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lordm:
Fools. They think train is a car ba. Better avoid collision with trains at all cost

This is a simply solution. I don’t know this Ilupeju crossings but
1. Hire 4 personnel 2 12 hours shifts. Whenever they hear the train alarm signal . They literally stand with a sign saying stop till the train passes.

mariahAngel:
You'd do that to your own children?
What kind of lesson would you be teaching them?
Let me tell; children are very observant, and they know way more than you think.

They don’t care as long as they have eaten . And it’s good .
What kind of lesson is to be taught ?

coputa:
What if the kids tell their mother when she comes back.

Easy to explain - that you ordered it. Why stress yourself trying to make people happy in which the food might not be tasty and kids not want to eat

UnfairLife7:
you don't have sense. So na every man be like you?

rubbish

I know right !

Economist in the house correct me.
E-Naira simply means etransfer naira . So instead of withdrawing physical cash - transactions are carried out electronically.
Don’t you need a stable network for that ?
Plus in my opinion too many banks in Naija ?
Also you would need to limit withdrawal amounts?
Stop Naija from spraying money at parties. If you stop Naira they will just switch the USD.

Anyways I doubt the figures . It can’t be trusted

Blacklion3:
How did they know he is Nigerian.

He had tribal marks 😉

bottlewater1:
Thank you for this detailed explanation please what is the meaning of stock ?

Chicken stock otherwise known as Chicken Broth. The liquid that you get from boiling beef or chicken.

silibaba:
Belated Merry Xmas and a properous new year in advance to you all.

Please my wife travelled for the Xmas/new year celebration. Am left with my kids and they have been yelling into my ears that on new year day, is fried rice or nothing.

I know how to cook jollof/white rice. But you see this fried rice, I no sabi shiban.

Please great cooks in the house, I need you all to help me with the recipe as well as the steps involves before I spoil these boys year new day.

Thanks in anticipation.

Am typing on the go so please overlook any error(s)

Bro you have 2 options …

Option 1
Ask a side chic or female church member to make the food and present it like you cooked it .

Option 2
Order it and have it delivered.

FeliciaOja:
I meet him July this year, everything about him is cool. My only worry is his fanatical support for arsenal which I consider the worst club on earth.

He keeps disturbing me of how his club will win the league, but whenever they lose he becomes super depressed and aggressive.

We have talked about this many times and he has sworn to change.
But this night he came back very late and was making so much noise, shouting and yelling
Then I googled scores and saw that his club lost today

I can't take it anymore
He is not the first guy I have dated that loved football. His own is that when his club loss it affects him very bad.

I have even suggested he should stop supporting arsenal but he won't listen.
After this night rubbish he just displayed I'm thinking of calling it quits.

Am I overreacting??

Hi there,

I’ll start by saying your bf isn’t matured.

I am a huge New England Patriots fan and a fan of the English National Team. So much that I have yearly Super Bowl Party.

I even did a give away when we made it Euro final only for us to loose in the final against the people in blue. I was so happy when we traded Jorginho from Chelsea to Arsenal. ( I am a closet Chelsea fan ) because he scored the penalty against us ( England).

That said he has to learn to compartmentalize.

I recall during the Kobe Lakers years . I am a huge fan. I’ll be sitting down and my Gf then would say “ yes, I am happy the Lakers are loosing ” . I almost choked her and dragged her to drink water from the toilet bowl . I was brimming with anger 😡. Furious . Unapologetic. I said , would you get out of here before I do something I regret. This is life to me. It is life and death.
Same-thing when Patriots played Atlanta and we came back to win 34-28.

Just to say I am a huge sports fan.
That said , what I told my other gf was that instead of being insensitive to my plight . To give me some breathing room. I am hurt and I need time to heal . As a dude, I needed to remember that it is just a game and not to take it too serious .


It isn’t enough in my book to break up unless it becomes violent.

Sorry it’s long

Kk4:
Xiaomi, the world's third-largest smartphone company, has launched its first vehicle, the SU7, a sleek electric sedan. In lab testing, the Xiaomi SU7 claimed up to 800km of driving range and a 0-100km/h acceleration time of 2.78 seconds, thanks to its electric motors named after petrol engines.

Prices have yet to be announced, but Xiaomi CEO Lei Jun advised visitors at the automobile's Chinese debut to "show some respect for the technology behind the car."

Will you be buying this when they start exporting from next year 2024?

Yes I will but the issue is how fast can they get recharge stations and repairs up and running . Max km I get on a few gas is 544km so 800km is excellent

Impregnable101:
We've been together for 6 years and are blessed with a son. No matter how hard i tried to ignite the spark, it just wouldn't work! The fact that most of the wifely characteristics i believed sha had was a gimmicks and over the years, she did not improve in appearance, maturity (in terms of how she carries herself) & otherwise. I don't think I'll have a happy marriage with her.

Dude if everyone tried to ignite spark and failed and find their wife lack wifey characteristics and therefore left. What a world that would be ?
You make it seem like a job you can just leave with no consequences. In this case you have a 6 year old who sees both of you as heroes.

Listen I ain’t saying you shouldn’t be happy but common law union or marriage isn’t the same as a 30 day Amazon return policy where you can try an item out and return and get your money back.

You also nearing the famous 7 year itch in marriage. Which if you survive that it’s likely you’ll stay together longer.


That said who wants an unhappy union or marriage ? I certainly wouldn’t but you have to make sure you have the financial capital and count the non financial ramifications of your decision.
Leaving Someone because of her looks and personality is shallow and you will not find emotional support except with the “ red pill folks”

A union/marriage is work , a job . You both need to sit down and talk things out. Get a baby sitter and let it be the two of you . List out the things about her you’d want improvement and also write a list that she complained about you. But make sure it is said lovingly not like you are talking down at her !!

Do you help around the house ?
Do you help bathe and feed the kid and do some house chores so she can relax as well ?
Is she a career wife or home manager ? You’ll notice s a difference between them.
Do you compliment her on her hard work and beauty.
Do you both spend time together- watch Housewives of Atlanta or dance to music infront of your kid

I suppose you have made up your mind since you only have a 6 year old kid. I am guessing there has been a lack of intimacy or else she would have had another or is on the way ?

If you think the grass is greener on the other side- then what’s stopping you . But I’d rather you talk this through , if that fails get a marriage counselor , go to a marriage seminar.

Crucialgem:
Nairaland has successfully change my perspective about opposite sex with the constant bashing and critics of Nigerian girls and the notion of Alpha (red pill) males and simpleton (simps)

Backfoward before entering nairaland I used to dream of being so much in love with my dream woman and sacrificing all I could in my power for the sake of our love
But with all the thread of my girlfriend did this, my wife did this and that etc. my perspective has change big time

Do you guys think it a good thing so it can allow me make better decisions as regards relationship or it is bad thing that has mess me up mentally

You should filter comments you read here on NL. most people just talk rubbish behind a moniker but in person are completely different people.
There are some people who are sane in responding to comments you’d need to seek those people out . Las Las … be the best version of a dude you can be don’t let comments you read here change you .

letstalksense:
There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.

Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.

Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?

Pease what do you advise I do?

Thanks in advance.

Ok …. A few things I will need to assume.


1. Did you propose to her before camp ?
2. Did you start the process of introduction with her family ?
3. Do you two live together?

Without any formal event - she is as free as a bird. And so were you . Because you told her your plans doesnt mean it’s so . You said she called you . I’m sure she called you more than once yet you didn’t respond. If you both were chummy no way I wouldn’t call my babe or text her daily and often during the year away.

That said her excuse is flimsy but you need to understand the pressure of sex in an environment where you have a clean slate . Nobody knows you and you are in your prime sexually. If you haven’t read NYSC National Youth for Sex and Comfort you better read it /again . What happens in camp and during the service year is not easy. I can’t tell you how many ladies I ….. - some cases it simply because you , the spouse aren’t there , I see them vulnerable and take advantage. They need companionship and I am there. I loan them money , get water for them . Take them out once in a while . We play and laugh together.. sex just comes up .

All those couples who engage in long distance relationships- just ignore that fact or dance around the fact that their spouse is 100% faithful. I mean there is no love involved it’s just sex to satisfy an urge like drinking water to quench thirst. It doesn’t mean they want to quit the relationship.

What am I saying - forgive and work on relationships. Some people ask questions they shouldn’t - no way I am asking that questions because I don’t want to know the answer . If you think I’ll be faithful for 1 whole year when she’s away - nah I know myself.
If you stayed faithful for one whole year she was away then you can take the moral higher ground. But hurt as you may be - she was honest about it, it’s over we move on. Most relationships don’t develop outside NYSC. Just be careful of Okafor law - so make sure that dude isn’t in the same state as you guys are in or Locale.

If you still care about her … punish her however you want to - go make love to a side chick or visit a brothel and call it even.
Then proceed with steps to make it official.

Love they say covers a multitude of missteps.
My 2 cents .

RedMac:
Good evening nairalanders... This issue is one out of many bothering me in 2022...

Let me first of all apologize for all the evil things I have said about women being so cheap, hence the reason they fall into the hands of bad guys... cos am now guilty of a bad guy here

My previous relationship was just about crashing, in fact I was totally fed up with KATE, I vowed to end 2019 with her, and so it was... I never wanted to have any serious relationship with any lady until I have a sustainable financial source of income... I was doing fine without a girlfriend until this one wriggled her way into my life, thinking she have found love...

So me and this girl (in her late 20's) started dating deep into 2019 to 2020...

Truth is she was the one who toasted me, she would come to our house to charge phone's and the rest, from there things started happening... I felt whatever that's going on won't last long, but hell no, she just wanted true Love... Which I have been deceiving her with

By standard of wife material (she's a perfect example to the core), very caring and loving

her limitations is her status... Way too local and not up to my standard...

We started dating and the truth is that we both have different reasons for dating each other...

I decided to keep her because of the services I get from her as I must constantly oil my engine... I felt everything will die off naturally as my previous relationship has, now am hooked up...

I got to know her intention of marriage in 2020 during the lockdown, but since then i have been looking for ways to end everything with her, cos I have no intention of marrying her and I feel I have deceived her a lot, She sees me as who I am not... And my plain character have deceived her a lot...

She did no wrong loving me, her only offense was that she could not sense that am deceiving her... If she was up to my social status I would have married her but she is no where close to who I can present to my people as my wife...

I have been looking for ways to let her know am not ready to marry er... One taught am having is teaming up with a false prophet to tell er this guy (me) am not the guy for her... She really deserves the best in life, but I see myself as the wrong guy for her... She has never given me any reason to suspect she's dating another guy, all her attention is always on me

This year she's expecting our relationship to move to the next level... Like introduction and the rest

Experts in the house, how do I pull this off... I just don't want her to feel so bad towards me...

Help me!!!

1. Go at it straight forward - just tell her that you’d like to break up with her . You are scared of marriage and no longer love her . You have known for a few weeks . There is someone else.

2. Get into an argument and say you don’t love her anymore.


3. Unlock your phone and let her see a chat between you and an unknown girl professing your love .

Good luck .

luminouz:
The high population of scammers on this site made me skeptical about any sob story.

If there is proof, I might consider helping you. If not, I'm not helping anyone.

My thoughts as much … Nigerians can write 10 different scam and now with AI to check grammar without proof and pictures . I’ll pass

Countersam:
You can raise the money if we can have a date,. No need for you to ask for anything just ask for my address and location.

You’re a bad man 😂

You have provided vague request .
I mean if I loan you 300k what is my ROI ?
I could give you 30k after for each date we go on. So maybe in 6 weeks you’d have 150k .
Nobody who isn’t family is just going to give you 300k - that’s robbery

funkmrflexx:
I posted this topic last year about my ex

https://www.nairaland.com/7496982/ex-stalking-me-wife-social#119443340

This morning I woke up to an Instagram notification that she just liked my photo.

This is someone I broke up with because of her attitude and she started raining curses on my, telling me I'll never prosper or become anything good.
Fast forward 2 years down the line, my wife is pregnant with our first child, my business is doing very well, I'm about buying my first car.

My question is why can't she move on, from time to time she'll pop up on social media trying to search for me or my wife.

I'm thinking of calling her and warning her

Why are you threatening by an ex liking your photo . Isn’t she a person , a human being . Just focus on you and your family .

Naijagram:
Seeking your thoughts, everyone!!!

I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.

However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.

I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.

She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything.
Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.

I'm considering a breakup as a solution.

Has anyone navigated a similar situation?

I have 2 words for you .
BREAK UP !
Break up Already !

I keep saying …
Are you her father or uncle or brother ?
It is not your responsibility to give her money until you are married or in a common law relationship.
You are investing in someone who at anytime can move on with no ROI.

Any responsible lady would not just ask for money but would contribute as well.

For me the signs are there that she is not matured enough. I would leave and find someone else.

I’ll be offended that she couldn’t trust me with the information and I’ll be even more devastated that I could not account for her whereabouts while building .
But once she apologizes. I’ll help when and if I can and hope that such an occurrence will not happen

Quite easy … a lot of women would prefer to go nude if possible. That’s why when they get home they remove the bra and wear non restrictive clothes - mostly baggy or oversize clothes.
I’m this case she didn’t know the item would be that high up. Period.

eliwa47:
Dejumo Lewis was a great actor, just like Olu Jacobs.
May papa's soul rest in peace 🕊️🙏

Had the potential but I wouldn’t categorize them in the same breath. Olu was more accomplished

Not sure what @christucker grief is but he’s comment is one of many things I see that the bot should actually remove . It should say something like “ this comment has been removed for violating xxxxx “

That said Pa Dejumo had a specific laugh “ he he he he “ and the way he sat on the throne during the village headmaster was also comical . RIP

Animegirl:
Please, I want to know where on earth or who told men that single mothers can't get married even with 3 kids. Even a woman who is just 37 years old gave birth to twins with ease in my area.

I was shocked when I saw the wedding invitation from my Mum. Men say all sort of nonsense online while in the real world things happen differently.

Now I know alot of people here online are sadist, may God help us.

It is not the norm . Please don’t go and have 3 kids with different men and expect a saviour to marry you. Everyone with their unique and special love story.

DamnnNiggarr:
Do police have the jurisdiction to demand nor ask for driver's license?

I was highly frustrated today, while I was on my way rushing to an event to meet up with the 10:00 AM deadline for the event which I was also the chairman, a group of some fiercely-looking police officers flagged down my vehicle and I slowed down.

One of the officers came towards my vehicle, ordered me to come out from the car and started demanding for my driver's license. I was like, what is going on?

In as much as I am aware that police officers have taken it upon themselves to be asking people for their vehicle particulars, which is a good way of tracking stolen cars, they asked for it and I provided it, but asking people for their driver's license is what I think is out of the picture.

I tried to exercise my right as a citizen of the Federal Republic of Nigeria by briefly dragging it with them initially, which I think this issue of police asking for driver's license had raised dust sometime ago, but I realized that I'm still in Nigeria, last last, I settled with 5k, this is with abeg o, after several hours and minutes had gone by, I arrived the event place by 01:15 PM, an event slated for 10:00 AM.

like I said earlier, asking for car particulars from people by the police is good, but asking for driver's license is where I think the issue lies. I thought anything that has to do with checking of drivers license is strictly under the jurisdiction of the FRSC?

I'm feeling nothing but anger and cheated which gave rise to many questions going through my mind;
Who gave the police officers the jurisdiction to be asking for driver's license?
Is there any amended law(s) that granted the police force that power?

As I use this phrase “ dey play “ I hope you have calmed down.
My anger towards the police is x10 what you are feeling.
That said
To answer the question

Do the police have the right to check vehicle particles YES - to make sure it isn’t stolen and you have paid your fines and registration isn’t expired.


Do they have the right to check your drivers license - YES to make sure you legally able to drive and drive that type of vehicle.

We are the source of our frustration.

Blitzerz:
I don't know why the black man always quick to turn on his fellow poor man when is oppressed by those in authority instead of confronting the oppressors, they turn on, rob n attack their fellow men suffering.

Cowards

Aren’t the oppressors his fellow black men!

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Means her love for you is similar to a cup half empty. Not half full. If a person is in love they take the high road - I’m sorry dear if I offended you ! But her stance shows her love is waning .
I have a terrible anger- I can be in the house and not talk to you for 3-7 days all depending on when my anger wanes off.
What I would advice is a sit down and discuss how to resolve issues. Either she is wrong or right , the other person ought to say I am sorry it was not my intention.
However, you should also prepare to expect bit to get your way all the time

legitnow1:
Baby please come back home, we miss you.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtQ5f1xkdMc

I kinda like her the SA gal with nice feet

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
Growing up I always heard that colored hair was for lightskinned girls , one spirit inside me told me to do blonde hair and I went ahead and did it .

I guess this is my revenge look for losing my job , having no home and many more annoying things that happened inside this small December.
Sometimes a new hair can make you feel a little Berra



How do I look?

Sorry I can’t see you with the RED paint screaming !! Who paints wall red colour ?
Take another picture with a better background or put on something white or black

Jeon:
My own advice is that "make sure you hold on to God, when embarking on anything related to Kogi".

Pardon me ! But what does “ hold on to God “ mean practically ?

Testiebobo:
For instance, put yourself in a shoe of someone who has a very rich friend, but the friend is very kala and stingy. And you needed some cash like N50,000 to send to your hungry family who are not living in the same state as yours. But your rich friend lied to you that he does'nt have money. Fine! But the next day you saw him in a botique buying clothes and shoes worth N600,000 for a girl he just met 2weeks ago. What do you do to such a stingy friend?

I don’t see that stingy - you have presented a case which provides no benefit to him.
It’s not that you are going to club or you need it to visit a brother together or eat .
But rather people he doesn’t know !
Go and work and send your money to your family relatives . You sir are those siphoning and a leech on your rich friend.
You haven’t mentioned the times he came through to you. Get out bro !

Let’s put this fantasy to bed once for all.
Can you truly get over your Ex = Yes and No.

Some can and some cannot. It’s just the fact of life.
If you meet a man/woman who surpasses your EX in every way. Why are you looking back ?

If however you are in a relationship wherein you are treated worse than your past relationship of course you will yearn for the good old days.

I’ve met some ex’s and they are content with where they are - are happy for what we had but are not looking back. Will not meet in person .

Others are happy to meet …… ( I’ll leave it at that )

One size doesn’t fit all.