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^^^^ that guy actually looks like my cousin....Lanre is that you?

Abali1: Dayokanu, thank you for this. Maybe at that moment of your need(not necessarily monetary) and you call your boyfriend for those little handy jobs that natuarally suits a guy & he doesn't respond, won't you feel that the guy does not care about your feelings.
A lady friend once asked me to take her to her younger sis' Matriculation taking place outside the state where I reside and I declined cos I wasn't feeling too strong at that time. She felt disappointed and it took quite a while before she got around to calling me again.

so how is that equal to a lady constantly coming over to a guys house to clean just because he professed 'love' to her. has she finished cleaning her own house?

dayokanu: ^^ if you visit your gf, there would always be something to help her with, Just like when the girl visit and there is always something to fix in your house

Whether its repositioning the couch, fixing her light bulb, lifting heavy stuffs bought, Making her TV clearer by just adjusting cable, changing the oil in her car, fixing electrical issues etc.

So its not just one off.

Most women dont even know a thing about anything electrical, mechanical etc. The moment they start a car and it doesnt kick, they are stuck. Its their bf thats the first point of call before the mechanic. Even after calling the handyman Most women would feel comfortable leaving their bf to handle the mechanic and electrician while they do something else.

I believe in a relationship there is always room for helping one another out.

if you are going on a journey with a boyfriend and it involves long distance drive, I am sure most women lets say 70% would just relax their seat and the guy would drive, while its the girl that would make hotel reservation etc That does not mean they are slaves its called helping out.

If you bf stands and watches you struggling with a heavy load, I am sure many women would come here and call him names

How many times have you visited your babe and helped her out with fixing her light-bulb, or dish washer or washer and dryer, how many times have you carried her car to the mechanic for general check-up, just because you want to prove to her that you 'love her'?.

How many times have you helped her to carry her 'heavy load'...?

Have you ever asked her to drive during this journey or whatever journey you are embarking on and she refused to drive?

Like i said before, doing it for your fiance is different from doing it for any Tom, dick and harry...just because he carrys the tag "my boyfriend",...after three months, he or she is on to the next available one and she will start her cleaning all over again.

dayokanu: @Ronke,

If you have a flat tire would you call this same boyfriend for assistance with fixing it? if you have some major lifting or moving, Do you call him? etc

A girl who got into an accident and the first person she called was her boyfriend, is that right also since they are not married and she isnt bearing his name

And what if they are not living in the same State?, the girl will not look for another help somewhere but wait for the boyfriend to come and help her out from Anambra to kogi.

THIS IS SO FUNNY.......

Abali1: This is one thing I dislike about ladies. You will not clean any guys place (or do his cookings) because you people are not yet married. But, you will like the guy to be understanding and help you out in your little needs... even though those roles should be the exclusive preserve of the Hubby.

And why would i want a guy to help out with "little needs", is he my father? if he chooses to do, it is up to him and not mandatory. Why would i clean a boyfriends house? a fiance is a different thing entirely...maybe when the lady goes over during the weekend.

Not i toast you and you are already sweeping the floor....you buy 'mr.biggs" na to wash the guy clothes be the next thing....even all the good girls are still being dumped talk-more of a stupid one.

That was what i never did....clean a 'boy-friends house"? tufia!!!! if i am coming over..you better clean that house, or else we would be having our conversation outside and that would be the end.

Meanwhile....just because a lady cleans does not mean she is a wife material, it is true some ladies do that to try and hook the man, while some do it out of the "love" they think they have for him (stupidity).

You have to put a ring on it first(big diamond for that matter) and walk down the aisle, i will not be slaving for no niggar.

dare2think: Really?? Did his wife confide in you?

yes she did.

I can add Dgunnerz too...i need a steward too....

chaircover: Explain to the popsie all that you have said here.

Dont and I repeat dont be forced into changing your plans or bow to pressure from any angle. You are the man and you know when you will be financially & mentally capable and mature enough to be a good husband. you are the one marrying her and as soon as that ring goes on her finger, the responsibility as the man of the house lies on you and you alone and no one is going to help you to carry that load.

The same woman who is giving you grief every week because her friends are getting married will give you even more grief if you get married and cannot provide basic amenities for her or if she is the really unrealistic type and she starts comparing you with her friends husbands then your life will be hell.

I believe that a shorter but fulfilled and happy marriage is much better than a longer but unhappy marriage and a year to 18 months wait is not the end of the world so long as you keep on reassuring her and are true to her. The only thing that will cause katakata is if she waits for that long and then you ditch her with some silly excuse All said and done, if she is yours she will be yours and if she is not, then she will go with another suitor.

GBAMMEST!!!! if your babe cannot understand, then too bad for her, that is how they rush into marraige without using their heads. she thinks is all about, wearing the dress and looking all pretty....if she cannot wait for a reasonable man, then i repeat again ""too bad for her"..do not yield to pressure, if you love yourself.

Really? anyways....i am bringing in Jamace too, i need a studded driver, someone with beautiful abs and nice sense of humour...are you game with that??

Billyonaire: Yes, so I can keep enriching myself by taking advantage opportunity of the enabling business environment and the opportunities. You can lament all your life or join me in celebrating this great man.

By the time the 'revolution starts" you will have no place to hide..

ifihearam: WHAT IS YOUR OWN SEF
ARE YOU FOR GEJ OR AGAINST HIM??
YOU TALKED ABOUT RIOT I IGNORED<NOW YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT ENRICHING ONES POCKET.
HABA SEF

I am not for anyone....only for those who are ready to do something positive...and a known one.

shymmex: I'm not just talking about rioting - we need a revolution, and a complete overhaul of the whole system... If it going to be bloody, let it be - we will rebuild after that... The system encourages everything wrong with Nigeria - and Nigeria was built on a very shaky foundation..

Crash the whole thing, and let's rebuild from the scratch, period..

And you will start the war or revolution and still continue to live in London!!!

Billyonaire: @ kingoflag(m): 4:48pm

Yes, GEJ promised One-term, but we the Fresh Air Crew "Beg" him to run again, we are still begging him, hoping he will run, and when he decides to run, he is eligible by law. All you have to do is go and Vote Buhari, but we of Fresh Air Crew will WIN....PDP Power.....

And why did you beg him to rule again? so that he can keep enriching your pockets for the next 4 years or 8 years??!!

what?

shymmex: Nigerian masses should fight for equality, dividends of democracy, security of lives, good governance, good infrastructures, and rights to their resources and common wealth..

Nigeria belongs to everyone - both the elites and the masses

Nigerians were not ready for democracy when we had it...it would have been better to still be ruled under the military regime. The prioblems of Nigerians would always be 'illiteracy"
1. they are the same ones that elected all these presidents. immediately the men before election start to throw money around, you would see how this people would be worshipping and singing the praises of this men. they were elected for the wrong reasons and that is why we are all suffering it. the so-called parties are in for the gain their party would get from having one of "their sons" as the leader of the country. The "godfatherism" is all about what they will get "20% of the state's allocation, even more than that" go to them.


2. Nigerains themselves love to be decieved, they know the truth but what they would eat and gain will not allow them to think straight (greed). fighting at this level will not yield anything, until they know what they really want as a country before anything can augur well.

Everyone is init for the "gain" thereof...not for the peace and prosperity of that NATION, if we bring "rioting" in to the scenerio, we will have people who are not GEJ fans carry machettes and cutlasses, burning down houses, it would turn to religion war, ethnic war and so on and so forth. the masses would turn on eachother, then the so-called purpose of starting the war in the first place would be defeated. We need to educate the country first.

Yomieluv: there're so many ways to get d attention of a sitting govt,-violence,strike,threat,negotiation etc.i believe rioting is also inclusive..even d bible supported it-d kingdom of God suffereth violence,violence taketh it by force.

Great!!!! you will be surprised to know that not all wars that isreal wnated to fight in the same Bible that God supported. There is time for everything, right now, is not the time for rioting and wars.

shymmex: But can you compare the death rate in those countries with Nigeria? Heck, Europe had to fight many civil wars before they finally got it right - and if that's what we need to get it right, so be it..

UK was a shytehole ridden with corruption about 50 years ago - but everything changed when the people demanded for a change and fought for it. They had to pacify the masses to make the UK what it is today..

Blacks in America had to fight with their lives, blood, sweat, and tears - to achieve the equality you're enjoying over there right now..

No one is going to give you freedom on a platter of gold, you've to fight for it.

So what do we fight for? at least before we start to fight there must be a reason for the war....
Africans fought for "equality", some women fought for "gender equality", the Americans fought world war 1 and 2, Uk too fought wars...

What will be the reason we are fighting? to impeach Jonathan?

shymmex: Another coward!!

Have you ever been shot before?

Have you ever been shanked before?

If you haven't, just listen while I do the talking, ok?

Those ones are ajebo-bullets and knives, you wan try real machette with edges that are not so-sharp...

shymmex: What they're fighting for isn't the crux of the matter right now - I was just citing examples of how Nigeria's utterly corrupt elite class succumb to violence easily. If MEND and Boko Haram could make them shiver - then 160 million people should be able to send them into exile.



Are lives not wasting already now with poverty, violence, accidents, and bad infrastructures?

What's the lifespan of the average Nigerian? Just 47 years!!!

I'm not advocating a civil war - I just want the masses to challenge the status quo; Nigerians have been docile for too long.

Even in the western countries that think they are 'developed' still have lives being wasted daily from drug abuse, accidents too, marital clashes, stray bullets and all what not. Nature will always find a way to eliminate people, but to just open our eyes and walk into a "civil war" that would end in not acheiving anything concrete is not the way to go.

The government do not care about the lives of those little kids that were murdered in Kano and other nothern States, the churches that have been burnt and corpers that have been butchered, if they did, they would have sought ways to put this boko-harams' to an end.

shymmex: How can their voices be heard without violence?

Boko Haram and MEND have shown that violence is the only thing that can twist the hands of the utterly corrupt elite class.

Let them burn that bit.ch down and rebuild it..

Angola fought a civil war for more than 20 years, and right now - they're FAR ahead of Nigeria in terms of developments and economic growth..

We need a bloody revolution, period.

And what or who do you think Boko-haram is fighting for? for the people of Nigeria or to turn the whole country to a 'MUSLIM COUNTRY", BOKO-Haram have other things in mind, they really do not care if Nigeria survives or not, all they are after is how to "conquer" and their leaders have sought and declared a path to acheiving it.

Any Civil war right now, in that country would only waste lives, nothing good or positive will come-out of it.

Yomieluv: 2015,You win......We riot...shikena

Exactly what i was talking about...'rioting will never be the answer".

afam4eva: Jonathan is right actually. Afterall he's the president of Nigeria, the home of the largest number of dunce and laid back people in the world, why won't he make that statement. Now that he has said it, what will you guys do?

That is what lack of education is causing, a country where people think they have to go on strike before their voices can be heard, a country where they have to burn down houses, good infrastructure (if there is any), close down schools, and take lives, before they can be heard.

that country is just filled with illiteracy.

Just because he can does not mean he should....if he loves his country..he would step down and let those who can both rule and effect positive change take over.

Wow!! lovely...this is nice..imagine reading that as your 'vow" on your wedding day to that "special someone"...

Everly Brothers....."let it be me"...

ifyalways: Bla bla.
Am I the only one who is wondering why a full fledged bachelor would want to waste/spend his vacation in a married pals house ? How really would such a vacation look like
Na wao

not only you....he is asking questions here as if he does not want it too!!!! abeggiiii, (commot leg make i pass jor....see queshion)!!! is this how marraige is this days??!!!

so you expect someone that sleeps around in the first place should suddenly become a saint because he/she is married?

Na true....@ Poster so your wife was beating you and you folded your arms, no be so?? so, you did not give her a dirty slap, punch, beat and drag her on the floor...before she decided to defend herself....

-she saw an email, confronted you, you both had a "heated arguement" and all of a sudden..na bottle for your head this is all crap...to me, i feel it is a big lie from the pit of hell...

Even if it were the truth, she was acting in self defense. (that one i know for sure) what did you expect, you give her thorough beatings and she has her hand folded to her chest...?

iykmora: look @ hw yu arranged a war! Wow dis was faster than i could imagin; Al' mustapha wil be impressed. Sit back y'all-i bet more is comin!

and you just added fuel to the burning fire...