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kyber:
So what are you saying now ?

That I should wat?

Leave her alone and focus on better things.

Even if you sleep with the girl and others have actually slept with her, what will you gain? That she passed your side too, abi? Or that you didn't miss out as a sharp guy.

Lol guys be drinking up STDs and spiritual consequences, and they dey happy about am on top.

O ma sé o! Who do una like this!

This is so bad. I can only hope justice will be served.

Killbillz:
Both men and women are to blame... Women also go out looking for sexual partners a lot

They are both to blame, but women's own starts for a reason. Most women were heartbroken or deceived or pressurized into it. Something they didn't have, love or sustenance, that is their starting excuse.

But as for men, will you agree with me that only a meagre fraction of them experienced all these before becoming promiscuous? Most of the male folk simply jumped into a life of casual sex for the sake of adventure, destroying females lives just to brag to their colleagues about their sexual prowess or out of stupid obstinacy to follow the proper rule of things. Isn't that the height of wickedness towards their opposite gender?

KidDarkness:
They are really enjoying it and at the process turn those girls into single mothers, dump them and move on to the next one. It's really difficult in this modern time to see a relationship without sex but it is very possible when both parties have good morals and values.

True.

KidDarkness:
I agree with you on this. There are a lot of young girls who lost their virginity via pressure, tricks and manipulations. I have heard a lot of stories were guys use the pain blue balls as an excuse just to lay girls. They tell the girls that if they don't have sex, the blue balls will affect them (guys). They will say the doctor's prescription is for them to have sex and these young girls who are sexually naive will give in just to please those guys
It's really annoying

I'm glad you see the truth. It is really like rape, because it is a violation/overriding of another person's will. Let's just hope girls get wiser. Or that they can just survive, because men are enjoying this ride.

KidDarkness:
I even dey surprised the way this generation are quick to jump into sex in the name of relationship.

Sorry if this is offensive as you may be a male. I blame men for this. They are the ones always out and about looking for sex partners.

I believe if women are not pressurized, and they have all they need, plus the right responsible partners they want, only few will be promiscuous.

I hope she knows that she's just a page in your book of life, and just an option in your heart.

'My new girlfriend'. No be wife o. And the blood has been spilled so happily.

She should also know that that moment in your house was her wedding. All those gifts you got her are her wedding gifts/bride price.

Una dey expect forgiveness after cheating? Wow. You people wey no get forgiveness for heart.

Mindlog:
His wife can try this for their son!

Exactly. His mom can love him fully, but can she love his offspring like she loves him? She may love them, but not as much as she loves him.

Here is where a man should understand the need to balance things out. Yes, mother cared and loved you all your life, and you should be grateful. Still, mother cannot play the role of wife, that would be incest.

So if the wife has her importance, why should a man give that portion of love meant for her to the mom only, and leave the wife hanging, looking like a stranger? It's odd. It's almost as if they (son and mom) are having an inappropriate secret relationship.

A man should give love to his mom and wife, without debasing any one of them to please the other. And mothers should grow up, they should stop acting like jealous teens once they see their son's wives coming in.

Laurene:
hmmm so you've been observing me

Yes now. Just as you observed me. Kudos.

I'm sure you're one of those types that kills with one sentence. Razor sharp mouth.

Oboto700:
I have been following this thread and this your comment caught my attention... Iam a lady like u and the girl the op disflowered.. the reason he brought it here was to ask questions about her bledding after the process.. you guys are forrming feminist by castigating the op.. what's wrong in two adults having consentual sex? Even if the op played the girl into submission that's how it should be..a Man should be in charge inasmuch he would treat us well..at the moment u and I know the girls love for the op would be hot as fire . The op must have read the 48 laws of power by Robert greene.. that's the type of woman he wants And he has gotten her.. the only bad thing now is if he now Starts mis treating her that's where all what you typed would Make any sense to the girl.. you And i know..we don't joke with the first guy that got there first.. it a fact we ladies can't hide.so just wish Dem well

Oh no problem hon just have the same energy for your eighteen year old daughter in the future.

2canplay1000:
which nigga again?

Ah, you na. You don't like the name? Okay sorry.

Laurene:
You talk from lots of experience

This one just came to cast shame and labels. All while hiding under her palm tree of perfection. Your own is just to come out when someone makes a comment, and pinch them small

Na the only thing you come out for be dat

2canplay1000:
I need to quote u again... do you know some people just love naturally? She loves me even before falllin for her.. she told me about her feelings when she was 17 and I waited till today.. see go sleep

Oga no problem. Enjoy your 3 years of knacking while she enjoys three years of being tested to see if she is worthy... After her nigga don lick the sweet finish

2canplay1000:
virgin scarce....if she behaves well and keep being good i will marry her..

Now your commitment is a case of 'if' right? But when it was time to break her hymen, it was a matter of urgency.

You mentioned that she was begging you to stay, which you won't see if not that you have put her at your mercy by taking her virginity, her pride. You have temporarily rendered her your slave emotionally, putting you in full control of everything. You claim you wanted to do things right. Then why not follow a fair process. Why put yourself in control of her emotionally, and physically as the first guy.

You want to marry the girl in three years time. You have opened the road of sex to her now. Now, you will be sleeping with her, and have her glued to you because now she fears she has sacrificed something, plus she wouldn't be valued by any other man as brand new. Also you will have her on a dog leash as a girl now prone to sexual temptations, yet not married. You want to be jacking her back anytime she feels urges, for your sadistic enjoyment.

I believe if you wanted a fair relationship, and not power play, you would have dated decently. But you don't want to be on the receiving end, wondering and sweating fearfully over whether she has had sex or she won't get married to you. You don't want to feel bad that you didn't gain if the relationship ends.

So you devalued her.
Congratulations, shey you have made yourself the winner by all means. Even if it means taking her down.

At first I wondered if you were being sarcastic, but once I finished reading, I was sure.

That side where you spoke about a girls parent not having a car makes the least sense.

Guys have moms that didn't go to school or are of average beauty. Why didn't women also say 'Does your mom have money, is she beautiful or educated, why do you want a financially stable, educated and beautiful woman?' . You never see women attacking with this same question.

So because her father doesn't have, she shouldn't desire for a man with one? Why don't you also not desire what your mom did not have.

Abeg try to argue with sensible situations to quote.

KnowledgePower7:
Knack no need trust

So somebody's daughter dey good to knack, but not to trust.

KnowledgePower7:
No vex na this rain dey enter body
I need to knack person daughter

So you trust person daughter to knack abi.

Integral501:
ask your mama

Very good.

You want to give your mommy everything, wife has nothing, like your wife is a complete stranger who did not birth your kids, care for them, or serve as your lover and your partner.

Kuku marry your mom. End of story. Since mom deserves everything and wife deserves nothing.

Sleep with your mom, let her birth your kids. Since no other woman is worth anything to you.

Why will a woman like to leave her fathers house and toil, care for a man and his kids with no single protection or care from the man. And if she is leaving, no warm move from the man to care for the mother of his kids. Did she not birth his kids before? Was she not his partner once? You don't just throw a person away like that.

Why people no get shame. Even parents reminded her that they have their eyes on their kid's money. Its like taking care of a kid is just a job you get pension from. They don't care about his happiness, only to get their cut. This woman don suffer.

Draslo:
Lol na vacation your mama dey come do. Let her come but also bring the woman from your husband's side. If she wants to watch AM Igbo all day and stretch her legs on the sofa, then so be it. This is her only excuse to live with you again.

Complete.

These old mothers from hubby or wife's side are only truly coming for vacation. They don't really wish to care for anyone. They rather prefer to be cared for. In fact, if you don't want to be on their bad side, its better to have them come when you are stronger and have healed.

The true reason for visiting is to play with baby and chillax while being cared for. A woman inviting moms for omugwo is attracting extra stress in disguise. And if they actually do the work, you have a new secret enemy.

Roaches and wall geckos are scary and as if it is not enough, roaches fly too!

I will not only throw away the soup, but the pot too!

I have thrown away a plate that a wall gecko touched.

I hate them sha, God forgive me.

Parents have no conscience often. Brutalize their kids and confidently hug them after. And expect joy and peace after.

Nothing like an African parent.

He killed his sons dreams. He will still expect to have a good relationship with him.

Help your son if you can.

She's sad to lose a snake?

If the maid moves in as a new wife, she will always watch her back and keep one eye open during the night. Why? Because she knows how she got the man.

Maid self no go get peace of mind as madam of the house.

It is so bad when you do something to someone and you carry your shoulders high around that person like you did nothing.

May God give us all that sensitive, kind and discerning spirit so as to stop seeing people we offended as harmless flies which we can step on and do anything to, for eternity.

May God also give those that have been hurt a forgiving heart, and the ability to know that they are human and erring as well.

Great! He can have the best of her body and soul, and she can have the best of his too!

No need to go around sleeping around and having nasty experiences! Also have kids on time and she will heal faster and look so very okay after child birth. Her body will snap back in an instant!

Better to go through all this marriage wahala early. No matter how you postpone it, or prepare for it, you will still experience the same stress. Better to do it now that they are still young and agile.

It's not every time people should wait until the man has slept with everything and lost all his charm and looks and is going old (same for the woman). It mustn't necessarily be like that. I think young couples can have a lot of fun.

onyibor84:
How has this become the men's fault?
Must they be blamed for everything?

I didn't mention only men as the potential issue there. I said she could have been doing it for herself as well.

This is sad.

Men often torment women whom they feel are unattractive in one way or the other. I have seen it happen.

At the same time, women need to be careful about the decisions they make, as the same men won't care about the consequences ladies face after trying to please them.

She could have been doing this to feel okay with herself. That's still an option.

Really sad.