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Acidosis:
The last paragraph implies that merely making money cannot earn you respect as a family man. If your kids catch you cheating on their mother, just forget about respect even if you earn all the money in the world.

Acidosis:
We are saying the same thing. If your wife and kids respect you because you are nothing but a meal ticket, you automatically lose that respect the moment their meal ticket cuts.

If your kids see you more than an automatic teller machine, they will honour you regardless.

So how do you explain the fact that kids from poor homes show more respect to their parents than some kids with all the good things of life? How do you explain that? More money should = more respect, isn't?

Go and make all the money in the world and let your 10 year old son and your 15 year old daughter catch you cheating on their mother then come back for this discussion.

Smile4mee01:
Most women love Men for what they can provide, it's the way women are wired. It's called Hypergamy.

Justbehave:
The only woman that can love you unconditionally is your mum.No job,no love.Fellas stop deceiving yourselves.

Matheusmartin:
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If all of these are true, then we should stop deceiving ourselves with love.

Obaxxx:

Not yet married tho...But my current banny wey I don dey date for the past 6 years,I believe say she go stay and respect me if I lost my job...But you as the man,make sure you don't stay jobless for too long if not that respect go bolt leave you

Acidosis:
Yes, you will lose your respect when your respect is built on money and nothing else. Build your respect on values, lifestyle, and things that are more sustainable.

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

AngelsAdvocate:
please who has an idea of how much a selfcon goes for in Nyanya FHA?

shantti:
Is this one caused by government too? This is simply greed by the seller

ahnie:
Them full for bush nau...Lolz!
I learnt a bag of sachet water now goes for #200.

DoggoneDogg:
Coming here to ask us shows that you are a coward if not your thread title should be "I just killed a man that beat up my wife. Help!!"

Your wife will leave you for that guy soon.
Watch.

Foodqueen:
Ya right, can you I just did.

Her mom passed yesterday and she has refuse to eat anything. Her father and two women came to beg me to help and I gladly did. I even told them I will always be ready to help. The man couldn't say I word but was teary all thru. I am fulfilled.
He even offered money as a thank you but I declined

Can you

CaptainStephen:
Same pattern the people in IDP camps towed years ago.

Where are they now?

Babsojimjim:
She insisted she must travel to see her pastor for advise and counselling as to ensure her sanity as she claimed, I paid her transport and allowed her go with our daughter to return back in three or four days time to stay in the house of one of our relation.

Pufpuf:
Whether men or women, I don't think I can help anybody again. I made plenty money in my first 4 years of leaving school; and I made sure I helped many: friends, relatives, siblings, people I know and those I don't know.
Now, I'm in a mess for the past 7months to the extent I can't feed myself but there's no one to help me, not even relatives nor friends. Infact, no one to borrow me money to eat.
Do you think I can help when I stand on my feet again?
So we humans teach ourselves how to behave to ourselves.

Gaddafih001:
I have been married for 10 years and will be divorced by this weekend.
My mother Inlaw is the one trying to decide my fate in this marriage.
My wife goes out by 5:30 daily and comes home by 9:00pm.
What the kids eat or wears is not her concern.
I have tried to shout and beat her but she wan use dagger kill me.
I reported to the mum and she’s threatening my life.
I was sick for 8 months and she never gave me water to drink,gave me food nor even said sorry.
She was busy telling people that she’s waiting for me to die so she can wear white and move on.
She no send me.
For me,it’s better I stay far and be looking at her than to die in silence because I don’t want people to know I am having problem.
I can shout it anywhere say my madam wan kpai me ooooo.
Women no dey see your face.
Know this and know peace.
You might not survive the next 5 years.
Discharge her and build up yourself again.
You only have your life to save.

Romanoff:
You need to see a therapist, you're obviously still dealing with trauma from your abuse.

There's nothing wrong with a mother kissing her baby in the mouth, you're just projecting your trauma on your wife and child.

Please, deal with it before it ruins you.

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused. This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it. Please I need advice from experienced parents. I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son. The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it. Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

bong4:
Don't say this please. I am sure your dad isn't among.

chival:
My pregnancies are typically uncomplicated and uneventful as well. No nausea, spitting, vomiting or cravings. During my first pregnancy, I worked until a day before delivery. My appearance also doesn't change apart from the bulge. I did have a difficult delivery though.

Jeon:
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Lastmankc:
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Somblaq:
One thing I understand with women is that women are tree, There grow based on how there are nutured.
Some men over pamper women and with that they can do rubbish and you will still beg them at last. Most of all these depends on the hand you gave her during ur early dating and marriage life. She may be doing some little rubbish that instead being bold to say I don't like this u were thinking she will change with time.
Bro just keep praying for her, there's nothing God can not do. I don't support divorce unless on the basis of adultery.

ahnie:
Forget I love you in marriage.marriage is hard,forget being married to your best friend, marriage is hard!hard!!and hard!!!

I think marriage should be scrapped completely coz it's an unending pit....