₦airaland Forum

FarahAideed:
It seems the heat is on for Endsars withnesses as someone is trying to silence them .



https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/11/youre-next-dabira-lekki-shooting-survivor-gets-attack-notice/

All these ENDSARS people just dey use us catch cruise.

So government first waited for you to testify before panel for over one year. Dem no pursue you then. Na after panel come release report dem come dey find you to revenge abi?

Well played! Mtchewww!

By the time that report is ripped apart by a line of lawyers from here to Timbuktu, that report will not be worth even the paper it is written on.

The panel had one whole year to do a good job. But bias and parochial interest no gree. 309 pages filled with glaring inconsistencies that even the authors cannot defend.

The only people that will profit from this report are the lawyers that will be briefed by all of the parties indicted in the report. The report will be tied up in various litigations in courts across the country for the next three decades and more.

Mark my words: just like the Oputa panel report, NOTHING WILL COME OUT OF THIS REPORT.

Gerrard59:
Big fat lie!

If so, why have there been disproportionately more attacks on Christians across Northern Nigeria than Muslims by Islamic inspired jihadists?

Where did you get your figures from? Amnesty Nigeria? CAN?

Don't believe everything you read online.

JOemmy:
So all the thausands of innocent people massacred in southern kaduna and benue by fulani jihadists for being christain doesn't matter any more?

Terrorists don't care whether you are Muslim or not. Everyone is fair game to be used in furthering their ideology. Neither do bandits...they are only after money

Standardcosting:
What was the basis for delisting?

I think the question should be "what was the basis for listing"?

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

Oga stand up and go and dish your food by yourself and save yourself the wahala. Abi does she have the pot of soup and food under lock and key or in a safe somewhere?

misterme:
And I am very very angry. Gas I used to buy 2800, then 3k, 4k, and 5k. Suddenly it jumped to 7500 and now (today) 9250 in Port Harcourt. I am very very angry. Let no one here disturb me with nonsense news about Buhari and his nonsense South Africa Trade fair and nonsense. No cross me today o. I fit beat person

The gas finished yesterday. I told my wife that yesterday that I will buy the gas today because I needed to get to work and somehow raise money to augment what I have to be able to buy the gas. I told her to use the kerosene stove that yesterday and this morning. Guess her reply? She said she can't use kerosene even for a day. That even her Mum in the village does not use kerosene stove. She said a few other unprintable things.
For the sake of my 3 children I still had to buy the gas today.

I had not eaten in my house for a month now. The reason is that she said that they money I gave her for upkeep in October was not enough (I give her 62.5% of my monthly salary every month for our home upkeep). As a result she refused to give me food from around the middle of the month when she said the money had finished. She cooked for herself and the children (possibly from her own salary). When I gave her upkeep money for this month I told her not bother keeping food for me so that the money will go far enough. That's where we are till now. I have no intention of ever eating her food until she acknowledges that she was wrong and apologizes.

Now I know this WON'T happen. She will rather die than admit she's wrong or apologize. This is why I know that the mistake of a marriage is heading for the rocks and I am ready for it. Nonsense and ingredients. I have endured this nonsense for 15 years. I am done. Anything whe won happen tomorrow, make e happen today.

Your issues are "legion" and if you were not so serious about them, I would be lmao right now

Seriously though, I was also really upset about the vaulting cost of gas until I spoke to my cousin who lives in the UK and he explained to me carefully that there is some international dimension to the rising cost of LPG across the globe. I can't say I understood half of what he was trying to explain or how the international cost of gas affects how much I buy gas from Mama Blessing's refill depot at the junction of my street. God will sha help us to continue to meet the rising cost of living.

Unto your madam's issue, I think you should sit down with her and have a heart to heart. It seems to me like you guys run different economies within the house where she spends her pay anyhow she likes and you spend your's anyhow you like. Thankfully, it seems you both have jobs, I suggest you both pool your resources and allocate funds jointly in line with a structured monthly budget.

From counseling a lot of couples, I have found out that issues like this often occur when women begin to feel left out of the financial decision-making process. This is usually either because the man is the sole earner and rides on his male ego to make those decisions to the exclusion of the wife since he feels it is "his money". In these tough times, you need to swallow your ego, sit her down and lay your cards on the table. By this I mean, let her know how much you earn and let her tell you how much she earns. You both draw up a list of your monthly needs. Review the list and streamline appropriately to your available financial pool. Also jointly agree on how much you will be putting away for the proverbial "rainy day" or towards any joint project.

Now, if you do this, your wife most likely will adjust and "help you manage" whatever you jointly agree for the month. If your madam feels like you are living the lau lau kinda lifestyle in the midst of this austerity or you choose to continue to exclude her from your financial affairs, she will most likely continue to be a witch even if you give her 100% of your monthly income as upkeep. Bring her into your affairs and give her a seat at the table and you will see the magic.

Good luck!

RomanGreen:
You're so cheap, you really think your lawless DSS will allow camera in there ...that was a secret recording, well I'm sure y'all are shocked by his audacity...try again

That was a "secret recording" set up by who\...? My point exactly!

fergie001:
The secret police had barred lawyers, journalists, and traditional rulers from entering the court building as his trial resumed.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F-2k-HBkfig

Mr. Kanu is a master of playing to the camera though. Just nicely position the camera, bait a DSS officer and roll tape!

Shootlion:
Which department was peter, Paul, Andrew, James, Thomas, Judas, Bartholomew and other disciples of Jesus?


Yes,I do look down on people who don't belong to any department in the church.For God's sake religion is an act of practice, put your worship into action by participating actively in church activities and not just a church goer.

Jesus wasn't running a church. At best, you could call him an itinerant minister, moving from place to place preaching to the people.

The apostles you mentioned were not layabouts. They were a very key pillar of Jesus' ministry, offering support, planning and arranging and learning of the master.

Read about Jesus feeding the 5000 and you will see the key role played by the disciples in caring for the crowd. Sometimes he would send them ahead to get food and supplies; sometimes they acted as his personal security, forming a ring around him so he won't be crushed by the teeming crowd.

He sent them on missions of evangelism. They helped in counseling and baptizing new converts. Etc. All of these and more they did in service to Christ while he was with them physically. So much more they did in service to him after he ascended to heaven.

Nezzjnr:
Some people get to look down at you if you aren't in a Department in the church or do stand a chance of loosing out of God's blessings.

I feel it's your personal relationship with God.

Can you truly call yourself a member of a family if you do not take up a responsibility within that family? If that were the case, would other members of your family not call you irresponsible and treat you with disdain?

While I don't subscribe to looking down at anyone or forcing people to serve in church, the fact is that you need to show some responsibility. Be a part of the work; ask how you can be of help; contribute your quota because with all hands on deck, the work becomes lighter on everyone.

Aonkuuse:
You sit at home and allow few persons to choose for you.

You can imagine! Just look at these pictures...hardly any young person in sight. We leave the future to the old folks and expect there to be any change. All we know how to do is to wail and weep on social media. Throwing puerile tantrums when things don't go our way like the spoilt brats that we are. Come out and vote now where it matters, whosai!!!

Tomorrow, we will be back on social media criticizing a process we chose not to be a part of. We will be singing the blues about rigging and telling stories that touch the heart about how our future is threatened. Sometimes I feel like we are stuck in an alternate reality somewhere far from here. Feels like we are so detached from the reality that stares us in the face.

Such a big shame!

BizzBizz:
A viral video shows the moment a large number of electorates in Anambra state collecting ₦400 and a can of malt from party officials ahead of the Saturday's gubernatorial election in the state.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8cfMIjN20k

Kai! See how these "northerners" keep dragging us back politically and economically

another1:
Many Households Turn To Charcoal, Kerosene Stoves
• My Family Now Cooks Once A Day, Breadwinner Reveals
• Food Vendors Hike Prices
• ‘This Govt Derives Pleasure In Punishing Citizens’
• ‘It Has Never Been This Bad In Nigeria’


https://guardian.ng/news/nigerians-cry-out-to-buhari-over-high-cost-of-cooking-gas/

All of the "investigations" contained in this long report is how much it is sold in various states and what "Paulina" said, and how "Donatus" lamented, etc.

Shouldn't this investigation have extended to unearthing the real fact behind the wanton increase in the cost of the commodity

Same thing with the cost of staple food items: beans, yam, tomatoes, etc. Beans has become gold that only the rich can afford. News media only report the news of the increase and of course, blame it on the government's "bad policies". But i have not seen one that investigates the root cause of any of these increases.

Which policies are specifically responsible for the high cost of gas and food? What aspects of the supply chain are impacted by these "bad policies"? What should the government do to ameliorate the situation that they are not doing currently doing? What should the prople do?

Questions like this and more answered in a well written article is how the media stimulates public discourse that can lead to public policy improvements.

Moferere:
And this is the end of Secondus political career.
That's if he has one.

Wike maketh, Wike destroyeth.

There is no Secondus without Wike and truth is, I doubt if anyone can win a political case against Wike's interest in any court in Port Harcourt.

MufasaLion:
Absolutely. I pick my friends, they don't pick me.

Ok. Just that the danger with such an arrangement is that you are probably the only one in that setting that feels you are surrounded by "friends".

What you most likely have in reality are groupies.

But, if it works for you, I guess I can only wish you goodluck with that.

MufasaLion:
LMAO

You will forgive a woman that did such things to you? I can never have someone like you in my circle.

Fair enough. You have a right to surround yourself with friends of your choice.

Bostin:
One good head can't keep a marriage , it's takes two to tangle . You can't change who is not ready for change , you can't accept who doesn't value your acceptance .

.

That is the misconception...you are not in a marriage to change anyone. You are coming from a different upbringing, culture, personality and orientation to be with someone from a totally different upbringing, culture, personality and orientation. I think it is a bit presumptuous to think you can "change" such a person. Are you God?

The best you can do in a marriage is to work on yourself to adapt your own peculiar personality to the other person's. The actual work is to change yourself as best as you can to be more tolerating, accommodating and receptive. The conflict always arises the moment we try to force the other party to bend to our whims. Therein lies the real "work" of marriage.

When I say "one good head" can keep a marriage going, I am talking of someone that understands that marriage is 100% sacrifice; someone that understands they are not in the marriage to be served but to serve. With patience, dedication, commitment, sheer tenacity, all of those sacrifices ultimately pay off and a turbulent marriage can change for the better.

Hathor5:
Are you saying that you can forgive all of the following?

- cheating
- cheating with your best friend
- cheating with your brother
- cheating repeatedly
- insulting your mom
- stealing from you
- paternity fraud
- revealing your secrets

Yes I can. Once again, it is not the gravity of the offence but the mindset towards offence.

One good head can keep a marriage.

Hathor5:
Can you forgive all kinds of "thorns" and still love your spouse?

Yes I can...but it is not easy. Takes some work to be able to do that.

Like I said, once you understand that the person you are marrying is not 100%, it becomes a bit easier to let go and forgive when they offend you.

Hathor5:
Do you agree?

I am watching a series and in one of the episodes a couple goes to see a marriage counselor. She tells them that marriage is not about unconditional love but an agreement to show up the best we can. It is meant to challenge each spouse to bring out the best in them.

How useful is this kind of advice?

Showing up the best you can is an ingredient of unconditional love. It's basically saying to you that marriage isn't always going to be peaches and roses. There will be thorns as well. So make plans for those sort of times too.

ubaobi:
Why did they deny that soldiers were there in the first place, then go on to admit later on in the face of overwhelming evidence that soldiers were there but they did not shoot, later they admitted to shooting only blank bullets, he that comes to equity must come with clean hands.

True that. The government's handling of the #ENDSARS protest was a PR nightmare. That is one of the dangers of having a multi-pronged public engagement architecture. Every govt communication channel switched into panic mode issuing all sorts of public statements without full clarity on what had happened.

All of the foregoing however does not negate the fact that there simply is no empirical proof that soldiers unleashed a massacre of unarmed protesters at the Lekki toll gate last year. The facts simply don't stack up to me as a rational mind trying to make sense of the events of that day.

The horrible effects of even a dozen soldiers firing AK47s at point-blank range into a crowd of 100s of people like the soldiers are alleged to have done, cannot be missed. From all accounts, there were at least 3 truckloads of soldiers at the venue that night so there were definitely more than a dozen soldiers at the toll gate.

So at the risk of sounding a bit insensitive, where are the bodies? The claim is that the soldiers took them away with them. Did the soldiers also wash away all the blood and gore that would be evident if soldiers actually fired AK47 weapons into a crowd at point-blank range?

I guess there are always going to be questions about what truly transpired on the night of 20-10-20. RIP to the souls of all those that died during the ENDSARS riots...including the policemen and soldiers.

Esseite:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2021/10/scrap-office-of-first-lady-peter-obi/

Abeg all of these politicians should go and sit down with their pedestrian suggestions for good governance.

Office of first Lady or not has never been the problem of governance in Nigeria. Yes it is not a constitutionally recognised office. But there is hardly any where in the world where the wife of the President will not be accompanied by top security and have a retinue of aides even if she chooses not to be in the public eye.

Cutting off the office of first Lady is too pedestrian to make it a campaign promise. Rather, tell us what you will do to undertake a wholistic review of the entire governance architecture, keeping the cabinet as lean as possible to eliminate waste.

Tell us how you plan to catalyze the constitutional review that is necessary to take the fluff and perks out of governance so that only the people that are genuinely interested in serving the people come into politics and aspire for office.

All of these first Lady talk is becoming jaded abeg!

damilola4162:
Source: https://newspremises.com.ng/compulsory-vaccination-is-from-the-pit-of-hell-pastor-paul-enenche-kicks-against-making-covid-19-vaccine-compulsory-video/

My take on this is simple: God said the antichrist will come. Neither he nor his agenda can be prayed away. The only solution to escaping the antichrist according to the Holy Bible is to be raptured with Christ when he returns to take the saints home. So I do not know what sort of empty prayers a lot of Christians are praying these days binding the antichrist and his activities.

The government has clarified that contrary to reports in the news, they are not forcing anyone to take the vaccination. But they will not allow access to any Federal Government building without full Covid 19 vaccination as of December 1st. It makes common sense to say that in exercising your right not to take the vaccine, you cannot impede the right of others to a safe workplace. Take the vaccine or stay home...PERIOD!

May God have mercy on his church!

BeeBeeOoh:
https://punchng.com/dont-let-police-disrupt-endsars-protests-falana-tells-buhari/

Citizens are within their right to organize a protest...but I do not think a protest is necessary at this time given the fragile security situation across the country IMHO. The tendency of an open protest getting hijacked and running out of control like we witnessed last year is extremely high and no matter how we view it, the Police does not have the capacity of coordinating and controlling a street protest against government.

We all watched on TV as the almighty American security infrastructure struggle to control violence during the BLM protests and again during the post-election violence in America last year. The Nigerian police is under-staffed, under-trained and ill-equipped to effectively manage a protest and prevent it from degenerating into a riot.

There are much more civil ways of marking the events of last year in a much more solemn way rather than a street protest. WHile criticizing government, we also need to be responsible citizens.

KillingIsFun:
[url]http://saharareporters.com/2021/10/11/insecurity-didnt-come-accident-it-was-planned-islamise-nigeria%E2%80%94-ex%E2%80%94vc-ahmadu-bello[/url]

Instead of continuously wailing about this phantom plan to Islamize Nigeria, should Christians not put together a plan to Christianize Nigeria?

Abetterperson:
My mom sister son decided to stay with us because of his family financial struggles. He's a bit older than me but we are of the same age group. Firstly I noticed this guy is sexist and when I say sexist I mean it. He believes a woman job is to clean the house and take of the family, a good woman in his eyes is a woman without an opinion, smile and always do what she is told.
He views me as an inferior, he tries to order me around and gets angry when I refuse. He doesn't really talk to me which honestly I think is for the best.

When he first arrive at our apartment he was shocked that he had to do any chores calling it a woman's work. He doesn't respect females infact he body shames women.

Am on my period and we are the only ones in the house because of my cramps am in pain. In the morning we ate bread with bama and tea. Just now this guy asked me what we are going to eat because he's hungry (he's doesn't like eating outside, he prefer homemade food). I told him I don't know,next thing he told me to figure it out.

Just because I Know the kind of person he is, I kept quite. He came to me again asking the same question, I told him to help me ground pepper and a bit of onion so that I will be able to prepare stew and rice, normally I would use our bender but because there is no light and am afraid to put on our gen because of my mom.

Next thing I hear is this guy just shouting like a failed musician, telling me that I don't have character and respect. I didn't answer because to me he's a madman

Am waiting for my mom to come, I Know she will take his side because she doesn't want him to feel maltreated but what is all this.

Am not his wife still yet this is no way to treat a woman whether she is your wife or not.

The guy unfortunately picked up this poor mindset from his upbringing. There are a lot of homes where parents actively make their male kids feel superior to their female kids by not allowing them to do any house chores. Secondly, you can have a situation where the boy watched his father treat his own mother like a house maid in the name of "culture and tradition" and felt that is the way life is wired.

I think your mum and dad can lovingly but firmly help him correct this warped mindset now that he lives with your family. On your own part, you need to be a bit more understanding of the fact that he just comes from a different upbringing from yours. Rather than tow this part of hostile aggression, I suggest you adopt a more friendly approach so your position on the matter can be well received.

stephanie11:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM


https://politicsnigeria.com/breaking-ipob-not-as-bad-as-terrorists-bandits-in-the-north-gov-ikpeazu/

This governor's take is like saying a burglar is not as bad as an armed robber because a burglar can be reasoned with and is only stealing because he is hungry.

We need to stop this attempt to rationalize evil. What is bad is bad. Boko Haram did not start off as this uber-violent terrorist organization we know today. They evolved because northern politicians and ethnic jingoists were all over the place rationalizing their existence rather than stamping them out. Guess who is suffering it the most today?

The southeast needs to take a stand against this growing IPOB/ESN menace before it grows out of hand. There are more peaceful platforms and means to negotiate the terms of our nationhood than this open call for violence.

vanbonattel:
Nigeria is no longer a recognised country and has become a pariah among the committee of nations. The world has now come to see that a bunch of terrorists are in charge of Nigeria, hence they are being snubbed by all world bodies.

Nigeria is not the problem. Nigerians are the problem.

It is not Nigeria that asked Nigerians to begin to sell vaccination cards to travelers that are yet to be vaccinated at the airport. It is not Nigeria that asked Nigerians to set up a syndicate that sells fake covid 19 results and vaccination cards to travelers in the UK, US and UAE.

Nigeria has become a pariah because Nigerians just do not know how to behave themselves. We carry our knack for crime outside the shores of this country and begin to blame Nigeria when those other countries resist our misbehavior.

Nigerians need to do better.

Chigold101:
May God console the family.

Shame on you for concluding that's it's IPOB that killed him even without any investigation from any security agency

This is a very good take on the issue at hand. I like how you called for investigations before jumping to conclusions. The question is, are you usually this pragmatic when the media announces that herdsmen have committed another murder without any shred of evidence?

Would you have been this restrained if the family had announced that the murder may have been carried out by herdsmen? Would you have called for investigations before accepting the claim?

I know it is hard to swallow the fact that your kinsmen have evolved into the evil that you condemn in others...but it won't help if you people begin to make excuses for them. IPOB may be fighting a worthy cause but the fact is that there are bad eggs among them that are exploiting the struggle for their own personal and violent agenda.

Boko Haram did not start out as the ultra-violent force that we know them to be today until some violent and extreme entities joined the Group. Then they also began to enjoy the support of politicians and people alike who saw them as an agent to disrupt southern politics and chase Christians away from the north. They thought Jonathan will rule forever so they were happy to make the country ungovernable for him. Northerners cheered them on until they turned into the hydra-headed monster and destructive force they are today. Now Jonathan is no longer President but it is too late and the north is suffering the effects of their hypocrisy today.

The Southeast needs to condemn these violent crimes and call a spade a spade. IPOB has deviated from its core objectives of peaceful agitations and is now feeding on its own children. The Southeast needs to understand that the Buhari they all love to hate, will soon wrap up his tenure and retire. But if IPOB is allowed to perpetuate this legacy of evil, it will soon get out of control. It is time for the Southeast to speak with one voice and curtail the activities of these renegades before it gets out of hand.

aAK1:
Now the Dss know

If you truly believe this woman was truly anywhere within the shores of this land and the DSS was not aware of it, then it means you are smoking some of the really good stuff.

Newsmic:
https://igberetvnews.com/1401338/dj-switch-cooked-house-months-never-got-asylum-canada/

When una and government use us catch cruise finish, the truth of what really happened at the toll gate on that day will emerge.

For now, enjoy your fame and milk it for all you can get from it.