prevents you from starting your own repair and maintenance business? At least that's what you teach others to do, you too can do better...

Spot on.
It's not going to be easy at first but that's the way to go.
OP wait till they pay all your dues, then do the needful.

trolley:
Does this clown even understands anything about security protocol? A security officer is beholden to the whims of their principal. His professional service exists upon the agreement of their principal. He offers protection/advice which can be accepted or declined by his principal.

Don't blame your son for lacking the foresight to restrain his excesses.

He's a grieving father, you won't understand.

safarigirl:
I don't believe the talk that purported loose women do nor gwtg married. They have a higher chance of getting married than 'decent' girls because they go out a lot and meet more people, so, when I see them getting married, I just laugh.

To get married no be the main thing these days, any idiot can get married, hell, in Vegas, you can marry a total stranger...but staying married is how I rate all these people

PS: Next time, just keep it at Kim

Longevity of marriage is predicated on a myriad of factors, decency is just one of them. It takes the Grace of God to have a long lasting marriage hon.

frank317:
why then do we have some wicked people leaving a happy life, and some good people suffering.

trust me, if doing good actaully attracts good karma... NO ONE WILL BE BAD

do you know that the reason why some people do bad is to seek for good? if doing bad attracts bad karma, why would a kidnapper like evans live a affluent life and even when caught, he has good lawyers fighting for his freedom? meanwhile there are people who have been accused wrongly and suffering for the evil of others?
what bad did babies do to attract bad karma?

again how does this karma work? if i am kind to 4 people an just decide to treat the fifth person bad, how does karma pay me? To the 5th person I am mean and he expects karma to pay me back badly, while to the remaining 4, i am nice and they expect karma to pay me back with goodies... will karma be confused in this situation?

Well I'm no expert but the error here is that Karma is time bound. Not necessarily immediate. Citing examples from the Bible and history, we read how the world is suffering for Abraham's evil towards Haggai which has resorted to Christian and Islamic woes.
MKO Abiola is a more recent example, it is known the evil part he played in politics against Awolowo, which can be argued to be responsible for his evil karma when he got everything right yet he never achieved his ambition to become president.
If proper documentation of our lives is kept, you'll realise Karma is still as efficacious today as it has always been.

ceejayx:
My ascent..once i start speaking its allova

You spoke your "ascent" and this thread was all over.

safarigirl:
how long did Janet's marriage last?

Which Kardashians? The ones dating semi-literates? How many are even married aside Kim? None....just babymamas

The Key word here is Marriage not its Longevity.
Hate em or love em, Kim has had 2 royal-esque weddings.
Not using them as standards, just counterpointing the fallacy in the argument.

Good observation but you missed a spot.
You do good you attract good karma.
While evil deed attracts bad karma.

When you do evil, the equal and opposite karma is the evil comeuppance you get but good recompense to those you erred. Get it?

kramer:
You're not really making sense here though.

No Rich man of status will want to wife a woman who's been around the block and that's a fact. I mean imagine going to a business meeting only to find out that your proposed business partner used to panel beat your wife? You also don't want another Gbenga Obasanjo case on your hands.

On the other hand Rich men will happily use and pass on heavy mileage entities.

How about Janet Jackson's Billionaire ex? Kardashians? Google the rest.
Well as Nigerians I get your point but even that is fast changing.

Kings1464:
kitten wey Ikechukwu and others don turn to fairly used

God please don't allow me to be in this guy's shoes....... Amen!

I do not envy him at all

How old are you son?

summerky:
Is alright and I've not seen anyone praying and wishing him speedy recovery like Yusuf.... Sentiments in everything

Blame the press for poor report.
Only Yusuf was earlier reported to be involved in the accident. Wish both of them divine healing and quick recovery.
Youthful exuberance is no excuse for a reckless lifestyle. Now they got their families in distress. Rich or poor, no one deserves misfortunes.

Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

Another Feminist? Or maybe not
There are different categories of men and women. To generalise or put everyone in the same box only exposes your exposure limitation.
Just as there's a sphere of women who are satisfied with the status quo and accept that man is superior and should be accorded as such so they don't buy into this feminism brouhaha. Likewise there's a class of men who find the mundane woman boring and love the stimulation of a competitive woman who believes she's not to be faded into the background.
This can be summed up bluntly as follows.
A man who only has money to offer in a relationship will wants his woman financially dependent on him and would be intimidated by a financially independent woman.
On the flip side a man who has more than money to offer is attracted to a financially independent woman who brings more to the table stimulating him intellectually.

That said, know who and what appeals to you and strive for it and stop poking your nose into other people's affairs. Cos really, although we're all all made in God's likeness we're not all alike.

dominique:
So true, all those people wishing the young man death can't possibly be parents. If they are, shame on them.

It's sad humans can be this evil towards their fellow man.
Yet they go to church/mosque asking God to destroy evil people. If God decides to answer such prayer how many people will survive?
FFK even had the shamelessness to compare this to God's plague on Pharaoh. I just weak.

Still in the spirit of reconciliation. 2018 looking copacetic.

Sleeping till day break. That'll be 100 litres of fuel only for service charge.

All men have this na. In fact I'm proud to have this.
Errr Mom, is this a plot to make me quit gaming? Kole werk.

dominique:
Why not let her go now that she's young so she can move on with her life and find someone that would love and appreciate her? If you don't see a future with her, stop wasting her time or at least let her know that the relationship won't go beyond dating and sex.



I agreed with you until I got to the last two paragraphs. A relationship is not a business venture or a form of occupation, anybody can call it off without having to compensate the other financially. What I don't support is wasting a person's time if you dont see a future with him or her. If it was the girl that wants to break off from the relationship, will you be suggesting that she compensates the guy?

You said it all dear. Let me just chip in this.
OP Bad Idea introducing her to your family since you knew your intention was never long term.
You don't have to break it off completely all at once. You can still be there for her. Be supportive of each other.

Feminism is a single girl's defense mechanism for being unmarried. Once they finally get married they burn all their feminism crap fast.

Feminism is a single girl's defense mechanism for being unmarried. Once they finally get married they burn all their feminism crap fast.

TunezMediaBlog:
Former Miss Nigeria, Omowunmi Akinnifesi was the cynosure of all eyes when she stepped out last night in a black see-through top for the All Black Everything concert held in Lagos yesternight.

The mesh top revealed what the super model rocked underneath leaving little to the imagination. See below...

http://www.tunezmedia.com.ng/2017/12/ex-beauty-queen-omowunmi-akinnifesi.html

My Prima Donna.

Thank God electricity is still quite stable in Okota. So I'm a bit insulated from all this scarcity brouhaha. Only mobility is a challenge.

Salute!

Op does that mean if your pastor should lie today he should also stop praying or should he renege on his ministry cos he sinned too?
God knows we're humans, we're flesh. And he doesn't expect you to become perfect overnight. It's a process. We're all just a process in progress.
Stay on the path. God's your strength and Jesus loves you unconditionally, always remember that.

dalaman:
So the incestuous man Abraham is your model abi?

Without incest how do you think the early world was populated? Receive sense.

Seun:
I’m very sorry to have to say the following on this thread:

“The Abraham character of Genesis *married his half-sister and, twice, *pretended that they were not married and allowed other men to take her home for marriage. He thought God wanted him to slaughter his son like a ram and roast his body as a human sacrifice to God, and was ready to do it. He had sex with his wife’s female slave and got a son through her, then he sent her away with their innocent son to die in the hot desert when his wife got jealous. You should think twice about promoting such a character as a role model.”

* Corrections have been made to this post.

It's easy to discredit and pick flaws. But once you focus on the important things you'll realise all these flaws were a necessity for God to be glorified. Abraham just like us was an imperfect man striving for perfection. All his flaws don't make God less than God but only prove Abraham was just a man.
God chose him for reasons best known to him. If God decides to call you today (and I'm sure he would some day) it won't be because you're perfect but because God wants to Perfect your being.

Ezeakanobi:
From this uselessly lying government that is led by a man that has been lying and blaming since 1977

By now they ought to know we don't believe jack they say except what we see.
This APC govt won't learn. That's why Lai and Adesina will continue to be misinformation conveyors.

To begin to list their failed promises is a task I don't even have the energy for.

DarkRebel69:
[PART 1 OF 3]


The Science of Learning: How to study, how to understand, and how to remember all you read



Whether you are a student looking to give your GPA that quantum boost; whether you are a professional seeking to get the most out of the books you read; whether you're an OCKG (Obessesive-compulsive knowledge-gatherer); or whether you're just a good citizen of the planet looking to maximize your learning/studying experience, then this exposition, which is firmly grounded in the time-tested science of educational psychology, has been written to cater for your learning needs.

The problem with our schools,—and to bring it home—the problem with the entire Nigerian education system, as has been observed by myself and many others, is that in school we are taught what to learn but we are almost never taught how to learn what it is that we have to learn, leaving many of us squirming in the throes of bland rote memorization. (Which, if you don't already know, is the poorest, most unimaginative, most time-consuming, and most ineffective method of learning.)

That is why meta-learning (the awareness and understanding of the phenomenon of learning) is essential to master before even getting down to the actual learning process. (If you don't even know how to start a fire, then why bother gathering firewood?)

Let us begin by defining what learning is:-

Learning is, according to Wikipedia, "the process of acquiring new or modifying existing knowledge, behaviours, skills, values, or preferences".

Before you fall guilty of anthropocentricity, see what Wikipedia further said:- "The ability to learn is possessed by humans, animals, and some machines". It doesn't end there, Wikipedia also had this to say:- "There is also evidence for some kind of learning in some plants".

And, for all you adherents of John Locke who believe that we are born as clean wax tablets, research has shown that learning begins even before birth, so a newborn is not necessarily impression-free. Of course, a foetus would not learn to solve quadratic equations while it's curled up in its mother's womb. Rather, the form of learning which takes places prenatally is known as "habituation" (This has been observed to occur as early as 32 weeks into gestation.)

Now that we have established the definition of learning, and also learned that even machines are capable of learning to some extent, let us now try to understand the things that fuel learning (in humans)—that will to power that propels a person to learn a new language, or to learn to play the violin, or to learn to write a computer code.

Consider these two scenarios:

Scenario 1: Garfield loves Maria for her intelligence. He knows it's pointless but his feelings nonetheless have taken a romantic turn. The major glitch however is that Maria speaks and understands only Croatian, while Garfield speaks and understands only English. In order to impress Maria, Garfield sets out determined on a quest to learn Croatian.

Scenario 2: Kunle was driving one day when he came across a purple gorilla riding a bicycle. Kunle was impressed by this unusual sight and has dedicated the remainder of his life to understanding everything about bicycle-riding purple gorillas.

Those two scenarios mirror the two major things that drive learning in humans. In Scenario 1, we see "motivation" playing a role in Garfield's desire to learn Croatian (romantic motivation in this case). And in Scenario 2, we can very clearly see the inalienable factor of "curiosity" playing a critical role in Kunle's wanting to learn about purple King Kongs. (You might not have been told, but before curiosity killed the cat, it first made it more knowledgeable.)

Motivation and curiosity are primarily what drives humans to want to learn. Besides, if man as a creature were incapable of learning, then the entire human race would have long gone into extinction. If we were incapable of learning or incapable of forming long-term memory impressions, then we wouldn't even remember that playing with fire is dangerous, or that snakes have poisonous venom, or that a scorpion's sting could prove fatal. Even if we as a species somehow managed to beat natural selection and did not go extinct, then we would very likely be at the bottom of the food chain. (Therefore, even at the evolutionary level, learning is necessary for survival.)


For the remainder of the article, we would touch on these two things in detail:

1) How to maximise your learning/studying (Conditions to have in place)

2) How to study, understand, and remember all you read


P.S.: In order to avoid generalizing to a fault, the other two units have been tailored to cater specifically to the learning needs of university/polytechnic students. But in practice, the principles are generally applicable to everyone.

Subsequently, too, the word "learn" will be interchanged with "study", since in the other two units we would treat the phenomenon of learning purely in the academic/scholarly sense.

Great writ.
We need more of you in Nigerian Academia to help restructure this flawed education system.