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Strength of a woman....
Women are the strongest creatures on planet earth.


That's one hell of a supportive man she had by her side too....the thing go dey do the man like film trick

The traffic was terrible...I spent over 4hrs between Ikoyi(park view) and Chisco today....

Upon all the millions made from both toll gates,I don't see any reason why they ought to increase the fee.
But this is Nigeria, we will complain and still go ahead to pay tomorrow morning....our leaders know it, they feel we don't have a choice and they keep doing evil

Please can someone give me the description to where I can register in Gbagada.? thanks

How can I apply for a new voters card...never had one before

Bodija is okay, rent might be on the high side though...
easy access to transport, good roads, stable electricity to an extent (as of early 2017),clubs, banks, government offices, popular Bodija market and in a way its in center of town.
Onireke gra is nice too, but it will be easier to be mobile.
Akobo Ojurin enjoys constant electricity but the traffic during rush hours can be frustrating..Bashorun is nice too for average income earners
Oluyole, Mokola(water is a big problem in Mokola but it's in central town)... Agodi Gra(too quiet for me).. Challenge/mobil area...

Ibadan has cool places to settle but I lived in Bodija and I enjoyed the place.

Femsyn:
I like the way we always jump to the reactions while ignoring the cause. Sexual pressure is a big deal, and it takes someone with a whole lot of discipline to scale through, especially for a couple who used to be sexually active. This is the reason I'm always careful blaming a cheating spouse against an absentee wife/husband. It can really be tough.

For the above reason, I won't blame anyone as regards infidelity on the part of the man. However, I feel his marriage can still be salvaged. Get some funds and travel to Nigeria and get your woman back! That is if you sincerely want her back. Although somehow, I feel the foundation of this relationship has a role to play in how it all turned out.

Marriage is constant work.

Believe me, sexual pressure is a tough one...the wife knew she was tormenting her husband by refusing him sex, that was her own way of getting back at her husband.
Ain't supporting infidelity, but realistically we all have our breaking point.


@op, you were a second choice, a back up plan...you just didn't see..she feels she's trapped with you and probably has had enough.

Issues are bound to happen in any marriage, matured people communicate about it.
You can try and come to Nigeria and see if you can still fix your marriage, just that unfortunately this time around, it will solely be on her terms and conditions..
All the best.

duchessitunu@gmail.com

Thought I was the only one that noticed...1.5g didn't last me for 5days and the only app I use is whatsapp and Facebook...It has happened twice..
Unfortunately, my phone is programmed to work only with Mtn sim

Congratulations

That's quite unusual, been plying that route for a while...
Though I've not used the economy seat, just the first class with #450 difference...
I leave from Idu but drop at Kubwa on my way back cos of stories like this..
Then the NRC should increase the number of trips the train makes from Rigasa to Idu or get more trains to ply that route(but this is Nigeria, they'll need a committee and something good might not come out in four years).

You're a very selfish man.
So cos your wife told her family you had a child before marriage you're threatening her.
A woman who has had 9miscarriages and you're telling her you don't want to hear anymore of it. I've had one miscarriage in my entire life and I cried for months
You had to rub it in her face that you have a child and you'll bring her in(a child you're not even sure of the paternity?? ) theres no biggie bringing your child to your home, she has a right to be there.
That you're even think of going back to your ex irritates me, going back to your "vomit" you even threatened to have kids with different women...when you can't even handle this on your hands now...

Leave the woman, let her be And see how happy she will be eventually without you

Na wa oo.
The child is 3, 3years old...she's smart, she said "dog licks water" not to spite the other person.
My 3years old daughter won't drink water from a bowl or cup, she drinks from her water bottle or a cup with lid/straw.
The baby was probably surprised Chisom gave her water in something different from what she is used to. She only observed and said the way she thought about it
If she was 8 and she told Chisom that, then she'll be corrected

My daughter said to my mum in a family gathering, "you're not my mummy, you're Didith(Edith's) mummy" so might have that rude but I see it as smart.

Please house,.most of the CV examples I got online had a profile picture on it...(UAE CV format) how can o include my own picture too or is it not necessary?
Can someone explain how I will attach my pictures

pcguru1:
The hypocrisy is strong here, if it were the other way round I'd be hearing divorce.

Very very strong... God help women

If he is a traditionalist, it might be difficult to see him change...traditional men don't do "dates" they don't celebrate birthdays or wedding anniversary.
If he is in the class of men that believe as long provides for the home and he's faithful to you, you need no more, you might not be able to convince him.

Communicate with him, tell him things you fancy, you can start and urge him to reciprocate the gesture...
And if he doesn't change, the truth is you'll have to learn how to cope with it

Chommieblaq:
My dear, I understand what you going through but you have to draw a line. Don't stop helping your parent and sibling but don't do it at your expense, don't sideline yourself. Also learn to keep some financial info to yourself.
God forbid, what if you loose your job tomorrow? What do you have to fall back on?

Secondly, you have to address these issues now, before you get married. If not, it will bring bad blood between them and your spouse. They will feel you changed (forgetting that you have more responsibilities and your own family).

Apply wisdom so as to not bring misunderstanding in your family.

Exactly, especially the spouse part... that's one if the reasons why women are termed "wicked" by their in-laws cos the sons(husband) suddenly become prudent with cash..

[quote author=Windflower post=61867756][/quote]okay...honestly if you are of age, maybe you'll need to get an apartment of yours even if its just a room...I know they will protest that you're still single and that will make you vulnerable to preying males.
But like what I told my parents when I wanted to stay alone, I lived 4yrs in the university alone, away from home, service year was a day's journey from home,yet I comported myself and behaved well.

If getting a place isn't an option, then you have to be strict,you can call a meeting, dad mum, siblings as witnesses, tell them you love them and know they've sacrificed so much for you and you appreciate.. they should say a figure they'll be comfortable with per month, then you negotiate..
Learn now to make that decision when you're still single
Once I give my parents their allowance, no amount of story or talks will make me give more...expect if they are ill.

You have to be careful but firm in your decision.. probably base them on a monthly allowance irrespective of the stories they tell you..mothers can be good with the "emotional blackmail"...she knows you trust her enough to discuss anything with her including your finances but sincerely you have to reduce the information you give her for your own sake, she might be angry/disappointed initially but she'll come around.
You have to send money to them cos its the fruits/rewards of their labour but only what you can afford, if what you can afford is just feeding, do it.
Start saving, save for the rainy days, for unforseen sudden circumstances..
Sometimes in life you need to be selfish in order to get certain things right in your own life.

PrinceJoeWan:
Like what ?

Utme and post utme scores

PrinceJoeWan:
Pls can she study HISTORY AND INTERNATIONAL RELATIONS ?

Yes she should be able to, if she meets other requirements

Cunny man die, cunny man bury him.
You had no womb yet you couldn't tell the man you vowed to spend the rest of your life with
Your joystick is no stick,doesn't even give 'joy' yet you couldn't confide in the woman who will have to suffer in silence??
See why secrets ain't a good thing in marriage...
I'm a team testdrive before marriage but how can you know a woman has no womb??
Both thought they had outsmart each other but

Tell your intending spouse everything you think can affect the marriage, its left for them to decide to STAY or WALK but at least you WON'T have the leave with the guilt of dirty and untold Secrets

The couple did the right thing but in a wrong manner, They could have contacted the SOS or any governmental welfare organisation, at least adopt the child in a legal way..

The whistle blower did the right thing, just that it may cost that innocent child a real home...a mentally impaired mother can't give the child the best care---good education, good healthcare delivery, good and balanced diet.

I think they should let them adopt the child in the Legal way than giving the child back to the mother or taking the baby to the orphanage-cos you never know whose hands she will fall to in the end

Mudley313:
You got some screws loose or what? Did you not read where the mother in law have full access to the child and its only the sleeping over thingy I'm bothered about?? You say my MIL is not manipulative. Do you know her or do you know me before?? If this woman had her way this my child wouldn't even have been born and you're here knacking teeth on matter you know nothing about. I know i am married to an only child and I have spent all the time in the relationship compromising but sorry, that compromise is not gonna be extending to my daughter. My daughter comes first, not the feelings of some single old lady who can't keep a man to save her life

You really do not need to insult me..anyways I won't stoop low to do the same to you...I know better and I'm better than that..
Its your family, your wife, child, MIL, deal with them anyhow you see deem fit...I only advised you according to what you wrote.
Peace

Mudley313:
My mom actually came to help when the child was first born and there was a lot of clash over house and kitchen rules and we tried our best to respect that so everyone can be happy. My dad was actually an only child also and my mom said the mistake she made was not put her foot down with her own mother in law when she needed to at the beginning until it was too late.

For those saying I'm selfish, me I know what I went through from this manipulative woman before I was able to marry here child and now that a grandchild has solidified our union more she seem to be insecure looking for a way in. This is why I asked, why night? If not for a way of looking for a way to exert back control.

I know what I've been through and my child will not be used as a pun for all that childish manipulative moves. Better to be safe than sorry. She can have her all she want during the day; weekdays or weekends. If that one nor reach, me I nor no wetin to talk put for the matter again

You're not saying this cos your MIL is manipulative, you're doing this cos of what you've seen around you or maybe what your mother had told you....so you want to judge your own wife cos of your mum's mistake..
Realistically, if you marry an only child, there are some compromises you have to make, that's your MIL only grandchild.
If you were my husband/bro, I'll still insist your mum will have no access to the child too,as you've denied my mother, either during the day/night.

You're just trying to create avoidable issues for yourself..when you marry, you marry not your wife/husband alone but to an EXTENT members of his/her immediate family...