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Monaboo:
To get her Nigerian Permit, she needs to meet up with the following criteria's

1) She needs to write WASSCE and have nothing less than a B2 in English Language.

2) She also needs to learn Pidgin English and speak it fluently becos she would be tested on it on the day of her Nigerian Visa interview.

3) She needs have POF of nothing less than N500M in her account. We don't want foreign beggars roaming the streets of Nigeria.

Lol 😂.

The issue with Nigeria is skill and strategy .
They are all average . I mean - Who on the team is a marque name on their team. Besides the dude that scores goals how does he get the ball if he isn’t given to him.
Nigeria and Poland are like 5/6. Don’t rely on individual skills but play as a team . That’s what made 1994 great.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Yes & No.
Yes, you could have just taken it along with you back.
No, why take it when you wouldn’t eat it . That would be a waste.

Paracetamol01:
can we just give it a try ?

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You need to get a Mod. I don’t know any.

It’s not like you’d know if done well.

Paracetamol01:
we should call for a protest on this forum

It won’t push the needle . It’s a known fact that we react differently.

YourBestWriter:
During my nysc, there was this ss2 student that was trying everything possible to have sex with me. I thought it was teenage hormone, but then I discover that she was 21 years old.

Unfortunately for her, I held reputable positions, and also, I am not easily attracted to anything on uniforms whether student or nurse or police.

My fellow corps members however never mind as they took turn to sleep with students both teenage or adult. The students throw themselves on these corpers that I sometimes wonder what parents are doing. But later i discovered that some parents even want their children to sleep with corpers. lol

Infact, after everything i saw during nysc, I began to suspect every corper I see on the road as ashawo. lol

Say the truth and shame the devil. Did you eat the forbidden fruit during your nysc?

That’s why you failed Jeopardy?
Correct question is
How many did you sleep with ?

Unless the Pastor works in the gift of prophecy then no. Not all Pastor work In that gift .
He that findeth a wife …..
The best way from experience is to make sure the Pastor or designated authority at least meet with two of you to make sure you are compatible. He would be an independent observer and give you his honest opinion. I know of some pastors who have refused to marry a couple because it’s obvious they have issues while other pastor would do it for them.

Paracetamol01:
@Seun Osiwa , this question is personally directed to you...
Why is the Muslim section been coded and christian section not coded

I agree - I find it to be the highest hypocrisy.
But I bet you N10k nothing will be done about it .

bamvik:
I need an illustration or an example of these passage from bible scholars.

"Psalms 23:5: "Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies"

David Simply means that God has honoured him in the midst of his enemies. Despite those who have a negative report about him or working against him . He is favoured by God. I’ll bless who I will bless and curse whoever I want.
To personalize it - Despite those who are against your promotion at work . You are honoured .

wildernessVoice:
How long shall we continue to rejoice in iniquity as a Nation....?
When are we getting it right...?

That time don pass.

It’s the way forward .. it’s tough but for democracy sake you have to . Find a way to do so and galvanize the troops for 2027.

smartr:
Pls I'm preparing for my Court Registry Wedding, I want to know the costs and requirements of Ikeja Registry.

If you have the info, pls share...

Congrats man … wise decision .

jarmy:
I have a little poultry and my wife helps me to sell the eggs within the neighborhood.

She insisted that I must pay her 100 naira for every crate she sells. I said she should accept 50 naira but she refused and said I should sell my eggs myself.

My people is this normal?

Each relationship different . I’ll tell you a personal story .
My SO. Works and is a professional so money isn’t the issue . However, due to the fact that I have a side hustle, I can’t do some house chores like doctors appointments or take out the trash or make meals on my designated days. Or even wash the dishes so what I do is I pay her a certain amount of money to compensate when side hustle clashes. She is happy and so am I .

Cajole her that profit needs to be reinvested in the business and to take the N50. Or N75
It isn’t that she doesn’t love you but you pay yourself and don’t pay her . She works for you yet you don’t pay her like a worker. It’s also a way for her to have some financial liberty to get something for her family or herself.
So to answer your question - in my opinion it is.

Adasun:
I will try and make this story short and I need your advice please...


I lost my dad March this year... His death was not natural but I won't bore you with details.

We did the burial rights and I move back to school.before I left, I noticed my brother who is 14yrs have this spiritual paranoia...he suspect many who came for condolences as if they were coming to attack...

I calm him down during those period and let him know that nothing is after him or us.

I left, only for my mum to call me that something is not right with my bro... He talks to himself, seems lost sometimes and have little to no regards for anyone.

They have taken him to many spiritual house and they still point to the person responsible for my dad's death- a neighbor.

This boy hates mum for no reason and often said she is not her mother.he sometimes threatened to kidnapped his immediate Younger brother or slap his elder sister.

He becomes aggressive and most painful part of it all right now is that he steal.

Meat, money.he just develop the habit of stealing. I have not visited home since I left but I need your advice. As the first born, I need to take some drastic step.

How do I handle thia?spiritual, psychological and any way possible to retrieve my Lovely lad, such advice is most welcome.

Thanks...

Yaba left - Classic Bipolar disorder. Leave whatever you are doing and have him checked out before he does something worse and he is killed on the streets.

Give me a financial stable woman who is 45 years old .( 10 or 15 years older ) Over the millennial teens any day. Usually they don’t have time for sex so whatever transpired in their heyday - the vagina is tight as new. As long as she understands who is the man in the house despite the age difference we will be fine.

brain54:
Ready or not…

Here I come

popweezy:
She just called me and told me she has been missing her period for the past few days

I'm damn depressed rytnow

Pls what is the next thing?? I'm not ready to be a father

I’d usually have no sympathy for such people . If you aren’t ready to be a father and the woman isn’t using contraceptives then use a rubber.

Answer - ask to see her and discuss the pros and cons of keeping the child.
You are not ready - she can be a single mum , give up child for adoption or terminate preg.
Communication is key . Keep talking with her .

kestolove95:
It's not her fault

It’s her fault. You don’t spend what isn’t yours .

I like this dude .
For those of you who don’t understand.
People who cannot afford bail for a variety of offences are jailed. Some of the offence could be pay 1m or rot in jail for 6 months.

For instance you ( yes you reading this ) owe my 1m . I take you to court and judge says judgement to me . You don’t have the money . Judge says you’ll be reminded to jail till you pay the money . It is such cases.

Testiebobo:
All my village people are already against me(you should understand those i am reffering to)
I really love Helen, not because she is beautiful but because she behaves like me. We got something in common. But she bi ibo. I hate yoruba tribalistic behaviours towards the ibos. What should i do? Should i go ahead or withdraw?

I don’t understand you.
Are yoruba before you are a man. Or she her tribe .
If you are economically stable - then to hell with them. But if you are dependent on one uncle or the other then she will not know peace.

What happens if you two were abroad - would you cower to dissenting voices. She makes you happy go for it .!

NEWBIN:
If the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, what is the way to a woman's heart?

Thanks

Words - adoration. Praise her , encourage her, call her my Queen .

marlow1962:
My child lol, senior man with pikin na who you dy call child 😂
Omo I don leave marriage fr them.

Lol 😂. How do you know he isn’t as old as methuselah 😅😅😅😅😅

I thought this thread would have grown my now with answers of
1. marriage na scam.
2. current economy

Banter1:
I'm older than you and I don't have beard. Note, not everyone is born to have it, learn to live with it.

Exactly. Not everyone will and some that have will loose early.

Testiebobo:
I feel discouraged to look at myself in the mirror, anytime i noticed that i dont have a single hair under my chin. Even someone that is sixteen years old is already having one. I dont feel ok. What could be the deficiency problem?

File Photo

Discouraged ke…
Aren’t all those girls saying fine boy no pimples and rubbing their palms along your smooth baby face skin.
Or when you kiss, the girl won’t spit out facial hair from your moustache or kiss you at an angle while trying to avoid your prickly beard.

Not everyone will grow a beard my son. You’ll have pubic hair and hair under your armpits but facial hair it is not given to everyone.

There are lots of things to be discouraged about pls don’t add lack of facial hair to it.

Jewessgratitud3:
I just thought to share and again it's no bodys business what I share about myself here. I chose to do it and don't care if it sits well with anyone or not. My life, my share .

I'm sharing this just to let some ladies know that being a widower doesn't break a man and will not stop him from being an unrepentant cheat if he wants to. I used to think a widower will be more responsible and loyal to one woman considering the fact that he's now a second hand value bachelor and the death of his former wife will make him get closer and more committed to his spouse, home and family at large but I was wrong cos after my experience with one, I realized men will always be cheat men.

This happened in 2013 after staying away from relationships for a long time. So I joined Badoo ( it was the rave then, though I joined in 2012). A young man ( in his 40s then) chatted me up and I checked his profile. There he stated that he was looking for a lady for serious relationship and added he was a Christian. He was also looking very handsome and tall. We chatted and exchanged numbers.

When we got talking he told me he was a widower. It was hard to believe because he looked very young. He now told me he married very early. He went ahead and told me he has 6 children 👀👀👀. I didn't believe until he showed me their pics. 4 girls and two boys. He said the wife kept having children because she wanted a male child and died after giving birth to the last child, a male. She got home from the hospital after childbirth and started bleeding immediately and was rushed back to the hospital but never made it back. Meanwhile he was not in the country when this happened.

This made me have compassion and developed feelings for him. After a few months of inviting me over, I finally agreed to visit after he assured me the elder sister is staying with him to look after the baby ( he was already a year then but was not walking). He never liked the boy because he was always saying the boy caused his wifes death and each time the baby boy sees him, he'll be screaming due to the way he looks at the baby and I'll be telling him to stop, teasing him that it's him the boy resembles. So when I visited for the first time, I was shocked at what I saw. He actually owns the house he was living in in Sango. He built it when the going was good but after the wife's death, he came back and stayed for a whole year without a job. He just got the job he was doing as a hotel manager when I met him and his take home was not good at all. So to maintain the big house was a challenge. He could barely feed his kids. Even the two older ones were not with him. They were living with his brother just to ease him of the burden. when the sister saw me, she got angry and told him that he has not finished taking care of his children he's bringing in another lady. He told me to ignore the sister and face him. If I go there, I'll cook and serve everybody because he was always complaining of not having money but sometimes he'll give me part of the money I used.

Initially the children didn't like me and he said I should be buying them snacks. So then if I close from work, I'll go and meet him at his office and we'll go home together. I bought snacks and the children reluctantly collected the snacks. He went to work on that Saturday and I gathered the children and started telling them stories. They began to come close. When he got back he drove all of us to a football viewing center and bought me pepper soup. I thought I had found the right man. I was even saying I don't need to birth any children since he already has six. We'll just stay with his own children ( lol . small girl sense). He would tell me no, that he wants me to give him a beautiful daughter like me.

Six months into the relationship, I noticed something in his room while he was away at work. I saw a foreign prison card in his jacket I now began to connect the dots. I remembered him saying he was away when the wife died and while she was pregnant, he had problem abroad. So she developed BP. He even told me he wasn't around when his house was built that the wife supervised the whole thing before he now had a problem but be never told me what the problem was. I then discovered with the prison card, he was prolly in jail all that time. I didn't ask him anything.

Later he started telling me there's this single mother that has been begging him to marry her and she buys him stuff. I was like marry her now afterall two of una na second hand value. He'll laugh and say God forbid. That he wants chassis. The lady buys him and his children stuff. At a point I told him to stop collecting the gift or risk our relationship. He promised to stop.

One day he was sleeping and i was just going through his phone ( I never used to do that) and saw "my love". My head sparked. I woke him up with a heavy slap and showed him, he started saying its you I love. I said no! Tell me who this Is.. then I began to cry because I just knew it was over. He started begging and called his Aunty into the room. The aunty said the person is a family. I said call her. He now called the number and an elderly woman picked and he started telling her that I'm crying my eyes out here because I saw a message he sent to her. The woman spoke with me but I wasn't convinced. Throughout that night, he played "please forgive me' Brian Adams. hmm.. feeling nostalgic now. I calmed down and we continued.


After some months my chairman sacked me because I refused to go out with him and told him I'm in a relationship. After I lost my job I reduced my visits because bus fare from mainland to Sango was quite expensive and he too could not sponsor my visits regularly due to so much financial responsibilities and since I had been the one doing it when I was working. It became a once in a while thing.

Then one day, he told me to come to his office let's go home that he has missed me. I asked him, do you have money he said we'll manage. This man did not tell me we were going by train ( chai things we do for love) from his office we set out to oshodi. This man put head for train lane. I said waaaat t... I almost went back but it was already getting dark. I entered train for the first time. See me shaking. He had to hold me before one man now stood up for me to sit. Because it's been a while I've been to the house, when we got home, the aunty said you'll not stay in one place. Today you carry this, tomorrow you carry another one. I told him what the sister said and he told me not to mind her. In my mind i was like... see this second wen I dey manage too wan dey play ... I kept asking until he now confessed that the Aunt was referring to the other single mother that the lady has been forcing herself on him but it's me he wants. There and then I zeroed my mind.

After that visit, as we were going that morning, we quarreled on the way because the vehicle we borded got spoilt plus I wasn't happy after hearing what the sister said. So I was just edgy that morning and blasted the driver and some of the passengers. He got angry and left after trying to get me off the bus and I refused, saying I should run after him cos he's running late for work. I was just looking at him. I didn't get down. I waited for him to go far, I now got down and took another route to my house.

I didn't call for a week and refused to pick his calls because whats the point killing myself over a widower with six children who has refused to stick with one woman. When I eventually picked, it was my guy ( now ex) who told me to pick in the bus that day we were going to camp and he was chyking me. Oga kept calling and as usual I ignored him but the sound was disturbing our conversation so my gy told me to pick and hear him out. I picked and he was crying and put all his children on the phone to beg me. He said they are missing me and one of them is sick. I said ok, I'll call you later. That was it. I blocked him. Went to Badoo and blocked him there in fact I deleted my Badoo account. Deleted his number and ended the whole thing..

Men will always be men

Modified

When I said all men are the same what I'm simply implying is, whether they are poor, rich, widower or handicapped they will still cheat or have that tendency to cheat. Take it or get lost!

A man's vulnerability doesn't stop him from exhibiting those bad habits (cheating and deception). They'll will always do that thing that make us call them meennnn... If you know what I mean and if you don't Gerrit, forget abourit. .

Thanks for sharing . I don’t think you were meant to marry . You were just a ray of sunshine to the kids and the man. Not to give up . Some relationships are a pass through phase.
What lessons learned…
1. Don’t sell yourself short.
2. Don’t compromise - you didn’t stop at single men bus stop or married man bus stop or windower with a kid but rather one with 6 kids. That’s a huge pendulum swing .

Hope you are doing alright now !

ggood:
See who talking , a certificate forger, a drug lord hippocampus balablu, Escobar time in Asorock are numbered

At the end of the day - the Supreme Court affirmed the election

I’ve got nothing but good things to say about the man. He appears young , intelligent, knows his job and getting it done.
I would hope that after a year he gets a bigger portfolio

guobe:
Ashawo lol

Crap so you did 👆😀. Confirmed bad man

Litmus:
Nigeria needs to invest in Nigeria. Instead of roads and train lines to Ivory Coast and Niger Republic respectively we need to ensure all of Nigeria is thoroughly served by roads and rail first. All of East Africa combined is not as populated as Nigeria so we needn't get angsty over their East Africa Union . Nigeria is viable on her own if we are serious and sincere with ourselves. Why build roads to Ivory Coast and coastal roads to Ghana? Don't we have enough of thire ugly faces ruining our gene pool? What can they do for Nigeria that we can't find in Nigeria if we made concerted effort instead of half-heartedly try then conveniently capitulate?

The interest that Nigeria leaders seem to have in other African nations is yet another reason why Nigeria desperately needs Records and databases for stuff such as births and deaths. We in Nigeria have no idea of the true birthplace or nationality of our leaders. Vote into power someone you believe is from the middle belt of Nigeria, not knowing he is really from Angola, you're going to be baffled why he wants to invest in glittering Train Line to luanda when half of all Nigerians wallow in the bush without light.

I have many times spoken to myself on the fact that it’s a pity our leaders can’t see beyond their nose with one eye closed . Can you imagine how many jobs and people would be employed by constructing our network of roads intercity ? Bricklayers, metal works, wood for scaffolding , diggers, architect etc and then maintaining the infrastructure every year etc. but no they want highways with no traffic lines to timbatu , no parks for kids to play , insecurity, improvised security parastatals .

Is04970:
What's with Umahi and concrete?
Asphalt is better and easier to maintain than concrete.

I scratch my head on this one. With our poor maintenance culture . Asphalt is better. You just scrap the top off , reheat and reapply every 2/3 years. With concrete , how do you patch ? You have to dig up a whole stretch of road and redo.