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PuZZyNegro:
So, I got entangled with this girl who happens to be an undergraduate student.

Three months into our relationship, she took in. At first, I told her that I don't want abortion because I'm old enough to be a father and I can take care of her and the child.

But she said she wants to terminate it because of her academics and her family. I agreed and took her to the hospital to first conduct a pregnancy test, because the test we did was the home test, after which we would ask the doctor to do the D & C.

We did the test yesterday and was asked to wait for two hours to collect the result but it was getting late so we decided to go and return today to collect the result and abort the pregnancy.

But as soon as we got home, the mum called and told her that she had a dream where she (the mum) came to my house, went to my wardrobe and picked some black clothes and left. That it was really a bad dream/omen

The mum knows me, we talk on the phone but we haven't met in person. Immediately they got off the phone, the girl started crying because fear gripped her.

When she told me the dream, I asked her if she still wants to go on with the abortion but she said no.

We picked the hospital test today and it came out positive. We just picked up some drugs that will help the baby to grow well. We are going back in two weeks time for scan and start preparing for our bundle of joy.

Even though I didn't prepare for this yet, I'm willing to take on the responsibility and see through the challenge. I definitely know that the mother will be so disappointed when she gets to know but I'd rather face that than face jail term should anything happen to her in the process of the abortion.

I plan to pay her bride price by January though.

Congratulations in advance, nice decision though

Make una calm down

No reason to sleep with someone's wife

skliz:
So I have this friend. I meet her a few years back. So I scoped her and collected her number. Unfortunately becos of business reasons I never had time to date her. Fast forward to now she is now married. She got married Nov last year.

So we have been talking from last year till now. Of recent she would tell me to take her out. I refused cos I told her are husband would definitely not be comfortable with it. According to her she said it does not matter. She knows I am single in no relationship and searching.

There was a particular day she came to my house we gisted and talked but I made sure I kept a very far distance from her so nothing sexual would happen. During her birthday she asked me for a birthday gift, I refused to give her.
Now she been saying we need to see, anytime she says this I remind her of hubby but she would say her concience is clear that she is not doing anything bad.

Guys honestly what does she want actually. Cause sometimes I get confused.

Don't fall for this trap it may consume you , if you don't take time before you know it you have fall into her trap

Dreadlock69:
I’m in a relationship with a girl who is a very closed friend to a girl and a boy from the same neighboring town . They’ve been together for long before met her .
This friends of her are in a relationship , the girl is pregnant for the boy and already due for delivery.
The guy she’s pregnant for have access to her Facebook account .
Then comes the guy who stays abroad , he’s interested in the girl , though they have met before from what my girl said. He sent her money for upkeeps and repairs of things not knowing it her boyfriend who she’s pregnant for he is chatting with , “ just like the yahoo boy and maga kind of stuff“.
Meaning the guy is using his girlfriend Facebook account to collect money from the guy abroad and I doubt the guy abroad knows she's pregnant for someone already .
With the back and forth that happens with clients and scammers ." We supposed know this one”. The guy abroad saw he’s effort was not yielding positive result ,so he reach out to my girl.
My girl came over to my place to stay for days , we are undergraduate . We do have each other phone passwords even though i seem to forget her password often times only her atm pin dey my head. I can’t really say how we ended up in this topic of her chat , i told her to show me a chat on her what-app which she did.
I’m only liable for her feeding , data and transportation only when she’s under my roof . though i tell her to use her money to transport herself from time to time . All this i only offer if she’s under my roof . “I can’t do wetin her papa supposed do for am ”.
She was sick a time she was at my place so i told her to call her people or better still travel before then she didn’t have any money .
The conversation with the guy on her phone went like this. The guy abroad was telling her to talk to her friend that he really likes her , my girl knows it’s her friend boyfriend who is scamming him.
After the compliment with the guy abroad and my girl , he asked about her she said she was sick . The guy abroad told her to call her boyfriend “ imagine”.
She said she doesn’t want to disturb him because he is also a student like her . So the guy sent her money to travel and told her to ask for more money from her boyfriend “ nah that side for the convo dey spark my head “. And also she should show her friend who is pregnant that he is interested in her that he has money , thereby creating more avenue to be duped recklessly i guess.
During the phone call with her girlfriend boyfriend “ the impregnator” . You should see the way they where mocking the guy abroad , “ like a heaven sent full time maga “. And how they will eat his money if he continues to pressure.
I’m not surprised though, that what one gets thinking money is everything. That night i told her to use her money to prepare what we would eat that night and i praised her food and gave her a good Bleep “ spoiler alert nah me disvirgin am “ . If you like no wise street go use your head.

She will never go unpunished

MzansiCoolio:
Imagine disrespecting your own women by obsessing about South African women all day.

Nigerians spend 25 hours out of every day obsessing about SA women even though they admit there's high HIV rates in SA.

They also make up fairytale stories that SA women are obsessed about Nigerian guys.

Of which i always ask - other than drunks, Zimbabweans and naive students in Hillbrow, have they ever f.cked DECENT women in SA - teachers, nurses, journalists, etc? Higher professions - never!

Can Nigerian men please prove they attract DECENT SOUTH AFRICAN WOMEN?

Bear in in mind Nigerians are taboo, outcasts and rejects in SA.

YOUR THOUGHTS?

Even at that you guys still your selves

crossfm:
This story is not complete.

You made us to understand that the mother inlaw was having issues,have the issues been solved?.

Are they living in the same city as the mother inlaw?.

Is the son capable of getting accomodation for the mum,and she refused the offer?.

I asked the above questions because I know family matters can't be viewed from one angle.
Somany sides to such story.

Having said these,I must commend the daughter in-law,6years is not 6days.

Please give us insight as regards to my questions.

Sometimes I wonder how you people reasoned, so you would send your mother away because of what? So a terrible generation

Did you see her Name there?

Ndi.

You don't have to quote every frustrated hoe here

IconicR:
Don't listen to that advise
Put your mental health in check before any other person in this life.

Help her only when you are comfortable to do so

Do not let anyone who weren't there for you in trying times tamper with your peace of mind.

A lot of people has been trapped because that mentality

Dpen11:
Wow

She is your mum is that she is your mum

On a normal day if you really do have to give ,give her because many are praying to have a mother that will disturb them or make them spend.

Whatsoever you passed through,let bygone be bygone,she is your family.

Be safe

A lot of youth has been trapped because of this kind mentality

Matix222:
Is this normal? No text, nothing I have been waiting since morning nothing yet but she is posting on her WhatsApp

You don't have a girlfriend, you're dating yourself

skaramanga:
Ok
But their communities are a big mess with kidnappers, hoodlums and unknown gunmen terrorizing and over running their villages.

These Igbo billionaires are not wise aswear.

Buying 60 Billion Naira jet when you cannot spend a few million to secure your own backyard.

Your community is small London, I don't know why people are dying in hatred against the igbos , big fool

ebubeson:
If you check some churches, you may see guys plaiting their hair. You may notice such amongst the instrumentalists, drummers, bass guitar players etc.
The question is, should a genuine Christian guy Plait his hair?

To me, it is not a good appearance for a genuine Christian guy. Such appearance cannot be easily used to preach, and it may not allow sinners to be convinced to repent.

Capital NO

MrsTwrite:
My dear, stay at home, read your bible, pray and sing some praises to God, he will hear you. Na you dey make things hard for yourself.

That's a very wrong advice, GOD said where two or three are gathered I'm in their mist , that's the scripture, stop misleading children of GOD

Some of our ladies I wonder where they keep their sense

Keepamsafe:
Im sincerely confused and will go straight to the point.

I met this girl about a year back, fair, pretty and hardworking. I could tell from where i met her. We got talking and all that, but then we just stopped talking along the line but still having each other number and viewing status. This went on for about 8 months.

Just about 3 weeks back, the thoughts of her occupied my mind, so i texted and ask us to hangout. And we did..  I wanted to do it the traditional way, so I asked her out that day, that I wanted her to be my girlfriend.

She was surprised cos we was not talking for months and now all of a sudden, I want her to be my GF. So, she said she would think about it and it's been 2 weeks now and she hasn't given me an official YES or NO.


Just few days ago, I invited her over to my crib and she came, spent the night... Wow. And we had a hot night... sěx inclusive...


So, I'm confused, is the sèx an indirect yes? And i can start my boyfriend duties? Or i should keep waiting for an official yes?


Mynd44  OAM4J Mynd44 Rocktation Nlfpmod Seun Dominique lalasticlala help for wider opinion please

Why are you confused? Play along don't bring any topic about relationship to her , anytime you need sex you know what to do

Tallesty1:
I will pass

Very nice , you test it you will run from Nigeria jellof rice

imoh4king:
Well, I thought the same till recently. I asked a pharmacy attendant for her name and she acted funny but still gave me though.

Few days later, another of her colleague who had helped me out with some prescription (My Father's prescription before u go think say I dey chew medication like groundnut), told me her name and we exchanged mobile lines.

I was shocked when the recent lady informed me that the first lady that told me her name was angry with both of us for exchanging contact nums.

My question then is; If she had interest or partial interest why the attitude.

Nigeria girl normal gragra

[quote author=Front0lane post=125745295][/quote]the fools will immediately turn it to Peter Obi

Memberclub:
Move your family together

Bad advice, if you don't have any thing to say just shut up, if things don't work as planned in Lagos what will he do ? Bundle them back to Enugu again ani?

advanceDNA:
Enugu to Lagos......Lagos to enugu....?? In one week??

Don't get me wrong, it possible...but it will be exhausting..........
It's not even safe jumping around the road in the current Nigeria.......

A little time apart is not so bad...will make u cherish every moment when u see...

Even once a month is not possible, don't mind him

michlins:
Move with your family and let all of you adjust at the same time. This transfer may cause a lingering issue in the family

This is a very bad advice

LewisHamilton15:
Last week I proposed to my long time girlfriend and fiancee and she accepted me.

We discussed a whole range of topics and we are convenienced that we can live our lives together. But one thing we disagree on is the issue of house: she said we must build a house together before settling down but I suggested we tie the knot and live in a rented apartment before planning to build our personal house but she insisted we must build.

She said we will contribute money to build together, she won't leave me alone in the project. She even suggested withdrawing her savings of #250, 000 so we can buy land. I have the money and apart from my daily hustle I have other side businesses that springs me money occasionally.

I want to settle down as soon as possible but she cited the problems that comes along with living in a rented apartment. I really wish to settle down but this lady won't agree.

I don't want to cause problem between us so how do I go about convincing her?

She's not your wife oga

Weretuntun:
my girlfriend started this behaviour a fews month back,she always send me outside on the ground that i cannot discipline my self whenever she is changing or wearing her clothes, i don't know what to do now?

She's cheatingon you

Chingyyy878:
I mean if someone hurts your partner , will you see the person as your enemy ?

Never I won't try it

Lurdd:
So there's this girl I approached three weeks ago
She's pretty, we've been speaking on phone, I have already taken her out.. we've been chatting very often, we confessed love to each other.
Now the problem is she always flash me,
For once since we started speaking on phone has she call me with her airtime.. I've recharged her 1k airtime 5 times since we met still
She always flash me...she can flash me up to 15 miss calls at once and anytime I want to pick up the call, she'll immediately cut it. It still baffles me what this girl does with the whole airtime I've been sending her. And She works too. Even as I write this she has flashed me now. I confronted her to know what's going on. Her only excuse was that she uses her airtime to sub for data.
Seeing all of this has already turned me off
I stopped calling her on Saturday to know if she'll change and for once call me with her airtime..
But no she proved me wrong
She's still flashing me up till date.
I like this girl but this attitude of hers is so irritating.. and this is a very big red flag for me
Am already loosing interest in her
Landers advise me on what to do

She's not serious

Rokiat:
Just $700? Is that what you are heartbroken over? That ain’t much naw for you to hold a grudge against your mother.

What she did was absolutely wrong but please let it go, my only issue here is the lack of boundaries the fact that she took the money without even asking for it when it was not meant for her.


Forgive her and let it go but you need to set some firm boundaries with her.

Someone can't be heartbroken because it involved mother , some mothers have render many people useless because we can't blame them , we are really far away

9gerian:
Available data suggests otherwise:

https://nimedhealth.com.ng/2019/11/16/2021-list-of-states-with-the-highest-hiv-rate-in-nigeria/?amp

The core North seem to be doing better though.

PS
In absolute numbers you may be right because 1.3% of 24 million people is higher that 5.4% of 5 million.

This is old data, check 2023 and see and when you are checking it check WHO data don't check fake data by Apc thugs

Run witches of nairaland is coming after you