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Skillsmaster:
Good day nairalanders. Please come to my rescue. I will be brief as possible. Please ignore any grammatical or spelling error.
I lost my job (teaching job) two months to my wedding. About 10-15 of us lost our job in this same school, because of the economy of the country. I couldn't get any job after then, so I decided that I will postpone my wedding because of this but everyone except my younger brother kicked against it including my wife. I continued with the wedding plan believing that everything will fall in place soon. This is three months after my wedding, still no job. My wife has tried a lot, she has a shop and she has been very helpful all these while and I use to appreciate her for that. But of recent she started behaving somehow, which shows that she is tired of the situation and I am also tired of the situation. My wife told me that she can no longer continue like this. I was surprised because this is the same woman that was so angry when I told her about my plan to postpone the wedding. To be honest with you people, she has tried, I must commend her.
On my own side, I have searched for job to no avail, both teaching and non teaching. I reside in Abuja, I and one of my friends have trekked on many occasions submitting my own CV. Yet no call for interview. I am a mathematics teacher, before my marriage, I can't submit my CV in three to four schools without getting any invite for interview from two or all of them. But it is the opposite now.
I tried to get capital to even start a poultry farm because I am also good at that, but I couldn't get any. My wife is already "threatening the marriage" asking me to bring money which she knows that I don't have. She told me that she regrets this marriage and just saying all sort of things. She knows that I am not lazy. Even to get labourer work on site is not easy. I will stop here.

I am sorry for bothering you with this long write up. You can say anything you want to say but I will appreciate it if you can help out with a job. I want to have my home back. Thank you.

Note: I studied engineering. I worked as a site engineer for like two years before going into teaching.

How much is a maths teachers salary ?
How much does she make from the shop ?
Whats your monthly expenses?

Racoon:
All these rot originates from the ogas @ the top.

Exactly the problem was that she was caught in Camera . There’s no way an Oga doesn’t know about it .

Shows you’re immature.
She’s not a piece of meat.
In this instance she is right !
I know after your cum and refactory period kicks in you want nothing to do with sex . But take the effort to get her a glass of wine or water and give her peck and say thanks dear or babe.

Dude that’s a tough one. Choices Choices Choices.
I’ll take Coke as I can see the face and Coke .
Fanta could turn around and have no frontal

That’s why some people prefer a gentle used Tokunbo but I digress …

It’s all in communication and don’t be in a hurry .

Let your two index fingers lead the way. Once she is wet , continue with kissing and grabbing her breasts. Then guide your penis to the gateway . Once the head of your penis is in .. wait! Stay there and make sure you maintain eye contact. Ask if she is okay . Some may say yes , others may say no. Remove penis and apply gel or coco butter or Vaseline to the tip and once she is wet , guide your penis to the gateway and slowly inch in . You may not be able to get your full length in at first .
Encourage her even if you’re not fulfilled . Try again at 5am . Some times you have to open her up with your whole hand ( a first before you are able to enter - once in . Continue to thrust .

Good luck .

yomi007k:
What da heck is a gomoney?



...and who puts millions in a digital bank?

You see bank wey get structure and building there, you no put money.

Pls be patient. They will answer you when they are ready.

It’s actually in the name “ Go money “ your money has gone !!!

illicit:
Too bad

Why rape her?

Ouch , all that hard work down the drain . Must be Mental Health . He could have waited 2 more years . Now he spends 10+ at Osun state kirikiri

Ha ! What kind of condolences is that … an act of God wish !!!!!
Whoever writes his speech needs to be fired !

Uyi2017:
Let's put money aside, what else is your guy bring into your relationship?

Besides money the following
1. Leadership - On average men are better leaders.
2. Authority & discipline - ask kids on average who are they afraid of more ?
3. Protection - never heard of gang of female robbers. A man offers protection.
4. Security - many families rely on the man’s income. A lot of woman prefer to be home managers.
5. Love and Affection - Despite what feminism brings , it cannot be replaced with vibrator . Vibrator can’t say “ I love you dear “ or makes love to you the way you want .
6. Companionship - he that findeth a wife finds a good thing . So that you don’t spend your later days alone.
7. Encouragement - You need it … we both need support when the world decides to frown on us. You need someone to pick you up when you are down.

That doesn’t make sense. The people voted for you when you were in the opposition party. You then cross the carpet to the other party . Willingly. You should be forced out and contest election as an independent not as APC

I have been trying to say this for months. Oil oil oil . Dangote refinery .yes but it isn’t enough.
3bn Naira here , 5bn Naira there … fourth Mainland bridge …. Where is all this money to pay for these coming from ? A ship 5bn , VP house N25billion
How are we paying down our existing debt ?

officialwdhtv:
U.K. Based Nigerian Lady in shock after a white man asked to split bills while on a date.

Take a listen!!!

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZ-tEKZA0x4

I don’t need to listen
1. He doesn’t fancy a second date with you .

The issue I have is who invited whom out.
If an office lunch date. They you don’t split bill . Just happy you came prepared .

RandomFellow:
I never did it. Actually, I didn't know it was a thing. I was always in class during matric, convocation, vigil, praise night, aluta, name them. Everyday we won't have lectures or "shotgun" was always a blessing. An extra day to cover more grounds. The only convocation I attended was mine... Even that one, I didn't bring food (as a poor graduate). But thank God for life; today, we're feeding people on a steady.

Sounds like story . Besides the vigil and praise night prior to exams

eepeepook:
I no read, abeg. E too long.

Your loss ! It worth the time and effort

I used to call him the poor man version of Benny Hinn.
Or Benny Hinn ordered from wish.
However, I’ll leave him with God. He has offered a different side of God to the masses which is love .
Mountain of Fire remind us of God that sends thunderbolt and fire.
DOMI - God of faith
RCCG - acts of apostle

Happy Birthday Sir.

Obolor123454:
PREVIOUS THREAD https://www.nairaland.com/7931278/wife-travelling-without-consent/4#127349507
Hello,
I am writing to provide some clarifications following our earlier discussion under the mentioned headings. It has become necessary to address certain points for better understanding.

I've noticed some surprising comments, and I believe it might be attributed to cultural differences. I want to emphasize that I opened this account upon the request of a Nigerian friend who encouraged me to share my story.

My primary concern is the timing of the information about the occasion for which my spouse has been making preparations. The issue is not about mistrusting my brother; rather, it's about my spouse not sharing this information earlier.

The wedding she is attending is that of her old classmate's younger sister, a man whose name has been rarely mentioned in the ten years of our marriage. My surprise stems from the sudden revelation of her involvement in this event just a few days before the ceremony, despite the extensive preparations leading up to it. Like I said, I think she only mention the guy’s name just once when the guy had an accident. She just mentioned the accident and that was all.

Moreover, when she was even telling me of embarking on the journey, she just only said that she was attending a friend’s wedding without further details or explanation. She was merely informing me about it, because she already made all the arrangement to attend the wedding and has been discussing the issue with this same class mates for over 4 months without ever mentioning it to me, just only to inform me days to the occasion.

I hope these clarifications shed light on the specific points of concern. I appreciate your time.

Dude there is no way on either side that a spouse should embark on a trip without informing the other person so as to make the necessary adjustments.
There is a an obvious communication failure between the two of you . Which leads me to ask if the two of you are even intimate. Reason being even if you like a person - you bring the person along with the journey emotionally.
You cannot command a spouse to travel or not . That will only happen if she recognizes you as the head and if you are in Christian home.
I guess what I am trying to say is that she is keeping bad company and has decided the marriage isn’t worth it. I’ll even go on to say there are no kids yet in the family. So there is no attachment. It smells like she is having an emotional affair which will become physical once she leaves.
In any case - NL is not where you need to bring this Issue. Find a counselor or pastor and discuss all the other issues you have decided not to share with us.

nokspos:
I was taking uber worth 50k per week that year, there was this uber guy that i constantly use. The last place I went, the project didn't work, and the guy charged me 30k for one trip because it was outside Lagos (ogun state precisely). I paid for a car the second day and I learnt how to drive it by myself on that same day. I just asked the car dealer, where is drive?, where is acceleration? ... and the rest was history.

When I told the uber guy that I've bought a car, you can feel the sadness in his face, he stopped doing uber and went back to his boutique business.

I drove the car out of the dealer's compound like a drunk man. Everything was wrong with my driving, i can accelerate from zero to 50 in 5 second then break immediately.... but because it was my car, i was ready to risk it all and damage the car if worse comes to worse, but i wasn't ready to pay one kobo to any uber again.

6years after, i'm still alive

And that’s why I can’t drive on Nigerian roads . It’s who can. Drive the fastest to 100km . Don’t respect road lines or traffic

fitinwell:
Nigeria poor economy strategy
With all the outnumbered Chartered Accountants in Nigeria.....

So many Doctors, Professors..

And yet the economy is still in shambles...

The Price of Food commodities is enough reasons to Drive me crazy..

I see what you did there …

Woodshot:
At least now you know that you gonna live long... You can do all the risky things of life and still be alive...

Lol . But what happened if he changes the timeline ?

15 billion not 1 but 15billion for a place he would not vacant when he leaves office tomorrow! Yikes

Rexymania:
See as "graduate" spell 'rejoice' lol him say na "rejoys" LoL 😆

lol 😂… he never said he graduated in English language now !

I don’t believe NBS for a second. These are the same people that talked about employment. That if you are employed for 5 secs . You are employed.
I’ll pass

The6thAustralia:
Good evening nairalanders. With the current realities on ground, I will like to conduct a poll on nairaland.

Between #5000 Currency and #3000 Naira Currency, which do you think.

To vote for #5000 .... Reply with the word "gold"

To vote for #3000 ... Reply with the word "green"

I think it would be N5000 and N2000. N2000 would be common due to easily divisible .
N5,10,20,50 notes should be removed from circulation.
Lowest should be N100.

EDUECO:
Why not charge ₦‎60,000( ₦‎60,000 × 130 passengers will give ₦‎7,800,000)?

₦‎250,000 ×6 passengers just gave the airline ₦‎1,500,000

The manager of this airline is clueless just like a typical Nigerian politician!

But how much food and fuel will it cost due to the added weight.
250k is high but N60k doesn’t justify the cost to fly. Likely 120k-150k

Do we know for sure if she is just a policewoman or an aide.
That said she is a woman and a person first - the cloth can be put on and removed .
Whats the big deal with helping someone in need ??

How do you rape a girl to death ?
It’s not possible unless there are related trauma .

I’ll admit it was TLDR everything.
The Issue is Mental Illness.
You have been through a lot and how your mum had 5 kids with her underlying issue must be praised.
That said
1. She needs an intervention.

You need to go to the courts and get Power of Attorney. Where by you will be in charge of all monies coming to her. You give her a weekly stipend and ask for receipt. If she does well you make it every 2 weeks. This way you know where she is spending the money.

2. You need to get paid help - flushing toilet and cleaning up after herself , washing dishes , make up etc. you have been trying to do all yourself which is draining.

3. She will need medication- the hospital can help with that.

4. I hope you are getting the help and assistance from your wife as well. Do not stress yourself or rather over extend yourself.

Good luck

SharingIsLife:
I was on Facebook when someone posted this photo and added that "drinking garri will never be your portion".

I wonder why people think that drinking garri is a sign of economic hardship when you can actually spend more on it than on many other food types. As for me, no matter what happens - even if I am elected the Governor of Kogi State
- I can never stop enjoying "Otto" with gnut and milk.

Or, could this be a queer taste I acquired from attending a boarding school? Who else is with me on loving this food?

Meanwhile, kindly share a guy name you have for seaped garri in your part of the world. As for me, in my boarding school, we called it "Otto" and we practiced "soak and travel" to add value to it.

I’ve paid my dues … I ain’t drinking that again unless it’s by choice. At this point Never.

jesusjnr2020:
Will A Sinner Who Pays Tithe Make Heaven?

If we go by the teachings of Jesus, he certainly won't make heaven.

Jesus said "unless you repent, you shall likewise perish!" Luke 13:13.

He also said no sinner shall make it into heaven. Matthew 13:41.

So do not deceived by those church leaders who preach tithing above the most important things in the law, such as, repentance of sins, that have made many sinners in the church think that it is more important to pay tithes than to turn away from their sinful ways.

They are blind leaders of the blind just as the Pharisees in the days of Jesus who did the same thing, but Jesus called them the "children of hell" regardless of their paying of tithes because inwardly they were full of iniquity. Matthew 13:15,28

So although paying of tithes is a good thing, if you don't repent of your sins, it cannot save you from hell!

You need to repent of your sins!

God bless.

You can’t buy salvation. So keep your money .
But that begs to ask - what’s your definition of a sinner ? Have you accepted Jesus as your Lord and saviour ?

codedgalaxy:
Are there any hidden benefit's for sitting behind at a gathering, especially in a church.
Its quite baffling to see people who on a daily basis make prophetic declarations like, 'i am the head and not the tail",
" i shall be a leader in my generation" but, when they get to church they run away from the front row seats lol. How do you lead from the back?
.
Which begs the question,
" why do people like sitting behind ?

As an introvert I sit at the back because of the following
1. I’d rather not be seen .
2. I don’t like to handshake a lot of people.
3. Dont want to socialize
4. Don’t want to be distracted
5. Want to be first or among the first out of the church.
6. Need to beat traffic