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Raymondluv:
wat wil i do den

It's not right. .those standing in the queue weren't stupid. ..

Ur conscience is also pricking you. .. However, just let it go...

baywatch84:
so what's wrong in that? So man should do everything for a woman even if the woman is capable of doing this things, the mentality of Africans is the reason why you people will remain single or marry a wrong man because you always look for a ready made things in a man, because he can't afford marriage now doesn't mean he won't be successful tomorrow, think about that

Tell that to your sisters sir... I can't marry a jobless man! I'm not asking him to be rich, he should have something doing!
Just as a woman getting married is expected to be good at home keeping. ..

Imagine, the lady is sponsoring her own wedding. .
Again, go advice your sisters, not me...

Mindfulness is being idealistic while byvan is being realistic... given the Nigerian environment. .

Enjoying the debate

OEmiohe:
Now what baffles me is that my sister appears to be the man

It appears? Nna, your sister is the man.. she's financing her own wedding. . It's her family providing the housing. . She's the one planning the whole wedding herself. .. She's just desperate to have the wedding. . Hope she's willing to continue like this after marriage?

It's obvious the man isn't interested in the marriage to the extent of not caring to buy his wedding clothes. .. Ur sis and mum are just pushing him..

Also, how do they deal with financial expenses after marriage. .you said the man lost his job? Or they expect your mum and the husband's bro to continue taking care of them?

When he was talking ill of your sis, what did you tell him?

Anyway, nothing we say here can stop the wedding. .So I really wish them the best...

^^^^^^^^ you both need to see a marriage counsellor. . You can also buy some nice marriage movies and watch together.. Some movies make you realise your mistakes, make amends and work towards a happier marriage; it makes you appreciate your spouse too... For eg, fireproof ... you can Google for more...

Wish you the best..

gidzbobby:
is there any after effects after taking the injection

Really can't tell but I doubt.. if the pain relief she's taking isn't helping her, it's best she goes to the hospital, they'll check her and prescribe drugs. ..

Also, Has her period always been like that or the pains suddenly came? I ask because there are ailments that cause menstrual pains..
It's best she goes to the hospital to get checked. ..
All the best...

gidzbobby:
alright, I will call you vuy 10:00am tso you both can talk about it. maybe she can explain herself better

She just has to take a pain relief. .That's what my sis used before she got married. . There's also an injection normally given at the hospital to subsidise the pain..
If the pain is that severe, then she should go to the hospital. .

I wouldn't advice she takes any random herbal drug or whatever to avoid any effects on her reproductive organs. .

Elosky20:
they cant be compared. its just like comparing plane and helicopter because both can fly

Continue arguing with them... it won't end..

Let them go teach their sisters and daughters how essential it is to get pregnant out of wedlock. .

Get someone she respects to speak to her since you've tried and nothing is working. ..
Don't expect her to change completely and be like you because she's a different person. .To me, what needs to be dealt with is her disrespectful and abusive character..

The dreams you said she doesn't support, will pursuing those dreams push your family into starvation or something? Cos money seems to be her excuse for not supporting you... Maybe you look at other stuffs that wouldn't have that much impact on your finances.....or explain to her the returns you hope to get from the big investments while ensuring her she won't starve..

When you say she wants to control the marriage, what do you mean?

I'm happy you're willing to make your marriage work, I really pray it works out for you. . All d best...

devonpaul:
theres no oil coy that gives employee escort, even d CEO got no escort. no job gives escort. don't be fooled

Get informed! I don't need confirmation from you cos it's the fact!

You can't go on an outside work without escorts!

crackhaus:
You should be able to tell...us girls need to stand by each other and not let men think they can eat their cake and have it.

Crackahus! !!

really enjoying the convo though

DeMekus:
Yes, God will bless your marriage with as much lovely children as you want. But this is one problem about Nigerian Christians. They tend to place all their burdens on God, then fold their hands and wait for miracle. But they forget that even the Bible said 'heaven helps those who help themselves.' As for me, I can't risk marrying a woman I don't know her fertility status. Death is inevitable, when your time comes you'll die but it's not certain that every pregnancy will miscarry. So I'm ready to take the risk. Team #pregnancyBeforeMarriage#

@bolded, Amen ..

Your mentality is funny. . So waiting till after marriage to get pregnant is folding one's hands..
For your mind, you're helping God by impregnating someone before marriage? Nnaa, I don't understand. .

You'll keep hopping from one lady to the other till one gets pregnant? Success in your quest bro..

lifeisabitch:
Personally, I would confront the bitch, the husband snatcher would be dealt with by me, the next time she sees my husband, she would run like she's being chased by demons.

Who would you confront?

Easy ooo babe

So your husband will be without blame? Did the girl force him? Or maybe he formed he was a single man...

Both are to be blamed shaa esp if the lady knows the man's status...husband with bigger blame though..

DeMekus:
You mean the "ifs"? There is an "if" to almost everything we do but leave that for another discussion. Let her get pregnant first then we'd know how to deal with the #ifs#

His simple message was 'getting pregnant before marriage doesn't eliminate childlessness because anything can happen' ..so your method of trying to eliminate childlessness is totally flawed... it also places the lady on a huge risk; what if the guy doesn't marry her? It's also like tempting God because it's not man to grant pregnancy..

I can't marry a guy that base the happiness of his marriage on kids because it's not human to grant pregnancy. . If for a few months you don't take in or miscarry, the stress and anxiety he'll put you through eehh will decrease your chances of conception instead of him working together with you to achieve better results. ..

As he said, go to the hospital for whatever test you wish..including the man... can't stoop too low to prove to any man I can get pregnant...

May God bless all our marriages with lovely Children, Amen..

DeMekus:
I've seen couples who got positive mark on fertility from doctors but still remain childless. Abeg, make she carry belle first jor. Mind you, it works in the favour of ladies who wish to know their men's fertility status too

Answer the other important questions he asked...

The funny thing is that many of you guys suggesting this can't allow your sisters go through this...given that marriage to the guy isn't guaranteed. . So, I wonder whose sisters would be used for the experiment?

Joromi1:
I think the issue here is to ascertain her fertility status

And who told you that fertility issues can arise from only women? The cases of male infertility is on the rise... drinking, smoking et al have caused a lot of guys to be shooting blanks. .. Your bro should ascertain his own first..

Maybe you're getting disrespectful and she has decided to give you some space... you are younger than her husband I presume. ..

However, why won't you wash your plates after eating? Her sudden change is the koko shaaa since she was washing it before... be yourself from day 1 ladies!!

oloyede252:
yes.you just did

Stop telling people to mind their business when you ain't minding yours. ... have a good day!

mitchyy:
Thanks dear. My issue is that dh didn't take my initial complaints serious. Ever since ms stopped and i became strong, he just assumes i'm back to my old workaholic self and the worst is over. I complained of this pain to him after i overworked myself the day before and he said its good, its all part of exercise which a pregnant woman should do. He's still sleeping now and has left me to make breakfast by myself this morning despite the painful contractions

You're the one making him feel you're strong which isn't his fault actually. ...
if you dey bed dey wriggle in pain or dey form tiredness, nobody go tell am to sit up...
If na me, no getting up from that bed oo even if na to form serious pains, I don't mind.. This is the safety of your baby we're talking about here. Exercising/working about worsens contractions. . Ur getting up should be for minor things like brushing, taking your bath et al...
The funny thing is that he may blame you if anything happens. ..

However, be strong dear.. can't wait to read your bs in July. .

LaurelP:
Bro, is it at the presidential villa? This is too good to be true.

When God is at work, it always sounds too good to be true

freeradical:
Yea who no go speak in tongues after NLNG hammer am 22M p.a offer!

.. Thought it would be more though. .if GTs are paid about 1.2m per month(according to people's speculations), shouldn't someone with about 10yrs experience receive at least 2m?

abimbawealth:
Wow...btw, escorts for?

Probably an oil company. . Employee's safety is taken seriously, can't go on any outside work without escorts. .

Congrats op... greater you!

RiloKiley:
Invite the boyfriend over for introduction and dinner.
Take him aside and thank him for inadvertently saving my daughter. Then show him my gun.

oloyede252:
see questiön..how is that your problem.

See question, how's it your business? Did I quote you?

Boeing777pilot:
People who are against what you did are exactly the type of people who will most likely never become management staff due to their infantile decision making processes. In my line of job, there is zero room for error at any stage. I salute your courage to do the right thing.

Seriously, what right thing? How could he judge them based on a single question? So you think anyone who couldn't solve the question isn't smart, can't perform well on the job or can't solve a harder arithmetic? To have reached that stage considering the thousands of trainee candidates we have in Nigeria, they must be intelligent. .
Also, considering he gave them time..there's this tension that comes with being timed, also they least expected another test at that stage... it must have come as a shock..

I'm not excusing the candidates' inability to solve the problem but op judging them based on a single arithmetic is just irrational. .

This op is just full of himself. . Even his previous thread says a lot. .

Blaming parents for everything. ..So parents are to be blamed for some 'kids' misbehaving here on nl?
Truth is that, some people feel like they're wiser than their parents once they grow up, hence leading to bad choices. ...

All of us go be parents someday oo