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BRATISLAVA:
There's nothing wrong with having a pool and children. We can't use one incident to taint something that is in almost every home with children.

Children, toddlers, no.

PrinceOfLagos:
My mom was a full time house wife when she had me , she didn't leave me for any woman to look after for one day . I am 29yrs old now and will make my future wife a full time house wife when the time s right .

Ifeanyi's death wouldn't have happened if chioma ha took him along

So what if he fell into the pool when Chioma was taking a bath?

Good luck to your future full time house wife. I pray you can meet all her financial need with that of your family.

I hope you won't ever open your mouth to call her a liability or ask her what she brings to the table.

But even a house wife can't be with her child 24 hours a day. Unless she no go baff or cook.

PrinceOfLagos:
Are you aware that she left her child behind to attend a party with Davido in Ibadan on said day this unfortunate incident happened ?

Why she no fit carry her son follow body?

He's just 3yrs old

Chioma and Davido are both responsible for the death of there son

So your parents took you to every occasion they attended?

Swear that your parents never left you with an aunt, uncle or neighbour while they went somewhere.

PrinceOfLagos:
You aren't making sense
.just shut up

You are the one not using the sense God gave you.

What mother can stay with her child 24/7?

There is nothing wrong with leaving a child with care givers. Even the teachers in school are care givers.

If I check now, you don't have a child.

Sadly, even arresting the domestic staff won't bring back the dead but the investigation will rule out foul play.

NoToPile:
Loool I can only imagine the bolded, you blink and that's it. These children nowadays are so full of energy, superfast and supercurious.

It is well, may God comfort them

Amen

NoToPile:
Honestly these children are supersmart, you blink once and they are off. Some can evade all forms of human security, you need a physical barricade to keep them in check.

I am so pained.

If you know how I chase mine around the house, yesterday, he picked a little piece of biscuit from the floor, before I could finish saying "drop it", mans threw it in his mouth, when I went to remove it from his mouth, dude was hitting my hand.

I don't want to imagine what the parents are going through.

N3TRAL:
D'banj lost his first child under similar circumstances in June 2018.

A week before the tragic incidence, D'banj posted a video where he walked with the boy past the pool and the boy was starring at the pool with curiosity.

A fan on Instagram told him to cover the pool immediately because the way the boy looked at the pool showed he was willing to jump into it when he had an opportunity. The fan's comment went unnoticed until the uneventful happened.

You can never perfectly watch over toddlers if you're human. I remember swallowing a screw as a 5-year old under the custody of my mother. Luckily, I vomited it on our way to the hospital.

When that baby sees the pool and notices that anytime he wants to go swim you stop him, the baby in his little mind strategizes and plans all day to find the best time to run inside the swimming pool without resistance. The toddler most likely knows he can sneak out to be in the forbidden pool but doesn't not that water has enemies.

There's what is called Childproof designs. Even if you have the best nannies around, the best practice is to build Childproof facilities when raising infants. Just like bulletproof vehicles come to the rescue when human security personnel fail, Childproof infrastructure prevent fatality when human nannies fail.

My thoughts and prayers are with the parents of the deceased.

This.

If you know anyone with a toddler or two, just be hugging them when you see them.

Even with close supervision, these little angels will outsmart you, before you know it, they have strange things in their mouths, beads in their nose or ears, powder all over the floor, cream all over their body.

Some will even push their chair to the shelf where you keep medicines so they can steal multivitamin syrups.

Then those who have two under two or two under three, na God know how them dey do am.

It's so sad, the care givers failed him, the other occupants of the house failed him.

No one with a toddler should have a pool, open or closed.

BeardGangJnr1:
With this mentality....I pity who go carry u put for house as wife.....* windbag

Leave am na.

I have a business, my husband has a job, imagine if I have to homeschool my child cause "I shouldn't depend on care givers".

And it's the same unfortunate idiots that will call women liabilities and ask what she brings to the table.

Make e leave work come dey carry him pikin upandan everywhere e dey go na.

Ashiere.

Don't just have a pool with toddlers around.

They are naturally curious and will always want to be in the pool, them like water die.

This death could have been avoided.

Me that has been shouting "swimming pool on the house" before I got married, now that I have my own child, I see why it's a bad idea.

You leave them for 5 mins and all your cream is all over the floor.

guobe:
Africans are ready to kill themselves over propery.They are ready to consult the best Babalawos and prophets even from far away India for this.

It's why the menace of this baby mama baby daddy thing will implode on all of us in the future.

BeardGangJnr1:
With this mentality....I pity who go carry u put for house as wife.....* windbag

With this mentality, I pity who go marry you.

She no go work, she no, ,go do business, your pikin no go go school, any where she dey go, she must carry pikin go.

A family friend whose dad died since 2012, the siblings have refused to allow the lawyers read the will because of fight.

Five different women with plenty children.

Everybody has held on to the house they were living in before the demise of the old man not wanting to lose anything to anyone if the will doesn't go in their favour.

Stenewiser:
no wam, when you born depend on care givers over the guidance of your child, you think this is a gender fight. Senseless lady.

When you you born, keep the child for house with you, no even carry am go school cause you no wan depend on caregivers.

Home school your child, if you dey go market, put am for back, if you dey go work, put am for back, if you dey go toilet, put am for back.

You hear

Stenewiser:
Igbo women and carelessness, imagine chioma leaving a 3 yr old all alone.

He had care givers.

They were a lot of people in the house.

Sake of say person born no mean say she go dey carry her pikin go everywhere.

InfinityFabric:
1. It's because these women are living in Disney Fantasy Land, believing in all sorts of nonsense. Only women are built to want one man, men want as many women as we can get.
2. These men are low on confidence and that's why they can't tell a woman upfront that they'll have other women.


That's why women love the cunt regardless, he's a cunt - rich or poor.

So women these days already know what you put up there, that's why they are refusing to build with a broke man.

pansophist:
I addressed your point at 8th paragraph, but this is not the rule. Take it easy with your generalisation here. To repeat, a man may slay outside, but generally will never leave the one back home.

It can be argued that women even cheat more, but do it less in marriage not because of virtue but perhaps, consequences and loss of attractiveness. Obeidence and submission are not the same.

How about such woman to pray that her husband stop cheating? Isn't it the definition of bad belle, to wish for the downfall of others? Now tell me, is such woman a good wife?

Let's turn the table around. If a man prays that her career wife loose her job and become sick, is that a good man in your eyes? Or what is good for chichi is not good for chukwudi? Let's be guarded please.

Aren't there men who also don't pray their wives become more successful than them?

Aren't there men who keep their wife at home and ask them not to work cause they want to control them?

A man who cheats on the wife who struggled with him after he becomes Rich isn't also a good man.

A woman who cheats on her husband isn't a good woman.

Some of these men even parade the side chics for the world to see, no regard for the wife who stayed through the struggle.

If the stats were good, women would stay with a broke man and keep praying he becomes rich.

Na because of wetin dey outside dey make many women say them no dey build with man again.

Make everybody sha hustle before marriage.

pansophist:
Attaching morality to social status is wrong. There are poor/rich loyal people, as well as poor/rich unfaithful people.

Me think that any man that ditched a lady that was there for him in his unripen stage just because she is not posh enough is an idiot. And should not complains when the karashikas of the world deals with him.

Reasonable guys are mostly after women that was there before they made it big, simply because her virtue have been tested, trusted, and have stood the test of time. Think of Tuface, P square etc.

Lots of my friends abroad usually travel home to marry girls they were dating before leaving Nigeria. They simply do not trust women that they met at the ripped stage of their life. And as a man, I can tell you this is how the male mind works.

If you see a man committing to a woman he met at the ripe stage of his life, she probably also have her own life together. She doesn't needs him for survival. So he is convinced that she loves him for him. Anything apart from this hardly happens.

If a lady broke up with a man that she struggled with, it is wrong to interprete it only through the angle of status. That he left her because he is rich.

She might have hold him down as the last option she shops around, cheat on him, and as usual, billings and had attitude. But one thing I can always count on women is their natural ability to portray themselves as victims.

Perhaps I can admit that the worse a smart man will do is to just hang around with other women out there, but the loyal one, has his heart and commitment guaranteed. He might fork the one outside, have fun with them, but will never wife them.

Don't forget that these successful men experienced the pains, rejections and invisibility these women ditch to them when they were building up. So he knows a good woman when he finds one, and won't mistake attractive body outside to the jewel he has inside.

So perhaps, if there are men that ditch good women when they became wealthy, they are the minority. And as usual, the tiny minority are used to judge all men.

Same way some foolish women judge society as patriarchal just because few men exist on top, meanwhile, the majority of men exist under, that everyday of their life is nothing but agony.

The idea that because a lady struggled with a man suddenly makes her virtuous is nonsense. And what do lady mean by this struggle with a man?

As I see it, two broke people were dating each other, but somehow for some weird reason, the lady sees herself as struggling with him. In other words, she has no responsibility towards herself to be financially sufficient.

So When the guy become wealthy and don't want to deal with such lady for valid reasons, he becomes a bad person. Mind you, she probably bills him everytime during dating, but because he lack female options due to his status, he endured.

And this are usually what happens when women make this statement of struggling with a man. Of course I'm not discounting the genuine cases of bad men (eg like the narration of romanoff above, but it's not black and white. There are lots of nuances in every story.

Thing is a lot of men will still cheat on their wife after they become rich with women their broke status could not allow them get.

Imagine a broke guy becoming a billionaire and now wants to date Kim Kardashian when he has a wife at home who struggled with him.

That's what happens with many of these our actresses. They are being financed by people's husbands. Women who struggled with their husband to become Rich.

The stats are not good. A man's loyalty is tested when he becomes rich. The humble man you know when he was broke could become a monster when e get money.

Some women even pray for their husband to become broke again after he became a monster because of money.

I don't have any experience. I avoid them like a plague.

The way things are going, we no go tey before everything goes to the dogs.

There are still men who stayed loyal to the wives that stayed with them when they were broke, them no just reach 20% ni. And men who are disloyal to their wives are the reason many women don't want to settle with a broke man.

My friend's dad whose wife (her mum) stayed with when they were broke, she submitted her salary and business money to her husband every time. Each money she earned she paid into her husband's account. Hubby got three different international NGO jobs and started having plenty side chics. When my friend noticed it, she tried to discourage her mum from giving her dad all her money, the woman no gree o. Even reported her to her husband, daddy now went to report her to their pastor.

Years after, Daddy has moved in with his side chic who has four children for her previous husband (husband sent her packing after he caught her in bed with a man).

Daddy would have moved the side chic to the house but his son's beat him up and changed the locks of the house after he threatened to disown them for supporting their mother. The guys kept all the documents to his properties before e go share am for side chics.

Mummy is now penniless, her car that she sold last year, she sent the money to hubby so he can buy her another one. Hubby done keep money. She had to move out of their state for her sanity after he sent divorce papers to her.

It's the daughter that was warning her in the past that is now taking care of her.

My advice, men and women, hustle before you marry, make no body use struggle love take marry. Make una support each other make everybody get him own money.

Breakfast can come from anybody.

ShaqFu:
Well the thing is, they sure don't write such things on the forehead.

I don't think the Ooni is oblivious of their lifestyle.

Qatar2022:
Nigerian girls and stupidity is like 5&6 , you never heard from yul and you people have concluded. He is not dumb like you people

You are the stupid one. See how you are constituting nuisance all over social media cause you're incapable of making a civil comment without insult.

I no blame you, na the animals wey born and no gree raise you like human being I blame.

statesman6:
Whe no Bleep up hands in the air.

You mama self cast

Your mama over cast sef, you wey no know your papa.

irunoko:
a first class palace should not be allowed to be abused by local street hoes and lousy educated women.

Anyway since na oloshos be him taste make he dey marry am dey go.when them see am finish he go look for a modest/homely girl.however some school of thoughts or some people claimed that the educated but unrefined women he's marrying is his karma for the emotional abuse he inflicted on naomi.that was what some people said Sha o

Two of his new wives also joined in inflicting pain on Naomi.

His taste in women will be his undoing las las.

Olatara:
Even his first Olori Wuraola Etiti from Edo state. That one nah high class.

I done even forget that one. That one gist ehn, ogbologbo.

irunoko:
but ooni should know better and not allow the revered office and stool to be desecrated and abused by these lousy and uncouth women na

Last week, it was on blogs that two of them were fighting over parking space.

Rotfl.

irunoko:
so the revered oonis palace don turn Last bustop for every retired oloshos,agberos and yeyebrities

E done turn to something else o.

I done even forget this man matter.

Corridon:
Ooni doesn't do olosho.

Who said?

Word on street is that at least two of his new wives are oloshos. One a London based one.

The Ooni might not do radio without battery but classy and rich oloshos aren't off the table.

One of his wives, Ashley, done cast.

The first stupidity was stepping out on his wife whom he had praised severally for standing by him when he had nothing.

The second goof was getting involved with a married woman.


Third goof was getting the married woman pregnant.

Fourth was keeping his affair and the pregnancy from his wife.

Fifth was marrying the side piece and hiding the son she supposedly had for him without the knowledge of his wife till she found out on social media.

Now it turns out the husband of the side piece is also laying claims to the child.

Pikin wey dey back no dey know how far journey be.

I've got someone in mind I'd like to nominate for this campaign.