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^^ if only i could get that id back MOOVING ON

your going back on yourself dayo- and have moved completely away from the subject at hand
Marrying someone simply on the basis of how they look is INCREDIBLY shallow. There is no way to justify that!

having dating preferences, I believe will be different. Will some not even prefer what others may call ugly?

In the end, people find their spouses attractive no matter what they look like. Some grow to love it others loving it from the very beggining.

Lets face it most of the women in this world arent commercially attractive, most of the women still date marry bare children.

If one is to use 'looks' as an excuse not to marry the person is moronic end of.

dayokanu:
So what about women avoiding marrying a midget? How many women would marry Aki and pawpaw?

How many women would marry a guy thats disabled?

Are you saying these are not superficial sentiments similar to men considering looks?

Can we now agree both sexes are shallow?

Women avoid marrying midgets? Do midgets not also get married? Lets stop with the baseless assumtions and have a logical debate here please.
Do the handicapped not also find wives? There are poor, ugly, mentally disabled handicapped husbands and wives alike! WHATS YOUR EXPLANATION FOR THAT??
No we cannot agree on anything based on what you’ve said here- and I do not believe the ill logic of the undatable men on this thread reflects the views of all men out there. Most men don’t reason like those of you here.

davidylan:
Dont blow a gasket, its a faceless forum discussion that has no impact on your life whatsoever. no need getting worked up over nothing.
And who told you looks is "superficial"? That is a poor excuse for those who are not blessed in the looks department lets be candid. Responsibility in a partner is also subjective and can be regarded as superficial. what do you mean by "responsible"? Do you mean a man who is alive to his responsibilities of supporting his family even though on a very low wage or you mean a man who is rich enough to buy you the next best family van?
Is a tailor irresponsible? What of a mechanic who can barely make ends meet? Is the size of a man's pocket a significant determinant in how responsible you view him?

I’m not blowing anything, you are the one directing insults assuming I am ugly due to my arguments, thats even besides the point.

Maybe inyour own little bubble of a fantasy world you created where the fact you will never marry is a result of there not being any viable women available. MARRYING someone based on their looks is not a superficial decision, requiring absolutely no depth or logical reasoning as to why the wife was worthwhile.

Back over here in the real world, where human beings exist- its called superficial and shallow. Twist turn and insult all you want that factor will never change.
Can a tailor not take care of his family? Do tailors not marry? Why am i even arguing with you? Your making no sense. . . . moving on

You say women cherry pick on the basis of financial status? What explains poor men that are married? What explains women that are richer than their husbands (incredibly common in Nigeria), what explains the modern marriage in which both the husband and the wife CONTRIBUTE towards the expenditure of the household?

You guys need to get a grip on reality; overdwelling on the fantasy nairaland has corroded your brain. See sagafag still trying to pretend he is straight (fooling NOBODY by the way! :p)
Let me even add, beauty as you guys speak is incredibly subjective- So what you guys will call beautiful, human beings will call animals (over here in the real world).
And if you really must continue the sense less argument, riddle me this (if im allowed to stoop so low with the nonsense habit of comparing celebrities to real life) explain Naomi campbel, halle berry, Christina milian, Kelly Rowland, Kerry hilson, Cheryl cole (do i even NEED to go on?)

^^ why should i since my parents are rich and my ugly ass has visa? am i not sorted?

^^dear lawd! I didnt realise you were an idiot!

LMBO!!

what a monkey!

o god rukky!

and its soooo difficult when he'e proud of the little hairs he has on his chin! lawd hammercy!

that shit is itchy!!! wax it off dammit!

but some women like hair, only my dad is allowed to have grizzly on his chin! lol

maybe in Nigeria, most of the time its because people are soo small minded, women going certain places without a dude is taboo. Like saudi arabia up in that place!

intellect and exposure? because he posts videos and sulks alot? ok we divide here. the pact mentality of nl is something else. i digress

@david

what the hell? seriously? Your going to compare the two? someone selecting a partner on how responsible he is compared to a superficial selection based on looks?

do you listen to yourself at all? do you actually believe these things or you just like to chat rubbish? for the sake of argument? are u also a gay like saga?

andromida:
Seems you guys are planning to have failed marriages. Its most likely you guys have overrated yourselves,maybe have no plan to be better men character wise and therefore plan to treat your wives the way you expect them to treat u- shabbily.

I agree, i was trying to give most the bod but you are right. theyve battled with meaningless arguments since, trying to divert attention from the fact they lack what it takes to have a succesful marriage/relationship.

Either ways I dont think they should feel bad, it's common afterall which is why many divorce.

@david, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. So in general, no looks dont matter. which is why ugly and beautiful people get married and divorce everyday.

is every man here that shallow?

I didn’t want to resurrect any old threads- let’s see the brain power nl has to offer now. :p
I would especially like to hear the views of women 30 and above.
What are the pros and cons of dating a younger man?

I'm beginning to believe it can be beneficial at most (simply because they can be awesomely good looking!)
Is it true that the higher age of emotional maturity on men can affect their relationships?
Will it apply to a mature woman?

coogar:
of course.
when everything else fails, there's a pretty face to count on.

im gonna have to rephrase that-

are you people trying to say marriage will ONLY be worthwhile with a pretty lady?

opribo:
I totally disagree with the poster, women are the architect and mastermind of what they are complaining of. When they do things at the right time and stop chasing vanity and shadows. They will find out that the world is in their hands, but because they have lost focus that is why they are complaining.

There is no doubting this, but like the state of affairs in Nigeria. We cannot collectively be responsible for the burden societies expectations have placed upon us.
Focus is one thing I have to admire men for, but cultures such as ours dictate we should focus more on looking good and looking for men, looking to get married rather than making career plans that will boost our independance in the future.
If we were trained to be like men and it was acceptable we behave like men in the sense of being independant most women won't have such problems.
Alot of us are facing being labelled for shifting focus away from being married and having babies for the sake of it.
lets not forget as a woman we are not allowed to let go whilst we are chasing these dreams, we still have to be feminine and beautiful. we have to date and play the game.
some monkeys for men (and alot of idiotic women) will even add by saying we must also boom in the bedroom and bang in the kitchen.
I'm sorry but i want to live long, i dont know how many of these I can place my focus on! not a superhero, not even tryna be!

ok this convo has been seriously diverted, but following the diversion.

Are you guys tryin to tell me marriage will be worthwhile with a pretty lady?

the gays need not respond

@dgunnerz im just hopin u werent serious! lol

andromida:
Most of the guys on the thread seem more concerned about their pockets. Everyday some correct guy is finding himself a correct wife but some men here are thinking women are going to suck them dry and then run away with their monies, better they stick with whores since they cant tell the difference anymore. Seems like these guys sleep with their coins under their pillows and count it every second they are awake to keep it away frm women.

And what is this am hearing cute naija gals are now scarce in obodo oyinbo where do you guys go. smh

@OP marriage is worth it for guys who are worthy of the right women its not mandatory though, you shouldnt marry to please anyone but you.

#thatisall

lol i swear ive asked before- Uju is it tru ur preggers? is a nlder the daddy?

oboii i HAVE to hear this gyst! (i do not deny not having a life at all, i dont deny it)

^^ why do you think africa is soo backwards? they will never let it go.

^^ michelin, that makes absolutely no sense! the op didnt know the difference! her attitude did not change he just discovered her real age? surely thats not a preference thing?

if he truly liked younger women for whatever they had to offer- he wouldnt have liked the OP abi? he just has his ego attached to whatever is on the womans birth certificate which is shallow minded and senseless!

Lord knows- drake

michelin89:
[b]Women are the cause of their own fortune/misfortune.

I have seen women who like to be abused. And they think they are strong and bold because they abuse the man back. Olodo nor know say a only the one wey she dey receive people dey see.[/b]I have seen women who like being cheated on. They feel even more important when the man comes back to them as to prove no woman outside is better than her at last.

I have seen women who don't care about being educated. They believe after all, someone is going to marry them and take care of them.

I have seen women who don't want to work. They are convinced they are smarter than their sucker working girlfriend, because they use their "charm" to get what they want from men.

I have seen women who'll laugh at this thread. All they can say is: My man likes me they way I am.

Yeah, there are women who don't think life is unfair, because they believe in a superior god called P-ENIS. Long live the Penisians! Life is easier for and very fair to them, truely.

WORD! esp abt women who feel proud the man comes to sleep in their house after throwin his d**k abt!!! can we talk about THAT PLEASE!!!!

[quote author=life_style link=topic=859345.msg10108748#msg10108748 date=1328227293]Are you suggesting him suicide ?[/quote]exactly what im suggesting! exactly!

@saga still cant see it dude- have you thought of what you'll call yourself when you come out? latifah maybe? sharona? jean paul baptiste? lol- u gonna grow boobies too? u growin them already?

@chaircover making women sound like incapable beings. I dont like that at all. Understanding everybody is different during pregnancy. If she's heavily pregnant she's uncomfortable and she's married I dont see why it's acceptable she should experience it alone.
Its nothing to do with petting your wife as if whatever. It's treating her as if she's doing something amazing by putting herself through the physiological burden of having his children. It's not trivial at all in my opinion and goes beyond raging hormones or whatever whoever wants to call them.

Ujujoan:




Okay maybe someone hijacked her ID!

you like trouble!

Outstrip:
And she hijacked it right back LMAO

GBAM!

naijababe:
Sagamu is finished, non of your spam videos can beat the bolded. . Stick to your Nandos and Burger King women, abeg!!!

the gay is consoling himself with the gay comedy. allow him abeg. Its difficult coming out of the closet.

@saga- i understand your pain. working with sean to provide a section so all you gays can come together and discuss your love for men.
kpele so gbo. . . . .

Chika98 must be having one hell of a joke.

One is going to leave a place like nigeria or the us where all the women look like CLOWN MASQUERADES and talk about london? What weave and what make up? Where do you come from? Iceland?

Abeg abeg ,stop tryna convince that gay by insulting us london women. Kwasia!

Fellis not all are convincing them ooo, rather than help the gays shift their blame on women im trying to encourage them to
Just be honest and say, "no good woman will touch me with a bargepole"

I dont have experience, i dont have advice, but what i will say is if you love her then you go for it. You see soo many things this day and age, and the time goes by soo quickly you end up with nothing but regrets. Put aside your fears and go for what your heart trusts. Whats the worst that could happen that has never happened before?

I will say ludo or ayo

You can always shoot yourselr, that way all 3 will be at the funeral. You can then call it a date. Or an orgy

I dont believe this at all- i dont believe this one bit. If anything i envy men. I handle being a woman fine, but i would love to be a man for a day. Stand up pissin on a drunken night. Not have morons assume they are on ur level and ask u out. Choose your own partners rather than wait for a dude to come. Granted being a man is a job but i dont see it being that bad. I see men gettin all the good stuff out of life.

Is saga here still tryna act like he likes women? you guys will be long here- well done. Good luck with all that,

Lmaoo! Back at ya you gay

he/she might do it all the time (nobody wants that) lol