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spacyzuma:
ELECTION DAY!

I hope the Tories don't win. I forsee a hung parliament.

I hope your prayers is dragged down by force of gravity.

tshoboy:
He said he will be neutral if there is a new referendum. I don’t understand the man and his party. Making promises like APC.
Said he will renegotiate a new deal within 3 months and then hold a referendum on the deal. How does this make sense?
Tories are clueless as well but the new immigration system is a plus for me and I am voting them because of that.
Although my region is predominantly a Labour region; so the vote might not count .

Very true.
Labour be campaigning like APC. Punctuating every statement with ...”10 years of Tories...10 years of Tories...” same way APC was bombarding us about ‘16 years of PDP’

wonlasewonimi:
Ralphjean are you still voting for this?

https://www.facebook.com/25749647410/posts/10156943616612411/?sfnsn=scwspmo&d=n&vh=e

You relied on Facebook video snippets.
I watched that debate live.

As for your question:
Answer is;
YES!
I am still voting for the tories (on this occasion), because the alternative would be to vote in a Far left communist. Alternative would be to vote in a Corbyn who can’t even say what his position on BreXit is.

fatima04:
More reason why I wont even trust the so called Australian Point based system offered is because of their curren half baked post study Visa permit to be introduced in summer of 2021.

Reading the fine print, those 2 years doesnt add to your "yr of continuous residence in the UK" so if you cant switch to Tier 2 in those 2 years like this another course/money loading.... for the next 8/9years

The 2 year PSW is a ‘dead end’ route.
It has ALWAYS been like that.

The Australian-style PBS is a different kettle of fish.

mannyKay:
No offence intended, but this is an example of why politicians get away with lies and propaganda, as most people just believe what they hear without doing any research.

The UK already has a points-based "Australian-style" immigration system!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Points-based_immigration_system_(United_Kingdom)
https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/brexit-priti-patel-immigration-freedom-movement-conservative-a9144966.html

The only thing that might change after Brexit is that this will also apply to EU citizens... but nobody knows yet!

It's your right to vote however you want, but at least just put in small effort to not be someone's maga.

No offence taken.
Yours is an example of how people share we links that don’t actually relate to the issue at hand. I’m context.


I just read that article, not once but twice.
Are you saying the UK currently operates and Australian style point based migration? Please tell me where and how.

Thank goodness you acknowledged that it might apply to EU citizens.
That means no free entry and exit right? That means a Nigerien and a Nigerian and a Zimbabwean would each have the same chances of work in the UK just like a French, Polish or Lithuanian or Luxembourg citizen right?

Well, you know that at the moment that is not the case.

wonlasewonimi:
Are you thinking that once brexit is done, free movement of EU citizen would cease? Read my lips, no one can stop free movement of EU citizens unless you want chaos! There is nothing like Australian style here, we are no kangaroos.

The bolded is hate speech.
If you had written this in Nigeria, you would be charged with hate speech by comparing Australians to Kangaroos.

Infact it’s racism sef.
It’s racist to call Aussies Kangaroos.
I will sue.

wonlasewonimi:
Let me rephrase, believe conservatives at your own peril.

From history, labour is the only party that has consistently encouraged immigration most especially for non EU citizens.

From Rebeca Long-Bailey, in the Leaders Debate, Labour was categorical (unless Rebecca Long-Bailey has ported to a different party like our own Chuka Umunna).
Whereas you may have historical data, the current labour position, going into 12/12 is for free Movement (if EU citizens).
Conservatives position: Movement of citizens irrespective of their country of origin. #AustralianStyle.

If indeed you have quoted Labour as previously pro-migration (historically), then you are probably right. Except that you seem to be talking about pre-Jeremy Corbyn Labour. You seem to be talking about the previous Labour which was natural home to Jews in the UK.

Don’t be deceived, Corbyn’s Labour is not the historical labour you once knew.

#GetBrexitDone!
#Conservatives

wonlasewonimi:
Believe Boris at your own peril.

That was why I wrote conservatives, not Boris Johnson.
That was why I wrote Rebecca Long-Bailey of Labour (not Corbyn).

Whereas Labour says it plans to give EU citizens preferential treatment, Conservatives say they plan to have an Australian-style immigration policy. Where you are given leave based on what you can offer, not what geographical location you were ‘lucky’ to be born into.

Labour policy in this aspect is shit.
Conservative policy in this aspect is bae.
That is why come 12/12, I will vote conservatives.

Where is that brother that was asking us to vote labour nye nye nye nye nye?
Rebecca Long-Bailey just said on the Leaders Debate in response to a direct question that EU citizens should be treated as first class citizens and should be treated preferentially as against non-EU citizens.
Lai lai ...

It’s conservatives or Brexit party.
#Conservatives #WeDieThere #Brexit!!!
#AustralianStylePointBasedSystem

Lexusgs430:
Wonlasewonimi, oya come translate o..... In RalphJean's speak, oyinbo dey read this thread.............

Bros but Na true nah...
Oyinbo M15, M16 etc fit dey read ohh
Na 4 my mouth that person been wan hear say she fit go Alagbon to know someone who knows someone who Sabi someone who sabi someone who sabi DPO who sabi ACP who sabi PolComm....

Irenenwaka:
please whats option 2

Option 2?
I talk say oyinbo fit dey peruse this thread. So.. that option 2 no be for my mouth U go hear am. Na for your head u go code am.
As I talk am before, I no fit shout.

Irenenwaka:
i have looked atthis site, but i actually meant doing a police check from nigeria as i hv only moved to the uk last year

Two methods:
Method 1:
1. Go to Nigeria High Commision in London. Pay some stupidly crazy money. Get a ‘letter of Introduction’ to Scotland Yard.
2. Book a biometric test appointment with Scotland Yard (my previous experience, they gave me a 2.5 month appointment).
3. Attend your appointment. Biometrics are taken by Scotland Yard, who now give you to take to Nigeria police at Alagbon, Ikoyi
4. Bla Bla Bla....


Method 2:
Oyinbo fit dey follow this thread.
I no fit shout.

fatima04:
It's so sad to read, considering how early this is in your marital and UK life. I think the basic issues here is due to lack of communication and unrealistic expectations from both parties.

The reason why some are seemingly taking your wife sides is because some of the reasons (perfume and garbage throwing) stated by yourself compounded things and made it seem like you are the inconsiderate party.

You have to both sit down and talk about your finances right now before a child comes in because

A. She wont be earning so much during maternity leave
B. Babies or kids are expensive
C. If you go through divorce your Bill's is going to be double because of child support and her maintenance.

Have you sat down and talked seriously with her? You need to sit down together (shock her and
plan a romantic trip sef ��) ask her what she really wants in the marriage and go from there. All this can easily be resolved from series of discussions and agreement.

Clearly, you were comfortable paying Bill's back in Nigeria and this shouldn't really change since you are the Man of the house. However, we all know that is not easy in this part of the world.
I can attribute her changes to hormones because we all experience it differently.

Just accommodate her till the baby is born and be prepared for huge changes because more chores is coming your way. Try your best to create and provide a peaceful home for your child. You owe HIM/HER that much

Involving the family should also be an option before separation or divorce. Like Ralph said this marriage was contracted in Nigeria in love so discover the love again.

Wishing you all the best.

Thanks Fatima04.

It will shock you to know that it was this same person that ‘dragged’ with you previously on this thread and wrote some very touching epistle about ‘father figure’. Written about Love and family values etc...

Sgtponzihater:
How long did you guys court?
Was your marriage contracted out of pure love?
Your marriage was contracted in Nigeria, handle this as you would have handled it if you were still in Nigeria- While you guys ADAPT TO THE WORKINGS OF A NEW ENVIRONMENT.
Talk with your wife.

Aphrodite007:
Lol. Labour that believes in socialism? God forbid. I cannot work hard for somebody to carry my money and give another person that isn’t even bothered to try and get a job. Because one day, me too, I will decide not to work so that another Mugu can pay my bills. I just started my own business and all I say is the govt charging me almost 40% of my income? Why? na me kill Jesus?.. then I’ll vote in a team that says they will charge companies more? Hahaha

They will charge more. They will nationalise everything, including Telecommunications.
And they are crooked about BreXit.
Labour is a NO NO!!!
Tories 12/12

JanegirlN:
Hello everyone!

So just recently moved in few weeks ago to be with my husband. It's been good and I'm adjusting perfectly.

Thing is I need a job. I'm not into the medical line and my hubby doesn't want me doing care work says it's career dead which I agree with.

Kindly assist with recommendation as regards something more"career friendly". Though I'm looking into volunteering too to like familiarise with UK work system.

Any advice?

Lol @ career death.
Whereabouts are you?
What sort of academic qualifications do you have ?
What sort of ‘career life’ do you anticipate?

sgtponzihater1:
Calling me a Guyman cannot help me now. I am no more a Guyman. Thing is knowing that I didn't bother her in the past should make her know that things have really changed. I have Locumed almost every single weekend to hold everything together. But yesterday and today I've decided to just rest, before it becomes counter productive.

Life shouldn't be this way.

Have you communicated this to her?

Bro, load recharge card and have a heart-to-her art with your mother in law

justwise:
Aphrodite007.? It goes both ways! Nobody marries a teddy bear any more, if you don't help or appreciate your husband then get ready to be on your own.

I can't imagine marrying a wife who will not contribute financially here in the U.K even when we both work and earn almost the same?

There is a reason why men generally die before their wives ...

JustWise:
Back in Nigeria, this guy was so rich that his 1 month salary pays the house rent for 1 year.
He told his wife not to contribute anything because his salary was more than enough for both of them. Being a nurse, he regarded her salary as ‘crap’.

Upon migrating to the UK, he suddenly wants her to start paying the bills. My girl has been so used to the concept of:
Your money is OUR own; My money is MY own
Sharing formula calculation was not yet agreed upon in line with new realities. My guy come gi my sister belle. Everything come start to dey smell for my sister, plus plenty vomiting.

This is a mid-communication problem.

If my Guymandspecies feels that my sister isn’t playing ball, divorce should be the last resort when all else fails.
If Guyman Loves my sister, Guyman should talk to my sister’s mama.

EngrSaks:
Quite frustrating, this country needs two cooperative partners to ease things, especially with your London location...

I will he praying for your family, but please dont give up on her....for a marriage to work sometimes it just needs one willing partner

Do your best to talk to her in a calm environment, you guys need to bring out a calculator and assign responsibilities...

Also start praying together, village people can do wonders o

God be with you bro

I know the bolded part was meant to be a joke, but it’s Nonsense.
Someone is clearly having communication issues with a spouse , but innocent ‘village people’ are blamed.

Before you think I don’t know what I’m saying, I have looked back at Sgtponzihater1’s previous posts. His marriage counselling & financial counselling & religious counselling posts on Nairaland have been fantastic. If only he could practice 1/10000th of what he has preached (the +ve ones), I bet he will be the one counselling us all.

Lexusgs430:
God would never descend to assist you..... Remember, heaven helps those, that help themselves........

Lexus430:
Sgtponzihater1 has previously practically ran a series on Nairaland Religion page on that topic.
His contributions on that topic was fantastic!

sgtponzihater1:
I say the truth. That's where many of my issues come from. I have told Dentists who they really are, same with nurses. But I shouldn't suffer in real life for what I said on a peer to peer forum.

Away from my troubles, so many good things are going on. Off to Brent cross shopping center after church tomorrow. Watched that it's the oldest shopping complex in the UK

The SUN Headline

HARDWORKING NHS DOCTOR (of Nigerian Origin) DIVORCES WIFE 5 MONTHS AFTER MIGRATING TO THE UK
- Couldn’t adjust to Bills payment life in the UK
- Wife’s ‘Morning sickness’ played a major role
- Wife couldn’t bear smell of husban’s perfume


Bros.... unless you sef no wan Mek d marriage work, you still get plenty functional options.
Shuoooo

sgtponzihater1:
In Naija rent wasn't an issue for me. Nurses are paid crap, and I didn't need those help. Rent for a year could be paid with a months pay. It's totally different here.

However I am sorry for derailing this lovely thread with my problems. Forgive me sincerely while I look on God for help.

You already see me as a loser and a bad man so I have nothing to proof again.

Thanks for your help.

No matter how crap nurses are paid.
Infact, even if it’s 100 naira per month. e no matter.

Bros, Mek I no brag.
Back in Naija, my salary was more than 400,000 naira per month.
My wife was doing NYSC. She was receiving 19,000
Yet, we understood what was for chopping, what for for family support, what was for flexing and what was for saving.
Her 19,000 was PART of OUR family budget.

You have to discuss with your wife.
Discuss with her mother.
Discuss with her father.

We may be in the UK, but we are CULTURED people. If indeed there was LOVE between you guys, before the marriage. Then YOU guys can dwfinitely things out. COMMUNICATION is the key.

On a lighter note:
If your wife was a Dentist, I would have thought she was probably paying you back for the humongous previous insults of dental students . But well, it’s possible you have heaped abuse on Nurses too and she is paying you back.


On a serious Note:
Talk to your in-laws.

sgtponzihater1:
I asked her to pay. And she said this month she has to change her winter jackets, buy clothes appropriate for pregnancy, as her other clothes are hurting her belly, so cannot afford it. That was it.

She is RIGHT.
She has to change all those.
You too have to buy winter clothes.
Bills still MUST be settled.

You guys should budget together.


How were you doing this in Nigeria?
Abi Una jus marry on the eve of migrating ni?

claremont:
On a positive note, it's election season. I got into this country on the back of immigration policies by a Labour government. I studied, graduated and worked my socks off based on the liberal immigration policies of a Labour government. I'm Labour through and through, and a hardcore Corbynite. If we want free university tuition for our kids, free and quality healthcare (including dental), cost-effective utilities etc. The UK is the fifth largest economy in the world, we can afford these basic necessities.

Vote Labour!

Which yeye Labour?
Labour that can’t say what they want about BreXit.

Tories ALL THE WAY!!

sgtponzihater1:
One day she kept taping me that I am snoring. She woke me up a dozen times that night. Same followed another night. The next day i saw she slept on the sofa. The sofa is cool but is made of spring and shouldn't be for night rest. The next day I saw she did the same thing. I woke up to notice she slept on the sofa. That's when I told her to go to the room and I will sleep there rather. I did that because it didn't seem appropriate for a pregnant woman to be on a spring sofa. That's how this started

Wait...
Did you guys just contract this ‘marriage’ for the sake of migrating to the UK?
Or ALL these things were happening while still in Nigeria?

Was there a dating, a courtship, a wedding and now Marriage? Or it was just contract?

Why do I have the feeling that if this thread is shown to your wife, and she too is able to create a faceless and untraceable moniker, we will get to hear things that you would rather not have us hear?

sgtponzihater1:
Said she want to help all her siblings first. Her brothers need to relocate too. Already helping her brother to do MSC here. I don't have up to 800 pounds save despite working for months and we are in London

Pick up the phone.
Talk to your MOTHER IN LAW.
Talk to your FATHER IN LAW

Hopefully, some of your wife’s siblings (whom she claims she wants to help) are in talking terms with you. You may even talk to them too.

sgtponzihater1:
Said she want to help all her siblings first. Her brothers need to relocate too. Already helping her brother to do MSC here. I don't have up to 800 pounds save despite working for months and we are in London

Time to have a Long discussion with her parents .
I am hoping you established kinship and friendship with her parents, prior to marrying her.

sgtponzihater1:
It's an important questions. Cities with 2-3 bedroom around 500-600 pounds would be considered affordable to me and my lovely wife. We can pay those 1000 pound a month flats. Kindly get back to me, so I can make an informed decision on what city to settle in, in the UK.

NB: All agents I meet always ask, what city do u prefer?, and obviously, I don't know which city to tell them.

I need ur answers, as u have always answered before.

YOU JUST HAVE TO RE-IGNITE THIS LOVE.

sgtponzihater1:
Be responsible for someone who earns same as me. Presently we have our names on all our properties, but in reality I paid for it and pay for the rent. I don't mind leaving it all and starting again. I am not yet worth so much. I just want peace and a fresh start. How can I get good affordable help?

Time take YOUR town advice.
Thank me later.

sgtponzihater1:
She says I am the man sadly. We have had arguements, and I couldn't cope.

I tried a trick and it failed. I told her to randomly call a couple we knew and ask how they share Bill's at home. She called the lady and the lady told her not to involve herself

This marriage was contracted in Nigeria.
And it was out of Love.
Then emigration happened.
And in less than 6 months of moving to the UK, the marriage is this damaged?
Is this a UK thing or the marriage would have crashed anyway?

And based on some previous replies on Nairaland, the marriage is still fresh.
Come on mate...did you bring this woman to the UK to throw her out after just 6 months?

sgtponzihater1:
Hard times for me. You will never understand. I can't imagine. Cooking for myself, paying the rent, throwing the garbage away, leaving in the living room, using perfume outside the house because a pregnant woman claims she reacts to perfume. If that happens in pregnancy, what will happen during the nursing stage. I can't deal. Our income are not so different sadly

Come on mate....
You were the one who impregnated her ohh...
You want your son to grow up one day and learn that he grew up with a single mother because his father divorced his mum because she was pregnant and vomiting and disliking smells?

sgtponzihater1:
Be responsible for someone who earns same as me. Presently we have our names on all our properties, but in reality I paid for it and pay for the rent. I don't mind leaving it all and starting again. I am not yet worth so much. I just want peace and a fresh start. How can I get good affordable help?

Just look at some of the fantastic! Advice you have offered previously.

sgtponzihater1:
How exactly can this help me. Where are you heading to with digging into my past?

I am not digging. I am saying, you have provided a voice of reason to others previously.
I vividly recall your exchange with Fatima04 on this thread. And you upheld family values.
This trying times are the times for you to reflect well.