₦airaland Forum

Chinwendym:
Mama PresVa howdy? Its been a while hope you are gud.

Poca.huntaz how are you too? God be with you sis.

I'm very good.. thanks for checking

What kind of contract were you given at Shell? Direct contract? Third party contract or
Will you be given an ID card?

The kinda contract you're given will help me advise further. ...

whitejulius81:
Oga with your land survey size here ....did you think that the land size will contain all these I.e 2 unit of 2 bedroom , 1 unit of 2 bed , 1 four bed room duplex.. think twice ooo. I believed by the time you finish it, you will hardly have a place for just a car.

Thinking same too.. the land is just a lil over a plot and he's building all these...

Anyway, still following. ....

Acidosis:
Where are your parents?

From her history, sadly their parents are late.. Her brother is the breadwinner..

What I think is that, either she's disrespectful or her brother doesn't really have money or his wife isn't comfortable with her husband helping his siblings...

Whatever shaa, she should just humble herself, talk with her brother, then pray... she can also get a source of income(no matter now lil), if possible. .

All the best op...

Were you insulting to his wife or not? How has your relationship with his wife been?

Beetle:
Why do I have this feeling the man is proud and a no-nonsense one? I think that's the reason the wife went behind him to collect money from his friend. See his reaction sef; drastic. The man sef should take a chill pilll, Instead of resorting to sending wife out of the house- cheapest form of divorce.

The wife should have Jejely gone to their relatives, at least the man won't de-relative them (lol).

Exactly, I feel same too.. he seems so proud-his reaction shows it ...
The friend may have good intentions.. The friend probably knows the husband is so arrogant and may not accept (needing) help hence decided to indulge the wife... or maybe he felt the husband wouldn't utilise the money well...

If the husband's friend had given her money for frivolities, then it's a different thing. . But it's foodstuffs we're talking about here...

The wife's attitude wasn't a good one but that doesn't conclude she had something fishy with the husband's friend. ...

Btw, the husband didn't ask the wife how she got money all this while?

Lero15:
Adeaks, e ku touring ooo

Lol, thanks for sharing the update.. so funny

Good people haven't gone extinct in Lagos shaaa...

Will look into my tithing too; felt so guilty reading it

MsJackson:
Then should I just walk out of my marriage? not work at it? I can't just give up. People change. With God, all things are possible. Also av stopped working with my sister inlaw some months ago.He loves me, don't say he doesn't. And we'll both work to see things work out. We talked deep just now. Really deep. God, myself and my man will make this marriage work. I'll not give up. Thank u all for your advice.

Really nice...

If your husband can change for good and see you for who you really are (his lovely wife), then your problem is solved; SILs will be ignored or they'll come around! !

I wish you the best...

A man remains the head irrespective of situations. . God didn't give any conditions for husbands' headship. ..

Meanwhile, all these headship, bla bla bla... a family where the couple live as friends/lovers, hardly notices who's the 'head' or 'tail' because they do things together; they're more like partners/siblings. ...

A man should know how to cook so as to be able to help when your wife is ill, pregnant , or busy as the case maybe. .... Except you guys will be comfortable with buying foods or having someone else do your meals...

Also, it's romantic

It's actually one of the things that attracted me to my husband...

Stand your ground, Say NO.. esp if what d lady is coming for isn't essential. ..

Be ready to start accommodating all relatives of sort, once you start...

Also, your bro who you denied same favour will feel sad.. Don't allow your wife 'control' you. ..

lebrotin:
Thank you..But even if i forgot to tell her i was picking my bro, should that translate to saying all sorts. Really appreciate

It shouldn't honestly. .. wish you the best...

Many of you wouldn't mind sharing bills with your wife, but when it comes to chores, it becomes derogatory. . Issorait. ..


Op, nothing you do in your own house is derogatory!! Don't allow anyone deceive you. . Help the best way you can... Marriage is partnership not 'his' or 'her' thing....

Bespiel:
I could get you a research expert job you know>>>> Nice digging out you did there

Lol... I don't mind oo

Thanks

"Geniuses are borne not made. Ayodele Daniel Dada (the student who broke record in the University of Lagos by scoring 5.0 Cumulative Grade Point Average CGPA) did not wake up one morning to score those straight As. We are told that his UTME score was so high that his result was withheld. Consequently, he had to go through diploma course. Which of these so-called First Class students from our private universities scored equivalent of straight As in their secondary school exams, and which of them scored anything close to 280 in their UTME? I doubt the honest ability of our private universities to transmogrify ordinary students with ordinary SSCE and banal UTME results into overnight intellectual superstars."

^^^^^^^^^, I think I agree with the writer here somewhat! !!!

Andytoc:
As you all must have seen in shell website, there are two routes to shell-Assessed internship and SRD. I did assessed internship in Shell in 2012 during my 4th year, passed the final assessment and was called after my service informing me that I will be considered for 2016 recruitment as they couldn't find an opening for me in 2015. I have realised that the only medicine to this long wait is PATIENCE. I urge all of you to exercise patience as the industry is having difficult times. So they are adjusting their budgets for the year, cutting their expenditure as the plan to acquire BG which will be the biggest deal for the company if it pulls through. There's gonna be lay offs, no doubt but Shell will surely recruit this year as they have openings for 2016 Graduate Programme across the globe- US, Canada, China, India, Russia as advertised on their Career site. Patience remains our strongest weapon as we wait for God's time. Wish you all the best!

^^^^ He made this post few months ago...


Guess they've called him, hence this.... Don't think he entered through SRD....

Andytoc:
Just to motivate you all. I have been given an offer by shell. I was called this week. I'm starting in June 1st as a trainee production engr. I wish all the best in your upcoming interviews(more will still be called) #Patiencepays

I really envy you seriously; good working environment, great pay, excellent work-life balance, wonderful employee management, world class trainings etttccc..
Coming to join you soon, Amen...

Wish you a great time at spdc

Shymm3x:
Personally, anytime I see a woman behind the wheels on the road - I give as much space as I can cos I view them as driving hazards and they're very unpredictable.

You're not serious

It can't be all women na.. Men also make terrible drivers.

However, I agree that most women tend to be 'more careful' behind the wheels which leaves them a bit panicky. ..

Firstly, all wives don't do that....

Concerning the first issue, why didn't you tell her earlier that you were to pick your brother?

Generally, I think she's not really happy with something/you(she seems frustrated), you should have a heart to heart talk with her.... all d best

Panama should provide more evidence na. According to the report, "There was no evidence, however, that Dangote or Dantata had evaded tax or were using the accounts for illicit activity."

Also, David Mark has openly denied the allegations levelled against him. ..

Government should investigate the issue(s) while Panama provides more evidence for their claim(s)...

Ohh Lero, I'm late

A wonderful birthday in arrears dear... wish you greater heights and happiness! !



Happy birthday eipreel... God's blessings!

Hope you can handle the seven women when they come? Many of you whine everyday about a single woman you've; how much more seven? Odi mma

"With just about 3, 000 slots available in the recruitment exercise, the Naval authorities felt it was better a new digital approach is applied to handle the huge volume of application and avoid any calamitous occurrences such as witnessed in the past in the Immigration episode , Vanguard further gathered."


^^^^^, if they're genuine with the bolded, then I totally support the postponement. ..

Beautiful family. . Awesome history and similarities too..

Wish you more love and happiness

purity22:
Please mamas in the house, does NHIS cover for ivf too?

Nhis that barely covers for good malaria treatment

Anyway, I don't think nhis covers fertility treatment, much more ivf...

edwife:
This is where y'all lost me. You are talking about something that keeps happening, a continuous affair. Unless your definition of a good parent is someone that has never made a mistake then it's all good. I will also say,you never lie before in your life or sin-so if you had it makes you automatically a bad parent.Okay.

Of course anyone that betrays you be it a WOMAN or MAN is a bad person at that moment but if they are repentant i will not remove the good in them or whatever good they did in the past.

My comments on this thread are centered on a person still in the very act of cheating. ..
A person who has cheated and has genuinely repented can no longer be seen as a cheat na even though his wife may still harbour some doubt. ...such a person isn't who I'm talking about here.....

@bukatyne , a man involved in the whole cheating game must be depriving his family of some measure of attention because his attention is kinda divided. . He can continue pretending but things can't be same esp if he has a conscience(his conscience go prick him die)..and Guilty conscience doesn't do one any good. ..

*my previous comments have addressed this before and I still maintain my stance*

I rest my case

edwife:
I don't see the correlation between being a good father and being a cheat. He is a bad man because he betrayed their trust but it doesn't change his affection towards his kids.

Unless he is a serial cheat then yes he won't be there for his kids as much as he needs to and their mum's pain will definitely wear the kids emotionally. Do you know that they are wives who don't even know that their husbands cheat?

Same as many women who sleep with their boss or for a position yet go home like there is nothing going on?

Just like a thief can be a good son to his father but a bad son to the society. He might not be an ideal son to his father but a good child.

You see a cheat as a bad man yet still see him as a good father?

So because he pretends and the wife may not get to know, that still makes him a good parent? So a politician can continue to steal and as long as the public doesn't get to know, he's still a good leader?
Except he's a person without conscience, he, himself knows he isn't good to his family! Also, his family may not know but some other persons may know, what kinda of example/reputation is he setting?

Asides this, the person I quoted was of the opinion that she wouldn't mind her husband cheating as long as he's still a good parent? Meaning she(the wife) is fully aware in that context and was telling me nothing will change in terms of parenting. . There are stuffs pretence can't solve, the kids in one way or the other must be affected...Cheating affects our emotions and psychology a lot. ....

Whatever be the case shaa, I can never see a man/woman who betrays and disrespects his family WHETHER SECRETLY OR OPENLY as a good husband or father. . Someone that values you won't betray you!

Ps:I'm not judging a cheating man, this is just my opinion. ..

fem29:
As long as he is not staying out all night, the kids really do not need to know

You think kids don't notice or know when there's 'bruoohaha' in the house? Also what kinda reputation is he setting for his family? Then, a man who has time to go about the whole cheating 'bruoohaha' must be robbing his family of some measure of attention. ...

To me, a cheating husband can neither be a good husband nor father because If he had respect for his family, he wouldn't indulge in that...

Can you also say a cheating woman can be a good mother?

Were you thinking good women don't exist? There are good women as well as good men....

I pity those who believe or allow the negative stuffs they read on nairaland to influence them..

fem29:
If he is really rich and a good father, dazzall

How can he be a good father when he's setting such example for his kids?

Getting worked up over something irrelevant. .. Her father's surname or yours on the CV doesn't stop her from being your wife...

This is Nigeria, going to another church while your dad has a church raises eyebrows. . There are other ways he can make ends meet. .

sykeng:
.I like ur write up but i hate this part (go for a woman in your class) that means u agreed to the points the person you quoted made. for me i prefer women that have style than class. hope you the know the difference?

I understand you but my comment about class still stands

You meet a girl, she lives a flamboyant lifestyle, you can't meet up yet you stress yourself? After you come crying about how she has milked you dry? Calling her names?

When you can choose a woman you have same perception with?