Tatoo/s no problem, just as long as you know when to stop and you can be discreet about it. Otherwise go on and tatoo away.

wesley80:

Similar to the one U're facing?

^^^Nah! not in a million years, am in the league of those with well defined priorities. But since you approve of his crises I cant say the same for you now can I?

Its time for cooking lessons, simple. Get receipes out of internet and cook together its fun, something of a mini adventure. Benefits: you get to spend time together, you both get to do something you've never done before, both learn how to cook, both become conversant in different types of dish and happy family that can host killer dinner parties, your home is where friends meet for exotic and tate bud teasing meals, all to go with a good laughter and wine.

Try it

mmmmmhhhh! makes me wanna host a little something something.

Mr~Cork:

bro its very important u teach them about punnny, maybe up to 2hrs a day!

Crazy!!

AAAAWWWWWWWW! MAN the dogs. @Poster thanks you've just warmed my heart.

@Topic, Its called midlife crisis

1.2.3.4 We looooove iiiiiiiiiiiit and that's why we make the circle bigger, bigger

OooooooooH, I love you juju, my women 

Next year we are coming back with "Imoto e tjontja imali"

Any good matches yet people

bawomolo:

it's not exactly colonist "grace" when someone takes 80 cents from your dollar and gives you back 20 cents. we were indeed exploited and given table scraps in order to be appeased. the British were smart with indirect rule.

there wouldn't have been a call for independence if the colonists were that graceful.

@bawomolo, m not sure who you quoted, but both of you I find very correct. However, I believe that Africans are really not interested in any way forward. Yes we have 20cents to start of with but then dont you think its about time we start talking among ourselves as to how can we make the 20 cents grow?

You just have to look at the interaction among people from various countries of the continent on such topics in this forum and its like walking through a school playground. Conversations go something like "my mother is better than yours cos she's a doctor, and the response is the usual, Oh! no my mother is better than yours cos she's a lawyer" nywe-nywe-nywe "I had ice cream after dinner last night, oh no I had a double scoop ice cream before dinner last night" I mean how pathetic hey? I tell you this generation is not any close to making hay on this continent any day soon.

We are doomed to scrum for the 20cents until we learn that we need to put our heads together and learn how to mke the extra 80% on our own terms.

We just continue to remain black, even in this age of awareness, access to knowledge and information. Can we leave the colonial master alone, he did what he did because our ancestors were sleeping period. Now what excuse do you and I have today? What kind of work are we doing to secure the future of our next generations.

tensor777:

And where did you get that from that people wished independence had come later. From a few diasporan elements who know nothing about Nigeria? That is a load of rubbish and you know it.
In any case the colonialism in West Africa was mostly about economic exploitation unlike the one in Southern Africa which was about permenent settlement and systematic enslavement and oppression of the indigenous  population.

@tensor777 my dearie, who peed in your kellogg's this morning?

Guys please we want stories, please share.

Okay mine happened when he got a job in Cape Town, we both lived in Jozi. This is after we've been together for 4 years to which the first two we were apart due to distance and the other two we lived together. Yes! I did the forbiden moving in with a man. Anyway, it only took us a year apart until it all went pear shaped.

The catalyst in our break up was the money matters. We both overcommited ourselves financially in a relationship of two people who were not married. The recession hit SA and he couldnt cope with the bills on the last property he acquired and wanted to sell the one we agreed was going to be a family home, oh boy did I flip, much to the end of us.

Sad to say I've never loved like that, and I still carry him around, I still talk about him even after 3 years by end of this year. I've met people after him, no one compares. Gawd when does it end.

Okay guys share with us its only life s#it happens and lets have a good laugh.

martinosi:

Simply Stated after 17years of Democracy, even though
Black South Africans constitute 80% of the Population.
They control less than 10% of the Wealth of the country,

Now i know you dont need a translator to figure that out (No Pun Intended)

Oh! now I get you  . Its 16 years to be exact. Oh well we could do it Mugabe style, and get all redical but we all know the remifications. So I guess we can give them a very big hand for every 1% they managed to push through the needles eye, and this achieved in a sharing SA by the way. Lets see if we were to count the 62 years (the apartheid years) this was looting by the way, how much more % do you think black SA could potentialy grow its wealth in the next 46 years?

Stage 2

This is when guy's uncles return to girs family to make full payment. I am told that a lot about these negotiations depends on the girl as she has the advantage of knowing her man's size of the pocket. So she can pull her uncles aside and ask them not to charge too much. So she can influence the pricing from that angle. A lot of girls dont use this opportunity and I dont know why, as everybody is aware that a lot of things can go horribly wrong during the pricing and the negotiations. A lot of people end up with no marriage or enter a marriage with lots of resentments because of the rediculous pricing.

On the day of the full payment this then becomes a full traditional celebration, there'll be a slaughter, its usually sheep/goat/cow depending on the tribal norm and these days its about what you can afford. There'll be an exchange of gifts the whole ceremony is called MATLHABISO, I know you wont get the pronounciation correct so please get a tsawna speaking person to read and pronounce the words for you.

This is pretty much wedding number one, its usually meant to be intimate with very few guests invited being the girl and guy's close family members mainly. Today friends do get invited and it becames one hell of a traditional wedding, and everybody comes in thier traditional attire.

In this ceremony the couple is counselled by the elders its called GO LAYA Girl is told about her new man's right (which he's always had access to by the way LOL) and guy the same.  The saddest part about this go laya story is that, girl is told (this is for when they live together) never ever to question her man's where abouts, when is he coming home and if he has a certian someone she must just shut up as long as he pays for the home upkeep and that's it. With guy the strong message is that he should never raise a hand at his wife and would rather return the girl home if he no longer wants her.

At the end of the day all of guys uncles and their wives will get gifts in the form of clothes, blankets and a half potion of the goat/sheep/cow. Guys family will exchange the same or even more gifts with girls unties and uncles. The half potion of the sheep/goat/cow is called SETLHANA. Oh! I should have mentioned that parents to the pair are not allowed to speak to each other even indirectly. They will be introduced to each other on this particular day of celebration. However its not always practical especially when you have a traditional ceremony to put together and sometimes the reps are not always available as this is a lengthy process, some parents may already have met each other before.

Guys eldest uncle or may be his father's first male cousin will get the priviledge of getting the head of that slaughtered sheep/goat and its for his family alone this head is called THLOGO and uncle in this role is called MALOME MOJA THLOGO.

I also didnt mention that both families should visit their ancestors graves before and after the ceremony to inform them about the happenings. It would be very very careless if you dont do this part, as the whole idea about the ceremony is believed to get the ancestors to know each other and to protect the couple during their marriage. So its essentialy an ancestral ceremony and rituals will be performed.

Please dont ask me what actually happens when the rituals are performed I am clueless.

martinosi:

LOL, Funny coming from a South African Woman,
You should know better since your country is a live, centre
and on-going example of "Nothing just happens", "All Socio-economic and
political conditions are planned,

I think this documentary says it all about Post Aparthied South-Africa,

John Pilger - Apartheid Did Not Die Part 1

[flash=200,200]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ew-BtAgxhik[/flash]

I cant see the video, but I'll visit youtube to watch, I can only be back with comment tomorrow I guess. You should stop speaking in parables U've lost me in the emboldments or is it in the video perhaps?

Ms. Potato:

SA Lady, I no like light skinned guys oo 

Too bad 'cos @Mr-Cock light skinned self can only dream on  

Yorisb:

Atleast I've done you a favour today wetting your unmentionable panties. Congratz!

Ain't you rather more surpirsed that the only girl we they are queuing for happens to be NON NIGERIAN! hmm I didn't say nada, did i?

mmmmmm! I guess it happens when there's too much luv enough to go around the globe. Anyway, I guess there aint nothing wrong with a bit of some Asian connection hey!

You know I think its about time you do someyhing with that profile pic, its nightmerish and I like my sleep

Funny indeed, after having gone throught the lines in this thread I can safely arrive to one conclusion. This colonialism issue is like life through a window seal. Those who got their independence early wish they had it later, and those who got it late wish they got it sooner.

African's we are at the point where we cannot blame anyone for our misfortune. Let us all admit that this is who we are. We are just a complacent race, that's it.

zealot4me:

I BEG TO DIFFER DAT YORISB
THAT your PICS MADE ME PEA ON MY PANTIES

I NEED TO GO AND CHANGE MY LINGERIE
*BRB*

@zealot4me, be carefull, that's too much info right there

Yorisb:

And what makes you think the ''light skinned bouy'' is different from the person writing now?

hahahhaa! And why must we even go there? me am just repeating Ms Potato. You can go ahead and tell her that you are next in line. mmmm! I can see all the 9ja bouys queuing up and shoving each other at the prospect  

sunch:

@bammykake,
actually sometimes we come across people not knwing we are related, nt until we knw the dna stuff. It happens to a coz' dat resides in d US, when he was 'bout 2get married, they discoverd dat d girl is related somehow to d him.
@martina,
pls your cultures or your beliefs which we can as well relate to.
@SA lady,
in africa marriage&dowry payment is really a very serious aspect of our traditn wich we cnt do away wit. Pls waiting for part2

M lazy, sorry for not keeping my promise. Coming soon though.

Yorisb:

Na lie, taken by who? Hope you don't swing both ways though?

mmmmmmm! me swing both ways I am tempted, I understand variety is a spice of life, wouldnt you agree? In that case I'd recommend the likes of Mr-Cock to you  Please go ahead and knock yourself out, I wish you both one hell of a party

Oh! answer to your question, yes taken, she came in here and introduced herself as hooked up with some light skinned bouy, that must have pissed Mr-Cock off

Yorisb:

Aww, my indefatigable and ever so amiable Gabry. With sweets like you who needs [s]Mrseve(hides b4 she comes out), Chi-baby, Idowuogbo, Inkerd Nerd, Creamish, Ujujoan, Amina, Omolola, Nellaluv, SA Lady, mediatix, Tjskii, Onestella, Dyt, Tanizm, Odunnu, Ifyalways, Mamaken[/s] a bitter kola? Infact I would kill live 4 ya.

@Yorisb, Ms Potato is taken. [s]Now can I aks you to stand somewhere in the street and dont move until something hits you[/s]. C'mon be a SWEETHEART and do that for a lady

mediatrix8:

I am new in this website,I considered myself lucky to keep in touch with the people I admired and wish to be with in the future.I love Nigeria and everything about it.I came here to seek advise ,to give advise,and to know more about the country I wish to be my second motherland by the Grace of God.Thanks to those few good ones who tried their best opinion to share but I am totally disappointed by those people criticizing,fault-finder and looking for loopholes to annoy posters.This is not good.Our purpose here is to entertain,seek and give advise.If so,non-Nigerians who came across in this site will be impress and think how wonderful Nigerian people are,as it is said to be "the happiest people on Earth.I wish everyone will show how worthy you are.

I dont think you should allow it to bother you really. You get used to them with time and quite frankly you get nice people in here, others do get carried away but its all fun. Relax yourself and learn to roll with the punches. I cant imagine how boring this forum would be if we didnt have the likes of @MOBO, Mr^Cock and the many loonies I may have forgoten in here.

I think this is the only time and place you get to here the truth that you may be running away from, or maybe that which your best friend would never tell you.  So grow some thick skin, learn to hit back its all in the tip of your fingers and have fun while you are at it.

nellaluv:

Auction for wia? They need to be sold for scraps, scientist might find their reproductive organs useful

Ouch!!

Jomo-gbomo:

Let's try a bit of something fun, in the subsequent days, some studs on Nairaland will be going on auction, Ladies be prepared to make your bid, the amount offered will be reflective of the guys online personality and a kind of "take home to mama" index!

Let the world's biggest auction begin!----

going first will be Nairaland's supreme commander Seun Osewa

Profile:

A successful entrepreneur who might as well pass for one of the Nigerian youngest millionaires of the 21st century.  His website "Nairaland" is currently making waves among budding web developers across the globe.

Downsides

Possibly a Nerd, hates flashy cars and expensive Jeweleries, hates partying and "having a nice time", absolutely incapable of having a "normal" conversation, and if you are looking out for a stud with a sense of humor, check the next page!

Upsides

Homely, "take home to mama type", success oriented, handsome {debatable}, will stick with you through thick and thin, loves children, can cook!



Bidding starts at #100 {one hundred naira only}

Bidding ends on November 1st 2009, at 11:59 pm!


common ladies!

I JUST CAME IN HERE TO LAUGH AT SEUNS PICTURE, MAN THAT PICTURE IS SO WRONG! BHUAHHHAAAHHAHHAA

baby.me:

I love beads

Girl that's hot, not to mention how the bead complements that tatoo. That's what I'd like to call FOXY.

rokiatu:

I hope you know that this is 50cent we are talking abt

^^^hhmmmm! I get you, I guess I should just forget it and hope to Gawd that I dont spend the rest of my life being in this colour. MJ got tired of being one of them and did something about it

@Pic, Really now, was this necessary Why is it that a black men will always find a way to make an exhibition of himself, just like a monkey I thought Kanye West did it for all the black men for the last time and now this.

Wow! eerrr! we do I start let me talk about one thread came across on traditional weddings. I am a Mo Tsawana girl and in our culture we belive in dawry and al that jazz. We call the dowry Magadi and the man is the one that pays for it. The process is quiete costly as the whole thing goes in stages as follows:

Stage 1

1. Guy's family has to send girls family about the guy's intentions, its called Kopa sego sa metsi.

2. Girl's family will reply re their acceptance or regret. If guy is accepted then they will ask how soon will the guy's family show. Guy's family will respond with date. By the way everyhing happens in letter its a sign of respect, so no e-mails and no phone calls until the first meeting.

3. On the day of the first meeting girl's family may refuse to talk to guy's family until they pay a certain amount. It doesnt matter how far guy's family had to traveled. Guy's family can pay in cash or kind and its called Pula Molomo meaning pay me to open my mouth so I can speak to you. Dont Laugh its hilarious I know 

Oh! by the way only the uncles to the two love birds can have this meeting.

4. On the day of the first meeting the girl's will be hidden and the wrong girl will be brought before the guy's uncle and they will be asked if this is the girl they came to ask for a hand in marriage. This game could go on and on, but its just for fun. I understand in the olden day it was taken seriously and if you didnt know who you came to ask for you'd be sent back.

Again girls family will put a price on the table and state why, and so the negotiation process begins. Its always important for guy to give the uncles the amount he can afford before the uncles commit him to any amount he cant afford.

Guys uncles can leave any little bit of money as a down payment to the money asked for as a sign to return, but by all means should never leave all the money asked for as it seen as a sign of disrespect, like you are insinuating that tier daugther is cheap and affordable, so no dont do that.

I'll continue with stage two tomorrow.

190:

Number one witch lady confirmed!! 

Nooo @ 190 must you get everything wrong? its no1 Hot Toddy write that down 

I've got one on as we speak now, got it all the way from Ghana, thank you.

Mr^Cock, I've been going through your lines in this thread thanks for making me laugh once again.