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Read your post and a few replies and you've been shot down before gaining altitude.

My simple reply is that compare the quality of phones used by girls and boys of the same status and that is your answer. Stop making excuses poverty and wealth is universal. I've known poor and rich families with children of both s.exes. They experience equal measure of stress.

ziccoit:
Whatever happens to GEJ after 2011 election, what remain of FFK is gone. There is a monster called politics, a game with in-group and out-group. Your party members and tribe, wherever they belong are your in-group while others are your out-group. You don't denegrate your tribe by throwing cautions into the wind in order to please your party members. You will always need them even if they don't support you now. That is why I believe Northern politicians are wise. How many of them have been speaking from all orifices in their body like FFK, Doyin Okupe and other attack dogs? These people know they we always need their people no matter their present political differences.

Just tired of it all but....the APC and its supporters started it all. It won't end tomorrow. I said so.

Raynee:
if ladies were men . just take a look at this, do you think a man could perpetrate such act? women are weaker vessels until you see them up against something they've got jurisdiction over

That's what I say. Men and women are equally capable of damning acts of terror. Women in particular should not be choosy on how to project their darker sides because they are equal and thus equally capable of evil.

slap1:
"Friends? There are no friends! "

-- William Shakespeare

Hmmm.

freecocoa:
I'm kinda tipsy, is that why I don't believe this story? Well, maybe.

When it comes to women centred infidelity other women will be in denial. Its normal.

People just love a good conspiracy story.

ziccoit:
You did not vote him in 2011 and he got 12M votes mainly from the North. What does that tells you? It means you are on your own-OYO.
Meanwhile evidence has shown that more Muslims have been killed than the Christians by the same Bokoharam. A lot of Islamic scholars of international repute have been killed by Bokoharam for speaking against their acts when GEJ stood moronic and didn't know what to do. I'm tired of these fake Christians that refuse to speak and think with facts.

Don't shoot yourself in the foot. That problem is real and it can undo.

anyaekekehinde:
Bros you and many people here talk about getting hard evidence,

how do you gather such evidence.... ?

now lets be real..

I have seen seen a gal that slept in a guys house overnight and claimed nothing happened (no touching, no hugging..) well its possible she is saying the truth..... after all a lady has slept in my room before and i didn't have sex with her (not that i didnt touch her)

The husband of someone i know will carry alomo in his pocket, goto an hotel room with books and you will see a lady coming of the hotel, but he will claim they are there to negotiate stuffs or that he is there to read but the lady just came for only a visit, funny enough the guy's wife will believe him.. now he maybe saying the truth, only God can tell what truly happened...

Now what i am trying to stress is, you cannot really get that hard evidence you people talk about unless it was a 3some or you had set a camera in their room or you laced your gf with magun.

What i often tell people is, don't give people the chance to suspect you!
Dont play with smoke while saying to yourself, there is no fire under!!
There is what we call IMPROPER RELATIONSHIPS & COMPROMISING POSITIONS but some ladies of today call it friendship and yes they maybe correct. I am not advocating that people shouldn't mix up with opposite sex BUT lets set boundaries that is OPEN/OBVIOUS for everyone to see!!!

Exactly. Because if it is hairy, smells like a goat and bleats you don't need the remaining sense, of sight to know its a goat except if there is an elaborate, well thought and executed plan to hoodwink the blind man. He will be 90% correct. Is there such a plan in that office to hoodwink the friend. Highly unlikely.

Perception is a very powerful thing. We create it consciously and unconsciously all the time so why should we assume it wouldn't work when we 'donot need it to show'. She will act lovey dovey to the fiance and boss and want a good response from onlookers in one and a neutral response in the other. Haba.

Ilekeh:
Ok. I do none of that, thank you.
No touching. No unprofessional language (body parts, intimate talk etc).
We're going bowling this coming Friday for my birthday
He's a fun person, like an older brother jare

And you can read his mind. You can see his heart and you are ready to testify under oath that he views it that way. Lady.....nothing more to say..

Ilekeh:
My job is professional, in a relaxing atmosphere.

People are just too perverted and think that the only thing that must exist between a man and a woman is se...x.

But will you maintain that view if it your boyfriend/fiance/husband doing such. Will you not be assaulted by calls by your 'friend(s) working in his office and what will be your response. Be factual.

Globawatch:
12 An improper romantic relationship could develop at
your place of employment. In fact, a secular study
revealed that more than half of adulterous women and
nearly 3 out of 4 adulterous men had illicit relations with
a workmate. Does your secular work require that you
associate with members of the opposite sex? If so, what is
the nature of your relationship with them? Do you have
boundaries in place that keep it professional and that do
not allow it to become something more? For example,
after repeated casual conversations with a male
coworker, a Christian sister might make him her
confidant, even telling him about her marital problems.
In another situation, after becoming friendly with a
female coworker, a Christian man might reason: “She
values my opinion and really listens when I talk to her.
And she appreciates me. I wish I got more of this kind of
treatment at home!” Can you see how Christians in such
situations could be vulnerable to committing adultery?

“In the workplace and elsewhere, beware of situations
that might foster intimacy. For example, spending extra
hours working closely with someone of the opposite sex
can set the stage for temptation. As a married man or
woman, you should make it clear by your speech and
your demeanor that you are simply not available. As one
who pursues godly devotion, you would certainly not
want to invite undue attention by flirting or by being
immodest in your dress and grooming. . . . Having photos
of your marriage mate and children around the
workplace will serve as a visual reminder to you and to
others that you have priorities. Be determined never to
encourage—or even tolerate—seductive overtures from
another.”

sexual fantasies involving someone other than your
marriage mate. The article indicated that engaging in
sexual fantasies will increase the likelihood of your
committing adultery. ( Jas. 1:14, 15) If you are married, it
would be wise for you and your spouse to review such
information together from time to time. Marriage is an
arrangement instituted by Jehovah himself, and it is
sacred. Setting aside time to talk to your mate about your
marriage is a fine way to show that you value sacred
things.— Gen. 2:21-24.
18 If you find yourself tempted to develop an improper
romantic relationship, meditate on the damaging
consequences of fornication and adultery. ( Prov. 7:22,
23; Gal. 6:7) Those who commit immorality displease
Jehovah and hurt their spouse and themselves. (Read
Malachi 2:13, 14.) In contrast, contemplate the benefits
that come to those who maintain chaste conduct. Not
only do they have the hope of living forever but they also
enjoy the best life now, including a clean conscience.—
Read Proverbs 3:1, 2.
19 The psalmist sang: “Abundant peace belongs to
those loving your [God’s] law, and for them there is no
stumbling block.” ( Ps. 119:165) So love the truth, and
“keep strict watch that how you walk is not as unwise but
as wise persons” in these wicked times. ( Eph. 5:15, 16)
The paths we follow are rife with traps set by Satan to
ensnare true worshippers. But we are well-equipped to
protect ourselves. Jehovah has given us what we need to
“stand firm” and “quench all the wicked one’s burning
missiles”!— Eph. 6:11, 16.

But the friend and 'friend-in-law' are not married so it is easy to call the whole thing off. But it is becoming clear that one of the greatest threats to one's destiny is this 'friend' thing. The bible recognizes family, it speaks of 'neighbour'. I don't know where 'friend' fits in that causes so many untold troubles and destroys many destinies. God is very concerned who we are 'yoked' with and the terms under which we relate with people. Some just put themselves unnecessarily in jeopardy because of these. You my friend had better re-evaluate your relationships in the light of your vision and destiny. I don't know what this guy means to you but it had better be worth it.

SergeAlain:
Thank God the elections will soon come and go. Irrespective of who wins, then we can start thinking like on Country Again.

Your country, a Country that before now hardly produced a pin (militarily speaking), now produces within a 4 year span an APC (by the way the Igirigi is active in the North East, in fact some of the pix above are from the North East), Naval patrol vessels, a basic drone aircraft and yet it gives you no joy. Simply because Jonathan is your enemy and must be discredited.

To do that you run down the military and all their achievements, virtually celebrate the mindless terrorists at war with your country. Whether you know it or not you are bringing down your country and even if the messiah (GMB) came after may 29, this precedent you have set here will be difficult to stop or reverse.

My brother let us celebrate successes and humble beginnings together. It does not stop you voting for anyone you want if you feel GEJ has not done enough.

And for those shouting that we should be building space crafts and submarines, ask yourself how the parents whose child finally starts crawling at the age of 3 should react? Should they encourage the child? or respond by saying Olodo!!! Na now you dey crawl, see all your mates don dey run sef!!!

Let us be wise please. The elections will come and go! We cannot run down our Country just to gain political points, it is an expensive experiment.

Thank you. Playing politics with everything. Just reprehensible.

SirShymexx:
And the mere assembling of an APC, most likely with the same quality as Soviet era APCs got you this elated, no? When you have countries on the same level as Nigeria like South Africa building one of the best attack helicopters in the world, and a very decent fighter jet. Iran building mini-submarines, fighter jets, and reverse-engineering the most advanced drone in US' inventory - RQ-170. Brazil with one of the most decent mid-range fighter jets out there etc..

You're delusional!

What pleasure do you folks have in putting downbyour country and inadvertently putting down yourselves.

kastonkastrol:
rubbish..... Why haven't the APCs been used in combating boko haram in the north east? What's the use of the bloody APCs if the won't be used in the war-front ?

The same lie they are telling us about the "innoson-motors" is the same lie they told us about "made in Nigeria smart phones". Till date, am yet to see a single "made in Nigeria car" plying our roads. Abi are the innoson motors invincible?

They just keep lieing to Nigerians who are wallowing in the pool of gullibility. And because Nigerians(all of us) are generally lazy to conduct a simple research about the lies that are been fed to them, we just swallow everything.

I hope to your shame you have seen the pictures. If you are a Nigerian you are very unpatriotic and an example of all that is wrong with this country. Better get rid of your hate for this country or it will consume you.

meforyou1:
Oh my God, Another news that will worsen buhari's health status. And d senile old man will be like "hey come this stupid Shekau, what have u done with all the money I gave you?"

You people.should.stop thus rubbish. When is enough just enough.

Dyt:
Pray brother
Just pray

Okay. Just be consistent in all cases of DV or else you are kwarrapt.

TrishaP:
Have you disclosed these complains to her already? It's in your hands to put her to order, she is your wife. Tell her the about how you feel about the physical abuse and if she doesn't show any signs of changes then give her some space. Who knows....she might be going through something she ain't telling you.. Study and find her problem. To me I don't think divorce is an option here.

Women. When problem arises they know the man is captain of the ship but when the beastiness emerges they are lion and you are lion tamer. Kwarraption.

Justfollowit:
She will understand African way of life because she is more caring and empathetic

Caring with uppercuts abi. Ma'am, 60% of the text is about domestic violence. Is this all you can say. See blatant kwarraption.

Dragonking:
Am patiently waiting for Nairaland ladies to say something sensible about this issue...

if it was the other way round, they would have swamped here like say tommorow no dey..

Sure. You'd have heard, he's just the beast from the east, or a pest from the west or a grouch from the south or the real hurt from the north. Corruption is widespread you know.

Iamsynord:
Behave like David in the Bible,whenever she is angry, get a Harp and String and Play her nice tunes..Not Ur bumbum is bigger than Bombay or Dorobucci o, play her like ASA,Adele, Ed sheer an,John legend,Jeremih ehn ..that evil spirit go vammose

Hahahaha. I concur.

bokom:
2. Mynd44: Quote Post

Err.....

Can you get a temporary separation or outright divorce?

This is the same thing I will tell a woman whose husband hits her


We have a strong business together. We both play a big role in the company and the company is here in Nigeria.... She cant do her part of the job if we are divorced. Also for the record. she loves me so much, just that she wants it to be just me and her alone...no family or friends around

Said it. Some sick a.s.s. fetish. Buy her black leathers and a horse whip to formalise matters. Hahaha.

Hahaha. Like you guys are engaged in some sick a.s.s spanking fetish. Anyway.

Important though. She co-owns your business. Even though you are the principal she has every right to co-direct the finances and question your expenditure. As a couple this is even more pertinent. What you can do is either formalise everything and seperate yourselves, your wallets from the enterprises' so you are both on a salary or dividend then you can spend yours as you care (ex-paternal responsibilities). Alternatively you can set up another business to accomodate your 'extra-marital affairs'. But not on company time oh. Hahahaha.

Esperooke:
In a time of adversity it is the duty of the leader to galvanize every element of the state towards conquering the situation without creating schism. But, GEJ's approach is suicidal, right from the inception, all that apparently interest him is how to make maximum political gain from such catastrophic situation. That could possibly explain the current victory, when he realized Defeat is staring him at the face. Cameroun leaders got it right hence the seamless support.

Nobody is begging you to support the country or the military. The Camerounians are in solidarity with their forces and you chose to go political by default. If you cannot support the country because you don't like the President then patriotism is far from you. Does every soldier fighting and dying like Jonathan. Are they fighting for him. They are fighting for you and me so I advice you to stop this political nonsense and remove it from issues of national importance.

A people under threat donot need to be encouraged to recognize the danger and act accordingly. Most wars America undertake enjoy bipartisan support. When it comes to security they know no politics. Wake up.

hensben:
Yeah it call for answer, why now that election is less than 2 weeks....GEJ I don't care attitude and blame games is to score cheap political point now hour of reckoning is here.

See what I mean. They just can't find their role as seperate from that of government. Your type should not be on this thread. Are those Camerounians satisfied with their government led by Paul Biya. Probably not but they still play their role to support their institutions above ALL INDIVIDUALS. This is the key to nationhood.

It wasn't Kennedy's army when they were trashed in the Bay of Pigs. It wasn't Carter's Army that failed the hostages in Iran. It wasn't Bush's Army's misadventure in Iraq and Afghanistan. It was the United States Army. Yes the C in C's took responsibility for the results but the people of America continue to respect their men and women in uniform and NEVER, NEVER play politics WHEN THEY ARE ENGAGED IN WARS no matter who sent them, for what reasons and no matter the successes or failures encountered.

Leave politics to when the last soldier is out of harms way and is back to his family like the rest of us. In the military it is called mutiny. In civil life it is called insurrection. It is bad.

CuteInBlack:
I'm higly impressed and that's me being modest.

Only if we as a Nation had one voice against this Boko Haram Scourge. But hell no, we politicize everything.


Now watch those scumbags invade this thread and politicize it.

Shows you one is a country while the other is a collection of divergent interests. Shows you the fundamental, structural problems this country has. We the people are failing this country.

The whole story is just wierd right down to the Comissioner of Police, CP Karma. Can you beat that. It seems this Boko thingy is indeed a virus or some deadly satanic cultic movement. Imagine dreaming like that. The boy must have drunk from Shekau's cistern.

Tonason:
This Custom own is becoming another thing. Since they were given gun they have started to kill innocent civilians on daily bases. Last week they killed one little girl who was in their shop, when they started shooting spodically at Sango. What has entered their head?

Mister. Let the law punish the wrongs of the customs officers but you must make every effort to seperate individuals from institutions and protect institutions so that institutions can protect society. Yes it was a terrible act but should the customs disarm because.of that, no. Should the customs cease to pursue criminals because of this incident, no.

We have not even.touched the stage where authorities are hyperactive for us to complain. We shoukd be demanding a tougher, stronger, bigger and more ethical customs service not the opposite. Are we proud that even tanks and armoured cars are imported by insurgents. No. So what are we saying. Those women were fighting a real economic war against legal, honest, hardworking Nigerians. It is you the people who decided that. The customs are merely trying to express that.

iyky:
Haba!!!! Wots the gain now Why pursue them to their death...They are not criminals for Gods sake!!! I wish a wife of one of the custom officer is among!!!

RIP!!!

They are not criminals. Okay. That's nice.

ritux:
Everyone seems to blame custom without blaming the driver for not stopping. That is the problem with us Nigerians. We all blame the govt for everything. Why carry contraband items when you know they are illegal? After we keep shouting our politicians are corrupt.
They women were simply greedy. They know how much profits they will make from selling the okrika clothes. They should have stopped and sorted the custom guyz. If they were caught, they would still have found a way of getting back their seized goods.

Yet they will berate the same customs as being corrupt when they see contraband goods in the markets. That is why I will always say that Nigeria is the way it is because of the aggregate thinking of its people. Nigeria is corrupt and lawless as it is because the average Nigerian has corrupt and lawless sympathies. As a test, in response to this just view where the blame for this tragedy goes 90 percent to authorities, laws and institutions, 10 percent to the perpetuators. They will say poverty but what causes poverty, crime. They will say government but do the people who demand.justice have clean hands.

I am sad for them but have no sympathies. We cannot continue to live like this and expect this country to change.

Yomieluv:
stop shaking that your head,so chasing them to death is the best alternative.

Bro,I smh for you.

Happens everywhere in the world involving all agencies I know. When you are on a flight from the law， it is temporarily suspended in your case and it doesn't matter whether you contraband goods or illegal weapons death for a fugitive is a very real possibility. The customs officers will be commended. That is the truth.

By the way. Ramming the fugitive vehicle to disable it is a very legal move to save the lives of innocent road users and bring any chase to a quick end anywhere in the world. No one should refuse to be stopped by law enforcement no matter the sentiments. You may question the intent after stopping but to flee is already a felony offence.

Very disgusting place. Only a must go, never a will go. The correct and very definition of anti-tourism.

ujoinme:
Notice how the Night lights corresponds to economic activity in Nigeria.

Picture courtesy of http://www.blue-marble.de/nightlights/2012?ll=7.457222,6.461111

Yeah, gas flaring all through the Niger.Delta if that's what you call economic activity. Pity.