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philipians chapter 4 verse 19 God shall supply all my needs according to is riches with glory in christ jesus

Hannibal:
You love her but what. . . . .

It seems u don't really know what u want. . .
If she pressures u, tell her to slow down because u belong to her.

How can she know without commitment?

Hannibal:
It is very GOOD for u. . . . .Keep banging.

Sex:

-- boosts your immune system
--reduces the risk of prostate cancer
--reduces heart disease,
--is a pain killer
--reduces depression.

So if i were u, i would increase the frequency.

@ify You are right I cannot remeber the song because it has been long the story was heard last

secret should be secret that is why it is called secret

@Topic yes the man should pay, it makes a woman feel the TLC

Once upom atime there was this great king who had 7 wives but for no reason he hated one of the wives to the core also he keep hoping that one of the wives will give him male child to boost his ego as a man. As God would have it I don't know what he ate and pregnanted the wives at the same time all were happy to be pregnant for the king as per who will give him male child. When the time for them to deliver each one of them delievered female child but that one the king hated delivered a bouncing baby boy so there was confusion everywhere the kings wives started to argue and drag for that male child everyone of them abandoned there baby and insisted that she was the one who gave birth to the boy.

  The story reached king's ear and the king summond all the women and announced to them that there is no need to fight over the baby that a day has been set aside for naming ceremony of that child and all should get prepared in a big way. The king gave all the women huge amonut of money for them to use and do some shopping like buying wrapper, cooking and decorate themselves but that one he hated he gave her nothing so that rejected wife went to the bush and killed some animal gather some fire wood and prepare her own food as little as she can afford.

    The dee day came all the wives dressed very well prepared their delicious meal and served the food in a beautiful bowl so as to attract the child. Everyone was standing beside her food meanwhile. The king hired very strong youth in the community in case the child turns anyone food down that person will be forced to move out from the kings palace. The drumers, village dancer all came as they were singing the child was brought out he tasted the first food he did not like the taste he spitted it out from his mouth and that woman was asked to go move out from kings palace the child did the same thing to all the wives but when he came to his bone of his bone and the flesh of his flesh there was no shaking and argument the food was tasteless, no good smell she dressed in tarted clothes and her table was far from where the cremony was being held (goose flesh is all over rubi) the male child saw that table from afar and ran to the the table sat down ate the whole food and hug this woman who is his real mother nobody told him any story but blood is thicker than water they held hands and wept deeply everyone was amazed he took this woman to the king and said to the king that something in him is telling him that this is his real mother the nurses confirmed it too since that day his mother moved to the kings palace till present

Queenisha:
my dear no be abuse.
I remember when we "entered premed" in naija there were students that carried their stethoscopes around their necks to New Bini market sef for the world to see
na today we begin see awusa with bow and arrow?

I can't stop laughing

ifyalways:
lol
Atalam di okuko na agum kemgbe
@Topic,nwata rie ihe o na amuru anya,ura abia ya na anya
if a child eats whatsoever is keeping him from sleeping,he would sleep off
@unu emela were sorom muo anya okuko
rubi,ndeewo

I ka mu anya

agaba123:
Those who take it as a weak point are those who will go looking for weaklings and keep them from being empowered.
Real men will like to say that's my hubby in that ferrari that just drove past, she is a financial consultant with citigroup.

You are a real man. God bless you

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2589104#msg2589104 date=1217530735]At home regardless who makes more money and better career and who has the job, the man is the man and will always be the head of the house.[/quote]Nobody is disputing the fact but don't let men take women's submittion be taken for granted or as a weak point

@HCH3COO some men when they come across a woman who has made it in life and who is well behaved which I do know the first thing that will come across their will be mind would be will she submitt to all my rules and regulations at home instead of celebrating her achievement and her wonderful behaviour knowing quite well that she is going to be a help meet to the family and not a liability

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588965#msg2588965 date=1217529386]I don't think that was a fair statement, how about saying 85% of our guys are yahooze boys or 419
my guys, we don't have to just talk for the sake of talking, get facts st8, 95% of ladies that i know are professionals[/quote]Thank you

SAM MILLA:
@poster, the answer to the question is very very simple.


over 70% of nigerian girls abroad are prostitutes and the boys know that.

How?

HCH3COO:
Money does not give a woman the right to tower over her man.

No woman in her right sense and loves her hubby or boyfriend will use that as a tool to tower over a man but most men become easily intimidated on their own jeje even without any confrontation.

agaba123:
A woman is supposed to be a help mate to her husband not a slave. So she has the right to advise and the man should consider her advice in whatever he does.  

Submission is knowing where to draw a line between your insisting on something being done somehow and your being stubborn. There are exceptions though . .eg. if your hubby turns an addict, you have to insist he quits the habit, the way you go about insisting  is another kettle of fish and that makes all the difference.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588890#msg2588890 date=1217528622]It is a weak man that will not want a lady that already has it all, a lady that could take care of herself, please, we are not more in the 1920s, a lady that has it all will make life so easy for the man, because that means when they both combine what they have, they are big man and woman be that, however, the lady can't let all she has get into her head, because no matter what, they are just propty.[/quote]At least I have good men talking in the house nouse

Ahughi ego lu nye umu okorobia nwanyi ndi umu nwanyi di ime ana mu so nwoke nwoke
There is no money to help the men get married the pregnant women keep giving birth to baby boys

bluehorizo:
I concur. It doesn't matter who she is or where she is from. Wht matters is understanding,trust and respect.Those are the basic things that makes every successful relationship.

It shall be well with you

onyinye2:
Where did you find such a man?
(onyinye reads the verse for the 11th million time.)

Na God dee do me better

ehie:
abeg i don go oh! the stupid ideology of feminsm is what is bringing the western society to its knees, Britain and most of Europe are now contending with the fallout of dysfunctional societies, eg
Binge Drinking
Knife Crimes Holiganism all because the most important structure of the society is collapsing, the family
Continue to kid yourself and get married with your strong head,
i give love 6 months tops
Character,Kindeness Loyalty an eternity.
Choose the way u all want to go, bye all

Wake up you have slept for too long I am a happly married woman. I love my hubby he reasons differently from most naija men. I believe in submitting to my hubby to the core and he believes in treating me with all intergrity

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588614#msg2588614 date=1217526087]when a man gets home from work and the wife already prepared some kind of food, did she ask the man and man eats the food anyways, what do you call that,,,," it means, this is what ammo feed your ass, take it or leave it"  
that is controlling, but in a good way.[/quote]Take it or leave it only few naija guys celebrates strong naija women I don't blame them because it is there upbringing

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588554#msg2588554 date=1217525682]I think u have a picture of a man that will tell the wife what to do, what to eat, what to wear and who to talk to, sister, that is no marriage, that is slavery, because submitting to your husband don't means he will rule u, he will only guide you and together, you will grow and be happy together, infact, many ladies control their husband and yet they don't know it.[/quote]If the man is not intimidated that is when the man feels controlled

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=155971.msg2588462#msg2588462 date=1217524996]there is no 2 ways about it, it is either u want to respect the word of God or not, if you want to respect it, yo have to submit to your husband, however, there is a gray area between submission and being stupid, submission don't means when he is beating u and maltreating u, u have to say yes sir, it means, u have to let him lead, and likewise same bible says, the husband has to love their wife, like jesus loves the church and he gave his life for it, so if the man loves his wife like such, trust me, submission would be so easy.[/quote]There is no arguement about this when aman love/treats a woman very well sbmission come naturally

ehie:
the husband is the head, that is what the bible said, submission, when u go out of God's will ,
well the rest is history
if u don't respect your husban how will your kids respect u and the world they are to enter.
selflessness is not foolishness

The husband is the head there is no doubt about it ut in this part of the world where we are in no help from anyone and the man refuse to be sensitive to the woman need like onyinye rightly said at least when a woman comes back from work and the man is less busy at home just help to prepare something for her it will not make him not to be the head of the house the boys will copy too and treat their wives the same

onyinye2:
Yeah gurlie, i  mean if i spent a whole day discussing economy plans and world affairs, the last thing im fittin na do is cook for no body. in fact im the one who should come home to a meal.

That is the problem most naija guys have they believe a woman must do everything forgetting that she do not have any maid and when she complains she is becoming wild

ehie:
Its so easy to get divorced in America, "our marriage isnt working" so it ends,its like people don't put their hearts in it.
Nigerian culture knocks into u that u should stay a virgin and stay with your husband till u die,
bottom line is that the reason most guys marry Nigerian girls is that they are more patient,more in tune with their positions as wives and not as rivals.don't oversate their independence ie i earn a million dollars, blal bla bla,
Husband, first,Kids Second Yourself third, even if u are the president, u go home and cook for your husband
so far it has worked the divorce rate in most african countries is far less that those in the west,

The problem here is most naija guys in abroad wants a woman who will walk behind them and not beside them

madamkoko:
Yes, its a question of choosing to be compatible with someone. Yes, I agree with you.


BUT i think its intimidation, when it becomes a conscious decision when one purposefully opts not to date someone abroad just because they're abroad (at least try them out. give them a chance.) don't assume they're any less Nigerian,  ,  there's no difference in a WELL MANNERED, EDUCATed Niger babe abroad and a well mannered educated babe in Niger.  no difference. same lessons. same manners.

I agree with you

HCH3COO:
upbringing is usually not in favor of the ones here.

Upbringing is like a seed planted in ones life which will not germinate that time but in the long run the effect of it will definitely manifest

onyinye2:
I didn't think so at the time. They were so strict and made us learn the Lord's Prayer in igbo and i was like "I can't wait to leave" but when i left all the things they taught me helped through alot.

I keeping saying this that whatever I am today my father contributed alot to it in all ramifications of life.

cold:
Since my last post i'v bin thinkin and deeply too.Wldn't u guys agree with me that a naija babe bak home would endure more stress of marriage than a naija chick living abroad.Because it can't be rosy all the time.

It depends on up bringing

onyinye2:
Yes my parents implemented Nigerian culture in your home, in our life, in our school work, everything. And i grew up in an area that was mostly nigerian people.

Thats very wonderful of them