₦airaland Forum

McHarry:
first, reduce the rate of times u call her,
secondly, always find one or two reasons for being silly lately but continue being silly, its fun u knw

DaLover:
To me there is nothing like good wife or good husband when it comes to marriage, I think what exist is good match, perfect match, bad match etc.
Marriage is like an advanced form of friendship, There are those that last forever, and those that fade out after some time.

If you are lucky enough to find the the right partner or friend, its all good, if not then you may be in for it,
If two people don't gel, no matter how you cook or clean, it doesn't matter, they either tolerate the mariage of break up, no other option.

Genetically, I also don't believe that men are designed to cheat, I think its in the training and upbringing,
Boys are trained to be adventurus and explore, while girls are trained to be domestic,

In certain parts of the western world were boys and girls are brought up the same way, cheating ,levels will almost be the same.

Ann Marie:
kinky freak

Ranoscky:
Dumb founded.

SA Lady:
YEAH! OGAGA4LUV OOOO, are you referring to me typing names instead of quoting their posts. Please get me out of my misery, tried this insert quote icon but was a bit skeptical that it might not be seen on the other side, OGAGA4LUV to the rescue please

SA Goddess:
Heineken it is Lady, I got my ish straight girl, no apologies there!

@Cork - it is the beer that makes our nyansh grow like it does, it's all that yeast!

SA Goddess:
Have learned a thing or two here, been a resident for too long

deoyel25:
Everything is wrong my dear mod. At that age, a Nigerian girl should have completed her NYSC (all things being equal). You know say wife material scarce small. Lol. Thats why the poor boy is kinda confused.
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I concur. Thx for that piece.
According to him, he really loves the girl. He is just having a re-think. His challenge is the waiting. You know its not easy for a married woman to study at bachelors level. Its easier at Masters level, you know.

Thanks y'all for contributing meaningfully to this thread. I will send him the link to the thread so that he can read everything here with his koro koro eyes. I'm a good alarina.

SA Goddess:
He will never marry you, he actually wants a non-drinker for a wife

yankypusy:
Relationship is a journey and the vehicle that take you through dat journey is love and trust but this days in relationships no love no trust because of past event why.

r231:
oh well

maybe he can't afford the ring yet

AjanleKoko:
African professionals can definitely change Africa. They just need to find the desire to do so.
Right now, most are more concerned with survival, even the ones in the diaspora. We're still a bit far down the maturity continuum. Most have not achieved independence, talk less of interdependence, in their mindset and thinking, not their financial status mind you.

I think South African professionals are a bit further along, as their elites seem to be more progressive than ours. In Nigeria, our entrenched culture is a major issue.

1759:
Here's mine

Sagamite:
What?

You are thinking of ketchup sauce and suya pepper too?

I can understand the tears then.

Esan_babe:
Hiya guys, I have got this friend who has been seeing this guy for over 5 years. However, for the last 3 years of the relationship she has been trying to break up with the dude but he seems to shut down everytime she walks out. He uses self pity and constant harrassment. e.g, everytime she breaks up with him her phone, her younger brother's phones, alll her friends phones are constantly ringing with the guy begging all who can listen to talk to her. This tactics usually does the trick and she gets back with him.

I had a heart to heart talk with her and to be honest the girl is completely unhappy. She doesnt love him anymore, she is completely void of any affection apart from pity towards the guy. She has encouraged him to cheat, go out and find other girls and has even tried to set him up with girls that are actually begging for the guys affection (the guy is so fit), but all to no avail. She is tired of pitying him, she wants to get married to a man she loves and respects and not one where the affection is one sided. The fact is that she isn't cheating, hasn't been seeing anyone else but she wants her life back. Now he is stalking her and acting like a crazed person.

I used to feel so sorry for the guy (actually thought she was quite mean) till i spent couples of weeks in her house. I actually got so angry with the guy, I mean if not for anything but for pride sake move on. He kept calling my phone and begging me to talk to her, I tried to make him understand but lie lie the guy no gree oh. The begging and all is so embarrasing, if it was my brother I would have arranged guys to beat the life out of him. I told them both that nobody and i mean nobody is worth this kind of obsession and madness. There is a great and beautiful lady out there for him, if only he can let go he will find that person

Guys what do u think, should she out of pity get back with him, is it okay to marry someone u don't love or respect just because the clock is thinking (she is 25) like people have been advising her. Are there suggestions on how she can completely cut ties.