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The best thing to do for you OP is to summon the Nairaland Family Section Prayer warriors to flood your thread. They will remind you of the 5th or was it 6th commandment.?. "thou shall not commit adultery"

Then u will tell them how you can work your way out of that .. U even quoted a scripture about God hating divorce... I just feel sorry for u when the GOs, mama GOs and pickin GOs catch u.. They will use u for all the sermon they haven't preached all this lock down..
By the time they are through with u, u might be forced to be baptised here online

CallofDuty20:
Hope I'm not wrong in breaking all contact with him

Look...., anyone that is making you uncomfortable, U are free to break the contact. It doesn't matter what the sexual orientation is/ was...

Besides, Are u indirectly implying that a heterosexual individual has the right to make u feel uncomfortable?.. are u gonna tolerate heterosexual friends who are making your life a living hell?

Drop the label and break away from anyone who is making u feel uncomfortable. This is a free world.. (though after the corona..no one is free now )

Bro, I'm happy you knew what you wanted before you went into that union.. I'm glad too that your wife knows your stance on certain kind of body shape that u don't like... No matter how you present the issue here, some people will fault u.. due to the fact that it is a sensitive issue to them or to their loved ones.

If u are looking for a way to approach the subject, After she must have finished feeding the baby one beautiful day, tell her that she's the most wonderful mother in town.. Bring an old pictures of both of u.

Tell her that you are looking for this lady, can she help you locate her? She will understand

Encourage her, both of u should do it together.. Don't leave her to a solitary exercise/ fitness, it's boring for anyone who wants to remain on her comfort zone... Show that you are completely in support of her health and fitness wellbeing

isaacprinz:
Some miscreants here still fault the man after making a whole lot of sense, Nigerians are so indiscipline and they expect miracles. Simple order to obey in other to be safe yet they flaunt it. And we are shouting government this and that, how do you behave like animals and expect to be treated like humans.

The most annoying part was that most of them were graduates, some undergraduate yet.. They can't follow simple rule.. I guess it's in the country's DNA

They don't argue/ have misunderstanding and rushed to Social media.. They settle whatever difference between them there and then...

Divorce was a taboo.. For better or worse kind of marriage...they simply wanna die trying to salvage the little ' love' left or for the sake of the children.

One person compromises to be submissive for the sake of peace / harmony... Some times its the man who doesn't like talking, just allows the lady to take over.. some times it'sthe woman who feels that talking to her unreasonable husband will not bear much fruit, So for the sake of peace let's just ignore him..

Home wreckers were not much those days... only few town gossips.. and they were always warned to stay away from them.. but nowadays they are all over.. Teaching men how they are not man enough to take charge.. teaching women that if he doesn't have $200,000 in his bank account what are u doing there.. leave him...

No lie dictator test machine then that could confirm when a couple was cheating if asked for a polygraph test... So technology contributed a lot to failed marriages today.. Though it's not as if there was no cheating but tools to dictate it was not available so some spouse gets away with it....

Thank God he didn't die like Moses... seeing the property but did not enter to enjoy it ...

Just look at the lamentations going on here.

When it's time to do the right thing by voting the right person/ candidates , some decides to sell their votes for a bag of rice, cheap T-shirts with logo and a face-cap.. knowing very well that that bag of rice won't last for 4 years.

This is just part of wrong decisions that the citizens finds difficult to correct. Next election, the same mistake will still be repeated..

I just hope people remembers that it's not a matter of purchasing masks. Keeping it clean is equally extremely important..

I hope guidelines has been given on how to maintain the personal face mask... If not, people should Google it..

Oh God!! I wish his pictures were not posted indiscriminately like this Considering the kidnap cases around the country.. is that not a cheap giveaway?

bukatyne:
Chillax, the story has been recycled hundreds of times.

The part two is coming out soon.

To be honest, I heard it in 2014 if my memory serves me right.

Develop a look... Some kids understands that as early as 3.. That disappointing / disapproving looks that doesn't warrant beating/ scolding
When he/she looks at u, they understand quickly.. trust me they do...

I like your story OP... at least it's more original than the ones that has been showing up lately on family section due to this corona locks down / safe distancing boredom.. where everyone is bringing in their writing skills, they sit, write friction and said that it was real...

At least you wanted to vent your anger on your family issues.. there are ways to do that here on Nairn land... create a diary, post it and any one that wants to read can read it..

A lot of folks came from a 'dysfunctional' family. You will notice them on a faceless forum like this very easily with how they comport themselves, how easy it was for them to attack because that has always been the best defence even when the situation doesn't warrant it, how they throw insults to one's parents / family without provocations because they have no regards for there's.. So u are not alone in that angle/ area...

I must tell you though that going to what you tagged worst secondary school in the community is not what makes an individual a failure rather it should have been a challenge to u to say that u graduated from there and look at how nice things turned out for u.. please take it as a challenge. That can also inspire some kids that found themselves in your situation.

I can't say I have passed through what you were passing through now... I guess the psychological effect might be killing u.. I just have to say that if u can forgive your father, please do that. Because that might be the only way he was raised too..he doesn't know any better.. as u can see, your siblings have started going through that direction of treating their spouse with disrespect just the way your father was doing...

Forgive him and others that offended u for your own peace. U don't need to carry excess baggage in your heart...Wishing you the best man...

9jaRealist:
Because FMC Abeokuta is NOT a Covid treatment center...
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Every health facilities is taking a precaution now. Covid-19 treatment centre or not.. a lot of patients shows the symptoms In a normal hospital.if the staffs were not wearing the proper kits, u can imagine

jeromedee:
What has poverty rate got to do with this? Too many idiots roaming Nairaland nowadays.

Here’s Health workers at NYC hospital wearing trash bags as protection due to shortage of PPE.

Did you see the difference between those two pictures? Did u see part of the body of the Nigerian health workers? Did you see any part of your NYC health workers body exposed.. please take a look at it again and tell us what you think

If nurses were like this, why won't the patients abscond from treatment centres

bukatyne:
After the 2nd wife has landed?

She should have said that's not what I meant...

I hate snakes but the skin pattern of this particular one looks cool

sassysure:
No be corona cause am na

See it as what it is and respond with that in mind, it will not zap you of any emotional energy

The thing do taya me

Another new registered account... make una continue.. "We like am".. All of u should just bring in your hidden writing skills ..

Corona, where ever you are, it won't be well with you.

I thought there was a long story that needed to be cut short

sisisioge:
Wow! A virgin girl went to be sleeping over at a guy's place! A guy you frequently make out with who was apparently getting too excited about eating your cookies tried to rape you this afternoon but somehow you were lucky to escape but still stayed over!

Please report him to the relevant authority and have it trashed out there....I hope they believe you! Being an introvert doesn't give you a license to being soft in the head biko! Whew! I'm sorry, so vexed!

In the middle of Social Distancing... I guess some people got no respect for CORONA..

Merciful77:
But u can still get d text book for bookshop.

.. the guy's post was really funny...

Love conquers all things

Love endures all things

Love simplifies all things

If u love her all those baggage will be overlooked.. that's my take on this... and make sure it's love not pity.. good luck

You called her a kid right? Then that's what she is. Kids picked up some habit as they are growing up. And they will drop it as time progresses. She is just 4.. a simple don't do that again is enough for now..

I got a niece way back that picks her nose, what ever she digs out she ate.. the first time I noticed that, I was paralysed. I couldn't shout, I couldn't spank her, I just looked at her, she was just 5..
I went straight to her mother and inform her to keep an eye on her.. She's a teenager now, if u remind her of it now, she might not talk to you for weeks

This sounds like a corona virus story that was effortlessly written due to u know what the world is facing right? Mr. boredom. Let us say it is true..She said she was raped today right?

I just want to know

<<< what does social distancing mean to Nigerians? The government said stay where you are and In the middle of lock down, u moved in to a boy's house, As what? ... are u mad?

<<<< Why are the country/ citizens not taking this pandemic really serious?


<<<< You even said he left and came back.. left to where? In this lock down that warrants no movement? Maybe lock down means different thing to different countries... and the rules were different I don't know..

<<<< How did you even get to his house in the middle of all these pandemic with your luggage? As an adult what does social distancing mean to you? I'm just tired of little disobedient brats ... who feel cutting corners is the ideal thing and obeying rules means that they are dull..

<<<< I can't even tell you that rape is wrong because we all know is the most disgusting thing that could ever happen to a human being. My anger is just on u dear who refused to obey the law... If u missed him, u Skype, u SMS, u call... assuming there were strictly 'no movement' enforced, I wouldn't have faulted u one bit.. Get him arrested if u like....

Free election rice don't finish, cheap election shirt and cap Don fade... Eyes come dey clear small small... but e never clear finish sha

This one might not be corona.. it could be heart break based on his childhood friends demise

summerset:
Nothing wrong about this platform,found the love of my life here, but on a neutral ground sha,contacted each other based on a situation and the rest they say is history.

Ohhhh!!!!! Congratulations... That's a positive feedback..

darknez:
...and when did the wife become "the young girl"?

You stressed that u were sympathetic toward the wife.. u felt the lady was thinking on how the husband gets to know when the niece needed an underwear..

so I was trying to make u understand that the man buys for his kids and also use that opportunity to give money to the wife to do the same for the girl which didn't happen

But of course u misunderstood the whole thing and was ready for war.. as if someone provoked you.. a classless attitude that shouldn't happen while online

Billionsclub:
The right thing done in the wrong way is wrong. U did the right thing in a wrong way. U could have taken both your wife,kids and niece together to buy the things. When you get there , tell everyone to pick, you don't have to give your wife the money. After they pick, you pay directly. Next time please do this. Just apologise to her.

Just apologise to her? ? For implying that he was a pedophile?

Lord please give me strength....

I can't read this kind of thing anymore...

darknez:
Lol.

If I have a daughter that is up to 15 years old, I do not think I will be the one to buy underwear for her. Either my wife does it or better still, she buys it herself. If I won't do it for a daughter of that age then I will not for a niece.

I am not saying it is a bad practice when your mind is clean but it is just odd to me. I think a 15-year-old can buy those things herself. I sympathise with your wife though, probably she is thinking how you knew her niece needed underwears

Anyways, since she does not like it then let the young girl buy her underwear herself.

Did u read the part where he gave her money to buy stuffs like that for the niece and she didn't?