SimplyFacts:
As a husband or wife, what are the helpful measures that one could take to absorb anger when one's blood is boiling

Drew13:
ok

Froshloaded:



She told Neo about her HOH sexcapade

Hazardfan1:


We go again today....with SMS votes....No resting, it is too late to back down now, Laycon has no one else aside us, we've started voting since week 2, no rest, we can't afford to stop now

Brownsun:
God bless u Venita.

codedguy1:


You are foolish idiot and a retarrrded dingbat.

Me, use your useless post to catch cruise for what na.

A thief like you with no shame can still open her mouth to disgrace her linage even when caught red handed.

You think you have a brain but are only good at stealing other people work to pass as your own and think you are smart.

Go and return your schools fees back to your parents it obviously didn't help your pathetic situation because you still don't have a functioning brain.

Miserable twerp.

codedguy1:


Thief!

codedguy1:


Get out abeg

codedguy1:


You are the one that is frustrated

You call yourself realtalk but you are actually faketalk.

You came here to pass someone's intellectual property as yours, I called you out. Instead of you to apologize or just keep quiet because you have been found out you started being cunning.

Do you know the meaning of plagiarism?

Its a form of stealing if you don't know.

If people started liking the post your head would be swelling not knowing you are thief.

codedguy1:


You are the one that is frustrated

You call yourself realtalk but you are actually faketalk.

You came here to pass someone's intellectual property as yours, I called you out. Instead of you to apologize or just keep quiet because you have been found out you started being cunning.

Do you know the meaning of plagiarism?

Its a form of stealing if you don't know.

If people started liking the post your head would be swelling not knowing you are thief.

codedguy1:


Shut your mouth and get out.

codedguy1:


What is clap for yourself.

Instead of you to say I saw this on my screen and then quote it.

You came here to post it as if they were your words just to sound fly.

You should be ashamed of yourself.

ArchAnge1:
laycon has no content

I doubt he will win, he will get to the final but win no sure for am, most social engines aren't with him

codedguy1:


This one is quoting what I have seen scroll on the tape on my screen.

You want to sound creative with someone else's work.

Realtalk indeed

BigBashiru:


Im of the opinion that greeting is not even necessary.... also avoid bumping into them - some ppl go as far as timing their movements to minimize contact with neighbours - it gives one a heightened sense of privacy!

udoekere:
Actually i didn't start school early due to some challenges while growing up and i repeated a class not because i failed but due to the fact that i coudn't read.

normally i should have been through with secondary education @ 17 but because i repeated a class i graduated @ 18.

So guys how old were you when you graduated from secondary school?

udoekere:
Actually i didn't start school early due to some challenges while growing up and i repeated a class not because i failed but due to the fact that i coudn't read.

normally i should have been through with secondary education @ 17 but because i repeated a class i graduated @ 18.

So guys how old were you when you graduated from secondary school?

zicoraads:

This meme, which movie is this?

And Erica looks absolutely gorgeous.

Damn!

Akshow:
She said what she said. Periodt! No caps.

Hardtalk:


This is the very mistake many do. General hospitals have most qualified staff and their fees well subsidised. With N100k, your total case is settled there. St. Raphael have no mercy when it comes to issues of depositing before operation. Even at critical stage, they will watch the person die rather than offer palliatives. Many previous patients taught them bitter lessons.

Meanwhile, for many of you saying scam or sounding sarcastic, may you not find yourself in a situation that may make you do this. lf you want to help him, go ahead, if not keep your mouth shut.

EfonAlaaye2023:
Dear Nairalanders,

please help me, my pregnant wife has been in labour for two days at St Raphael hospital along Ijede road Lagos state, she had difficulty to delivered, the Doctor said they've to do operation for her (c/s), we were told to deposit 150k before they can commence the operation on her


Things had been difficult for me since I was retrenched with other colleagues in a microfinance bank I worked with last two months. With some friends and family have been able to raise 100k. I don't like begging online but I'm left with no choice than to help my wife that's going through pains

Please help me out kindhearted Nairalanders. I'm with her ATM card, her account details is on my signature

Please help me out


Cc: Royalroy Seun Lalasticlala

Please help me I'm depressed and confused of what else to do

ZzZzzzzzzzzzzzz:

You didn't mention the State you are in or even the hospital

manos:
Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.

The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.

I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)

For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.

The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."

I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her.
While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.

This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.

There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.

irukandji89:
My mum was in an abusive marriage for 33 years.

My father, abused her emotionally for those years and she stayed because of her 4 kids.

He molests the maids, her female relatives that come to visit, cheats on her with impunity, threatens her with marrying another wife everytime.

He eventually married another wife in 2016 and they both put my mum through hell.


He's is a traditional ruler so he believes no one can do anything to him.

When my mum, despite all these, forged ahead in her carrier and got her PhD, things became worse.

My mum is a lecturer mind you.


He said his wife can't aspire higher than him.

That he can't allow her to be addressed as Dr. in his palace.


This last ileya, he asked my mum to leave the house, because he doesn't love her anymore and can't live with someone he doesn't love.

He threatened to curse her with insanity if she doesn't leave.

He removed the custom plates of his king title from my mum's cars (if he had bought the cars for her I'm sure he would collect those back), locked our my mum's cars from the house.


We the kids immediately got her a 3 bedroom apartment in an estate close to her school where she works.

We parked her things immediately and also packed ours.


The day we moved, I saw my mum looking relieved.

I can't remember seeing her sleep soundly like she did in her new place the first day we moved in.


There are other things I left out that happened but I just thank God that we were able to convince her to decide to leave that he'll of a marriage.


I don't wish what she went through in that house on my enemy.


Please, don't stay in a marriage because of the kids, if the emotional and physical abuse is extreme. If the kids are old enough, you can leave then if you think the issue is not that extreme.


But I suggest you leave an abusive marriage as soon as possible.


Take custody of your kids so they don't become second class citizens in their father's house.


Ladies, pls ensure you have a career, job or business before you get married.



This post really made me emotional

xynerise:
I have heard some women say " I am still in this marriage because of the children" when they complain about how terrible their husbands are.

Domestic violence is now common in many marriages and I am not specific to any sex as both are victims of it. Apart from domestic violence, there are other reasons one may become fed up in a marriage..

Inasmuch as some religious folks will speak against separation in marriage, there is still a point one can draw the line to let go.

My question now is, would you rather remain in a psychologically uncomfortable marriage because of your children or let go irrespective of how it affects the children?

Amanda4life:


YES HER HEART IS KIDD.
BUT ITS ALWAYS GOOD FOR THE MANS LOVE TO BE GREATER THAN THAT OF THE WOMAN.

OR ELSE ITS ALWAYS AN ISSUE WITH THE WOMAN