helinues:
Kinda true.

Things are really cheap in Nigeria even compared to other African countries but the problem is they are not available

Thundafireseun:

I thought Atiku is always in Dubai??

He should look for how to settle this dispute for us ooo

appini:

Atarakpa:
You said peseiro is cooking. By the time he cook half done beans, me no go follow you chop am oo.

TheBillyonaire:


There is (1) Marriage, and there is (2) 'Union through Marriage'.

Most human beings get (1) married and believe it is a union, and sometimes they get it right. It is surface in expectation of depth.

But (2) Union Marriage is Depth, exploring surface. The Union of Aura of two Souls, becoming One Entity, reinforced Entity, unbreakable pair - For Purposes beyond a lifetime. Multi-generational, multi-dimensional exploits.

Major Religions have no background in cementing such unions. Such unions transcend time, space and life as we know it. That is the marriage I am talking about. And there are methods to the model and such information are not available on public archives.

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

Samantha124:
1. And lastly, the indigenous people of SA, the Khoisan.

AngelGabbyShara:


Compliments of the season. In spite of the many hassles of putting the ‘logistics’ (money, food, gifts and so on) in place for Christmas in the community[b], I like being at home in Isan-Ekiti during the festive season. Amongst other things, it gives me an opportunity to eat pounded yam at last twice in one week instead of once a month, with delicious Egusi soup and assorted meat.[/b] During the festive season in December 2017, something happened that worried me a great deal. About an hour after I arrived home from Abuja with my husband, in the midst of all the people milling around to welcome us, I saw an old man who must have been at least eighty, trying to push his way towards me. I asked him what I could do for him. He said, ‘My daughter, I wanted to go to the market to buy something to cook for Christmas but I don’t have any money. They told me you would be coming home today so I have been waiting since morning’. I asked him about his children or family members. He said they did not come home and the people around him don’t have money either. My heart sank.

During my husband’s first term in office as Governor of Ekiti State (2010-2014) there was a social security scheme in place to take care of the elderly who were paid N5,000 a month. Many people wondered how
N5,000 can make any difference to someone living in dire poverty. For most of the elderly who received the monthly allowance, it was a lifeline. It was meant
to take care of people like this old man who had no one to provide for him. In addition to the social security scheme, I raised money to fund a Food Bank
project which was run by one of the local NGOs for those who were too old or vulnerable to fend for themselves. After a while we discovered that many of the elderly people who got raw foodstuff were unable to cook for themselves. The implementing NGO then mobilized teams of women, mostly widows or women who needed support, and we set up Soup Kitchens in some communities across the State. The Social Security Scheme was stopped after my husband left office.

I had initially planned to continue the Food Bank and Soup Kitchens, but the political environment became so toxic, I decided to place my energies elsewhere. Listening to the old man that day, I wondered for a moment if I had done the right thing. I gave him money and some of the foodstuff we had brought to give out to people during the Christmas period. I also told our aides to watch out for the old man and let him in anytime he comes around, and I sent someone to find out where he lives so we can keep an eye on him.

During my husband’s second term in office (October 2018-October 2022) the Food Bank project was revived and rebranded as ‘Ounje Arugbo’ (Food for the Elderly). My old man became one of the first beneficiaries of the project. I am pleased to report that the initiative will continue under the new administration in Ekiti State.

During the festive season, I like to go around to visit elderly relations and friends to personally drop off a Christmas gift. These are the old people who, like the Airtel advert, pray for you non-stop for twenty minutes when they get you on the phone. Some of the people I go tosee do not need money or gifts, what they appreciate is simply being honored with a visit. There are however an increasing number of lonely, poor and Melderly people out there. What are we doing about the many elderly people who are poor, hungry and dying of neglect? I think of my own mother, who insists on maintaining the tradition established by my father when he was alive, of hosting a Christmas party and sending food round the neighborhood. Each year, with the rising cost of food items, this tradition gets more and more expensive to sustain, but I indulge my mother because it is very important to her. What if none of her children are able to feed themselves or her, not to talk of distributing food to the neighborhood? I give in to her yearly demands as a form of thanksgiving.

This year has been quite an interesting one. For me and my family, it has been one of mercy and grace. For God’s divine protection and favour, I am immensely grateful, and the only way I can show appreciation is to pay it forward. There is never enough money to satisfy everyone, that is not possible. All we can do is try our best and continue to strive to be the best versions of ourselves possible. I stopped making New Year resolutions a long time ago. Instead, I tell myself ‘Be better, do better’. We can all do better in the new year. There are many things we can do to change someone’s story. You do not need to have a large bank account. All you need is a large enough heart. Here are some examples:

Call a friend or associate who you have not
heard from in a while and wish them a Happy New Year ‘Adopt’ an elderly person who needs help

Pay the school fees of someone who is not one of your wards, Offer to cover the rent of someone where necessary Visit or send a gift to the parents of a friend of yours who lives outside the country
Give someone capital to start a business
Sponsor someone to learn a trade If you are a professional such as a Lawyer or Accountant, offer pro bono services to someone who needs your help or to a small NGO.Buy up the merchandise of an old woman, pregnant woman or child who is hawking small items for example, locust beans, oranges,
bananas, groundnuts, and so on. Donate towards the campaign of a woman or young person contesting an election If there is a Shelter for abused women and
children in your State, or a facility for children with special needs, they can always do with clothing items or foodstuff.

Do something nice for your domestic staff
Do something nice and unexpected for someone who does not expect anything from you.
Pay the medical bill of someone
Join your Alumni association if you have not already done so and be an active participant
Get involved in a development project in your community
Register to vote and keep your voter’s card safe
Remember even your ‘Enemies’ in your prayers
Forgive and seek forgiveness
If we all undertake to do at least three of these things next year, someone’s life will hopefully be made a lot better and easier, and whatever we do for others, we do for ourselves too. We cannot wait for the government to bail us out, the government itself, especially at State level is looking for ‘bail outs’. Governments come and go. The Office of the Citizen will remain. Be Better. Do Better.

Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi is a Gender Specialist, Social Entrepreneur and Writer. She is the Founder of Above Whispers Foundation. She can be reached at
BAF@abovewhispers.com

Cazzim:
please do anybody here know the real or reliable salary and allowances of efcc,icpc or cbn,
and which among is a better place to work with, please I need urgent answer I will be glad if I get the answers.

Wainey:
In as much as i do not want those old men back in power.

You cant beat a ruling party by becoming a solo player.

When PMB was going solo, he failed alot of times before getting allies like Tinubu, Atiku, Amaechi and many others.

Peter Obi doesnt even have interest in other gubernatorial candidates of LP, he publicly traded off the Rivers state candidate for his own ambition, thats selfish, brutal and annoying.
Social media noise cant make u win election, u need the structure of those councillors, Chairmen, governor candidates to deliver their respective strongholds.

Obi should wake up before its too late, cos being president is one thing, presiding over the countries affairs is another thing that requires a team

HenryWilliams:
1. Never rent an apartment if you can't find spiders or signs of cobweb. Spiders have little tolerance for evil vibes and will flee away.
2. Rented apartments with no sign of children under 13 is a red flag. Children are signs of life and pure spirits.. evil forces don't like operating near there too much.
3. Houses with bad vibes will depress u as soon as you spend some time there..
4. Don't rent apartment with the landlord living there as well .

Omihanifa:


For a 2.2km bridge
Don't be deceived by those pictures o it just a 2.2 km bridge

winnah:
Get one fact clear... She was separated from her parents even before she was 12... Until you are 18 you need to be under the watch of your parents to help mold you to a better person.... U can't undermine the importance of parenting... It's better to raise your child and send him or her abroad to either start first degree or master....

cunny88:
all through university I didn't av any1 wit me, in high skul days my parents weren't wit me either, but I knew I had learnt no trade and education was my only route of poverty, u should be asking her were ha skuls mates are now.

oikirodah:


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richmond500:
if my political calculation is right, i believe a muslim-muslim ticket is as important to the north as Atiku is to them.

I see Atiku and Tinubu basking 80% of northern votes while Obi "might" take 20%.
In the SE, Obi will take 60-70% while APC and PDP combined will share 40%. (i feel im too generous sef)

In SS, APC will likely get 25%, PDP will get 50% and Obi will take 35%

In SW, Obi will likely get 15%, APC will take 60% while PDP will take 30%

na just my opinion

Imortal001:
Wike too get stubburn head, the wike case as to be vice president candidate is not wike's problem, wike problem is the conspiracy that lead to atiku emerging as the presidential candidate of PDP. Even na me, i no go choose wike as my running mate, becos two baron cant run thesame sh**t. As for me am obidient going to vote peter obi come 2023.

sarrki:
I am vindicated that this guy is clueless

Samunique:
Honestly, Tinubu has done a lot for APC, most especially for Buhari. And should be treated better than what we're seeing now.

He's almost hated by most of his people bcs of Buhari's failure and evil regime . Surprisingly, this same Buhari he helped is now treating him as nonentity, Fulanis are not to be trusted, they're the most shrewd , cunning, deadly, selfish, self-centered and unreliable people on this planet. They want to eat their cake and have it at the same time.

I'm not a Tinubu fan, but he deserves to be treated better by Buhari, Buhari should realize that, whatever backlashes Tinubu suffers today, they're bcs of Buhari's evil regime.

Though, Tinubu was warned that, "romancing Fulani (Buhari) bcs of whatever ambition may not end well, but turned the deaf ears, and this is what we're seeing now.

Tinubu may not be my choice for president bcs of his age, but take nothing away from this man political sagacity, sacrifice and consistency.
A labourer they say deserves his wages ! Tinubu deserves to eat the fruits of his labour, I mean, he deserves some respect !

How i wish he could step down for a younger southern candidate and remains a kingmaker that he is, it
would have more honourable for him than being a president. But then, this shouldn't be a compulsion, but his own choice, he deserves to contest like any other eligible Nigerian if he wishes to.

People should stop insulting him !

Tinubu is not your problem but, the failure in Aso Rock, Mr Buhari !!!!