₦airaland Forum

It’s his constitutional right. Plus his own money and time.

The $460,000 has been explained . If the FBI cant find anything then you are innocent.

On the school records and NYSC are the only basis the supreme court could overturn. But Atiku needs to get the lower court in the US to grant access to the school record.

Why all this wasn’t resolved prior to inauguration is still battling and surprising.
This is the time when people ought to heal and come together as a nation.

With emoji I say it everyday.
To the kids all the time .

Shouldn’t this have been discussed prior to marriage ?
I mean she never stayed over for the weekend ?
Is it only stew /soup you are giving her money for .
You take care of school fees , accommodation and let her take care of feeding , clothes and foodstuff.

crossfm:
Hehehe.

Everything na by force by Nigeria police force.

They should learn how to use diplomacy.

Isn’t in their DNA. All they had to do was make sure people and cars could pass not harass and arrest

LaSenior:
see you wey I dey plan to apologize for calling you lamba you don involve my linage join

As you don involve my linage now I hope it makes you feel better

Lol 😂

My regret to this day from California to Nigeria 1986

The letter is fake and forgery .. know this and know peace 😜

NaijaRealtor:
1. Right from when she was about three years old, she would always pray for me to make it so she can come stay with me.

2. Been married for like 7 years and we have 3 kids. My wife was on my neck to bring my niece to come stay with us so she can assist with helping to look after the kids once they all return from school.

3. Because I know how many ladies treat children that aren't theirs, I refused to bring my niece over. So after much pressure from my wife, I approached my sister and her husband and pleaded to allow me train her as she'd always prayed.

4. Weeks after her arrival, my wife started complaining about her attitude and stuff. I refused to yield to my wife's suggestions that I take my niece back. It almost caused quarrel between us.

I felt it was too early to judge her. She's just 12 years old.

Her Attitudes:

A. She would fold and keep pants stained with my 1 year old poop in the laundry basket until it starts bringing out maggots, then we would search the whole house for the source of the foul smell until we find it and throw away affected clothes, disinfect the house and all.

B. She, yesterday wiped my 6 years old son with iron buckle on the belt and his head nearly burst open. He complained of severe headache and we are still treating him.

C. Final straw was, while we were in the office today, my 6 years old started to throw up. He was sick. This girl just laid on the couch and instructed a 6 years old to go fetch the broom, mopping stick and packer to clean the mess.

My son was very weak, but he went to fetch these items and cleaning the vomit. Because he was very sick, he kept on throwing up and cleaning at the same time. All these while, this girl laid there relaxing until my wife came home and washed my son up and cleaned the floor.

When I came back this evening and learnt about the stuff, I quietly asked her why she'd behaved like that and she said it was nothing.

I really don't know whether to let her stay while I try to coach her or take her back to her parents.

I seriously need advice.

Sorry for the long epistle.

Dude what more do you need to send your niece packing with tf . She clearly doesn’t want to be there. She not a housemaid. You actually increased the number of kids from 3 to 4.
Must she “accidentally” kill one of your children ?
It would be best for you to hire a professional nanny that works 9-5pm to help you guys out .
Millennials are not the same as yesteryears.

Originalsly:
Don't you think a project should be completed before being commissioned? Was this part of the Phase One plan? ... to use diesel motors to drag the electric cars? I can't believe someone will support this backwardness ... and worse... try to defend it.

I tire my brother !

Why not wait for everything to be fully functional.
This is a head scratcher why the rush ? Why must everything get k-leg

oglalasioux:
The black man can’t handle anything. Tell me one thing the black man can do;

Ghana gives cocoa to the world but can’t produce chocolate.

Nigeria has the best crude oil in the world but can’t refine even a litre of petroleum products.

The black man has a big problem.

The black African man *

TyroneP:
You know all those stories you read online and you say, ‘eiyahh, stories that touch.” Hmm, my sister, that is my story, o!

This man, yes, I will refer to him as this man. When I met him years back, I was already working and driving a small car, you know those Picantos that flooded Lagos in those days? Yes, I was one of those who owned one. I was lucky to have landed a good job but aside from that, na sharp Ibo babe I be na, I know how to do market well.
I started a shuttle bus business on the side; for a church. I got my younger brother to run it for me. After about two years, we got another one; at this time, my husband and I had begun to court, he was doing business in Dubai then.
Then Dubai was a very hot destination for Nigerians and I honestly thought his business was doing good.

What was he doing? Buying and selling na? What else? All kinds of stuff; computer parts, female wears…stuff, sha!
Ok, when the matter got to the point of Marriage, he went to know my people in the village. They met with his, you know the rest how these things are, we had our Igba kwu and church. A few years later the kids began to come, we have five children!
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!

To be honest, I began to suspect he wasn’t doing genuine business shortly after we got married. He was dodgy about certain things, certain monies coming in, you know, I would ask him for certain papers and he was quite dodgy about them. I decided to mind my own business, after all he had been doing his thing before we met, so which one be my own?
I also knew I had to separate my business from him. I continued to use my maiden name in all my transactions on my own business.

Then he ran into customs wahala in Dubai, his goods were seized and that marked the end of things for him. Naturally as his wife, I encouraged him to be positive, I told him he had to get the right papers, organize his business in such a way that he would not raise red flags every time he passes through customs.
At that time, my job and businesses were thriving, I had five buses in my fleet, I had two schools and the church as clients; also, I had already bought a land from doing cooperative in my office.

Now, that land was bought with the mind that at least, I would be able to give my sons something to inherit. Land is a surer investment; transport business is good but buses always run down, break down, need fixing with you spending money…you get?
So, I first got a piece of land which I bought in my maiden name. That one became wahala for oga at home. He hala me tire, we had long quarrels. He wanted me to put his name on the papers for the land, me kwa, I refused, instead I put the name of my first son; we have three boys and two girls.

I then purchased a second land, again I used my second son’s name….I was just doing business as per say, e dey my blood and this job may not last. I wanted something to retire to as well; I am not the type of woman who waits for a man to provide everything for her and in a way, yes, I wanted to support my husband’s hustle, if he was unable to provide for us, would I fold my arms but no bi say make I kuku carry the load of provision for my head.

But even before the wahala of his business, I was paying school fees, rent, fueling our gen, paying house helps, lesson teacher, driver…Nne, I was Mrs Man in the house o!
Things got bad and my husband just became a degenerate!
You know, he would faff around and go to the club in the evening and come back at past 3am! Biko which kind wahala be dis?
So, I decided to help out, na, isn’t that what a good wife should do?
I swear, I regret it to date!

What did I do? I asked my brother, who I run the businesses with, I mean the one who manages the fleet of buses and over sees the new business we began, to allow my husband to join him, so at least he would have a sense of responsibility, instead of him parading night clubs like a male prostitute!
Abi? As he goes to clubs, no bi my money e dey go spend there?

Husband joined my brother and after a few weeks, na so so complain e dey complain; my brother did this, my brother did that, wahala every day… ol Gehl, I had to ask my brother to leave!
Because the quarrels were everyday and for my peace of mind, I just begged my brother, biko move to the other things we are doing; I asked him to focus fully on the nylon business we had just begun because all I heard every day was my husband complaining and my brother calling to tell me to tell my husband to back off!

Hummn. My sister like I told you, I still had my job and I had five children to raise, so my mind was most times not on the bus business or nylon business.
Then under my husband, who claimed he was helping me save cost that my brother was squandering, the buses would develop fault more often than before; yes, during my brother’s time, the buses too had problems, so it wasn’t a new thing for me.

The difference was that the cost of maintenance skyrocketed! My husband fired the old drivers and hired new ones then he would bring mechanics and his new drivers to me and they would complain about this and that and ask me to bring huge sums of money. At first, I would just sign the cheques for payment of these parts but after like six months, I began to document the things being repaired.
It was just on a hunch; I discovered I was being fleeced by the drivers and mechanics…they were fixing the same things they claimed had been fixed earlier.

Na every six months dem dey repair fuel pump? Gear box? Shocks?
I vexed, one day, I accused one of them of being a thief and cursed him and told him because of this thing he did to me God would punish him. Do you know what the man told me? He said, ‘Madam, na your husband dey do am, na hin tell us to increase price then he will pocket it!’
Nne, I shock but to be sincere, I no too shock because my brother had said the same thing months back.
The driver dropped the bus key and stopped working for us.
So, I had to call my brother, I told him and he told me some of the drivers had called him to tell him the same thing but that he didn’t want to ruin my marriage so he kept quiet after the first time he told me.

Chineke! I said which marriage? Marriage that I had been the one managing since the day we got married. I paid the rents, paid the hospital bills for delivery of all five children, paid the maids, the drivers, bought the land and…and yet he squanders what he gets on ashis at clubs! Abi you think I don’t know that he meets with ashis? Or is he meeting his aunties at the club?
Biko shift o!

I told my brother, enough is enough!
So, I am telling you the same, I no do again… to your tent o Israel!

Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahoo-yahoo/

You got good Peju with the last sentence. I should have know man it was too good to be real.
But I’ll buy the book 😉

tinsel:
I don't understand you. So you expect her to keep quiet after the cousin FIRST released the disgusting video? Who is more to blame? Do you think Onochie would have bothered to release that piece if the cousin had not released that humiliating video? I am sure you even mocked her in that video thread. The kids who litter here at times get very angry.

I was confused when I assumed you were talking in the 3rd person. Your moniker Onochie

LoveUdie:
Pastor Bisi Adewale

Lots of Men are making mistakes in their Marriages, this is making life difficult for their wives and Children. We need to examine this and tutor all Men to behave better.

Here, I will be exposing 8 Mistakes of Many Men in Marriage:

1) SLAVE-WIFE MENTALITY: It’s not funny to know that lots of Men see women as slave, servants or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing but sex, baby making, house chores and cooking. They operate with that kind of mentality with their wives. Many believe a wife should only be seen not heard, it’s really funny the way some men treats heir wives.

2) PUTTING FAMILY OVER WIVES:
Lots of African Men are fond of this, they put their extended family first, they even make their wives to slave for their extended family members. Some beat or even divorce their wives because of their siblings. This is totally wrong. It’s madness to allow your family Members who are in their own Marriage to destroy yours, it’s high level of foolishness to allow your siblings to take over your marriage.

3) SPERM DONOR MENTALITY: Lots of men are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages, apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant they have no other roles in Child bearing and rearing. Whenever babies cries, It’s very common to hear Nigerian men saying, come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?,most of the time only women attends Children parties in School,only mothers attend PTA meetings and many other events in School, Men thinks they are too busy to do that what a mistake?

4) CLASS TEACHER ATTITUDE: Lots of Men believes their wives have nothing to offer, they believe they are wiser, stronger and better than their wives. So they develop Class teacher mentality, whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives. To them their wives should not advise them. This is very wrong, God planted your wife into your life to complete you, if you don’t listen to her you are missing a lot.

5) LIVE AND EAT ATTITUDE: This is another bad attitude of many men. They believe their duty at home is to eat, watch Television and sleep. Anything in the management of the house does not concern them. They believe only women should cook, boil, clean the house watch the plates, fetch water bath the Children and dress them up, this is another very funny lifestyle of many men, they should please note that this is 21st century and improve.

6) WIFE BATTERING: In some part of Nigeria wife battering is seen as a norm, so many men are in this habit, some women where maim or even killed in the process. I wonder what kind of Man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man, wife battering is barbaric and should be condemned by all.

………..

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

Nice but I don’t think I read anywhere about communication and finances.
Do not marry a woman who does not want to work either business or employed .

If you are not at listening and communication- it’s like babel . Confusion and frustration will reign supreme.

Mynd44:
Why are most roads in Nigeria curved and not straight?

In most cases the houses and infrastructure existed prior to the roads. The drone zone shows a flyover. Meaning the road under could be straight and the flyover is an express way which has to take into account surveying results and economic results. How much will it cost to relocate people so that this can be straight or let’s leave existing structures and go around it .

My 2 cents

Unfortunately that’s not how the home office sees it . They will call your marriage and a marriage of convenience - you married her to get in and since whatever contract you signed expired she divorced you . Hence why you have to leave .

Ok. I hope you’ll somehow see this through the myriad of responses.
Abroad is for 2 people . Wifey is right. This is how you can help

1. Find a tech support job .
2. Work in a factory-UPS or FEDEX distribution center.
3 . In the interim you are going to have to take over the home front.
4. Get ready to change your mindset- it will be struggle because all your life you are used to a certain set of rules. You are both partners .
5. Intimacy will decrease. You’ll hear I am tired a lot . It’s life don’t be mad.
6. Think before you speak and don’t speak all the things you are thinking. Very impt.
7 you tube is your friend. DIY videos to save money.

So you will have to help w cooking , cleaning , watching the kids. Taking out thrash , taking vehicle to mechanic etc. When she finishes work she can put them to bed and the rat race continues next day.

It is well my brother

Ofunaofu:
Really!

Be sincere to yourself, what will be Tinubu's positive achievements in his First 100 days in Office

See Jamb Question -Head scratcher

Sheuns:
One story I totally believed while growing up.

It was said that the ball changed and shifted shape from stone, to lion to fire before Sam Okwaraji managed to kick it and scored the one goal that Nigeria needed to win a match they were losing by 99-0. How hilarious it is to believe such story.

And that was why India was banned from playing soccer so they play cricket

LegendHero:
I think it has more to do with actual performance. It’s not only Africa that we have longest serving presidents. But the main thing is that what did they achieved.

—Russia president for almost 23 years.
—Turkey president now serving for 20 years.
—Singapore president serving for almost 20 years
—Ireland president now serving 12 years
—Chinese president now almost 11 years

Don’t forget Isreal to PM comes and goes Benjamin Netanyahu

EcoBrick:
https://thenationonlineng.net/go-and-register-your-own-party-nnpp-founding-fathers-tell-kwankwaso-as-crisis-deepens/

I don’t understand people reassess and plan to be impactful . We just like to tear down . Without that dude who and what is NNPP ?

Thanks Captain Obvious

Mikelarteta:
It’s $1.42 today in Fort McMurray Alberta.

That where Oil dey now … they should be selling it for 97cents

frankmoney:
You might hate his arrogance . But he is actually a good singer

He is not a good singer but has good writing team and beats

Built2last:
Why are we hearing of demolitions and demolitions.

Not a singke news of building anything


Why does most FCT ministers think that demolition is an achievement?

This is how we will be blowing hot air till 4 years is gone.

FCT lack proper pipe born waters in many areas.
Good roads are only in city center
FCT lacks good recreational centers, no Zoo. No children fun centers

All we hear is demolition

sad thing is, demolition takes place and one director in FCDA will go behind to buy the land.

let's keep playing

Demolishing illegal structures is an achievement. All those houses in Lagos built and blocking the drainage which stops flood water from leaving should be demolished.
Demolish to rebuild .

Olat4421:
What kind of nonsense is dis at dis civilized age someone is still a president of a country since 1982, even at d still d age of 90 still don’t want to leave dere , why are African leaders so arrogant,why is African a shit

Yet we blame the white man. Can you imagine having a young dynamic president . 8 years you move - Cameroun might have had a better economy than Nigeria. The powers just keep installing the same old fart so they continue looting .
For even the wife to see her husband like that and not stop him is cruelty

Misplaced priorities.
Just bullies !
The right thing to do is call the police and let them deal with the guy.
You have people legally stealing your money wearing Agbada in National Assembly you don’t go and beat them up but rather take your frustration on a 18 year old kid

let the man refund the money and go to jail for a few months.

Racoon:
This is the mental slavery associated with constitutional governance in the black man's world. Instead of the ICPC, EFCC, CCB, NPF, NFIU, and even the presidency to immediately swing into action to investigate the claim made by the now non-cooperative LGA chairman, stooges have gone cap-in-hand for a self ego massaging and appeasement jamboree.

Now the alleged criminal fugitive running from his dirty past in the US will gloat over all of them as a demi-god. Pronto! The lone ranger puritist LGA chair will be confined to the dustbin of political history like Jubril of the infamous 2019 budget padding scandal.

.Then corruption have won again. These are the things that are fueling the current political unrest across the African continent. Useless tyrannical leaders.

Too much grammar boss.
Is the boss hand clean as well ?

nairagenone:
As the topic states, I am close friends with a polygamous family of 2 wives.
About 9 years ago while a youth corper I dated the first born of the 2nd wife but we kept it secret, although I think her own mom knew although the mom is late now.

It wasn't a relationship per se as I was just sleeping with her and I knew she had other guys too at the time but she always wanted me to think we were in some sort of relationship just like most ladies would.
Anyway, the whole thing fizzled out when I relocated from that city.

8 years later, I am in a new city and meet her step sister, who is younger than her but from the first wife and we are getting along fine, turns out I really like her and now considering marrying her.

The lady I dated previously is currently not married, in her 30s and I heard she lost a pregnancy recently, I dont have any relation with her other than the fact she calls me occasionally to ask for money for assistance which I render when I have the means but sometimes I don't as I am also trying to put my life together.

I recall that she could be diabolic and wouldn't put it past her to do jazz or something.

Do you think I should go ahead and marry her step sister 9 years after dating her and how should I go about it?

Should I inform the lady I dated in the past out of respect for her cos she will still eventually get to know ?

Should I tell the lady I am planning to marry about the past relationship with her step sister ?

Please advise.

I could possibly turn this into a movie script .
6 episodes 1 season ( miniseries ) .

If I ask Toni Braxton- she would say you were not man enough for her … I already had your man … and wouldn’t mind.

Ogbeni - it’s not worth it. There are many other fishes in the river.

Kobojunkie:
Of course you should take it to the police! What are you waiting for? A 3-year-old is missing and you are here asking us instead of matching straight to report her missing?

I wonder ..!!!

I don’t understand you .
Irrespective of your reasons for going to Togo. ( I can guess but not my business )
Wouldn’t you ask to talk to your daughter while calling back home ? Even if it’s just to hear her babble ?
Plus why would you ask to go to the Police when that would be the only thing to do after 48 hours of arriving and not getting a clear cut response on the whereabouts of the child missing .
Every hour you delay makes you finding the child more difficult and makes you sound culpable.

Why have you delayed going to cops ?