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[quote author=Miss_Ife link=topic=797163.msg9908921#msg9908921 date=1325869221]It's true, my husband is not a totally desperate case He just knows that I will take charge if he doesn't and he likes to play with my limits, if I later complain his excuse is "I was going to do it but since you do it so well. , " Anyways, he is there for me when I truly need him, and if I want to get mad, I do so, So I just take this habit as one I have to live with, somehow [/quote]My dear, abi naa wetin you go do My hubby could be worst oooo, he has a very domineering nature, and he got that from his dad, but emi fun raami, mi o gbeyin, i don't let it linger at all, e no dey cold, before i shower ooooo, if not one will just go crazy in the middle of the night . He is soo learning, as i am, he knows better than to let me carry heavy luggage, it is not debateable, he can't win it , when he tries to, i am always like'' you know i am the weaker sex; don't you'' and he will just laugh and say it is when work comes that you become weaker.

It all also boils down to family orientations, the legacy that has been laid down, me personally, even if my hubby is ''spoon feeding'' me and wants to shove the food down my throat forcefully, i will still pour that food on his head. Just because you are 100% taking care of my needs, does not make me a slave, No niggar can try that poo with me oooo.

Miss_Ife, there is nothing communication cannot do, i can imagine myself struggling with our baby and my hubby is walking infront me expecting me to carry the luggage, infact by the time i scream!!!!!!!!!!!!! his name, he would stop, reverse and help me carry the luggage, even if he is the one ''spoon feeding'' me 100%. That attitude, will not survive in my marraige, mbanu!!!!!.

agabaI23:
2hrs of dancing.
HG out of base. Hello my people.

Good for you, i love to dance, it has becoms a sickness. , So how village, hope you are eating enough akpu and ofe nsala? ( i am hungry now),

HG, how u dey? you don dey exercise again ? please lets keep the ball rolling

Log for yesterday, 35 minutes ''xtend barre: lean and strength'' with Andrea Rogers, i so much love her workout, don't mind doing it everyday.
Everyone please have a nice weekend, enjoy!!!!!!!!!!

alj harem:
[size=18pt]Operation occupy Nigeria protest against Boko haram coming soon !!!!![/size]

Our security Needs to wake up to their responsibility

I did not know that Nigeria had any ''securities''.

MY HEART IS SOOO BROKEN!!!!!! I CRY FOR THOSE THAT HAVE LOST THEIR LIVES. [sup][/sup]

I wish the ''government'' could be reading majority of the post here on Nairaland, cosz i think that would give them a little bit of insight on how to govern the country better.

@ Poster that is a great idea, if only, and that is if only they can contribute' 30% of their salary to help the country.


They have to have wisdom in how they are governing the nation, 100% removal of subsidy, makes no freaking sense, they should have started from 40% and then climb up, how do they expect the masses to survive.?

shadrach77:
you mean you drink garri in philadelphia too?

Everly!!!!oooo, gari is something i can't stop drinking, even if i am in the ''White house''.

Awwww!!! that is so sweet, CONGRATS TO YOU AND YOUR WIFEY, love to the little munchkin punchkin!!!.

coogar:
it's far deeper than what you have stated above.
there are plenty of women richer than their husbands and still accept infidelity from their husband.

the simple truth is women want to stay in their marriage.
in a society like nigeria, women in marriage command more respect than single mothers so most of them would endure any hardship in marriage than going for a divorce.

True very true. unless they realise that it is better to be alone than to be with a man that would not respect them.

sexkillz:
[color=#000040]Yeah ri[i]g[/i]ht!
A prostit[i]u[/i]te is "anyone" that engages in sex[i]u[/i]al activity for payment! Irrespective of gender, race, nationality!
So prost[i]i[/i]tutes in other countries engage in pro[i]s[/i]titution, and get paid, for the fun of getting paid? Haha, very funny![/color]

Yeap!!!! but in america for example 75% of the prostitutes are in it for the money, while the rest are addicted to sex. infact it is even lesser than that gan sef.

MBJ, the scarcity of kitten and money


Freecocoa, that is the way i see it, because majority of the ashis are out there because of their pocket, infact Nigeria A.sha, wos' na hunger push 95% of them to dat dommot.

The customers on the other hand, might be sex starved, or addicted to sex, or just for the fun of it, because it is cheaper and you really don't get emotionally attached to them, Just do the thing, pour the akamuuu and waka.

@ POSTER, i can marry a submissive man as long as i respect him and am submissive to him also, infact i will prefer a submissive man anyday to a macho man that has nothing to offer except to bully people around, If a submissive man would keep my home, and the sanity in it, then why not??

None is to blame, but the scarcity of money.

If you cook and the taste is great, everyone is commending your food, then you will love to cook by force and fire, on the otehr hand if you cook and it is tasteless, the relucatnce to cook would later turn to hatred.

Mine is with groundnut, infact let me tell how i really drink my gari, yes oooooo!!!! , i pour a fistful into the cup, i have this special cup, only for gari, then add three table spoons of milk (Nido milk precisely, love the taste), then i add half teaspoon of sugar, a little bit of water (not cold), and my groundnut (won't be complete without it) mix it, always pasty, i love the paste like gari MIXTURE ,

Result>>>>>>>>>>>>>> yepaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CALORIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BUT I LOVE IT LIKE THAT.

Claus:
The men in the original post clearly showed some arrogance.

Other posters have helped to balance out this arrogance thing though. Clearly in the Naija setting, the propensity for arrogance rests with the one with the power.

Pre and during toasting, the power rests with the ladies so that's the likely source of arrogance.

Post toasting/marriage, the power rests with the man which is where the arrogance has come from in this post.

I like the ''power'' part, it is true, that is why the power thingy should be 50-50. So that nobody is taking the other for granted.

Na today, yansh dey back!!!! .

No woman or man should accept ''infidelity'' from his or her spouse.


Forgiveness is a different issue.

Lefulefu, this is a newyear, we need new stories.

Poster, ask her what her heart is telling her concerning the man, and let her follow her heart.

I think she should tell her own dad>>>>>>> if she wants to change and stop sleeping with him, something must give, is either she faces her fears and stand her ground, or continue sleeping with him so that her needs can be met.

Richvkunt:
^^^
If a man did this you would all be on his d1ck.
Right now it is a female,so we need to be understanding and forgive and forget.
Talk about double standards!

Nope!!!! it is more about ''realisation'', you would notice in my post i did not mention her husbands infidelity and hers, when i was meting- out words to her, i just focused on her reasons for wanting to leave her marraige. Sometimes we all grow up and learn everyday, gone are those days, i would be tearing my womanhood because a man dey cheat, na another person pickin, if they failed to receive proper training form their parents on how to keep their kondo in their pants, then that is not my duty, my duties are to train my kids in the best possible way with help from God, so that they would be very use-ful to themselves, society, generation and above all family.


so my dear, Nairaland has really opened my eyes to some things.

Oh yes, i saw that on the computer lastnight, that is what ''civilization'' causes.

Richvkunt:
Ronke,
Read the bold part again.
This woman is a disgrace and does not know her role in life!

So do you want to judge her now, because of her mistake?, if that is so, then the whole world would be judged, we have all erred in one way or the other, she realised her mistake and stopped . Life continues jare,

@ Babs, it was fun, except for the fact that i was going crazy with the routine, the pain i was feeling all over as my body was strectching was not fun at all, but i felt great the next morning.

@HG, it happens jare, sometimes you are all for it and other times, you not just in the right frmae of mind, take a little break and hurry back on, we have pounds to loose sister!!!

Log for yesterday, 35 minutes '' xtend barre'' with Andrea Rogers, i though Bollywood burn was something else, this one almost made me give up. the routines where simple but it had a great effect on my cores, legs, hands, back, even neck, it was a total- body workout. I am so doing it again today, i started sweating during the warm-up, can you believe that!!!!! Anyways, the fight is still on. TILL WE ALL REACH OUR GOALS.

^^^^^ Richy you don come again, with feminism remark, abeg this na New year, read her other post as well.

[quote author=~Minx~ link=topic=839319.msg9900169#msg9900169 date=1325765965]Yes it was, much much better probably because it was forbidden. You know what they say about forbidden fruit.

[b]I didn't cheat to get back at him, it just happened, I didn't plan for it to happen and it's the past now.[/b]If concluding that I am sick will bring you joy then, why the hell not?[/quote]

So if i get you right, Minx, you want to leave your marraige because you don't love your hubby anymore?

My dear, marraige is not all about love, there are other things and aspects involved in marraige, do you expect the ''spark'' to be on forever? Nope, for the fact you are living in the same house everyday and doing the same thing everyday, is enough reason to get bored, but being bored is not a good reason to leave your home, do you think you will find a man that would make your stomach turn upside down because of ''butterfly feelings'', yes you may but how responsible will that type of man be?, would he love you as much as you love him?, most times that ''type of love'' and marraige do not go together, and that is why we hear so much complain about marraiges these days, My dear open your eyes and make wise decisions.

Don't worry when you have your children you will have an understanding of hown to deal with ''annoying parents''.

@ Poster until your uncle realises he has a problem, then solutions can be proferred, right now, he will continue gambling till forever, just pray that his eyes would be opened.

Outstrip:
The bible says you can abstain from sex with fasting but it has to be in agreement with your spouse. Maybe like CC said he will pretend that it is a kiss and before you know it her legs are in the air

LEGS IN THE AIR, I FEEL U.


@ Poster, so you cannot wait for your wife to complete her fast before kissing? is she doing 40 days and 40 nights that you cannot even hold lips and body till 6:00pm