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Pochettino:
We women are heartless

ImaIma1:
It's important to discuss these things before marriage. Especially about having family live in. There's nothing wrong with spending weekend, spending some time but living with them can be a problem. The wife needs privacy rather than have someone monitoring her.

I commented some weeks back about how I was praying for omugwo to be over so my MIL could go because she used to monitor me; complain about everything., my stew is too thick, i eat groundnut a lot, etc.

Living in peace should not be hard when people respect each other's space. When I was single and I visited my brother's house, the wife would happily leave the kitchen for me to cook for them. Even after I cook, I still call her to dish for me.

It's her house and respect is important. There's no competition. I have my place in my brother's heart and she does too...simple.

Babysho:
I'm a Liverpool fan and if I'm going to be rational, Liverpool can't escape tonight's embarrassing beating.
Leipzig play this intense fast paced football where something is always happening every minute. Even a stable Liverpool with Matip and Gomez at the back might not keep up.

Nonetheless, Champions League has it's only spirit. League football yato si UCL so anything can happen.

Rational me is going to say Leipzig 6 - 3 Liverpool. The part of me that wants Liverpool to win by miracle will say Liverpool 2-1 Leipzig

heniford2:
so nice piece but if my brothers wife did this to me is war with her in the family as a whole because she will never have peace until she apologies full stop

I can just imagine what would have happened assuming OP dished out the food she (the sister in law) prepared by herself to his friend ... His luggage would have been at the entrance gate to their estate.. .

All we wanted for them is peace my brother nothing more..

what I disliked in some people's attitude here on Nairaland is that sometimes they seems good at playing 'culture card' when it suits them perfectly.. like in this case, majority have already became Europeans all of a sudden, They have started forming nuclear family on OP.. they have seen OP as someone who has committed a great taboo by staying with his married Elder brother... But did the African culture permits that? that's a question for another day...

But when situation shifts bases, and sh!t hits the roof in a relationship between married couple,, the same people dishing out Europeans style advise; that were forming nuclear family will be like why not call his family, don't u have uncle, sister, bla bla bla..They just remembered African culture when it feels convenient...It's just annoying..

Hundredfold4lif:
You are a child!
Ask your brother to give you your portion of your joint business venture with him.
Then get out of that house immediately.
You will reap what you sow dear.
You even have the guts to enter her Kitchen, cook and serve a stranger! Are you out of your senses?
And some thoughtless kids acting like men here are clapping for you.
I married at 23 years. Definitely you are above this age. If not, then you are a suspect to be fighting a legally married in her matrimonial home. What?
Your types are those who depend on their family members and always complain that they are not being treated well even when they keep on blowing investment funds given them to fend for themselves.
PLEASE, PLEASE, AND PLEASE, PREPARE AND LEAVE THE HOUSE AND LET YOUR BROTHER AND HIS WIFE REST AND ENJOY THEIR MARRIAGE BECAUSE I CAN SENSE THAT YOUR BROTHER IS NOT MAN ENOUGH TO HAVE SPOKEN THE DIVINE TRUTH TO YOU.

I think you were too hash on the OP... Based on your marriage experiences, you should have known that there were so many dotted lines scattered around the story line that begged to be filled/ answered before passing your hasty judgement..

Besides, where you implying that if the young man was living with his brother alone in that house before his brother married the lady in question, he has no right to enter inside the same kitchen he has been using for years and cook?...Also in a normal situation where there are foodstuffs and all in the house, what's the big deal about OP entering into the kitchen, cooking and serving a friend?... He would have been faulted assuming he served food the sister inlaw cooked and prepared by herself to a friend... Besides since when have it become a big taboo in Nigeria for a brother to leave in the same house with his brother...

Also telling him he will reap what he has sown without getting all the answers to solve the puzzle and telling him that you were 23 when you got married was uncalled for.. it was your choice,..you were mentally and financially prepared to get married @23... no one forced you to and it's not compulsory he must get marry at 23... Advise him on what will bring Peace and lasting solution in a cordial manner without acting as if you were mad at someone or frustrated because u got married at 23.. just saying..

Muhylonaire007:
Hypocrites

weyreypey:
Nigerians are not smiling

Angelluvy:
Hey, I don't have time to waste on your interpretation.

Does the @op look like someone who wants to commit suicide to you? I don't think so. Anyone who wants to commit suicide wouldn't have the time to post his/her story online. For posting, it shows the person is depressed and need someone to help them out and if such person is verified, people may love to help.

Angelluvy:
This story look fake, but should it turn out true, I would love to talk to you @op